Four neighboring signs in four different elements...That's Me...
Leo Sun, Virgo Moon, Cancer Merc, Libra Venus, Capricorn Mars, Aries Asc.

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Are you guys better lovers than scorps? Only asking because I heard a scorpio woman say scorps are better lover than the mighty lions.


Having been with both, I'd say lovemaking with a Leo vs a Scorpio is different. Both are physical in nature, but one is more about fun/pleasure while the other is more about intensity. While Scorpio knows what they are doing in the bedroom generally and tends to be kinkier, Leo is all about reciprocity/generosity.


CAn you explain reciprocity and generosity in the sexual sense ? haha
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Leos are known to want to give back when in love. Leos usually aren't stingy in bed.
Posted by Jayc3on
Are you guys better lovers than scorps? Only asking because I heard a scorpio woman say scorps are better lover than the mighty lions.


Having been with both, I'd say lovemaking with a Leo vs a Scorpio is different. Both are physical in nature, but one is more about fun/pleasure while the other is more about intensity. While Scorpio knows what they are doing in the bedroom generally and tends to be kinkier, Leo is all about reciprocity/generosity.
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There seems to be a hefty amount of backstory missing here. He said you should have never left, what does that mean? Did you leave him at one point? Also if you're not in a relationship with this person, why are you with him? Who is this person to you?


Had a thing when we were young. Stopped dealing with him, but went up and down between friends/acquaintances for a very long time. Just recently started sleeping with each other. Still just a friend at this point, but with benefits now.
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So basically you two aren't together, you're just hooking up. If this Leo has expressed that he doesn't want a relationship with you, that's all you need to know. There's no point in trying to figure him out further. Blaming you for random stuff isn't cool, but the better question is why are you even hanging around a person like this? Why are you hooking up with him at all?

You can't really be upset if you choose to keep this guy around. Take control of the situation and walk away. If you want to build a life with someone, this guy isn't it. Stop hooking up with a guy who treats you unfairly and doesn't want a relationship. Go find someone who takes you seriously.
Posted by StrawberryJam
@chuckcem @koniuchaa

He responded to apologize about the delay and told me in details about what caused that. He said he’s been constantly thinking of me and it was bad timing that we got closer before he left. He then asked if he could call and speak to me.

He then FaceTime me but during FaceTime we didn’t really talk about feelings more like filling each other in. He said he thought he would do a video call cos he wants to see the real me. He asked me to visit and then asked for the next FaceTime chat.



Well there it is. Sounds like he's not ignoring you after all.
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do Leo men like their space? or do they ignore you because they are not interested anymore?


If a Leo is ignoring you, that's not a good sign. It either means we are detaching ourselves from you OR we are not interested.


Hm... I don't know if I agree with that. We can ignore people if we're busy.


I didn't put that in given the context of OP's other post, but you're right. I usually a find that Leo's don't flat out ignore people unless we are stressed. Otherwise we are simply slow to respond, which makes people think we're ignoring them.


Oh, I didn't realize that OP had another post... Link?


https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/leo/leo-fling--10185594/?checkpg=1

I don't think the Leo in this story is necessarily busy.


What if he/she is going through some tough times with life? can that be another reason?


Yes if the situation is stressful enough, but don't expect to interact much with the Leo until those issues are firmly resolved.


I can relate to this question as mine is going through something tough at the moment. Should I give him space or would a Leo (man) require more support and love during this time?
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Your situation is different from the other person. Your Leo will need love and support.
The problem is you've flip flopped. You went from not wanting just a friendship with her to getting upset that she wasn't being your friend. You went from doing your own thing to interacting with her on social media. She ghosted you because she doesn't respect you. A man with true inner strength does/mean what he says. Instead you haven't been able to detach from her fully.

Talking to her about how she's not holding up her end of the "friendship" was icing on the cake. You've let her bad attitude affect you, which has prompted her to grow cold. It shouldn't matter what she does now, it shouldn't affect you. You've already stated what you want.

Stop talking to her friends about situation too. Your attitude should be that there is NO situation. A man should be busy focusing on his purpose, not the gossip of some random woman's friends. Also know that every time one of her friends talks to you, they are immediately relaying that information back to her (probably with their own "spin" on it). This is yet another reason for her bad attitude toward you.

