Posted by confusingconfused
Posted by danacandice
This is a question for people who've broken up with their boyfriend/girlfriends and wanted to reconcile or get back together with them afterwards.

Did the no contact work - make you miss them more, check up on them, eventually reach back out to them?

Or did it push you away - make you think that they are happier without you, don't want anything to do with you anymore, etc.?

My boyfriend broke up with me about a week ago and at the time of the breakup, I sent him some messages which he just ignored. I never contacted him again after that day, but have been posting stories on Instagram and Snapchat, and he always views all of them.


Yes, no contact works, but only if he has no new love interest. If he is not interested in anyone else, then he will begin to miss you within a month or 2.

Regarding posting stories on social media, usually the happier you seem, the more the other person will want to be part of your life again.
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A few years ago I actually left my boyfriend (different boyfriend) for someone else. I felt connected with the newer person, spent nights staying up late talking about everything with this new person, etc. Hung out once in person, he was cute, funny, more common interests, etc. I left my boyfriend and started dating the new guy. However, my old boyfriend was relentless in his attempts to get me back. After about 2 weeks of talking, him trying to win me back, etc. we got back together.

However, it's different in this case because I think girls think/react differently, I actually responded to him, we had ongoing communication even after the breakup, etc. so I'm not sure it works the other way around when it's the guy that dumps you.
Posted by Canbullrius
Posted by danacandice
I've been pouring through countless Cancer/Taurus posts on multiple websites but everyone else's situation was so different I knew I needed to make one about my unique situation. Thank you for all your time reading this, I know it's a lengthy post. And can't thank you enough for all your advice and insight!!!


That's ok, i like to help if i can, and being a Cancer myself is a huge advantage as i can tell it how it is with us.

Good luck

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Reading everyone else's feedback has made me a little uneasy about what I should do next concerning my Cancer ex though. I was going to do what you said - letting him see me happy AND sad, sending a simple "I miss you text" - but these responses are making me reconsider.

Every time I post something online - which has been Fri, Sat, and Sun so far - he has viewed it on Snapchat/Instagram. Hopeful me thinks he misses me and wants to see what I'm up to, pessimist me thinks he's just being nosy or trying to convince himself not to feel guilty because I look happy.

Someone on another post said "Regarding posting stories on social media, usually the happier you seem, the more the other person will want to be part of your life again." however I didn't mention our signs in that post, so idk if that applies to Cancers? Since you did say that I should show I'm sad too. So far it's just been happy posts - selfies, going out with friends, etc.

Also I was reconsidering the "I miss you" text because I have so much I want to say to him and he could easily ignore that. I've been to his house plenty so I know where it is and his address. Would it be creepy to a Cancer guy to actually mail him a handwritten letter or does that show effort? I've given him letters before but that was all in person. And we're 20/21 so it's a bit weird but I mean to girls that's romantic but guys might find that stalkerish.
This is a question for people who've broken up with their boyfriend/girlfriends and wanted to reconcile or get back together with them afterwards.

Did the no contact work - make you miss them more, check up on them, eventually reach back out to them?

Or did it push you away - make you think that they are happier without you, don't want anything to do with you anymore, etc.?

My boyfriend broke up with me about a week ago and at the time of the breakup, I sent him some messages which he just ignored. I never contacted him again after that day, but have been posting stories on Instagram and Snapchat, and he always views all of them.
I doubt he had her before we started - because right off the bat we were texting 24/7, he had me over at his house whenever he was not at work, spent nights together, introduced me to ALL his friends/family, etc. Maybe during the month things started to turn bad, but I don't know, so I'll try not to assume.

He was doing all the chasing - and I am an introverted Taurus, the quiet to his outgoing personality. Friends would say things like I complemented him because I kept him "balanced" and family joked about if we had problems, he'd probably be the source since they liked me so much. I am more guarded than him even though I showed interest so soon, and he was always wanting me to vocalize my feelings even if I'd texted them, send him good morning texts because he sent them to me, etc. basically reciprocate the levels even though naturally he is a bit more clingy and I am too, just not at first.

When things had gotten bad, I was the one initiating conversations, sending good morning/ good night texts, etc. I thought it was a rough patch and didn't want to jump ship just because he was focusing on his goals and dealing with personal issues (because he DID ignore responsibilities when we were first together in love, showing up to work late to spend more time with me, stuff like that...)

Update, I accidentally watched one of his Snaps and apparently he is going out to the club tonight with all his friends. He always used to tell me things like how before he met me there was a hole in his life and whenever he had family/friend issues he knew I was always there to comfort him. He said he hoped I would never get tired of him, cheat on him, etc., said he would go crazy if anything happened to me health-wise. Like it was that intense for him. But now that we're apart I feel like he won't even realize what he is missing on because he has all his friends (he has a LOT) to spend his time with and distract himself with you know?