"It's like they are trying to get an emotional response from you, what is the point?"
@Aquanoz, that IS the point...lol. Most people don't understand/get how Aqua's process things and when they don't react they way that the other person thought you would OR wanted you too, then the emotions fly!
@ROS, you're not the only one, I tend to do that on occasion too. Most of the time, it's just others speaking through their emotions and has nothing to do with you Sometimes leaving the situation is the best way to get a point across especially if the point was not made clear enough verbally!
I feel ya on the being misjudged thing.....it makes me think there is something wrong with me. Sometimes my actions are misinterpreted and when I try to help others understand, I'm looked at or treated like a basketcase.
My Aqua venus makes me care about the well being of others and sometimes, those actions are taken for an interest when all I was trying to do was just make others smile.
I've got an Aqua Venus and I'm pretty picky as well.
A man that can keep/hold my interest is being witty....love a good comeback/bantering (so long as it's friendly)
Intellect always gives me a "mental boner", however, if you are arrogent about it, it's an instant turn off. Also, be a bit mysterious, I want to work for your time/affection....being too much of an open book leaves no room for imagination (I have a heavy Aqua influence, mental stimulation is HUGE for me)
"Seeks a partner who is mentally stimulating, vivacious, adventurous, independent, with a a cup of kindness and a gallon of integrity. I enjoy a partner that just shares himself you know what i mean?"
^^^ Could not have said it better myself Candi3bb! Don't be afraid to show me/tell me how you feel....as long as it's genuine and sincere. If you lie to me or play games, forget it!
Please be exciting and spontanious (especially in the bedroom!)....routine drives me CRAZY!!! I like to keep things light and fun.
Above all, just be yourself...I'll know if your genuine before you will
"The truth is people are always honest. Regardless of what they say, their actions/inactions are never dishonest."
However, I must respectfully disagree with your statement of "perception is reality". Perception is a(n) individual thought process, not necessarily reality. Reality is created by individual thought process. For example, if a man and a woman share a platonic friendship, they laugh, hug, hang out, etc...to the outsider looking in, their relationship could be perceived as initmate even though in reality, it's platonic. So, if the outsider THINKS its an intimate relationship, then it is. Does that make sense?
I'm a Gemini rising and I can relate to the "battle of words" I don't care for arguing or fighting of any kind. I'm not interested in "winning." When I find myself involved in this type of dispute, argument or whatever you choose to call it with that particular type of Gemini, I usually just agree with them to shut them up and let them think whatever they want to. It gets old and unattractive after a while.
I'm not an Aries sun, I'm an Aries moon, so maybe I can help you out. I like Aqua men, there are several in my life and they are the most enjoyable as friends and company. The whole "detachment" thing doesn't phase me very much.
If an Aries stop acknowledging you, they probably figured you were no longer interested in them and moved on, or you've done something disrespectful (in an Aries mind) and they are too hurt/angry to address it. Aries are very nice people and if you've hurt their pride/ego in someway or manipulated them and they figured it out....you can pretty much consider yourself non-existant to them. They won't look at you the same way again.
Mine is Gemini. It makes me curious about almost everything and I enjoy learning anything new. I could be a professional student! It also employs my ability to be easily distracted at times, so when it seems like I am ignoring others, I am really just trying to remain focused on the task at hand.
If you are just friends, why the question? Aqua men are attracted to women who know what they want. They won't be turned off by it. If memory serves me correctly, he stated that you two could be the perfect couple (or something along those lines). Him expressing that to you meant that he can see himself with you on that level. If you felt the same way and felt the same way, you should have told him that. Instead, you communicated to him that you two were just friends, so that is exactly how he is treating you, as a friend. He is not "ignoring" you, he is off doing other things and going on about life. Should you be suprised he is not responding and coming around the way he used to?
Although not an Aqua sun, I do have an Aqua venus and midheaven....so I can relate to some of what is being said.
I have learned that many of my friends did not share my outlook/attitude on life, and eventually we grew apart.
In group conversations, I usually listen and observe and offer input when/where necessary. Sometimes, I wish I would have said what I wanted to say when the moment was there. If a conversation is to "heavy" I will crack a joke to try and lighten it up again, and that is when I get the "WTF" looks. In my head, I get it and what I was trying to do (sometimes others do and it flows from there), others sometimes take offense.
In relationships, yes, I suppose it would be nice to have someone to stick my cold feet under and I concur with RS12 about the checking in. I enjoy mingling and meeting others and it would be nice to be with someone who genuinely enjoys doing the same. I don't mind the following around at first; I understand and recongize that some may be a bit nervous or reserved at first....especially around new people. Eventually though, the training wheels will come off and you will have to learn to pedal on your own!
I long to be in a relationship where I can "feel" single within the relationship.
In regards to the ocean....for me, it's a place where I can go to think, because it's quiet there. It brings me back to myself when others leave their mark.
If it is someone I really like and they reject me, I will respect their wishes and eventually shrug it off and move on.
If they rejected me and they wanted me back, well that depends on how much I was into that person and why they rejected me.
From the other perspective, if I've rejected someone, it's usually because they've done something or I noticed something about their personality that turned me off from wanting to persue a relationship with them.
If this person is ignoring the advances (flirting/teasing) perhaps this person does not KNOW they are being teased, especially if they don't know the person that well.
"...I just feel lost, kind of like my life is all over the place right now..."
I know how you feel RS12, I left my job over a year ago, and I have been a bit more "scattered" than usual to say the least. I can relate to wanting to spread the energy around....do you do any volunteer work at all? If you like being a "goof" have you considered volunteering with children? Working with children can be a great way to share positive energy because 1. they feed off of it, 2. It will help remind you to get back intouch with your "inner child" and 3. You don't have to feel silly or out of place for acting like a "goof"
As far as dealing with change, I enjoy it and embrace it For me, if I remain stagnant for too long, I will get bored and begin to seek out new things/people/adventures. Change helps me to stay fluid and flexiable.
Change makes us smarter as individuals. If things never changed, we would never evolve past whatever it is we are dealing with at that particular time/moment. It also reminds that anything is possible. It is easy to get stuck in a "mental rut" of thinking that things will always be that way; change reminds us that nothing stays the same forever.
"That said, I am not insecure to the point where I feel the need to express my emotions at every turn."
Aqua venus/mid-heaven. +1
I want to be at my most 100% for my luv! And the more you "smother" me, the more I am going to pull away. And yes, having a full bladder, or being bogged with something else that takes over the "emotional" part of the brain, will take priority.
I like it when someone shows a genuine concern for me and who takes the time to get to know me as a person. Someone who is not afraid to express their concern and goes out of their way to help me (without me asking) you know, the "just because" type.
I think it depends on the situation and the person. I usually let another persons attitude, actions, and past behavior speak for themselves. If others want to think otherwise, who am I to argue? Most of the time people will want to think what they want to think and I am happy to leave that person to do so.
I agree with whomever mentioned that we should learn to pick and choose our battles. When I find myself in a situation like that, I like to let the evidence speak for itself. I'll bring you the information and tell you the truth, what they do from there is up to them.
"...and even of emotions that i dont feel and think i should feel."
I can relate to this. I have an Aries moon and Aqua venus. The things I think I should feel, I don't. As far as running from feelings.....I used to do this when I was younger. Then I learned that by doing that, I was limiting myself and all I could experience. How was I to know what type of person what good for me, if I never gave that person a fair chance?
As I have grown older, I am more mature with my feelings and emotions, I just learn to express them in different ways. It's fun to experience those feelings IMO, because I have a lot of fun and I learn something new about myself and others every day.