Also realize that she probably wasn't happy when you didn't agree to a friendship. That was a blow to her ego. No one likes hearing, "No". Again, this isn't your problem.
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Say you're a famous person, would you expect the person that you're dating to treat you like how your fans or other people treating you? Or you expect him/her to just treat you just like you're an ordinary normal non famous person despite how legend you are?


We expect to be treated like a normal person and an equal with our partner. Leos typically choose a partner we feel understand us inside and out, someone who loves us deeply. A fan's love is too superficial because it's based on a facade. As a result a fan can never deeply love that which they admire.

Additionally Leo's are looking for our queen/king. We want a partner who we knows how to walk with us, not behind us. We value loyalty, but we also value strength. Therefore our partner must have an inner confidence.

That all being said, we do want our partner's total attention in love. Contrary to popular believe we don't need our partner to grovel at our feet. We want to know that our partner is just as interested in us as we are into them. Someone who we cherish who can reciprocate our adoration.

So when a Leo says that they want a lover who is their "biggest fan", that's not in the literal sense. Basically as long as we know that we're equally loved, we're good.


I see, thanks for your insight. So this Leo guy approached me earlier.
We both in the same field and a lil bit later i figured out that yes he is that very well known person in our field.
If you're in IT industry, you should've known this man. His news are out there.
I wasn't really sure that it's really him at first, he is very down to earth and really nice.
Now he's talking to me almost every day.
And now it makes me nervous.
I don't know if he is aware if i'm aware about him. Should i let him know about that?


Let him know about what exactly?


That i'm aware of how famous he is
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No, don't do that.
There seems to be a hefty amount of backstory missing here. He said you should have never left, what does that mean? Did you leave him at one point? Also if you're not in a relationship with this person, why are you with him? Who is this person to you?
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Say you're a famous person, would you expect the person that you're dating to treat you like how your fans or other people treating you? Or you expect him/her to just treat you just like you're an ordinary normal non famous person despite how legend you are?


We expect to be treated like a normal person and an equal with our partner. Leos typically choose a partner we feel understand us inside and out, someone who loves us deeply. A fan's love is too superficial because it's based on a facade. As a result a fan can never deeply love that which they admire.

Additionally Leo's are looking for our queen/king. We want a partner who we knows how to walk with us, not behind us. We value loyalty, but we also value strength. Therefore our partner must have an inner confidence.

That all being said, we do want our partner's total attention in love. Contrary to popular believe we don't need our partner to grovel at our feet. We want to know that our partner is just as interested in us as we are into them. Someone who we cherish who can reciprocate our adoration.

So when a Leo says that they want a lover who is their "biggest fan", that's not in the literal sense. Basically as long as we know that we're equally loved, we're good.


I see, thanks for your insight. So this Leo guy approached me earlier.
We both in the same field and a lil bit later i figured out that yes he is that very well known person in our field.
If you're in IT industry, you should've known this man. His news are out there.
I wasn't really sure that it's really him at first, he is very down to earth and really nice.
Now he's talking to me almost every day.
And now it makes me nervous.
I don't know if he is aware if i'm aware about him. Should i let him know about that?
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Let him know about what exactly?
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Well to be fair, it doesn't sound like you two had that strong of a connection before he left. It sounds like you pushed him back on more than one occasion, but he persisted. The time to have grown close with him was when he was still around, not the day before he left.

Now that he's in another country, communication will inevitably become harder depending on his schedule and the timezone he's in now. You can't expect an increase (or even the same amount) in communication under these circumstances. This is also why people have trouble in long distance relationships.

Aside from the communication delays, know that he is now in another country having new experiences. Since you two weren't in a relationship prior to him leaving, there isn't much tying him to you. Sure he liked you when he left, but that doesn't mean that he won't meet other women down the line. So since he's gone, it's best you not expect much from this situation.

I'm sure he'll contact you when he can, but don't get upset if he can't do so frequently.


