Posted by Wynter
So he's sweet until he gets sex, then he ignores you.
Yes, very perplexing.
Posted by magma
If Virgo is comfortable with the speed, intensity, and direction of a relationship, some won't be aggressive, but will at least be responsive, show some enthusiasm, and readily offer service. And as long as these conditions are met, we love emotion, why wouldn't we, we wouldn't feel threatened with good times after all.
There is a lot said about having to lead Virgo, but if that brand of leadership includes pressure, force, and becomes at all overbearing, Virgo will back off as quietly, subtly, and impreceptibly as possible. We simply stop making effort, and become avoidant. But if cornered, we will come straight out, figuring there's nothing left to lose. We do like it when others initiate though, who wouldn't, as long as we can retain perogative without a bunch of awkwardness.
We are analytical, and practically no detail is too small to notice, ponder, and file away. And we look way down the road, being aware that if we allow a precedent to become established today, there will be consequences down the road, good or bad. We care about our image but we care even more about not getting into a mess. We much more prefer being fire preventers than fire fighters. We're actually very emotional but we're also very cautious and realize that mistakes cost us very dearly. If we were carpenters, we'd measure a dozen times, and then cut once, correctly. We want to be certain before commiting, even though that can be very difficult without actual and accumulated experience with the relationship. No doubt we have forfeited relationships due to these things, I have, but so far I've been willing to pay that price every single time, hard as it was sometimes.
You may be OK with your Virgo ultimately, but if he's holding back, he's uncomfortable or uncertain about something.
Posted by derpettePosted by Laniyaravonn
Sooooo I recently started dating this Virgo guy & he's quite interesting to me.. But I keep feeling like he's just not too interested in me as much as I'm interested in him. Any comments?
Your interest in him will probably be more pronounced, than his for you. Also, it may feel challenging at first, but if you're patient with him and give him space, you will see that he is interested (and cares) and will show it in his own way. Slowly he will open up, and it will be the most exciting, exhilarating, unfolding...like a million presents you can unwrap.
Your situation is the same experience that brought me to join this site. It's been 9 months since my Virgo guy and I started talking. There were a lot of moment of insecurities initially because the way we express ourselves are different. I suggest try not to think too much of it, appreciate every moment with him, and remind yourself he wouldn't be with you if he wasn't interested.click to expand