I'm not sure about much of the past story between you two, but from what I read it sounds like you both were good friends, had some kind of falling out, and now the cap is trying to get back in the friendship spot?
Being a Cappy I can say that when I end a friendship with someone the only reason I'd ever try to re-kindle it is if I knew it was my fault, or that the other person didn't really do anything. So I think that he is trying to win your friendship back, rather than just being a weird cappy guy. I know that I hate being rejected, so if you keep giving him the cold shoulder he may stop trying all together, which may confuse you even more.
If I were you, when he comes back to try and talk to you as a friend I would treat him exactly as that. Maybe just bring up the fact that you guys havent talked for so long, and now all of a sudden its back to normal. Ask him about it. Maybe if he see's that your responding to his approach he *may* ( slight chance with these guys) open up and talk to you about things.
If he still hadnt contacted me I'd assume that as well, but hes back to calling me everynight so I'm not seeing your point yet..
I may be young, but this is not my first time in a relationship. Ive been through worse than simply being ignored for a couple of days, but thanks for the concern, I know I'll be fine with whatever happens.
And Ingivgorate_Me, I do accept the truth when there is validity behind it. So if your telling me that my bf has dumped me and is in hiding, yet keeps calling me everynight, is the truth of the situation, then I need a little more insight into your thoughts as to why that is.
Ya when I was talking to him I kind of thought the same thing, that he let someone do it...or at least had knowledge of it. He'll sometimes text me and be like " I had a few drinks, dont judge me" kinda thing. So I figured when he said someone put it in his drink, that it was his cover for being embarassed or something. He said the doctors said it was like a few drops away from being ODed, which is why he was out of it.
Anyways, I just wanted to say thanks to both of you for your input on the situation! You guys have helped me a lot. While I havent decided to write him off, if this ever happens again I wont have a problem hesitating to do so. The whole thing is confusing as butter to me. And I plan on getting to the bottom of it since I'll be seeing him next week.
Haha buttercup, that made me laugh cause that was what I was thinking when I read the e-mail, like wtf? lol
So he called me last night and we talked about what happened. He said that he was at a party and someone put something in his drink, and that there was so much of it he had to go to the hospital. He claims he doesnt remember anything that happened for the next two days after and when he saw that I hadn't called or text him after the first day he figured I was done with him, and that he felt like he wasnt "good enough" for me anymore ( he knows i dont drink or do drugs). I kept asking him how that was even logical to think, but he says whatever he was on treetrunked his head up and that he cant explain why he thought that, but that he was starting to feel ok today (the day we were talking).
I can't know anything for sure..he talked in detail about the situation ( told me the prescription he was on and what the bottle said, what doctors said, mom kept calling to check up on him ect ect) so it didn't sound like he was making it up...Im deffinitely going to keep my gaurd up though until I feel like he is trustworthy again.
At least I know that if this happens again ,I'll know what to do. What a confusing week...
No this isn't internet relationship..it just turned long distance.
He finally replied to an e-mail I sent him. His excuse was that he felt bad for not being able to come see me because something "bad" happened, and figured I wouldn't want to talk to him. WHICH MAKES NO SENSE. I told him to call me after work, so we'll see how this goes :/
I just can't even wrap my head around it honestly. I go back to our convorsation,and I dont remember saying anything offensive..it was a good convo...
I've told a few of my friends about the situation and they're all just like " oh hes a player,move on".
Is it just me who feels like someone has to be completely inhuman to tell a girl that he loves her,talks to her on the phone every night, tells her that she can trust him with anything, and then just stops contact for no reason just like that?
And thanks I think I will post it in the other forum.
Ya and thats some of the "issues" ive had. Because being a cappy and taking my time, I told him it was too soon for all of that. And thats when we had a talk about all of this. He pretty much told me that he's not pressuring me into saying it back and all of that, but that " he can't help the way he feels". He's had discussiongs with me on why I am being "distant" and we've talked it all out, so I cant imagine why he wouldnt at least tell me he needs a break or something. Its not like him not to let me know whats going on...
I'm deff taking your advice though and backing off until he decides to make a move. My question is...if this continues..like if I dont heard from him for a couple more days...am I to assume its over...do I tell him...do I just move on without ever talking to him again?...Im so confused...
