Four neighboring signs in four different elements...That's Me...
Leo Sun, Virgo Moon, Cancer Merc, Libra Venus, Capricorn Mars, Aries Asc.

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I'm pretty sure this question is on here but how can you tell if a Leo is into you? If this is on here lmk which page lol

Specifically a Leo you met online


That's a common question. Leos are physical creatures. While we may be very enthusiastic, you won't really know if we're into you until we've met you (in fact WE may not be entirely sure until we've met you). We don't fully trust texting and online platforms for communication and romace, but we'll use them as a means to connect to those who do. So the trick is to get a Leo in front of you if you're interested.

Once you've actually met, then the goal is consistency. Again we Leos are physical creatures. If a Leo is into you, well try to see you as much as possible. We may not be the best texters, but that doesn't matter since we use texts to send invites and short bursts of information. So if a Leo is sending you invitations and trying to see you, then he/she is into you.

Leos are fairly simple in that regard. A Leo who is unsure about you may try to invite you out in a group setting, while a Leo who is more confident will just ask you out. Either way the Leo will try to be present.


Good to know. Do you guys make a lot of sexual advances a lot when you're into someone? Lol
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Definitely. It also depends on the Leo's Venus and Mars. For example my Venus is in Libra and my Mars is in Capricorn. This means my dating/love style focuses on balance, harmony and romance. I'm however a bit detached and methodical in my approach, until I'm in the bedroom. Then my sexual desire goes through the roof, which makes it seem almost like I'm a completely different person.

I mentioned in a past topic that sex and love are very much linked in a Leo's mind. So much so that we can confuse infatuation with love at times. I wouldn't say that a Leo has to have sex with you in order to love you, but the sexual desire definitely needs to be there. So Leos may seem to be very sexual as result.

However don't get it confused and think that a Leo who wants you sexually loves you either. It could just be sexual desire and nothing more. In which case, you'll need to look for other clues like the ones I mentioned in my last response.
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I'm pretty sure this question is on here but how can you tell if a Leo is into you? If this is on here lmk which page lol

Specifically a Leo you met online


That's a common question. Leos are physical creatures. While we may be very enthusiastic, you won't really know if we're into you until we've met you (in fact WE may not be entirely sure until we've met you). We don't fully trust texting and online platforms for communication and romace, but we'll use them as a means to connect to those who do. So the trick is to get a Leo in front of you if you're interested.

Once you've actually met, then the goal is consistency. Again we Leos are physical creatures. If a Leo is into you, well try to see you as much as possible. We may not be the best texters, but that doesn't matter since we use texts to send invites and short bursts of information. So if a Leo is sending you invitations and trying to see you, then he/she is into you.

Leos are fairly simple in that regard. A Leo who is unsure about you may try to invite you out in a group setting, while a Leo who is more confident will just ask you out. Either way the Leo will try to be present.
Yikes. Plenty has been said already, so I'll take the non-astrological approach. It's simple. Unless you want to be pals with this woman, you'll need to cut ties. That's the only way to possibly turn things around, but it won't be easy.

Right now you're in the friendzone. You're in the friendzone because you unexpectedly coughed up your feelings to a womam who wasn't expecting it. Had you been direct about your intentions from the start, things may have been different.

In response this particular woman said that she wanted to just be friends, which you agreed to do. By agreeing to this, you negated yourself. You went from coughing up your feelings about wanting her romantically, to accepting a platonic friendship all of a sudden. This means that you weren't willing to stand up for yourself and what you wanted, which made you look emotionally weak. How can she trust you as a lover, if you can't even back up for your words?

The best way to get out of the friendzone is to not be put there in the first place. Never agree to "friendship" if it's not what you want. Women want a partner who knows how to stand up for themselves because that partner will be strong enough to stand up for them too.

The reason why this woman seems short in her correspondences is because she KNOWS you want to be more than friends, but are once again hiding your intentions (again). She's treating you "like a friend" because that's how you've chosen to act. She's simply playing along with the facade that you've manifested.

If you want to potentially change things (which is not guaranteed), then you'll need to start by letting her know that you want more than just friendship. Let her know that she should contact you if she ever changes her mind. Then cut ties and move on with your life. Otherwise you can just chill in friendszone. It's up to you.
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My Sag friends tend to lose interest when they are pursued heavily and feel more invested when they have to do some of the pursuing themselves. I often say that a Sag must feel the need to chase in order to feel truly invested.


Whats gonna give him the need to chase?


