Four neighboring signs in four different elements...That's Me...
Leo Sun, Virgo Moon, Cancer Merc, Libra Venus, Capricorn Mars, Aries Asc.

Posted by Geminiforever23
Good point. What should I do now? i am so confused. About my next step


What do you want? I suggest dating other guys and not getting hung up on this one person.
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Posted by Chuckcem
Sounds like the two of you are young. You already answered your own question though. This guy clearly likes you. No guy is going to run errands to get you medicine and talk to you about your problems if he doesn't like you. Just not how we operate. You're also aware that he got jealous when he saw you with a guy friend. You saw it in his face. Guys don't get jealous over girls we don't like...sooo...

Why did he get jealous?
*1. You two are young.
*2. The Capricorn guy talked to you about your problems with a past relationship. He probably was hoping that by doing this he'd get a fast track to your heart (not the best plan, but young guys do this stuff).
*3. He may have even thought that your male friend WAS the guy you had a past relationship with.

So he got jealous, then possibly embarrassed of his own jealousy, and decided to avoid you. He's avoiding you to spare himself any more pain of liking you. He can't read you and just backed off instead. This is also why he's hanging around his former crush.

I don't think it's necessary to get into the astrology side of this since this is pretty simple. If you like him, just go up to him and ask him to hang out. Tell him you noticed he's been avoiding you and you're not sure why. Also tell him you think he's cute. Just be direct.


Yes we are young in our 20's . However I asked him why he had this behavior and he said he has been off for vkuole of days himself and he is holding up fine now. The fact that we haven't talked much face to face and more to texting. I am not going to text him again till he comes and talk to me . Because I don't think texting is the bet option to go for
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Mmhmmm, also know he's not going to tell you the real reason he's been blowing you off. He's not going to admit he was jealous. Virgos like to be 100% sure about the people they like. If they have any reason to question your intentions, they'll back away.

Pretty sure that's what you're seeing now. It's best to be direct with a Virgo first, then back off if they play hot/cold with you. Some people say to pursue a Virgo persistently until they come around, but I personally believe that chasing someone who is backing away is unhealthy.
I suggest not focusing on having kids until you're sure you want them. It's good that you're letting him go though. If someone can't give you what you need in a relationship, it won't be fulfilling in the long run. You may wind up resenting him later. It's best to figure out what you want first.

Also if the Aqua is already divorced, I'm sure his kid will eventually understand if he winds up having a baby with someone else.
Better question, why are you so hung up on getting pregnant? Sounds like Aqua guy is the one you want. Is he infertile? Or does he not want kids? Doesn't really make sense to get pregnant by another person if you love Aqua guy.
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I think he's a psychopath.


Woah, you weren't joking when you said you suck. People are out of control with labels entirely.


I suck because I used a label, or maybe exaggerated a little? What do you think astrology is? People put people in boxes for a reason.


Calling someone a psychopath is not exaggerating a little. You could tarnish someone's reputation with it as opposed to calling someone a Pisces.


I'm not tarnishing anyone's reputation because his identity isn't enclosed. Back off
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I think you meant "disclosed" (sorry Virgo Moon).

I think you have the age ol' dilemma of choosing between the "wild man" vs. "nice guy". Pisces guy has a temper and is erratic, but you find him physically attractive. He also has that inexplicable "it" quality that you crave. Pisces guy is direct and unapologetic regarding his feelings for you. He's also not easily controlled. In some way you find his delusional, devil may care attitude attractive. He fascinates you in some way, plus you like his attention.

The concern is that you labeled Pisces a psychopath. Exaggeration aside, you're already aware that he's clingy and has an explosive temper. This type of temperament could result in him being a stalker or even an abusive boyfriend. Probably not the best option. It's safe to say the longer you stick around him, the more possessive/jealous he will become. He's already showing you how he'll act around you.

