I really appreciate the fact that you were honest, I mean that's what I came on here for to hear comments of others. You have definitely been keeping up with my threads and you just broke it all down. Thanks, no seriously.
Ok first and foremost I don't go on websites talking to different men, where did I mention that you should've quoted that. I was not snooping he was in my presence when the condom was in his wallet where he kept his money, and I had to make purchases on many occasions and it was not there. I appreciate your feedback, however you should pay attention to what I wrote. And on the website he never stated he had a woman, on the website it's stated that he's single. Wow you said a lot there, but thanks.
I tried talking to him and he just thinks that I am overreacting and that I have no reason to worry about anything. He makes these comments that all men cheat and his definition is flirting with girls, and so on it just depends on how far you take it. And he claims he hasn't taken it any further, but I still do not believe him. He tells me he's slowly changing and then I asked him what is it he needs to change and his response was "I know that I need to open up more when it comes to my feelings, it just a funny feeling I get when it comes to expressing myself", and "I know I can be a bastard sometimes". And that's it but I feel at this point after all that has happened he should be proving to me that I trust him, and he still has not giving me any reason to do so. I hate the fact that I allowed myself to fall for him, I just wish I didn't have any feelings or emotions because this is killing me right now. If he really cares for me why would he want to go on this website talking to females and giving out his number that's total disrespect and it hurts me to know that he does that. And the fact that his ex, I am competing with someone I hardly know trying to prove to him that I am better than her, why? By now he should know.
I don't know whether I should stay or go. I have develop really deep feelings for my boyfriend, however so many things has happened where I feel that I just can't trust him no matter what he tells me. I always go back to the time where his ex threatened me twice and him still communicating with her after what she did. It's not like I knew this girl, I had never seen her in my life but she just develop this hatred for me. I mean come on if someone was to disrespect my boyfriend and try to come between us I have no reason to communicate with that person. And even after all of that I stayed hoping that one day she will just go away and leave us alone. Then there was a time him and I went out and he was paying for dinner and there was a condom in his wallet (fyi: we don't use them) and I asked why it was there and he lied and said that it had been there all along. Then he goes onto this website giving his telephone number to different girls trying to get to know them and lying to me telling me that he goes on just to check his mail. So all of these thoughts come to mind, for these reasons and more I feel that I cannot trust him. I mean wouldn't you feel the same. I sit around hoping and praying that things will change. I even ask him if he wants to just break up and be free he tells me no. Sometimes I fight with myself, a part of me wants to just deal with it and hopefully things will change if he just come to the realization that I am a good woman. Another part of me says no why would I want to put myself through this, it's too painful just to think of the things that has happened already. But don't people change, well not unless they want. And he says that he's changing slowly and Lord knows I want to give him that chance, but what if he doesn't? I don't want to put so much work to making a relationship work and then it doesn't. Please help me.
Technically, I am not the kind of girl that asks of much. I just want to be in a relationship with someone I can trust to be loyal, honest, and faithful to me, show me a great deal of respect. I don't want to worry every moment we are not together he's doing something that he has no business doing. I want to feel comfortable and know that no matter what he's being good to me. I mean it's not like I want to feel this way, it's just a natural reaction from past events that has occured in our relationship, and lord knows I want it to all go away so I can have a clear mind look forward to this relationship working out.
It's so bad because I came in this morning to work, and now I am wondering to myself no matter how much I want this to work will it work? It's like no matter what he says I cannot trust him, because he tells a lie about things where there is no reason to lie,and it's a proven fact that he lied about so many things. Also the situations that happened makes it hard for me to trust him still. I don't know I am really fighting with myself right now. I know it's really sad. I mean I try talking to him, but how much talking can you do for someone to actually undestand where you are coming from and willing to take your feelings into consideration?
I want my relationship to work with my cancerian man. Although I have been through so much in this relationship, I still want things to work. I just need to know what can I do to stop myself from feeling so insecure about our relationship. The insecurity does have to do with situations that has occured but is up to me to stop myself from feeling insecure or is it his job to help me feel secure? I have very strong feelings for this guy and I know that things can work, I just hate this feeling that I have I want to feel that no matter what my boyfriend will be loyal and honest with me. I know that no woman can change a man but I just feel that if he was just more honest and open with me it could help. What shall I do? I don't want to always accuse him of things when it may not necessarily be what I think, but at the same time I don't want him to lie to me either. Help!