A little mystery. A healthy dose of interest on your part, while not being too easy goes a long way. He has to feel as if he needs to actually work for your attention as opposed to having your attention laid at his feed. Also a Sag MUST know that you won't smother them because they are adventurous types who love their freedom. Some Sagittariuses are shy, but even they tend to pursue those who aren't "easy" catches.

That being said, you still need to be genuine. Playing hard to get will bore a Sagittarius FAST and they'll be gone. They can pick up on mind games pretty quick and are usually fairly intelligent people. If you can match them in wit and conversation while maintaining some mystery that's a plus.

I've been chased by Sag women and watched Sagittariuses chase each other.


So basically be the normal me then. I dont like playing mind games either. I personally prefer things to fall in place naturally. We did have good chemistry last night and he fact that he is still observing me and my stats proves that he is still curious. I didnt sleep with him and seemed to respect that. He did say when i get to Melbourne and need to change my lights or do anything in my apartment, he will be ready to help.
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Right, be yourself and don't rush things. Make him think a little and be ready when he turns up the heat.
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My Sag friends tend to lose interest when they are pursued heavily and feel more invested when they have to do some of the pursuing themselves. I often say that a Sag must feel the need to chase in order to feel truly invested.


Whats gonna give him the need to chase?
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A little mystery. A healthy dose of interest on your part, while not being too easy goes a long way. He has to feel as if he needs to actually work for your attention as opposed to having your attention laid at his feed. Also a Sag MUST know that you won't smother them because they are adventurous types who love their freedom. Some Sagittariuses are shy, but even they tend to pursue those who aren't "easy" catches.

That being said, you still need to be genuine. Playing hard to get will bore a Sagittarius FAST and they'll be gone. They can pick up on mind games pretty quick and are usually fairly intelligent people. If you can match them in wit and conversation while maintaining some mystery that's a plus.

I've been chased by Sag women and watched Sagittariuses chase each other.
My Sag friends tend to lose interest when they are pursued heavily and feel more invested when they have to do some of the pursuing themselves. I often say that a Sag must feel the need to chase in order to feel truly invested.
Sounds like she may not know what to do with deeper emotions (hers or yours). If you're just friends saying "I love you" instead of "I'm here for you" probably threw her off. As you mentioned before she already had a habit of cutting you off, which means she's trying to prevent you from saying something it seems.

It could be possible that she's just self absorbed and likes getting attention from you. If that's the case, just cut her off. However Sagittarius can seem a bit flighty and self absorbed to the more serious Scorpio. It's possible your communication style s are just extremely different.
No I've been fortunate to have solid friends. When I was younger I would cut people out who weren't healthy to keep around. Now I keep those people at arm's length as I've tried to stop burning bridges.

My parents used to say that you're only as good as the people you keep around you. I take that to heart whenever I'm building relationships.
No, you have to respect yourself. If someone cuts you off without a second thought, why would you chase after them?

The Scorpio cut you off so that we could move on from you. He opted to not have anything readily available that could remind him of you. Also who initiated the breakup? It's possible he resents the relationship ending. It's best to drop this and move on with your life.
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First I never go on blind dates. Second I think to myself, "Is this person worth dating?" I treat dates as a way to silently qualify/disqualify a person for another date. When you feel like the interviewer and not the interviewee, you feel less nervous and more confident. This confidence (not arrogance) will show in your actions during the date which will make the date easier.

I also put time into my dates to make them as fun as possible. So if I'm going to go on a second date, I want to be sure it's worth my while.


Awww, that's nice.

So what did you normally do, to make it all fun? Share some with me.
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I can't give away all of the secrets, but I always do multi-stage dates. I generally incorporate at least 3 steps/locations on the date (food, drinks, sightseeing, physical activity, etc). The first date is generic, with each consecutive becomes more personalized based on what I learn about the person.

The "generic" date is never too classy, but not too casual either. Meaning if the lady dresses up, she won't feel out of place, but she can dress comfortably as well. In that way I create the vibe that I'm both spontaneous and considerate. From there based on her personality, I gauge what activities might make the most sense throughout the night. I never do movies, concerts, clubs, or any other location that's hard to hear on a first date either.
First I never go on blind dates. Second I think to myself, "Is this person worth dating?" I treat dates as a way to silently qualify/disqualify a person for another date. When you feel like the interviewer and not the interviewee, you feel less nervous and more confident. This confidence (not arrogance) will show in your actions during the date which will make the date easier.

I also put time into my dates to make them as fun as possible. So if I'm going to go on a second date, I want to be sure it's worth my while.
I imagine whale meat wouldn't be gross. Also I've eaten alligator, so I imagine crocodile meat isn't too far off. Also had akangaroo burger. It was ok.