Libra guy sounds nice, though bit awkward. I suggest going for him if you like him. I can already tell that he's doing a few things that could turn you off down the line so hopefully that will change. You seem comfortable with him though and you also seem to understand his potential awkwardness. Sounds like this guy may speak your language and is probably worth pursuing.
Well a LOT of girls can use guys for comfort after a breakup, it's called a rebound. Depending on how recent the break up was, her emotions may still be raw. It's not so much that she's using you on purpose, but she may have you set as a replacement.

Since you already know that she just broke up with someone, just be mindful of that. It's possible that she's being honest with you, but things could get shaky if the ex tries to come back into the picture. It just depends on if she got closure from the last relationship.

My advice it is to not focus on a relationship with her and have fun with the time you have with her. She may wind up sticking with you. It's too early to tell. Just be charming, play it cool, take her out, etc.

Also I know what I just said can be hard for Cancers, but just be chill and don't put too much pressure on needing to know where you stand with her. You'll drive yourself crazy and possibly push her away.
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@chuckem - you did mention the aqua in another post. Also you have a way with words lol


Oh yeah I mentioned her in a few. She was recent.
Alright this guy is a moron. Never answer his calls or respond to him again.

This guy was too full of himself. He's used to talking down to women to get what he wants. This is probably something he learned in the "pick up artist" community. There is a "strategy" where a guy starts to put down a girl to make her self conscious. As a result the girl will try to validate herself to the guy, which in turn will "raise her attraction" for him. The idea is she'll validate her need for validation in her own mind. She'll convince herself that she likes him.

The PROBLEM with this "strategy" is that it's just...awful...it's the worst thing to do to any person. It also only works on people who have LOW self esteem/respect. It's said to be best applied on gorgeous women with possible bad attitudes. This of course backfires when the person doesn't have low self respect and/or is genuinely nice person.

It's a FAR more aggressive version of teasing women to break the ice. Instead this employs a "trick" where the man insults the woman to elicit an emotional response. If you had stayed he would have sprinkled in some compliments to build you back up, followed by an underhanded compliment to break you down again.

It's possible he's just a player, but I think it's more likely he's bad with women. He probably gets girls on his looks alone and has a hard time talking to women. So he decided to employ some stupid "strategy" instead. There is a plus side though. He must have thought you were actually attractive enough to "trick". I guess that's a compliment...kinda...
So I personally don't condone cheating, as I see it as cowardly. That being said this homewrecker site does not account for MANY grey areas. What if the "mistress" doesn't know their partner is married? What if the divorce isn't finalinzed and the ex spouse is just bitter? While I personally think that being separated yet still married doesn't make much sense, I'm also aware that divorce is expensive.

There are also some other key problems here:

*First cheating isn't illegal. A site like this however targets and publicizes the "homewrecker" as if they have committed a crime similar to a sex offender. It creates a stigma that isn't supported by the law (unless you live in a country where it does).

*Second, as a result this website mimics many "slut shaming" sites that are used by disgruntled exes to post up nude/embarrassing/compromising pictures of their former lovers on pornographic websites. Sure there's no nudity on this website, but the site still makes private information public without the consent of the affected parties.

*Third, it appears that the site only targets the "mistress" not the spouse who participated in the affair. How does that even make sense? The homewrecker IS the spouse, the person who went outside of his/her marriage. If anything THEY should be the target.

*Fourth, this can backfire. This could easily be seen as defamation of character and fall under libel or slander laws. If the target can prove that this negatively impacts their lives or careers, they have the ability to sue. So now the person who posted on the site has to deal with the court fees of a potential divorce AND also getting sued. It's just not a smart or cost effective plan.

*Fifth, this affects not just the target, but their families as well, which includes their children. We assume that if the mistress was also married that the spouse would also want to know. Even if that's true, that doesn't mean other people won't be harmed by this.

Example 1: let's say there is a couple (let's call them couple A). Let's say that couple A has an agreed to open up their marriage but are staying together for their kids. Let's the wife in couple A hooks up with a guy who lies about having a family. Now, once their affair is discovered wife A's information is posted publicly on this site. Now she's not only publicly humiliated, but so is her family. The friends and family of couple A all know and are all talking. Eventually the informaiton gets to the kids as well. Due to the embarrassment and hurt feelings couple A decides to get a divorce, which of course also affects the children.

