guys relax lol I snapped the hell out of It I definitely appreciate everyones input I simply had to snap out of it especially when he texted me again and was like "hey how are you" like nothing happened...so all I can say is, I blocked him deleted him and sorry no Virgo's will work it out until we can but once we sense it ain't worth it we may try to convince ourselves but once we made up our mind its done deal
just is exactly what I did =). I haven't taken this post down but ya no this was a done deal, to many back and forth and to much BS is all
I agree...after the few threads and back and forth, I think I'm a fixer when it comes to these things and yes I'd rather talk it through then cold shoulder someone that's my nurturing character but you're right I HATE the mind games lol hopefully next thread will not be about this! =) well thanks to those who allowed me to vent, just know when there is so much pull and push with one person it can def get super confusing so that's the only reason why I post updates, but after reading everything an going back and thinking about it ya there's no point.
hey no sorry. he suggested hanging out this weekend. Told him I had plans with friends but we can do something or you can come with. after that he said thanks for the invite but no thanks, its to far. Which is when I made the comment that "I always drove to you lol but okay that's fine, let me know when you're free next and are interested" and he said "he's busy jesus Christ" again did not push it nor force anything. He said okay that's fine have fun. Then sunday text me saying "he's just to busy with work and doesn't have time to pursue a relationship, this probably isn't going anywhere and I don't want to waste your time. Best of luck to ya" sorry about the run on there.
So I was talking to this cancer man and everything was going well. but OMG did he have a lot moments where it felt like we would take one step forward and he'd jump 20 step back immediately. So we both are looking for anything serious and agreed with going with the flow. Now we have spent almost every weekend and we both admitted to taking some space. so like two weekends we didn't see each other nor talk through text cause he said he was "busy at work" he is a workaholic though. Last weekend he wanted to which I was down to hang out, but when I made a suggestion he said he wasn't interested and when I gave two more options he said "I'm busy jesus Christ" so I went about my weekend and I said okay no problem let me know when you're free. Sunday he texted me out of no where and was like "i'm just to busy for a relationship, and I don't want to waste your time this isn't going to go anywhere. But I enjoyed meeting you. Best of luck to ya!" i'm confused because I never pushed a relationship, we would talk about it when he brought it up and I reassured I would never force him into one. but idk I feel like this was out of the blue
I feel like I failed or maybe did something.. but do I even try to communicate? it appears that he just doesn't care, hasn't texted me back
I Definitely agree, i'm a virgo female and i'll say its a complete myth with the hot and cold thing, if we're upset we may need a couple days to gather our thoughts and let you know. But from what you're telling me it just appears she is busy with her kids and just enjoying time with them. I would wait til she comes back and text her something simple like "hey how was your trip? did you guys have fun?" and gauge her emotion through the text =)
Virgo men are completely different then Virgo Females, atleast me being a virgo I do not disappear I tend to want to solve the issue right there and then. I was seeing a guy who was a Virgo and us being the same in the sense being grounded made it easy. But we definitely got into an argument and rushed into something, he did disappear to ease the tension and it was refreshing for both of us. And now we are friends and talk once in a while to catch up. My advice would be to give a week and just do not bring up the relationship situation let him open up about it first. So when you do reach out to him just start with hey what's up, hope your doing well. and don't be so quick to reply back when he does text you back. Virgo men like their space well I feel all virgo's at a point like some space to breathe, but a small text like that will let him know that okay you're there but you're respecting the fact you're giving him space. =) keep me updated hope it all works out hun
Well he said hed not putting in any effort And hes selfish but if I wanna deal with it then hes okay with it because his mood can change later I said absolutely not .. sex is good but it ain't that good to be degraded
haha you guys are awesome!!! ya I can't even really get obsessed I mean like I said I enjoy my time with him and we have hella fun behind close doors and open doors =) but this whole thing is like maaaannnn why you gotta make it so difficult when I just said go with the flow lol
but I love it your advice!!! I think i'm going to say what I want to say and then give him space, if he comes back cool if not IDGAF but I just mind games lol
hey saggurl that doesn't make sense to me because he is the one who brought it up all the time ....
plus he said "you can still text me just keep it PG because I prefer to be platonic friends" and then turns around and goes "I like having sex with you and hanging out with you I just need some space"
i'm about to not even say anything and just forget about him because this is getting so complicated so quick and usually I have patience but like the other's have said I feel as though he is giving me reasons to push away and I sincerely thought he was just testing me to see if i'm interested but I never thought this would be how he would act. now i'm not going to say all cancer men are like this I've definitely met sweet men who are cancer zodiac, but this one was is just being plain rude at this point and me being me I just want to say screw you in the most polite way possible.