I'm also from the south so pig feet and chiltins are all par for the course:
The problem is that you two agreed to a friendship that one of you truly didn't want . People will agree to this as a means to keep things civil (or to keep the other person around), but with no intention of maintaining a true friendship. Going from a romantic relationship to a friendship can be difficult/impossible when the romantic feelings have not been resolved on both sides. Usually it takes time for this to happen.

Either the Cancer felt you were being insincere about the friendship or SHE was being insincere about the frienship. So she opted to block you on social media. It seems this was more of a split second decision, so she didn't think to preemptively block you on dating sites that you werent actively using at that point.

Don't overthink this, just move on with your life.

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suicide is the best way to go for some people unfortunately

I personally have no issues with it.If one truly feel they don't need to be alive anymore then by all means, take that trip to eternal darkness so the people who want to live will have more to survive on this earth with


That’s pretty kruel tbh.


Unfortunately it is also the truth.
There is no solution to not wanting to live.
Horrible! Scary! But it happens all over the world. No cure! 1-800-ciicide prevention helps to those who don't want to die!
Those who want don't call.


The amount of people who are 100% sure of suicide is low compared to those who are seeking help. How do you discern those who TRULY wish to die versus those who don't? As you said yourself your neighbor's daughter tried killing herself by being struck by a train, but is now much happier that she's alive. The fact is most people who attempt suicide are looking for a reason to live. Those who attempt and survive very rarely make a second attempt.


I have no answer to this. If I had I would be a guru!
I think people wish to die to show others how they did them wrong! And make them suffer. Without realizing that they will be dead and never see how others will react!

First boy hanged himself because his mom got married to a man with 2 daughters.
Boy had friends. Was loved by everyone.
However family life got him! He couldn't see his mom attending to other people!
If he was an outcast in school I would understand! But he wasn't! So family life killed him and should we blame his mother who fell in love and got married?
So was he at his age so selfish to 'show' his mother that she shouldn't had?
By killing himself? Will we ever know? He is dead!

I don't think this subject will ever be understood. People who commit themselves are special in their heads and we have to just let it go.
Unless some had tried. Like that girl...and want to speak after survival.
I don't know if anyone ever did.
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You're missing the point of this topic.
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There are lots of BS, ignorant, and tone deaf comments in your thread, chuckcem. People who don’t understand depression and mental illness, who are making their ignorance crystal clear.

People shouldn’t speak on such matters unless they know what they are talking about.


Which is why this topic exist. People can't learn or gain understanding by remainig silent. Would you prefer that we didn't tackle hard subjects like these at all? Not everyone here is going to be well versed in this topic and may have opinion/ideas that conflict with your own. If someone is ignorant on a topic, then they need to be taught the correct information.

Likewise, this topic isn't necessarily about understanding depression, but specifically about how to deal with losing someone to suicide. Depression and suicide are not mutually exclusive to one another. Suicide can also be very taboo for people and extrememly difficult to broach. Since everyone experiences grief differently, it's important to know the variety of ways people have handled this scenario.

Additionally I don't control the comments that other people make. If you have something constructive to say to someone, then say it to that person.


I would say that mental illness/depression is directly related suicide. You have some kind of mental illness if you choose to take your own life, you aren’t well in the mind. I’ve never met a person who committed suicide who didn’t suffer from mental illness. I have however lost 3 people to suicide: two friends and one very very close family member, all depressed/suffer from some other sort of mental illness.

And I actually think that one of the most important things you can do to cope with someone who commits suicide IS to educate yourself and understand depression and mental illness. That’s really the only kind of closure and explanation you’re ever going to get.
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My point is that not everyone who experiences depression commits suicide, nor does that have to do with what this topic is about. Again I'm not addressing depression or mental illness here.

Yes educating oneself on the causes of suicide would make sense as a method to cope. If you want want to address the ways to identify and understand mental illness and depression as links to suicide, that's a completely different topic.
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suicide is the best way to go for some people unfortunately

I personally have no issues with it.If one truly feel they don't need to be alive anymore then by all means, take that trip to eternal darkness so the people who want to live will have more to survive on this earth with


That’s pretty kruel tbh.