Example 2: Let's say wife A had an affair behind husband A's back with another man. The affair is posted, wife A is publicized, and husband A is furious. Husband A goes to "confront" the other man and there is an altercation that ends violently with the man getting killed and the husband A going to jail. Now BOTH two families are affected.

This site is just simply too irresponsible and doesn't take the full picture into account.
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Posted by Chuckcem
Is this questions geared toward straight men/women, gay men/women, or both?

My gay friends (male and gemale) typically avoid relationships with bisexual people out of fear it could create a problems down the line. The fear is that a bisexual partner can choose the hetero-normative option of being with a partner of the opposite sex due to societal pressure, thereby leaving the homosexual partner in the cold. This can sometimes be played off by the bisexual partner as them going through "a phase" in more judgmental societies, which is obviously emotionally jarring to the heterosexual partner. A lot of my gay friends say that they felt used or discarded in those scenarios.

Many straight women I know also would not opt to be in a relationship with a bisexual partner for a few reasons. Some women just don't want the added competition of locking down a mate. Some women have a more rigid view on male sexuality, believing that a bisexual man must automatically be a homosexual man who has not come to terms with his sexual orientation (again the fear of bisexuality being just a "phase"). Some women are not sexually aroused by the sight of two men being intimate.

Also both gay and straight women typically want to form strong emotional bonds with their partners and many feel this can't be done with a third partner in the mix (male or female).

I'd say that a lot of straight men would be fine with the "idea" of dating a bisexual woman, though some men would do it to avoid the possibility of competition as well. I don't know too many men who would say that the sight of two women being intimate would turn them off though. I think for straight men, self confidence and possessiveness toward the partner comes into play.

That being said, as a straight male, I'd be cool with it.

Question is geared towards anyone.

But I'd be fine with it too if me and the person had a very strong connection and I knew that they were loyal and faithful.

If someone is gonna cheat... They're gonna cheat. Doesn't matter if they're straight, gay, bi - whatever.
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Right and most people don't have the self confidence to understand how trust works. As you've said, a person will cheat if they want to cheat. There's nothing that's going to stop them. So assuming a bisexual person will automatically cheat because of their sexual orientation doesn't make sense.

That being said, most straight people just don't understand how sexuality works. Additionally a lot of gay people have had bad experiences with bisexual partners choosing the easier heteronormative option. I can understand the stigma on both sides.
Sounds like the two of you are young. You already answered your own question though. This guy clearly likes you. No guy is going to run errands to get you medicine and talk to you about your problems if he doesn't like you. Just not how we operate. You're also aware that he got jealous when he saw you with a guy friend. You saw it in his face. Guys don't get jealous over girls we don't like...sooo...

Why did he get jealous?
*1. You two are young.
*2. The Capricorn guy talked to you about your problems with a past relationship. He probably was hoping that by doing this he'd get a fast track to your heart (not the best plan, but young guys do this stuff).
*3. He may have even thought that your male friend WAS the guy you had a past relationship with.

So he got jealous, then possibly embarrassed of his own jealousy, and decided to avoid you. He's avoiding you to spare himself any more pain of liking you. He can't read you and just backed off instead. This is also why he's hanging around his former crush.

I don't think it's necessary to get into the astrology side of this since this is pretty simple. If you like him, just go up to him and ask him to hang out. Tell him you noticed he's been avoiding you and you're not sure why. Also tell him you think he's cute. Just be direct.
Is this questions geared toward straight men/women, gay men/women, or both?

My gay friends (male and gemale) typically avoid relationships with bisexual people out of fear it could create a problems down the line. The fear is that a bisexual partner can choose the hetero-normative option of being with a partner of the opposite sex due to societal pressure, thereby leaving the homosexual partner in the cold. This can sometimes be played off by the bisexual partner as them going through "a phase" in more judgmental societies, which is obviously emotionally jarring to the heterosexual partner. A lot of my gay friends say that they felt used or discarded in those scenarios.

