Posted by Franco
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Just means you view yourself as scorpio and present yourself possibly as more capricorn upon first meeting people. Probably often have a serious look on your face.


Do you know if the asc sign starts to take effect after the age of 30?

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Not necessarily. You might become more self aware of how you present yourself to the world after age 30
Realistic, grounded, practical
Let him go seems the best option imo
The question is. For the love of God, is there a way to stop this?

No.

Stop him from pulling away?

No.

Prove myself somehow?

Real love doesn't require you to prove yourself.

So that he may give me a chance to try again and not treetrunk it up this time?

Time. Show through consistency in your actions.

Or is the only option to just sit, wait and hope for the best?

Yes.
If you're the Cap, what do you think about working with someone you're intimate with? Would you say something like the above if you didn't mean it?

I don't like it personally & I avoid it.

I wouldn't say something like that unless I meant it.
It kind of depends for me. What stage we're at...whether it's rainy that day or sunny lol

Varies based on our form of communication, how long I've known him, how much I like him/how serious I am about him, things like that
Just means you view yourself as scorpio and present yourself possibly as more capricorn upon first meeting people. Probably often have a serious look on your face.
Sun in Capricorn, Moon in Libra

The combination of your Sun sign and your Moon sign produces a personality that is drawn in two opposite directions. The nature of Capricorn is highly disciplined and cautious, while Libra is rash and impulsive. What tends to result is a rather positive persona, with a sort of inspirational faith in your own infallibility, a bit the eccentric at times, but generally a very amiable individual. You like people, but the driving force in your nature may be more material than humanitarian. You are not very romantic, and there is a detachment about you that belies your real need for people. You are extremely social (false), and like to have people around you (nope), but at the same time, you do not warm up to them very quickly (true); you are somewhat proud, a bit suspicious, and as a result, you remain aloof. You have a talent for mixing socially, however, and for getting along well with your superiors using a tact and diplomacy that assures progress in business interests. You capitalize in business, or in a profession, on persuasiveness and a friendly attitude of diplomacy. You very much dislike direct conflict or hostile situations, (absolutely!) and your instinct to do the right thing to preserve peace and order is generally appreciated by all. Your talents also feature the ability to exercise sound and impartial judgment, especially in a business environment; the ability to mentally balance things, criticize and compare. There is a certain mental foresight that lets you see the flaws in plans before they become reality and cause problems. This well-balanced mentality is well backed by serious purpose and thoughtfulness, a desire to get ahead and assume responsibility. Maintaining balance and equilibrium can prove to be the key to your success and happiness. Your interests in business are enhanced by your ability to win others to your point of view by persuasiveness (false) and utter charm. (True)

I don't consider myself persuasive or social
1. I'm relationshiping lol

2. See answer #1

3. See answer #2 lol. Seriously paying off my house

4. Yes...then I politely remind them that I am not a chair

5. Yes. What area have you grown the most in over the last 90 days?
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Completely stressful! What's with the always making plans for the future, with you, without you, and verbalizing it as if you're just thinking about it? Doesn't make for a happy Sag. Just saying.. and then you act all sweet, loving, caring for me like I never heard it. And you wonder why I hesitate, why I'm not jumping all over the commitment. Omg. Who said stressful?

Okay needed to vent apparently.


Jump in lol


I've jumped into being exclusive, being his girlfriend but living in the moment is all I can do. Especially without knowing if the rug gets pulled out from underneath me at any moment. Why talk about 20 years from now 🙄? Or next year even. This Sag sun/aqua moon needs a bit more stability before you talk things like future. Let it evolve!! Lol

Do you think this way when starting a new employment opportunity somewhere?

Like yes I like this company for today or for this moment...who cares about 5 or 20 years from now or if I see longevity with the company, position, or industry...who cares about retirement, I just want employment for the moment.

He talks about future plans because he has goals & direction and wants to know if you 2 are moving towards the same goals or in the same direction so if you're not, things can end instead of 5 years later you saying "oh I didn't know that's what you wanted, that's not what I want out of life"

Most people would appreciate a man who knows what he wants.

