Thank you Jean....It's refreshing that some people still have an appreciation for forthright personalities...I said undue pressure bc some men are not the best at conversations relating to the heart or affections and feel as though they are being pressured, thus using this to hide from this type of talk...

Thank you for your advice.
Thank you for your response, but clearly you are taking simple words from my initial statement and creating your own conclusions....no worries, I am here to provide answers to your "questions" lol....We met 10 years ago, IN THE MILITARY...i was only 18, and was in a relationship....so was he...the attraction was there but i didn't make a move, and neither did he because we were loyal to our current partners of the time...back in 2011 he tried to reach out, but I was still in a relationship, so I couldn't and would not entertain him...If you would've actually read my post, instead of looking for ways to criticize, you would've noticed that I said "we've known OF each other for almost a decade",...i never said we've known each other for years and been in each other's life..kinda hard to do that when im in a relationship while spending 6 years making great money in afghanistan..but i understand how you would come to your quick conclusion...yes, then your point would make sense...just because you are not a person who talks to your SO everyday does not make me clingy for wanting a simple text message....it is funny that you mention not talking to someone everyday but you put all eggs in one basket within 1 month of connecting to someone and Im clingy for exploring my options and living my life while wanting at least a text within a 24 hour period??....I am very appreciative of any advice that I get, when it will actually make sense to my situation and is what i was actually asking for....it is very judgemental and ignorant to assume one is a part of a harem just bc and attractive guy has a chick that may be trying to also get into his world...no one wants a bum, so its not a bad thing that ppl want him, just as much as me not having a harem of my own bc there are guys that wanna be with me as well....my question really was in regards to interest and how I should go about asking him, that was pretty much it..and now, you should probably re-read my initial post...ALL OF IT lol

my question was simply: how can i communicate that i am interested in him, and ask how he feels without adding too much pressure?

Funny how no one has actually answered it as of yet...
Ok, i think my questions are being taken waaaayyy out of context...Are you all going to say that when you date someone that you actually like, that person is the ONLY person you focus on, putting all of your eggs into ONE basket, even after only a short period of time?? I doubt it, bc THAT would be clingy lol...He was being honest with me, I am the one that asked if there was anyone else in the picture, and he answered, by saying maybe one, but there is nothing serious there...its called communicating, correct? since when has dating been turned into a harem, and since when does being honest with a person turn into a competition to compete for love and affection? If that is the case, I have my own harem as well lololol....we haven't been dating long at all, not even a full month...I just wanted some insight to the sometimes mysterious Taurus man, in the event that our chance meet actually turns into something of substance...you know, the same way you would check out a person when you meet them to try and get an edge up..normal, healthy dating research that actually sparked after a conversation about zodiac signs with a friend....I hope this clears things up some on my end, as I know you all were working with limited information...Please feel free to share your thoughts....
I was thinking of letting him know that i am interested over dinner....I read that the taurus is slow to move and i may have to make the first move...through cooking dinner and inviting him over....im thinking of trying this move and letting him know that i am interested in him, and that i don't want to rush this or add undue pressure to him or myself, but i thought it fair that he knows so that he can tell me if the feeling will be reciprocated or not....thoughts???
Thank you Jean, that is actually what I was hoping you would say...i work full time and and in school full time, along with family obligations and friends...I wouldn't say i am too busy to date, but i will say that my own independance can sometimes allow for me to be used, or can easily send a message that i am not interested to those i date...im a military vet, so i am not used to dating civilians, but was told that if you don't hear something daily from the person you like, it means he is not interested...
I was thinking of letting him know that i am interested over dinner....I read that the taurus is slow to move and i may have to make the first move...through cooking dinner and inviting him over....im thinking of trying this move and letting him know that i am interested in him, and that i don't want to rush this or add undue pressure to him or myself, but i thought it fair that he knows so that he can tell me if the feeling will be reciprocated or not....thoughts???
Very valid point...he brought her up bc i asked if there was any other person in the picture....he responded yes, and did say that he once thought he could see himself with her, but that doesn't mean that they are going to be together....he then said that they aren't having sex, "or anything", like there was nothing really going on with her....i didn't pry bc i honestly don't care in the sense of being insecure, but the reason why it crossed my mind is bc i don't compete with females for male attention...just not that desperate....but i do like him and don't wanna throw things away based upon an assumption....

Hi Jean, im more of a talk everyday type...when i am interested in someone i don't like days to go by without hearing from that person...im not saying that i need to be on the phone 24/7...just a call here, a text there...bc you make time for what you want, imo
Don't get me wrong, I'm not wanting or expecting an instant relationship....I am enjoying our flirting and getting to know each other...when I do hear from him, its like we never missed a beat...but i don't have time for games, and I am not about to waste my time...i want someone who is ready to settle down with the right person, not persons...
Feel free to ask questions...I only put enough info to start the conversation....
I am a cancer female dating a taurus male. we've known of each other for almost a decade, were interested in each other back in the day, but never dated, due to both of us being in relationships. recently we have back come in contact and realized we still liked each other. He has told me that he can see himself being with me, but when I asked if there was anyone else in the picture, he told me that he was considering someone else as well. He downplayed her and said they were not having sex, and made it seem like nothing was really there, just a casual re-connection, but he also is not the best with communicating with me. I sometimes feel as though i have to reach out to him in order to hear from him. If I go a while w/o talking to him, he will reach out but sometimes it takes a day or so to notice that im gone....when we are around each other, he is always touching me, trying to tickle me, and i caught a couple of gazes from him...but then he will leave, text me a few hours later, and then i won't hear anything from him the next day, unless i reach out...i know he wants to take it slow, and i have no issues being patient, knowing i have a reason to...how can i communicate that i am interested in him, and ask how he feels without adding too much pressure?

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I am a cancer female dating a taurus male. we've known of each other for almost a decade, were interested in each other back in the day, but never dated, due to both of us being in relationships. recently we have back come in contact and realized we still liked each other. He has told me that he can see himself being with me, but when I asked if there was anyone else in the picture, he told me that he was considering someone else as well. He downplayed her and said they were not having sex, and made it seem like nothing was really there, just a casual re-connection, but he also is not the best with communicating with me. I sometimes feel as though i have to reach out to him in order to hear from him. If I go a while w/o talking to him, he will reach out but sometimes it takes a day or so to notice that im gone....when we are around each other, he is always touching me, trying to tickle me, and i caught a couple of gazes from him...but then he will leave, text me a few hours later, and then i won't hear anything from him the next day, unless i reach out...i know he wants to take it slow, and i have no issues being patient, knowing i have a reason to...how can i communicate that i am interested in him, and ask how he feels without adding too much pressure?