I am so confused about this and at this point i'm ready to walk but before I do I just want to make sure i'm not in the wrong here
I'm a virgo 09/17 and he's cancer 06/23 ; we both agreed that we would continue to talk, date, see each other and feel each other out. We've only known each other for a couple of weeks so we both agreed that it's too soon to get into a relationship. I seriously thought we were on the same page. well he said he felt he was leading me into a relationship and he doesn't want that he wants to focus on his career atm...which once again I thought we were on the same page. So we talked over the phone and I re-iterated that its too soon and honestly id rather still get to know you before we start a relationship, he said he agrees .. but one thing that really stung me is when he said "i'm treating you like trash and you are taking it" .. I was so confused because he doesn't put me down, he never disrespected me, when we're together his attention is fully focused on me...the only thing is he sucks at communicating with me and sometimes does forget that we had plans until I bring it up. So I was like huh maybe I've been looking at this all wrong, and then he continued to say he needs space. Once again I was so confused because we go days without talking and only communicate when its time for the date and what not...buut....he wants space??? and he said he doesn't have time to date anyone at this time. which previously I did mention i'm not the type that needs to talk to someone everyday but once in a while sure...I seriously thought we were on the same page and now i'm reconsidering this whole ordeal. Plus I did mention I like you and care and he said I don't want to hear that....so I was like wow okay...idk what to do give him space? or just not even say anything to him and just walk away without a fuss? why is he even acting like this? its frustrating...
I think you should tell him and then see what happens, because if you hold it in its going to drive you crazy. By letting it out and telling him atleast you won't have to live with what if kind of thinking. And if he doesn't reciprocate or does the push and pull then you can move on peacefully knowing instead of the unknown.
right I agree!!! but which is crazy cause after we hung out on 4th of July he told me he completely changed his mind and was glad I came by and talked over the phone, and continued to once again flirt, talk and be back on the same page before all the mess happened. Idk I guess being a virgo I hate chasing like i'll give you a hint that I like you but I hate that I always have to initiate the conversations with him, and he tells me he's busy and in a mood cause of work but I see him online which I don't bring up cause again we aren't exclusive I guess that part of me is like i'm going to sit back and observe.
ya I understand we are not exclusive I guess i'm just taken back because I thought everything was going very very well and then I saw him online it kind of took me back a little I guess. IDK we'll see thank you so much
alright so I've been talking to this cancer and I previously posted about this things were great, we went from dating, casually seeing each other, to hooking up as we went out on dates. he changed his mood cause of cultural differences, etc and wanted to be FWB then changed his mind within a couple of days and said how he has no romantic interest and just wants to be friends. I was so confused of the sudden mood change and i'm a practical person so I told him to call me and actually explain whats going on in his head cause I was confused. he had great points he made, the fact that we had difference in culture which I had to explain that my family is very modernized and nothing of the sort of him getting rejected from my family say six months from now of dating, etc. And I said now if his family cannot accept me for because of my culture or race then I agree we should walk away from each other and he said "no that's not it at all, my family has no opinion when it comes to this and my sister is the only one i'm close to." so at the end of it he said he sees black and white and is learning to be more open minded, etc. and I did say go with the flow and let's see what happens, because we've only been going out for a couple of weeks like a month. He did say usually females run after two months because of his work/life balance and I was the first girl that told him i'm willing to stick around and see what happens. We did end up spending time together 4th of July and have plans for this weekend to play tennis, watch movies and relax. But my confusion is since the beginning I was the one to initiate he only initiated contact once or twice but since 4th of July I have initiated once or twice, I did stop initiating but he is back on POF (online dating app) and yet we still have plans this weekend, next weekend and pretty much the weekend is booked until end of July. So what do I do? do I bring it up? or should I just tell myself maybe he's starting to push away or change his mind again and just walk away? His bday is - June 23rd 1991 mine is - September 17th 1991
My opinion knowing cancer men...they are like the crabs, they hide in their shells until they feel its safe to peep out. they also very oblivious and WILL rarely make the first move. So my advice is reach out to him and this time really tell him how you feel. he will appreciate your honesty and vulnerability as well as the fact how much your in touch with your emotions. i'm a virgo and my man is cancer sadly i'm more closed off in my emotions than he is and he taught me to slowly start opening up and expressing myself and allowed me to trust him before we used to have misunderstandings because I used to hide my emotions and it would confuse him. So like I said pick up the phone and tell him exactly how you feel and say how long you've been feeling it, and be honest when you said you didn't want to say lets be exclusive because I didn't want to come off as controlling and hold you back. then pause and let him talk.
Trust me the thing about cancer men is they need security and assurance over and over again without being too Pushy at the same time. they are totally the push and pull crab and tend to move sideways vs forward and backward.
oh don't get me wrong I've had fair share of weirdo's on POF but I feel like when it comes to online dating its always a number game as well as quality over quantity and sadly there is a lot of quantity and little less quality on there LMFAO
Match is real good actual serious people if you're looking for real relationship but I've enjoyed MEETUP because its not just one on one where you have that pressure but at the same time its nice to meet not only the opposite sex but the same sex and you make new friends that are around the area you live in.