I didn't mean to imply in any way you or Virgo are a weaney. I'm saying Virgo is strong and yet very sensitive. so sorry for the impression. my Virgo friend is very strong and disciplined and brave. but very emotionally sensitive
I am an Aires and have learned that the burst of strong emotions and anger I have usually are a response to hurt. I've heard anger is an attempt to cover the hurt. It is truly for me. I am learning to pause and try to determine where the anger originates. ( the hurt) and then try to express the hurt from my perspective. I have learned that Virgos run from confrontation because they are so sensitive. I think Virgo are so precise and analytical that they factor so many things into a situation. They seem to judge harshly yet they judge themselves more harshly. I think since they see so many fine details etc that they wrongly assume others do as well. I have learned and experienced that my approach to a Virgo is well received if I present my concerns calmly, honestly and non-accusatory. I present from my perspective and describe my pain hurt embarrassment etc and have had a quick and beautiful resolution. My experience with the disappearance when looked at from their perspective and in light of the extreme sensitivity makes perfect sense. I found it initially extremely painful and will not tolerate it again. should I be faced with another episode I will give space but I will approach him in a loving patient and calm matter. Should this not resolve it quickly and sweetly I will move on. I do believe the high sensitivity to emotions is the primary factor in the disappearance. It's natural that when one feels threatened they "fight or flight." Virgos seem to feel threatened easily when dealing with strong emotions. Virgos flight and Aires fight. It's diametrically opposed. With age and experience I find it unsatisfying and damaging to respond so harshly. I love this man more than I have ever loved anyone and so I have presented myself as calmly , honestly and authentically as I can. Should he continue to run from it I will accept that we are incompatible. I do not judge him for his sensitivity and feeling threatened. I do hold him accountable for his actions. I try to present to him things as nonthreatenly as possible. I want to treat him the way I would like to be treated and with the empathy that I would like to have. I accept him and his emotional responses. I see he has been developing acceptance of my emotional responses as well. When I start to show strong emotions I can see his eye open wide and see his concern. This man is a experienced law enforcement officer so not a weaney either. It's a learning curve.
Sensitive blue. There were a huge number of variables that I did not present to the forum. My Virgo friend disclosed his emotions and I was sharing that. Just because someone disappears does not mean they are callous and unfeeling was my point. I would like to caution you on being so harsh and judgemental. People seem to be sharing intimate and vulnerable topics and I feel it could benefit others. I am glad to be given insight into Virgos because it seems to be a difficult thing for them to even understand about themselves much less share.
I give you great credit for your posts. It really is quite a valuable contribution and I personally appreciate your honesty to yourself as well as the forum. THANK YOU,!! I have never been involved with a Virgo before and his first disappearance was shocking. the second was due to me being upset and verbal about some behavior of his. I gauged the interaction as a 3 or 4 out of 10. He perceived it as a 9 or 10. And was blown away by harsh words. my voice was firm and mildly raised but by no means an outburst. I called 3 weeks later and he said he was distraught by our interaction that he was sick and unable to sleep etc. He said he finally got comfortable not speaking to me. The Third one lasted 3 months and I was devastated. I cried and mourned until I saw a missed call. I actually think it was a pocket dial now in hindsight and I texted I miss him. Should he ever disappear on me again I will not accept it. I'll give him some space but I will not be "ghosted" again. Look that up. it's like a traumatic death and it is probably one of if not the cruelest things someone can do to another human being. I think he has more emotions for me than he can deal with. I can see it in his eyes and expressions. But if he ghosts me again I will not accept it nor allow myself to be treated that way.
I think there is a sense of insecurity in the realm of emotions. I think it's because he is hugely sensitive. I think letting someone get too close is terrifying and making a mistake means something much bigger to Virgos than the average person. They really do judge themselves harshly.
Anyone who stands you up is not worthy. Anyone who stands you up in Valentines is a dirtbag. If you say anything to him ever again it should be. You sir are not nice. Do not use curse words and do not give anyone the idea that you are not a self respecting lady. Please do not ever contact me again. The question is why would you thnk so poorly of yourself to allow yourself to be so mistreated. He's a jerk and selfish and you are acting like a doormat. Go get some info on sf respect and act like a lady. He will never have respect for you. So go gain your own self respect and when you stand up tall for yourself you'll find a stand up guy. Sounds harsh and I am sorry for that but you need to be proud of yourself and deep down you aren't. So go get yourself together and demand others treat you well. Treat yourself well.
