I'm not butt-hurt and apologies for the dog comment, I should have said you were being a little catty instead. My online mouth was a little too quick and I just called it like I saw it (unfortunately I didn't see an emoticon underneath your comment). Your joke insinuated... a lot.

However, the live and let live part is true. Many people have offered their opinions to receive negative judgements back. It sounds like you're saying that the partners of your friend shouldn't be impressed by her because she's willing to adapt or take interest on their lives.

I think that SJP comes across as a really genuinely nice and caring individual. Her current co-star from Divorce has just publicly backed this up.

Whatever happened on the set of SATC, grief magnifies anger tremendously. Without any direspect to Leo's or Kim, I was reading an astrology article about how they can feel majorly stressed and annoyed if feeling "past their youth" and not the centre of attention. Not sure if that contributes...

Looks like there are two female dogs on this thread!

Why does it matter to you anyway? Ever heard the phrase "live and let live"? You may do something she finds equally odd, but is more accepting of it.

There is too much negativity in the world. Be peaceful x

Lol - what a cutie and clearly in charge of the remote control

As I see it, this has little (if anything) to do with men. I once had a guy try to convince me to become a gym bunny and I rebelled and promtly ended the "relationship". But I now go to the gym regularly under my own steam because that's my current phase or enjoyment. She's probably just taken with their style and demeanor and it's her way of experiencing the dynamic.

This Sag will have her core personality but will be fascinated with experimentation. I sometimes wish that I could split myself into a million versions of me and send them out into the world. One would be a defence lawyer, another a yoga instructor, a marine biologist travelling the world etc, all connected to my conciouness. Sounds a bit like the Borg... but it's just a fantasy.

What DMV said is the truth: versatility, flexibility, open-mindedness, changeable nature, beliefs and values are mutables dimensions. We're not fixed. How would you ever evolve if you're stuck in the mud?

Hmmm.

Sagittarius female here (Cancer rising/venus in Aquarius) offering her verdict.

I dated a Pisces/Aquarian cusper for two months several years back. He definitely fitted the Piscean personality type and unfortunately came with a drink problem.

He claimed to be totally in love with me but would winge constantly and cheated on me after one month (I forgave him).

Weird combination, but a soul connection, great humour together, conversational chemistry and the appearance of honesty, but discrepancies soon show. Pisceans lie almost constantly (unreality) at least my fish did, which to me is disrespectful.

The chasm was too wide. I wanted to feel the sunlight on my face and roam, Mr Sensitivity would shut himself away in his room and watch films all day. Together we bridged the gap and made it beautiful, but only temporarily. It never even got off the ground in terms of physicality/sexually and resulted in hugely arguements. Just couldn't do anything to please the Pisces, despite showing him lots of affection.

There was also a kind of role reversal in terms of masculinity/femininity. I used to hold doors open for him, he'd respond with "Excuse me, who's the man in this relationship?" as a joke. He thought I was bossy and said he liked this. Assertiveness isn't bossiness though (this upset me too).

He was hopeless with money with a poor work ethic. Or just in a downward spiral, not being an upwardly flowing fishy.

Who knows? Taylor Swift is dating a Piscean and seems completely besotted. The gorgeous Alan Rickman was my first proper teenage crush... but not for me!

You're sensitivity towards her is admirable and very touching

This sounds very familiar and Sagittarian. We are sometimes literally on the crazy treadmill of life but trying to aim for the stars and that ultimate nadir of work or personal attainment and burn out fast. We can feel like we can only reach 20% of out potential... unless we gain perspective.

I too have this predicament and insane drive to achieve (with anxiety/depression.) To reiterate the others, there are likely underlying issues with low self esteem. Perfectionism can be really tough to crack and it might go back to her childhood.

Gently encourage her by telling her she is wonderful just the way she is, that you feel she is capable and competant, but emphasis too the issue of self-care. Be supportive of her achievements too as this is probably an emotionally linked issue.

Maybe buy her some philosophically themed self-care books and meditation. Run her a bath to relax in the evenings.
Make sure you're eating healthily and a smoothie-maker is a good investment.
Something pampering for Valentines

Just be there for a good cuddle/support. Sounds like you're doing a pretty good job!

Wow, just read this backstory and there is a lot of information here and very different dynamics at play. Difficult to interpret this accurately or correctly.

Like UnicornSag said, it might be helpful to know your gender, but then again that might be totally irrelevant in this situation.

Just keep being there for him gently in the background (Cancerians are good at that) and try not to push him to open up. Sags can be very private about their emotional lives and he may need time to process his thoughts and feelings after a difficult time.

My interpretation would be... he feels little connection or is socially spreading himself too thinly. If a Sagittarian likes you as a friend (or more) they will be positively excited to invite you along and as many people as possible. Especially if you are close buddies, male or female included.

Another possibility is if he's sensing the slightest whiff of being "clung onto" or tied down or cornered. Remember that freedom is essential to our sign, but this can manifest in some very strange ways. The slightest "cling" can spook a Sag out.

I was feeling that with a Capricorn friend today, but realise its more my mentality.

Modern Cosmic has some wonderful vids on Youtube going into Sag claustrophobia. And it is a complete dichotomy of states as Sagittarians enjoy networking, bringing lots of different people together and have many different friendship groups (often with little in common with each other). It's all about expansion, experimentation and achieving a greater breadth and honesty.

Best bet is just to ask him straight up. Just be prepared for the truth, whatever it is! Or maybe... be sneaky... stop the invites... see what reaction you get... good luck x

This guy sounds like a very dysfunctional Scorpio, one who cannot rise above his emotional pain and need for total control.