He did contCt me just an hour ago. Yes the timexone was very different. He also accepted my friend request. I also asked him about idk how to act around him cos I feel like there’s barriers. See what he says


Just understand that may not have a clear answer to that question.


Got it. I think he is confused himself as he told me before he left. He said I made him rethink his decision and he kept on asking hismelf what iS he doing and why is he leaving etc.

Also he seems to be wishy washy at work and other decisions he made. I thought I would just clear the air as I know I did push him away in the past (even it was caused by a girl who was trying to keep us apart cos she fancies him even she already has a bf)

To be honest he is average looking and my guy friends think he is ugly but girls at work digs him
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Why would you care what your guy friends think about another guy's looks? They clearly aren't attracted to him, so of course they'd think he was unattractive. However what does it matter? Other people's opinions shouldn't matter. That being said, the girls at work have clearly picked up on something that your guy friends have not.
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Well to be fair, it doesn't sound like you two had that strong of a connection before he left. It sounds like you pushed him back on more than one occasion, but he persisted. The time to have grown close with him was when he was still around, not the day before he left.

Now that he's in another country, communication will inevitably become harder depending on his schedule and the timezone he's in now. You can't expect an increase (or even the same amount) in communication under these circumstances. This is also why people have trouble in long distance relationships.

Aside from the communication delays, know that he is now in another country having new experiences. Since you two weren't in a relationship prior to him leaving, there isn't much tying him to you. Sure he liked you when he left, but that doesn't mean that he won't meet other women down the line. So since he's gone, it's best you not expect much from this situation.

I'm sure he'll contact you when he can, but don't get upset if he can't do so frequently.


He did contCt me just an hour ago. Yes the timexone was very different. He also accepted my friend request. I also asked him about idk how to act around him cos I feel like there’s barriers. See what he says
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Just understand that may not have a clear answer to that question.
Well to be fair, it doesn't sound like you two had that strong of a connection before he left. It sounds like you pushed him back on more than one occasion, but he persisted. The time to have grown close with him was when he was still around, not the day before he left.

Now that he's in another country, communication will inevitably become harder depending on his schedule and the timezone he's in now. You can't expect an increase (or even the same amount) in communication under these circumstances. This is also why people have trouble in long distance relationships.

Aside from the communication delays, know that he is now in another country having new experiences. Since you two weren't in a relationship prior to him leaving, there isn't much tying him to you. Sure he liked you when he left, but that doesn't mean that he won't meet other women down the line. So since he's gone, it's best you not expect much from this situation.

I'm sure he'll contact you when he can, but don't get upset if he can't do so frequently.
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I'm so confused. So the Leo was supposed to come to my city last Wednesday. I hit him up a day before and he said he was gonna be outside of my city for a couple days and said he'd be here on the 14th. Now he just messaged and said he's not coming down, and will come down next month if I'm free.

I feel like he made the whole thing up. But why? Do you think he just did it to test the waters to see how I'd react so he can plan to actually come later on?


You're way overthinking this. It's more likely that he can't make it to your city or got so busy there is no time to actually see you when he's there. Have you met this guy in person before?


I wouldn't mind if he got busy and all, but he specifically said he was going for work. So it was a business trip with a bit of free time. And he said he had everything booked already then all of a sudden he can't come. It's just a bit weird to me because I feel like businesses wouldn't suddenly cancel your trip. No, I haven't met him yet
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Business trips get canceled now and then. However it's also possible that he'll be in your city, but won't be able to see you. It happens, so don't let it bother you too much. On the other hand since he hasn't actually met you, he may not want the added pressure of meeting up for the first time on Valentine's Day. In his mind, that could send the wrong signals if he wants to keep things casual.

Also know that for Leos a situation isn't a priority to us until we've met the other person in the flesh. I'm pretty sure this is why so many people get confused when they first meet Leos online. We Leos are great flirts, but in order for a serious bond to form, there needs to be a face-to-face connection first. Since the Leo doesn't really know you, he's not prioritizing seeing you over his other plans. That's not to say that he isn't interested though, but he isn't be fully invested yet.
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I'm so confused. So the Leo was supposed to come to my city last Wednesday. I hit him up a day before and he said he was gonna be outside of my city for a couple days and said he'd be here on the 14th. Now he just messaged and said he's not coming down, and will come down next month if I'm free.