Unfortunately it is also the truth.
There is no solution to not wanting to live.
Horrible! Scary! But it happens all over the world. No cure! 1-800-ciicide prevention helps to those who don't want to die!
Those who want don't call.
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The amount of people who are 100% sure of suicide is low compared to those who are seeking help. How do you discern those who TRULY wish to die versus those who don't? As you said yourself your neighbor's daughter tried killing herself by being struck by a train, but is now much happier that she's alive. The fact is most people who attempt suicide are looking for a reason to live. Those who attempt and survive very rarely make a second attempt.
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How do you cope with someone you love takes their own life, because they feel you would be better off without them?

You can’t really cope with the suicide of a loved one, it’s always there with you, and nothing can make it better and you can never really accept it.

I think for me, if anything, there was just a shift. You are more aware of the concept of time and the fragility of life. The pain never wanes.


You're drawing a lot of misguided conclusions. Coping doesn't mean forgetting the person. It means working through the experience to get back to a healthy mindset. It means dealing with the emotions and the loss so that the pain hurts less.

Having experienced a friend's death I can say that you never stop missing the person, but that's not the point. The point is how to do continue on once that person is gone.
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There are lots of BS, ignorant, and tone deaf comments in your thread, chuckcem. People who don’t understand depression and mental illness, who are making their ignorance crystal clear.

People shouldn’t speak on such matters unless they know what they are talking about.


Which is why this topic exist. People can't learn or gain understanding by remainig silent. Would you prefer that we didn't tackle hard subjects like these at all? Not everyone here is going to be well versed in this topic and may have opinion/ideas that conflict with your own. If someone is ignorant on a topic, then they need to be taught the correct information.

Likewise, this topic isn't necessarily about understanding depression, but specifically about how to deal with losing someone to suicide. Depression and suicide are not mutually exclusive to one another. Suicide can also be very taboo for people and extrememly difficult to broach. Since everyone experiences grief differently, it's important to know the variety of ways people have handled this scenario.

Additionally I don't control the comments that other people make. If you have something constructive to say to someone, then say it to that person.
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One of the girls i was friends with growing up had a brother who hung himself. She found him. I dont remember much of it to be honest. We were like 13.
I am super sensitive to the idea of it. Like for some reason if someone is going through a hard time, all i will worry about is if they are thinking of killing themselves.
I will go out of my way to check on them constantly and try to help solve their problem so they arent sad. I will also constantly tell them how glad i feel that they are in my life and how much i need them around, so that they feel like there is someone who really cares.
I honestly have no idea where this anxiety of someone killing themselves comes from. Its just there. 🤔
One of my business partners had an epic nervous breakdown because one of his multimillion dollar businesses was scammed so bad to absolute butter he had to actually shut it down. He didnt tell me till a few months later. I was never so upset. I was so distraught to think of him going through that alone i made him promise to never let himself cry alone ever again and to call me.
This just goes to show you that you never know what a person is going through. Its scary to me that people can hide such tumultuous dark intense emotions.


Right. At the same time, some people can go through the worst parts of life and never once consider suicide. So you don't want to feel yourself with fear over something that may never come to fruition.


I would be very interested to know exactly why that is such a worry. Thats an odd thing to worry about.
Someones really down in the dumps. First thing out of my mouth is "do you feel suicidal". Most of the time people will laugh at that. But i dont think its very funny at all. Its very serious to feel that sad.

Also, i have had this convo a few times with friends where we ask each other- would you ever kill yourself, and what would make you do so?
Morbid convo now that i think about it.

I think suicide prevention is extremely important. I think there are so many signs to look out for, but like with anything in life, a lot of times people dont take notice till its too late.
I also think a lot of times the people you least expect to do it, will do it.
I also think anyone who threatens to commit suicide should be taken seriously. No matter what. I dont like how people say that "the ones who say they are gonna do it never do".

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Yeah I've found that the people who hold things in and put on a strong/happy front are the ones who make the attempt. My recommendation for you though is to not let the fear of suicide overwhelm you. You've let the fear build up, so now it's triggered constantly, so much so that it's slowly becoming a phobia.

Fear comes from lack of understanding. So it's best to understand the nature of suicide and that many people don't entertain it as an option. Those who do can also be talked down from the idea, since many people aren't 100% sure they want to die anyway. Likewise understand that people have free will and can't always be stopped. Even if you did get in front of them in time, they may still go through with the act.

I had another friend who I reached out to before his attempt, but he still went through with the act anyway. He survived though and is a lot happier that he didn't die. So basically just know that you can put the responsibility solely on yourself.
This might be an odd one, but hot dogs. It's a versatile food in that you can make different versions of it, but at it's based it's easily accessible practically by anyone. It can also be cooked/prepared in a lot of different ways as well.