See the things with caps & other signs is a Capricorn will tell you what they want and mean it, other signs get confused because they think we are like other signs who just talk & say words just for the hell of it or because they like to hear themselves talk...if your bank says your funds are insured and guaranteed up to $ 100,000, then you expect to be able to go to the bank & your money is in your account right? Do you question it? Do you lose sleep over it? Does it make you toss & turn at night? Do you not bank & just carry cash?

I understand what you're saying but it is more complicated then that.

#1 - I have been through a lot in the last few years & all my plans never work out. From a 17 year marrriage which was supposed to be forever to moving back to my hometown 2 years ago, had the job, place to live set & everything, friends, family, love interest all was emotionally like I was there. The only way I have survived is to take steps, live for today and just guide towards things - more like tentative plans. So it is very hard for me to believe in making plans at this point in my life.

#2 - I am/was still planning on moving in 2 years when my daughter graduates from high school. She is also planning to go to college in that area.

#3 - We talked about my plans in the first two weeks we started dating because it seemed to be moving serious pretty fast or possibly. He has said lets talk about it in two years. There is a reason he might want to stay here, although he loves the beach & grew up near it like me & would love to move near it. So it is uncertain. We have talked about my fear of being stuck here, aka trapped and for me miss Sagittarius it is a very bad thing when I feel trapped. There is a big danger of me trying to get free. He told me that if I decide to go somewhere, don't leave without him. So that made me feel better.

#4 - In the last couple of months he has been saying/doing conflicting things, talking about being together always, in 20 years because we are so good together, we fit, etc ( which is true), this made me feel good & scared at the same time. he was also introducing me as his friend to friends & acquaintances even though we had determined we were bf/gf in private.. and then a grand baby was born & he was talking about not leaving the area.. just as I'm dealing with my trapped feelings and if I could handle staying here forever, we go on vacation & first he's talking the 'us' stuff in twenty years and all the years we could do vacations together & then out of nowhere he announces he wants to move there & knows I probably couldn't & that he is NEVER moving to where I want to move to. Omg!!!! So I'm upset & on vacation of all things... back to in the moment, don't worry about it, it hasn't actually happpened. He was actually really drunk one night and said - I make plans, but then I don't know... it's hard to explain. & he couldn't. I said you confuse me. He then is all WHY?? Omg really?
Oh & then btw he introduced me to every single person we encountered as his girlfriend.... finally!

Am I wrong to think he is struggling with this issue?? That we would be better off not planning but seeing where things are going & what he really wants to do, or if the relationship becomes important enough that we oh god forbid decide together! Why should I commit to a life with him if I am the one doing the sacrificing & my desires are not considered. I could've stayed married for that!!!

Right now I'm in wait & see. Evolving, steps, one moment at a time work better for me so I don't freak out & run. In the meantime, he's acting all sweet, caring and loving since we are back home again. Like this was never brought up. 🙄


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Ok so 1. The problem lies alot with you and less with him& 2 all of that is understandable. Live & let live, do what makes you happy
11 Acts of Service
9 Quality Time
6 Physical Touch
2 Receiving Gifts
2 Words of Affirmation
Posted by Rindaroo
Posted by daron76
Posted by Rindaroo
Completely stressful! What's with the always making plans for the future, with you, without you, and verbalizing it as if you're just thinking about it? Doesn't make for a happy Sag. Just saying.. and then you act all sweet, loving, caring for me like I never heard it. And you wonder why I hesitate, why I'm not jumping all over the commitment. Omg. Who said stressful?

Okay needed to vent apparently.


Jump in lol


I've jumped into being exclusive, being his girlfriend but living in the moment is all I can do. Especially without knowing if the rug gets pulled out from underneath me at any moment. Why talk about 20 years from now 🙄? Or next year even. This Sag sun/aqua moon needs a bit more stability before you talk things like future. Let it evolve!! Lol
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Do you think this way when starting a new employment opportunity somewhere?

Like yes I like this company for today or for this moment...who cares about 5 or 20 years from now or if I see longevity with the company, position, or industry...who cares about retirement, I just want employment for the moment.

