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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.

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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.






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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.






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Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.










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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.






Posted by tcta
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.






Posted by tcta
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



Posted by tcta
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



Posted by tcta
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



Posted by tcta
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obl

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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.


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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.


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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.


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Posted by LadyNeptune
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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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Posted by LadyNeptune
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Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.


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Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
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Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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Posted by LadyNeptune
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Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.


Posted by tcta
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.

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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.






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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.






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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.

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I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



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Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



Posted by tcta
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.



Posted by tcta
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Pvenora
Posted by LadyNeptune
I also feel that sending him photos of how hot you look while you go out WITHOUT him to an event for singles is a tad disrespectful. As you've pointed out many time, this relationship is in its infancy. For such strong creatures men's egos can be so fragile.

He may have pulled back to reasses whether he wants to continue on...


Wasn't going to happen. My dress alone was $ 500, ticket was $ 250. That doesn't even include hair and makeup.... now if he really felt that strongly, he should've offered me back the money I would've been wasting! Lol... this is so funny to me.


I think he's picked up on your nonchalant attitude towards it which is a huge turnoff. Your not concerned at all with how he might be feeling. Again, it would have been a nice gesture on your part to bring up both the singles event and the charity date, making it an open discussion...instead of just flaunting how hot you look in his face.

I doubt he wants you to cancel on the charity dinner. He just wants you to consider his feelings and discuss it as a couple. Instead your laughing and ridiculing...


U haven't read most of what I wrote. Before I volunteered for the events, I told him about it and let him know my intentions. He said nothing then. When I went dress shopping, I sent him my options and let him help me pick it out, could've said something then. Not that I was "flaunting" it in his face but because I wanted his opinion and I wanted to include him in on it. I offered him to drop me off on the date and even sit at the bar so he can monitor us. I've suggested compromises where we'll both feel comfortable. And for me to offer u to watch over me as if I'm a child was a BUG sacrifice for me in it's self!


I have read every sentence you've written.

When you signed up for it you were only FWB, he had no reason to voice discomfort. However now you are a couple, he's looking to see whether that relationship status change will effect your behavior. If he's uncomfortable with you going on a date with another man why would you imagine that him driving you and watching the date unfold would be a 'comfortable compromise'??? That sounds like hell!

So that he could see it's strictly platonic. I have eyes for no one else but him. Like I said, even when we were FWB, I was "faithful". So my only other compromise is to let u come along to see for ur labels rather than siting at home wondering if he's touching me or if we left the restaurant early for a quickly. That was the only compromise I had where I could keep my word I made to the charity


That's not the only compromise and you know it. In fact the best compromise would be that he offers to reimburse your date. If he's really bothered that is, right now your still operating on the speculation that his disappearance has to do with this charity dinner...


or just chalk the expense up to a loss - because look what you had gained - an official partner in your life ...

I went through something similar a long time ago - my live in bf was asked to do one of those auctions - no, he didn't tell me anything about it - I found out the next day from a women who worked where I did that went to church with his family - his stuff was sitting outside when he came home that night - I told him that since he feels he can portray himself as single, he can just enjoy being that way now!

No, not entirely the same situation however, the feeling is the same - you are portraying yourself as a single person. A person of the opposite sex is bidding on you to take you out on a date. You are obligated to go out on that date. And you want your BF to sit at the bar and watch? How in the Hell would you like that if he was in the same situation ? you have to think about that ! think about someone other than yourself ! That seems to be an added slap in the face for sure!

You are the controlling one. You are the one trying to control the situation and make everyone happy. You have made the wrong choice in how to handle this. IMO of course. You do what you want. The outcome will be yours as well.

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