Many straight women I know also would not opt to be in a relationship with a bisexual partner for a few reasons. Some women just don't want the added competition of locking down a mate. Some women have a more rigid view on male sexuality, believing that a bisexual man must automatically be a homosexual man who has not come to terms with his sexual orientation (again the fear of bisexuality being just a "phase"). Some women are not sexually aroused by the sight of two men being intimate.

Also both gay and straight women typically want to form strong emotional bonds with their partners and many feel this can't be done with a third partner in the mix (male or female).

I'd say that a lot of straight men would be fine with the "idea" of dating a bisexual woman, though some men would do it to avoid the possibility of competition as well. I don't know too many men who would say that the sight of two women being intimate would turn them off though. I think for straight men, self confidence and possessiveness toward the partner comes into play.

That being said, as a straight male, I'd be cool with it.
Posted by scorpvixen
Thanks everyone. I know it's normal for anyone to be upset when someone they care for passes away. I'm just not used to a man being so vulnerable so soon. Most do it in private.

I guess partly dumb on my part as I just know Leo's have huge prides and I would just assume that crying in front of the girl they like so early on would make them feel weak.

He does have a cancer Venus which may be what makes him have that more emotional aspect.

I just layed there with him and held his hand. I didn't know what to do or say but I just assured him that it was okay and I wasn't bothered when I could tell he was getting a little embarrassed and apologised.


That's the best way to handle it. If he continues doing that though, let him know if it starts to kill your buzz.
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That seems like a very good thing that he could show that to you. Losing someone can be so painful.

One Leo man I know told me that he hasn't cried since he was a child. He knows it likely would be better if he let emotions out that way when really sad, in private at least, but it doesn't happen - he trained himself not to cry.

One of my Leo male friends was the same as above, then he worked on it so he could cry. He can get very moved by music at times.

I've never seen my Leo moon father cry. He's Pisces sun. My mother saw him cry once in close to 30 years, and another time she thinks that he probably cried, in private, when one of his favourite relatives died. I asked my dad if he ever cried, and he said, "Of course!" and explained that he gets a bit teary eyed if he watches a sad movie, but not enough for the tears to go down his face.



Sounds about right. The other thing you have to remember about Leo guys is that we are typical guys when it comes to our emotions. We are more inclined to try and find a way to either divert the emotion or logic our way through it. If we DO cry, it's not a public display. For us crying is private.

I had at least 1 or 2 girlfriends who would get upset that I wouldn't cry or emote in that way.


That makes sense.

Why did they get upset at you about that? Did you seem cold to them when sad, or something like that, so that bothered them? I'm trying to imagine what's upsetting about that.

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They never saw me sad. Scorpios also want to see EVERYTHING, the highs and lows. I just approach my emotions more logically and I'm generally a positive/happy person. For me to cry I must have no other options and be backed into a corner. That's such a rare occurrence for me because Leos have a penchant for creating solutions and my Virgo Moon means I have several back up plans at the ready. I don't sulk really, but if I do, I sulk in private and also in spurts.

I also think it was immaturity on their parts. Both expected there to me more drama than was necessary.
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That seems like a very good thing that he could show that to you. Losing someone can be so painful.

One Leo man I know told me that he hasn't cried since he was a child. He knows it likely would be better if he let emotions out that way when really sad, in private at least, but it doesn't happen - he trained himself not to cry.

One of my Leo male friends was the same as above, then he worked on it so he could cry. He can get very moved by music at times.

I've never seen my Leo moon father cry. He's Pisces sun. My mother saw him cry once in close to 30 years, and another time she thinks that he probably cried, in private, when one of his favourite relatives died. I asked my dad if he ever cried, and he said, "Of course!" and explained that he gets a bit teary eyed if he watches a sad movie, but not enough for the tears to go down his face.



Sounds about right. The other thing you have to remember about Leo guys is that we are typical guys when it comes to our emotions. We are more inclined to try and find a way to either divert the emotion or logic our way through it. If we DO cry, it's not a public display. For us crying is private.