He talks about future plans because he has goals & direction and wants to know if you 2 are moving towards the same goals or in the same direction so if you're not, things can end instead of 5 years later you saying "oh I didn't know that's what you wanted, that's not what I want out of life"

Most people would appreciate a man who knows what he wants.

See the things with caps & other signs is a Capricorn will tell you what they want and mean it, other signs get confused because they think we are like other signs who just talk & say words just for the hell of it or because they like to hear themselves talk...if your bank says your funds are insured and guaranteed up to $ 100,000, then you expect to be able to go to the bank & your money is in your account right? Do you question it? Do you lose sleep over it? Does it make you toss & turn at night? Do you not bank & just carry cash?
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He doesn't trust easily. Whether it's you and/or other guys. He could view it as disrespectful. Who knows...only you know what you are & are not willing to deal with. If you feel it's unfair then express that to him.


I told him I didn't think it was fair that he asked me to change my number. I know he doesn't trust easily but I've never given him any reason to doubt my loyalty. So he asked me to think about it and we'll talk about it latee


If you guys have been talking/ dating for a year or 2 and someone that old keeps popping in & out, I wouldn't care for it either. Doesn't always have to do with doubting your loyalty.


I understand him not liking it, I wouldn't either. But changing my number I've had for years?! Hmm... I mean, I don't have a lock on it, I don't hide it, he uses it whenever he wants to. There's been times where his phone has died and he's getting ready to leave the house and I'll let him take mine. He knows I'm not communicating with no other man. We don't live together but he has access to my house my house and everything.


None of that is the point. The same way you say you've had the number for years (with question mark & exclamation)...if this dude is someone you met before him....you 2 have been talking for years.....why is old dude still calling/texting


I have no idea... I guess he was trying to reach out to me to see if I started dating someone. I seriously and in all honesty had not spoken to that guy in at least 7-8 months prior to him texting me. I didn't engage in the conversation to see why he was texting h me out of the blue because I didn't care. He never called only texted me and from his text u can see that we hadn't been talking on a ref basis. Like I said, I have nothing to hid. He has unrestricted access to phone anytime. He's even taken my phone for hours at a time because his was dead. We share the same iCloud so he can see what I download on my phone. I have no hidden or deleted apps.

Dude literally fell out of the sky. His number wasn't even programmed in my phone anymore.
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That's his point
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He doesn't trust easily. Whether it's you and/or other guys. He could view it as disrespectful. Who knows...only you know what you are & are not willing to deal with. If you feel it's unfair then express that to him.


I told him I didn't think it was fair that he asked me to change my number. I know he doesn't trust easily but I've never given him any reason to doubt my loyalty. So he asked me to think about it and we'll talk about it latee


If you guys have been talking/ dating for a year or 2 and someone that old keeps popping in & out, I wouldn't care for it either. Doesn't always have to do with doubting your loyalty.


I understand him not liking it, I wouldn't either. But changing my number I've had for years?! Hmm... I mean, I don't have a lock on it, I don't hide it, he uses it whenever he wants to. There's been times where his phone has died and he's getting ready to leave the house and I'll let him take mine. He knows I'm not communicating with no other man. We don't live together but he has access to my house my house and everything.

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None of that is the point. The same way you say you've had the number for years (with question mark & exclamation)...if this dude is someone you met before him....you 2 have been talking for years.....why is old dude still calling/texting
Posted by TyliaB
Posted by Capri-sun
He doesn't trust easily. Whether it's you and/or other guys. He could view it as disrespectful. Who knows...only you know what you are & are not willing to deal with. If you feel it's unfair then express that to him.


I told him I didn't think it was fair that he asked me to change my number. I know he doesn't trust easily but I've never given him any reason to doubt my loyalty. So he asked me to think about it and we'll talk about it latee
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If you guys have been talking/ dating for a year or 2 and someone that old keeps popping in & out, I wouldn't care for it either. Doesn't always have to do with doubting your loyalty.
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Just thought I'd share


love is beautiful *

happy for you
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It is indeed! Thank you
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Sorry just seeing this! Congratulations!

Thanks