It seems we have some things in common! See my other post on your other post. The main thing for an aries girl is patience. And not pushing him into any relationship type talk. Accepting what is, instead of what could be. It is so against our fire-sign nature, and the intense ability to get what you want right now. But hey, this keeps the fire going and keeps things fun and challenging. Just what us aries girls like.
I am in one now, and you have to remember that you cannot have expecations with an aqua. They don't plan ahead like you do in regards to these types of things. I have some postings on "for anyone dating an aquarius man" on the dating & relationship boards if you want to take a look.
I have realized too, that when they become aloof and distant that probably means that they have feelings towards you and might be confused by them. I have learned that my aqua does this when he is stuggling with wanting his own independence but doesn't know how to express it to me. You have to be quite independent and confident in yourself to be with this type of person, and like to have your own life and passions. I understand now that I like the challenge. Coupled with the intellectual conversation and physical chemistry, there can be a real spark if you know how to bring out a little bit more feeling and emotion from an aqua, little by little, over time. It does take a cup of understanding, a barrel of love and an ocean of patience. One thing I have been keen to are his patterns. If you are really intuitive, you can pick up on when he's lonely, when he genuinely wants to be with you, when he's totally into you, and when he needs his space. They are extremely communicative, just not emotional. Love the intellect and physical connection though -- a powerful combination for me.
Tough sitch you're in. But it sounds like the more you hold true to yourself, the more he likes and respects that. You really have to follow your gut on this one. He does like you there's no doubt, but he can't commit. I have the same problem with my Aqua relationship. I think it takes eons of time and eons of patience and there are no guarantees. You have to decide if you can deal with that. And whether he's able to share his feelings just a bit with you. You can't have the where we do stand talk like you can with other guys. You have to gauge when the time is right to ask one thing of him and see if the door's open. Good luck.
I am not surprised there were sparks like this for you and your Aqua. Consider yourself a little special because they usually like to be friends first. You're off to a good start, now read the other posts about what to do when they start to distance themselves and act aloof, only because they are so intellectual and love their freedom. Stay ahead of the game on this one. You're in for a very challenging, lovely, and unique ride.
whatever you do, don't contact him. let him contact you. otherwise if you keep pursuing it, he will go in the other direction. he just needs to be in his head right now. that's how those darn aquas like it. he'll be back. be patient. i have lived and breathed this for over a year now.
Hey you, just try to express some feelings some time. Like, I think you look nice. Or, thanks for spending time with me. I enjoyed it. Little things like that go a long way.
This thing I describe above is more of a friends with bennies situation, and even hi cutie can be enough to make me smile. A little hand holding and touching isn't so bad either. If you let your guard down just a little, you will get so much more in return. :-) Try it and see what happens. This is from a very strong, smart, independent Aries women if that puts things in context for you.
matter. There's always the future, and that's the rainbow he lives on.
He's an absolute jackass when it comes to certain things -- like something seemingly normal like making plans for an upcoming weekend. He forgets, it's not important. The way it works is when he's in town, I get a call at the end of the workday, saying if I want to do something, for that night. Take it or leave it people. That's how he rolls.
I hope this is helpful for that specific group that needs some insight into the most intriguing sign of all. And I'd be happy to share more as questions and comments come in.