Do not do that. They are helpers but I believe they prefer a strong woman. That is what I experienced with my virgo. I could have breathed him. It was incredible the effect he had on me. I am so glad I never told him that. He likes a little mystery a little challenge. A lady. Sweetness. He likes honesty but present it positively. Give compliments. Tell him specifics you'd like. Do not say I want the world but a specific experience. He'll do it for you. Do not overwhelm him. He will run. Do not be indifferent but do not cling. It's all about moderation I think. It's a tough one. He will be holding the strings. Research virgo characteristic and all you can. I think slow and easy and pleasant is the best. They hate drama.
I am aires too just broken hearted over a Virgo. It was the most difficult breakup I've ever endured. Worse than ending a 30 year marriage. I have never felt love and passion like that ever before and the heart ache was just as extreme. I felt the universe robbed me. It took months of tears and on my knees but finally realized This break was a lesson for me to be fully whole for myself. Great learning experience. The bigger the pain the bigger the lesson. You have to be strong for yourself and happy alone and it's all about inner strength and living yourself. It sooooo sucks but it's the truth. Heal yourself and liove yourself. Only way to get over it is to go through it. Look at why loosing him effected you. Because no other person can fill a whole or void in you. You have to be whole for and by yourself. Prayers to you. It does suck but you will be better on the other side. Only time will heal the pain. Find something everyday to be grateful for. Good luck!
I think having sex with him the first night and in a room off a party is really the problem. Most men partake in easy and readily available men but do not have respect for such an easy conquest., especially a virgo. I'd try to have more self respect And honor myself and my body. Otherwise I'd accept it as just that. It's a One night stand. Which if that's what all you want then ok but girls That are easy usually don't fair well with a Virgo man.
My advice is to not chase him. Even if it takes awhile. I wouldn't initiate contact. Men seem to like being chased but the virgo is a traditional type so they know it's their "job" to do the pursue ing. I would involve myself in my own activities and I would not respond immediately. I'd be breezy. If he's running cold let him be cold. Distance will warm it up.
I am not judging nor stereo-typing. I happen to be blond. "Dumb blonde connotes " the dumb women". It has a general description of a behavior. A southern belle has a connotation of its own. There is no judgement. It am trying to describe a personality type. It has a common understanding here in America. My experience with virgo is for the long haul they prefer intellect and lady like behavior.
When I said dumb blonde type, I didn't mean the actual color. I was referring to a type of personality. AGAIN, IN MY EXPERIENCE I have come to think that intellect and feminine dignity is a virgo's preference for a long term relationship. They of course like most men will jump on sex if available. But sexing up with a female doesn't represent a relationship. I might add this is a discussion of individual ideas and thoughts. The hostility exhibited by some responses is really unnecessary. Couldn't we be more civil in expressing our view points?
In my experience The Virgo male does want a woman. He is attracted to the female/feminine qualities and the more tradition aspects. . However, is not interested in a weak woman but he typically persues and prefers the feminine woman. He is definitely not interested in a "dumb blonde "'type because intellect is also an important quality. He likes strong women but likes the more feline roles. No insults to the woman power ladies just his preference.
It doesn't matter his sign or stars, he is not behaving maturely. To be intimate and then go running away to sort stuff may be honest but there are two sides to that coin. He needs to treat you respectfully and ditching out after a deep intimate time is selfish and thoughtless. Tell him that it's rude and disrespectful and tell him you deserve better. Stop being intimate with someone who obviously is not respectful of you. should you decide to see him again I certainly would have very high standards regarding putting my heart or body on the line. I would be damn sure he earned it. It could be he wants to peruse this but it really feels like he is getting an awful lot for very little input. It seems he is getting his cake and eating it to and your getting left with a bunch of crumbs. I wouldn't feel good about that. I would tell him if he wants to spend time with you he needs to be more of a gentleman and show respect for you and your feelings. Tell him you need to be treated like a lady and see if he can step up. Men will only treat you like a lady if you behave like one.