I had at least 1 or 2 girlfriends who would get upset that I wouldn't cry or emote in that way.
Hm, I'm noticing a pattern. Here are the women I've either dated with some frequency or entered relationships with:

1st - Leo, 8 months: My first love and the same sign as me. We understood each other, but we were also pretty young. She could read my emotions like a book, but I also wore them on my sleeve a lot more than I do know. Even still I wasn't very vocal when I'd get upset and she knew before I could say anything. Our relationship also grew to be highly sexual. We eventually broke up because of college. She's one of the few women I stay in contact with, though it's only once every few years at this point. Connected on social media.

2nd - Scorpio, 1 year, 3 months: An intense relationship. While we were very passionate, there were issues with jealousy and possessiveness from both sides. I'd say this relationship also changed my mind regarding how dating worked as we were both immature. This relationship was intensely sexual and also ended badly. There was hints from her side of cheating. After the break up she later stalked me for a bit at parties. Just not a healthy situation. Not connected on social media.

3rd - Sagittarius, 3-4 months: My first (and probably only) long distance relationship. As far as LDRs go, this one was fairly easy. She was a great girl, but l realized logistically that the relationship would take a lot more maintenance than I was willing to give, so I ended it. She wasn't happy about it, but she understood. We no longer talk, but we are connected on social media. After her I took a break from dating to sew my wild oats.

4th - Gemini, 1 month: I only add this because the Gemini wanted the label. It ended as fast as it started. She had a huge crush on me for years, then blew me off. I don't talk to her, but we're still connected on social media. She's also married now.

5th - Libra, 3 months: We worked together and got to know each other for several months before we started dating. I had taking a lengthy hiatus from dating before her, so she was a breath of fresh air. We got along great for a bit, but then things got shaky and she wasn't sure what she wanted. She decided to end things and I walked away. We still communicate with each other and still connected on social media. She's the only woman I'd consider trying with again.

6th - Aquarius, 3-4 months: Met her after I stopped dating the Libra. We had a lot in common (or so I thought). We would joke that we were practically the same person. Walked out on her when she brought her emotionally abusive ex to a party I planned for her. Later I found out that she was dating her ex the entire time and lied about it to both me and our mutual friends. So basically discovered she's a habitual, possibly compulsive, liar with narcissistic and sociopath tendencies. I'm never talking to her again, but somehow still connected on social media.
This^. Excluding childhood I guess, very few people have ever seen my cry. It's just not going to happen unless I truly love/trust someone and have known them for MANY years. Out of all the people who I'm close to, only my family has seen me cry and that was a long time ago. I'm just not the type to cry in the first place.

There are some Leos who wear their hearts on their sleeves though. I had a Leo friend that would cry in front of me and other friends. He also had a BIG hear and was a naive in love, which I think was factor. A Leo who hasn't been hurt too many times is more likely to more open.

In fact I'd argue there is nothing more innocent than a Leo's heart the first time we fall in love. Once our hearts are stomped on a couple of times, we harden up FAST. It's also why some Leos become players. We come to the conclusion that we'll never be hurt the same way again, opting to control love rather than fall into it (that is until we find someone who can reach our heart).
I mean....technically yes. You're not dying of loneliness.
Mars in Capricorn

With the placement of Mars in Capricorn you instinctively need to unlock and break free from all forms of personal judgment, emotional suppression and personal rules and regulations. In relationships it is important for the Mars in Capricorn person to be made to feel safe and protected in order to allow deep emotions to surface without fear of judgment.

Venus in Libra

If you have Venus in Libra your evolutionary needs are about understanding balance, fairness and creating equality through extremes. In relationships your natural way is to experience total commitment to knowing and facilitating another person’s needs. At this point you lose your own sense self which leads you to isolate yourself from any social interaction. You are trying to learn the value and identity of yourself through the constant contrast others. The balance comes in where you listen to your own needs instead of always listening to others. This will create the dynamic were you express and communicate your inward needs as they are for yourself. This will help you balance between who is you and who is another.