The comment about being friends is interesting. I think he is just trying to demonstrate that he wants a romantic relationship not ‘friendship’ by only hanging out alone. It doesn’t mean that he doesn’t also see you as a friend.
After thinking about it I see what you are saying. He tries very hard to make things perfect when we meet (almost to a fault)so he probably is trying to demonstrate this. I just wanted to ask something about this incite you gave. I know having all your ducks in a row so to speak is important to you. At present he is extremely busy with his job, is trying to fit in seeing his son and keep things calm with his erratic ex and trying to buy a house. In passing he has talked how he really wants to sort himself out. When You are in a situation like this and things are not as you would like, would find it difficult to spend too much time with someone you would like to have a romantic relationship with When it’s not possible right now?
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It sounds like he has got a lot on his plate. I think if he likes you he will make time but I’m sure in an ideal world he would want to be more energy to focus on the person he is dating (hopefully you).