Posted by pinkbird03
Are you two exclusive and in a committed relationship? I think this is a very important bit of information


we’re just dating. we haven’t had any conversations about exclusivity or being committed, but i haven’t thought about him being with anyone else. that hasn’t even crossed my mind. i know he’s friendly & has a bunch of female friends, but i don’t think about them, lol.
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Posted by bittercupcake
Sounds like he lost interest. Don’t believe all that suave talk, he’s just saying it to keep you wrapped around his little finger. Never give more than is given to you. If he’s not putting in the effort, it means he’s not as invested.


My suggestion: treat him like butter and like he isn’t a priority. Wants to see you at night? Tough luck, I’m going out. Want to see me last minute? Oops, sorry I have plans. But you can take a number to make an apt.
Don’t treat him like he means something to you, because he will take advantage of that.
Aquarius men respond to women who don’t treat THEM well.

Good luck

I have notice the same with my aqua friend,his wife treat him like butter and he still loves her,send money to her even though he knows where she is taking it,the aqua women in my life are all wonderful and strong women but i cant say the same with the aqua men

I was just discussing this with a few friends about Aqua men. They seem to respond to women who ignore/ neglect or treat them poorly. It’s a masochistic trait that I think they get from the Saturnian energy, co-ruler.


i have been giving him his space, but i don’t want to completely ignore him. he says that he loves that i’m affectionate & really nice, so i don’t want to take that away from him.


You are being too kind. Of course he loves that about you, but does he deserve it? Is he giving you the time and day? Don’t give in if he’s not putting in effort to see you. Aquarius men, men in general, WILL make time for a woman that they’re interested in or fully interested. Idk how much of an interest he might have, but I can tell you right now, he’s not very invested in you. Either #1 he was toying with you or #2 he’s losing interest
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thanks! i’ll keep this in mind when i speak to him. if i’m straightforward with him, i hope he can do the same for me.
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Posted by corntee92im, but when i’m away from him, it’s like i kinda don’t matter as much. i’m not sure if i should say something to him about it, but being turn off & on is upsetting me. should i?


you matter to him but sometimes we are really busy and unfortunately we prioritize things differently. an aquarius needs a woman to understand his need for time alone/ space. you mater to him, but he also seems to enjoy playing with you. when he hugs you tightly and says all that stuff, it means he really is into you. & he means it. anything else is playing around & being busy. best aproach with an aquarius, be honest and outspoken, don't beat around the bush like stupid libra does.

what do you think @pinkbird03 ?


thank you! i’ll defini think about it. i do want to speak to him, but i’ve been trying to think of the best approach. the last time i opened up to him about feeling like i wasn’t getting enough attention, he ended up giving me more, but after snapping on me. he ended the convo by saying that he’ll “talk to me later or whenever” & texted me 10 minutes later apologizing & then continued the conversation like nothing happened.


be upfront but not demanding/ cookiemonstery.
if he likes you and respects you, he will reciprocate. however, his behavior is a bit just a tiny bit spoiled. he wants you to 'let him be'. he wants this 'thing' to be on his terms. tell him you won t be a possessive cap,but instead will give him his freedom, as long as you he gives you what you need (dont ask him where you stand, we dont like to label our relationships). i usually snap at ppl who re too pushy or who i know will put up with my moods and whims. beware. be his friend but also demand more attention from him. aqua loves a bit of distance, so we can miss our partners more. but not too much, coz we drift away
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thank you so much! this really helped. he texted me today to check on me, so i’ll bring it up when the time is right.
Posted by bittercupcake
Posted by Aquarius3189
Posted by bittercupcake
Sounds like he lost interest. Don’t believe all that suave talk, he’s just saying it to keep you wrapped around his little finger. Never give more than is given to you. If he’s not putting in the effort, it means he’s not as invested.


My suggestion: treat him like butter and like he isn’t a priority. Wants to see you at night? Tough luck, I’m going out. Want to see me last minute? Oops, sorry I have plans. But you can take a number to make an apt.
Don’t treat him like he means something to you, because he will take advantage of that.
Aquarius men respond to women who don’t treat THEM well.