My advice would be to walk away totally. This is what I was faced with two years ago. Having realised there was a distinct lack of healthiness, I walked away from love and have rarely looked back over my shoulder. He will not change unless he undergoes some serious self-analysis and decides to apologise and rise above his current pettiness. You should not be blamed, controlled, or made to feel less.

My partner's insecurities caused him to put me down (when I supported him) and push me away (when I was there for him) all the while proclaiming his love for me.

You deserve better and to be unburdened by his emotional punishments. As you say, he's narrow-minded and stubborn (like my ex-partner) and this doesn't mesh well with a freedom-loving, generous Sag girl.

Lol - I just discovered this guy is a Libra (with a piscean ascendent). Guess that might have explained the attractiveness. He was very intelligent and knowledgable.

Ha! The travel company have just sent me an email saying I have been "selected to make a review of the trip". Not quite sure whether to bring this fiasco up, but it's very tempting. Guess my Scottish marriage will not be happening soon....

Hellosaggy - no presents? That's rough, my friend. Lets hope better opportunities present thenselves in the next few days.

I haven't even thought about New Years Eve. Must arrange something interesting.

I've just returned home from a brilliant trip around the Scottish Highlands for Christmas. I decided to book a tour and travel solo (with fifty other people and nationalities) as the holidays can be very tough. Basically, I've been saving for this trip since before January 2017 and was really looking forward to it.

Our tour guide was a very traditional Scotsman with a great sense of humour (somewhat good-looking in his thirties). Might have been my imagination, but I sensed a little attraction on both sides.

Unfortunately, I was sharing a room with two Australian girls who decided to consume a huge combination of shots, whiskey, wine and spirits during our trip. This meant I got minimal sleep and on the last night, the hotel called paramedics because my room-mate got so wasted she gave herself alcohol poisoning and vomited over herself.

We were supposed to be leaving at 10am, so I got her belongings packed, helped her stay hydrated etc all the while fuming at her complete stupidity. But she was genuinely ashamed of her own behaviour so I couldn't stay mad.

We all made the bus, but our Scottish tour guide was really angry after I had explained the situation and joked that he "might want to take it easy around the bends". He was pretty unpleasant to me, then asked in front of the bus if I too needed a black bin liner to vomit into (basically insinuating I'm a drunk).

Losing it, the following sassy Sagittarian comment burst forth "No, but you could wear it on your head to make your face look prettier". The cruelty was that he had broken out in bright red spots the previous night. He refused to speak to me from that point onwards and I felt so embarassed afterwards.

Did you guys have a better Christmas break?

ScorpioJ you've made twenty + threads now about the same Sagittarian woman, one of the first asking about compatibility. Most recently just endlessly complaining about your friend's weird "behaviour". It's getting to be more than a little obsessive.

Do you think it's time to try a new topic?

I'm really curious to date a Capricorn man and how we might click. I think stability would be an attractive trait, if also given the freedom necessary to a Sagittarian.

Perhaps gently hint that you have feelings for her, or epitomise the perfect partner that her current relationship is lacking to emphasise the differences between you (but only if that feels natural and honest).

A venus in Scorpio woman will be intense, passionate and devoted when in love. Just don't ever cross her or expect retaliation. Your venus in Aquarius will complement the freedom loving Sagittarian love style .

I've known a married couple (f) Sag and (m) Cap, but their full charts are a mystery. The Sag said her husband enjoyed travelling and it was a shared bond between them. He also took care of practicalities making her life less stressful.

Lots of people attribute these starsigns to Elizabeth Bennet and Mr Darcy in Pride and Prejudice, which makes total sense. Such a realistic and romantic love story. (Sorry, I can't provide real life experience)

In terms of approaching her - perhaps don't come on too strong initially. A factual, practical breakdown will likely come across as too over-thought and might scare her off. But then again, we are all individuals. Who knows! She might be really touched. Just bite the bullet and be yourself, with honesty and a touch of romance.

Happy Birthday from the SW of England x

These friends clearly don't deserve you. Treat yourself to something nice today and remember to you're still so young with your whole magical life ahead of you (I'll be 33 in a few weeks time - eek!) so don't dispair. With friends its quality not quantity!

Much Love x

Completely agree. It's at total odds to my Sagittarius sun and Aquarian Mars/Venus.

Really wish I could have more control over my emotional state and powerful, innate sensitivities. It can be pretty painful to always be feeling so intensely constantly, and being emotionally stuck in the past.

That said, the empathatic, intuitive, caring nature of the crab can be a real asset too. I find I am more financially discerning (a hoarder of stuff too) than most Saggies, enjoy being in the kitchen, and animals literally become "my furry babies" too.

Physically, my eyes can water easily and crying sometimes happens out of the blue. I'm curvier and tend to gain weight and retain water, and get stomache ache if upset/worried. Most noticeably is the moon-shaped face Cancerians possess.

Firstly ellesbelles, that was somewhat direspectful. I have actually been forced in the past to get a restraining order against a man. And take the person to court for harassment (and won the case due to being able to provide evidence. Hurrah!) and they happened to be a Scorpio. I really hope it's an experience you never go through.

You can hardly blame me for feeling concerned if someone attempts to hack my emails (which is not exactly normal behaviour) and the behaviour/mindset of someone who won't respect boundaries.

Instead it would have been nice to get some advice or a second opinion from a Scorpio, rather than defensiveness.

Also, if a partner behaved awfully toward you, then repeatedly makes contact, they are actually interrupting your ability to grieve and heal from hurt feelings and start a new happier life with absolutely no consideration for this.

Anyway, this has gone way off topic. The initial poster has probably run a mile.

Lawrie - did you and this Scorpio date a long time or were you in love? Are you hoping to rekindle the relationship?

I imagine he might be guarded at first, but the intensity in his eyes might be a good indication of his feelings. That's often a pretty difficult thing for Scorpios to hide.