I feel like he made the whole thing up. But why? Do you think he just did it to test the waters to see how I'd react so he can plan to actually come later on?


You're way overthinking this. It's more likely that he can't make it to your city or got so busy there is no time to actually see you when he's there. Have you met this guy in person before?
Valentine's Day is a love/hate for Leos I think. Leos are a romantic sign, so a day that allows us to do what we do best (you'd think) would be a blessing. Leos are known for making grand romantic gestures for those we adore. However V-Day can be such a emotional/financial drain, a lot of us will avoid it altogether unless we're in a loving relationship.

So the answer is, yes Leos can be good with/at V-Day, but often it's not worth our time.
At work making money off of the holiday, which I always feel is the best position to be in on V-Day.
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Thanks for typing all this out! Yes, he is very immature and unable to have adult conversations apparently. I did try to appeal to his sense of logic, I actually didn't get emotional at all during that conversation. I just asked him very straight forward questions.

ALSO, I did try to set clear boundaries once I heard about the other woman. That is when I invited him over and told him my feelings for him. I told him I don't want him to date anyone else. He agreed and then he said we should be in a relationship. I still don't know why he said that if it's not what he wanted. I didn't pressure him or put a gun to his head, I didn't even know if it's what I wanted. I had told him we could just start dating more seriously and see what happens, and he said No, let's try a relationship since we get along so well. He's never been the guy to tell you what you want to hear, and he seemed genuine, so I believed him.

I'm trying to hard not to resent Nick or take it out on him, but I think I need some space from him for awhile. I would never ask him to choose between us. But it just hurts overall and I need space.

I'm sorry you were in a similar situation, but it sounds like you did the right thing and the Aqua girl suffered the consequences.

But yeah, I am definitely going to take the high ground. Thanks for your perspective


It sounds like you made your boundaries clear then, so there's nothing more to worry about. This guy clearly wanted to have his cake and eat it too. Instead of being upfront with you he chose to use "technicalities" to maneuver through the situation. The other woman "technically" wasn't more than friends with him (because there was no label). "Technically" he wasn't stringing you along because he liked you and wasn't sure what he wanted from this other person.

The problem with this style of thinking is it's manipulative. It's a tactic people will use to remove themselves from their own actions in order to save face. That way they can avoid the ugliness of the impending consequences. In reality, this guy knew what he did was wrong and even admitted to it when you questioned him directly. The good thing is you can now see him for what he truly is.

As for Nick, yeah it makes sense if you need space. It's not like you had a longtime connection with the guy. So if you decide to drop the connection, it's really no big loss.
Posted by aquaglass
Say you're a famous person, would you expect the person that you're dating to treat you like how your fans or other people treating you? Or you expect him/her to just treat you just like you're an ordinary normal non famous person despite how legend you are?


We expect to be treated like a normal person and an equal with our partner. Leos typically choose a partner we feel understand us inside and out, someone who loves us deeply. A fan's love is too superficial because it's based on a facade. As a result a fan can never deeply love that which they admire.

Additionally Leo's are looking for our queen/king. We want a partner who we knows how to walk with us, not behind us. We value loyalty, but we also value strength. Therefore our partner must have an inner confidence.

That all being said, we do want our partner's total attention in love. Contrary to popular believe we don't need our partner to grovel at our feet. We want to know that our partner is just as interested in us as we are into them. Someone who we cherish who can reciprocate our adoration.

So when a Leo says that they want a lover who is their "biggest fan", that's not in the literal sense. Basically as long as we know that we're equally loved, we're good.
Posted by Mujer_latina
a 45 page long thread. Now that's impressive

Anyway, what sign's Leo's nemesis?


None of them. That's not how Leo's operate. We are designed to be able to work with everyone (at least on some level). If we don't like a particular sign it is because of our own personal/individual experiences. A pattern I've noticed is that we can often have frustrations with Aquas, being our opposite, but we also tend to date them often. We can also clash with Scorpios, but will also make good friends and lovers with them. So there's no clear answer here.