Good luck

I have notice the same with my aqua friend,his wife treat him like butter and he still loves her,send money to her even though he knows where she is taking it,the aqua women in my life are all wonderful and strong women but i cant say the same with the aqua men

I was just discussing this with a few friends about Aqua men. They seem to respond to women who ignore/ neglect or treat them poorly. It’s a masochistic trait that I think they get from the Saturnian energy, co-ruler.
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i have been giving him his space, but i don’t want to completely ignore him. he says that he loves that i’m affectionate & really nice, so i don’t want to take that away from him.
Posted by aquarius_man
Posted by corntee92im, but when i’m away from him, it’s like i kinda don’t matter as much. i’m not sure if i should say something to him about it, but being turn off & on is upsetting me. should i?


you matter to him but sometimes we are really busy and unfortunately we prioritize things differently. an aquarius needs a woman to understand his need for time alone/ space. you mater to him, but he also seems to enjoy playing with you. when he hugs you tightly and says all that stuff, it means he really is into you. & he means it. anything else is playing around & being busy. best aproach with an aquarius, be honest and outspoken, don't beat around the bush like stupid libra does.

what do you think @pinkbird03 ?
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thank you! i’ll defini think about it. i do want to speak to him, but i’ve been trying to think of the best approach. the last time i opened up to him about feeling like i wasn’t getting enough attention, he ended up giving me more, but after snapping on me. he ended the convo by saying that he’ll “talk to me later or whenever” & texted me 10 minutes later apologizing & then continued the conversation like nothing happened.
Posted by LadyNeptune
He was able to wrap you around his finger just by saying 'I like you'. But the way he treats you, the crumbs of time he allows you, don't really say the same do they?


i usually wouldn’t stick around for this long, but he would be super sweet & then that guy is gone & then he’ll randomly be super sweet again i didn’t want to be over exaggerating.
basically, it’s been 2 months & we’ve only been on one official date but we hang out from time to time (whenever he ‘feels’ like he’s available) never really “disappeared”, but yesterday i didn’t hear from him for the whole day for the first time (but he was active on social media).

he told me he liked me within 2/3 weeks, but never invites me to anything. his friends invite me & then he kind of expects me to come even though he didn’t invite me. i asked him why he didn’t invite me to his games & he said “i’ll invite you when i see fit. chill out.”

he’s affectionate when i’m with him, but it’s like he chooses when he’s going to make time for me although he has plenty of time ( i don’t see him a whole lot). i want to surprise him with a picnic, but i don’t want it to come off as me doing too much, because he doesn’t really do anything like that for me. after not seeing me for over a week, he hugged me tightly & kept saying “i missed my baby” & i love this side of him, but when i’m away from him, it’s like i kinda don’t matter as much. i’m not sure if i should say something to him about it, but being turn off & on is upsetting me. should i?
sorry for the long post. trying to fit all of my thoughts into one post is harder than i thought. i didn’t even get to say everything, lol. this man is driving me crazy!
i’m trying not to be a cookiemonster & snap & cut him off like i usually would by now because i really do like him. he told me that he likes that i’m really nice, affectionate, and goofy when i recently asked him what he liked about me, so i feel like i’m doing ok. in the beginning we spoke all day, he responded quickly, and the conversation never got boring. he came to see me about a week after we started talking, and we went on our first date a week after that. we went bowling & it was great. he opened doors for me, told me to get whatever i wanted, and kept on making sure that i was okay throughout the night.

it’s been about 2 months & we’ve only been on one OFFICIAL date since then, but i see him from time to time, when we have time (his shifts are 24hours & i work part-time & go to school full time). HOWEVER, i didn’t have a problem with his “disappearing” because it would only be for a few hours & i like a little bit of space anyway, but yesterday was the first day that i didn’t even get a goodnight text from him (he was active on social media, but i don’t follow him). the last time he fell asleep on me, he called me on facetime at 3AM just to say goodnight.

he told me he liked me really early, maybe like 2/3 weeks into it. his best friend invited me to one of his football games & i said that i might not make it, but he said that he would be expecting me to be there - so i left school early in order to make it for him & he seemed glad. we even hung out for hours that night. he hasn’t invited me to any of his games & when i asked him about it, he said “i’ll invite you when i see fit. chill out” - WHATEVER THAT MEANS. he had a halloween party & didn’t invite me. my friend that introduced us did (but he was SO eager to know what my costume would be), & i kept joking about how i wasn’t going for him because he never invited me.

i always only see him at night (for a few hours), even if we’ve both been off (i guess he’s spending time with family & friends, but he ALWAYS does) & he gets really close to me & holds me, tells me that i’m beautiful, calls me “baby” all the time, loves making me “feel good”, asks me what’s on my mind, & basically makes sure that i’m good. but can we not do this during the day? why does he choose when he’s going to make time for me, even when he has plenty of time? i really do like him & i wanted to surprise him with a nighttime picnic with all of his favorite snacks on the beach, but i’m afraid that it’ll seem like i’m trying too hard or that i’m doing too much since he doesn’t try to do anything. he talks about doing things with me but we don’t actually do them, lol. i also brought my dvds of one of his favorite shows to borrow, but i don’t think he cared. he didn’t take them.

the other day i asked to see him during the day & he agreed. we hadn’t seen each other in over a week & when i got to him, he hugged me tight & kept saying “i missed my baby”. i really love this side of him & i want to show him how i feel about him, but i’m so confused. does he want me around or not?

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