Im a cappy girl thats been dating a Taurus guy for a little over a month now. Everything has been so amazing with him. If we have an issue we always discuss it without anger and solve things. Our feelings for each other are deep, and he's already said that he loves me (cappy girl hasnt gotten there yet :p).We have talked every single night since we've been together,and he always replies to texts. The last time I talked to him was Wednesday night. After we talked we didnt talk all day Thursday, so i sent him a text around 10pm and never got a reply. I figured he was at work or asleep or something so didnt think much of it.
Then the next day I still hadnt heard from him and he was supposed to come over to visit, so I called him and still no answer. I waited about 4 hours and sent him a text to contact me. Its now Saturday and I still have not heard from my boy. I was starting to get worried, that maybe something had happened to him, but I logged on myspace and it says he has been online. I'm SO confused as to why he wouldnt e-mail me ...maybe if something happened to his phone,seeing as to how he was supposed to show up over here. I hate assuming so I've been giving him the benefit of the doubt, but honestly i dont know what to do. I can go a day without talking, but three?? Im starting to feel like he's avoiding me...well because i have nothing else to go on. I hate feeling like Im bothering him with calls, and texts, but I dont want to lose him. Someone help me with the Taurus!!
It's nice to know I wasn't the only one either! Lol. Everything you said...EXACTLY. He'll say something that can mean 100 different things and expect me to know what it was. Maybe this is the capricorn in me or something, but I have my own treetrunking thoughts and problems to deal with I'm not willing to be your psycic when you can just TELL me!! I can't tell you how many times I've heard " You should know when to leave me alone, and when to give me attention" or " I'm allowed to do this and this because its me, but you can't" . UHGG lol.
When he said I was comfortable, he said " I'm waiting for perfection, but for now your comfortable". And YES I take everything word for word. Most of our fights were because of how differently we communicate. He expected me to know everything, and I just wanted him to say what he meant! I hate mind games, and I know he loves testing people but I refuse to ever play his little games, and he knew that. I understand where you are coming from for sure though. I never want to be away from my taurus now that I found him lol. I just can't understand this Libra's reasoning...if there even is one...
Let me just get this out.. HE TOLD ME TO FIND SOMEONE ELSE.
He seriously told me to go find a treetrunking virgo that would suit me better, and that he would find a cute little air sign..as he was holding my hand, no joke. What is his deal!! He doesn??t want to be friends anymore cause I moved on and decided not to be pathetic and get my heart broken once HE found someone else? Help me understand fellow Libras!!! You men are confusing!!!
I'm a capricorn to start off, and I dated a libra male last year for about 3 months. The first few weeks of our relationship were wonderful, but afterwards it was constant fighting, so we broke up on no-so-good terms. I moved three hours away and moved on with my life. Through out the time away from this libra, he has emailed me about 4 times. I replied with short answers the first three times, and finally he emailed me about a month ago and asked to get together. I decided to try the whole "lets be friends bit" knowing that we probably wouldn't be able to. I drove back to my homewtown to visit him and the first day was really nice. Feelings were starting to creep back slowly. He told me before I left that night, that he had feelings for me and talked about how much he missed me ect. The next day we hung out again, and talked a lot more about the past, future,ect. He started cuddling with me and holding my hand, and then started talking about being with other girls, and how im just comfortable! I immediately felt disrespected, like he was playing some sort of game. I started getting pissed and then he continued to remind me that we weren't together and that if we were to get back together that it wouldn't be until I moved back home, and that he wasn't willing to wait for me anyways. I felt really hurt, and wanted to leave so then he gets on top of me so I cant move, and kisses me! Talk about confliction :/. Then he asks me whats wrong..I guess its not obvious yet?!! Uhgg. So I said that the situation is hard for me and I needed to think. he replied "fine have fun with that, this will never happen again". I got up and went for my car, he gave me a hug and apologized for kissing me..I left and was a total mess emotionally for the next few days. I went back home and after much needed talk with friends decided we would just remain friends, and that I will never be someones plan B. So after this happens we were still on "friendly" terms and so on..I had been back in my town for a week and I met this AMAZING taurus. We hit it off from the start, and are now together officially. The libra text me asking if I was in a relationship,so I said yes. Then he text me asking " I thought you had feelings for me?" I replied saying I did, but I realized you weren't willing to wait for me so why should I have waited for you? The he says ???good for you dude?? deletes me off of facebook, and won??t respond to any texts I send him.