My boyfriend is a cancer 7/17 I'm sure many of you read previous threads of mine. Yesterday evening he called me from a number in which I did not recognize and we talked for a bit while he was ordering take out. I told him I wanted to see him and all that good mushy stuff. He told me that he was with his cousin (which is a male) and that he would call me back. Now somehow the phone that he used to call me dialed my number back without him knowing. At first I'm yelling his name and he doesn't respond, so something told me to listen. I heard him get back into his car and he started talking to this female that sound like she was close to him perhaps in the passenger seat. So you hear him talking to her about her body, and some other stuff, and as I am listening I'm literally shaking and saying to myself "I hope it's not what I think it is". So I hung up and called the number back in which he called originally and he didn't pick up so I finally had my best friend call the number back on 3 way and he answered. I asked him who is that girl that you are with and he pretended as if he had no clue what I was talking about. Now let me point out the whole time he was having this converstation with this female I did not hear his cousin speak at all. So I told him what I heard and he said yea it's me my cousin and his friend (why didn't he mention the other friend when he was telling me who he was with before?) I decided to hang up because all he did was laugh and say "oh my god" I can't believe this. About 30 min later he calls from his phone trying to explain it's not what I think it is they were all having a conversation and I am sorry his story did not sound believable. What do you guys think about this, put yourself in my shoes and tell me how would you react? This is really bad because I have fallen really hard for this guy and I just hope it's not what I think it is. I want us to be together but it's going to be extremly hard to go through things like this. Please help guys, I need as much feedback and advice as I can get.
No in my opinion you are not overreacting. Some guys just don't understand that we like attention, and we just like to be around that guy that we find so special. Sometimes that's all it takes. I'm sorry I loved to showered with attention and if I can be around my boyfriend 24/7 I would, however I know that he needs his space.
Now cancers tell me how you feel about this, I just need to make sure I am not over reacting. I am currently in relationship and every now and I then I crave attaention (ex: hugs, kisses, all that sweet stuff). And when I don't get attention I get all moody, I hate that at times. I feel that I am a simple kind of girl who likes to be showered with attention, you know sometimes it feels good to know that your significant other was thinking about you, and just gives you a call just to let you know that. Or to cuddled and have someone show you the love, I know sometimes I can be a bit mushy, it just seems to me my boyfriend just does not understand that. No matter what I say to him, it's like it goes through one ear and comes out the other. Am I being too dramatic, because I know us cancers can be that way sometimes. Tell me what you think?
Well I am a cancer in a relationship with a cancer 7/17 as well. And one thing with cancers is that although we are really sweet people we often get those who take advantage of our kindness which causes us to go back into our crabby shells. At this point there is nothing you can do besides apologize, but since there is no way for you to get through to him you just have to allow him to have his time. But if you do end up getting back on good terms with this cancer man be prepared for things to be thrown into your face everytime there is an argument. We forgive but we never ever forget and because of that he may have a huge issue with trust. Trust, honesty and security is what matters to us most and once someone crosses that line it's hard to trust that individual again. So just give him his moment, he will respond to you at one point, if he's that into you if not don't expect a call again. Sorry, I know we are moody people. Good Luck, Keep us posted.
I am a cancer and the best way to woo a cancer female, is to always be sweet and sincere, and show her much you care. It's the little things that makes us happy, most of all shower her with a lot of attention, if she's really into you she will love all the attention she can get. And do whatever you can to make her feel secure, security is another major thing to deal with when deal with us cancer woman. Make her feel like she is special like there is no other as special as she is. Good Luck! Keep us posted.
Is it possible for a cancer man to say that he loves you and the next minute lose interest in you? And how does a cancer man react when he loses interest? And last but not least is it possible for a cancer to say that they love you and not really feel that way? I know from being a cancer woman I don't express feelings I know I don't feel, are cancer men the same? Please help me.
Well to be honest I have been in a situation like this before. Where I was with someone that I did not love, and it felt as if I had to force myself to love that person. It's like I felt bad for not loving the person so I did all I could and forced the love to come out of me. And the weird thing is once I started to develop some form of feelings the guy actually hurt me really badly. Now is that crazy or what?