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Happy birfday.

May you have a beautiful year full of awe, wonder and inspiration.
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Sneezing, coughing.....?

How about the farting, burping, skidmarks in the boxers, making bed sheets stink, B.O., etc etc

IM SO DONE TOO


Ew.

I’m beginning to realize why I’m so attracted obsessively clean men. They’re a little annoying/neurotic but I prefer mild annoyances over skidmarks.


I like clean men, but then they judge you relentlessly if your living area also isn't spic and span at all times. Which mine is not. They are not fun to live with.

I'm a clean person as far as my body goes, but my living area is cluttered AF. Never won't be that way.


Really? Idk. I’m a little messy. My car is like a moving trash pit. My living areas are sporadic. Like my closet is awful. But my room is mostly clean with a few things strewn about near my bed.

My ex of five years was super neat and clean. And the former crab was even moreso. Neither really judged me for it though. I kept my stuff out of their areas and it was fine. The crab was sweet and even cleaned my car out for me once cause I kept saying how stressed I was and wished I had time to clean it.

At worst the ex Scorp did get whiny and rude about dishes once. But that was when we were also fighting about a ton of other things and it was one of those ‘just gonna vent in general’ cards.


You're lucky! I've only found myself with 1 super clean guy. (Geminis are slobs, it's just the way. At least me and the 2 gems I've been with). He was an aqua, and it was his first major relationship, so he learned a lot about himself. He figured out he was resentful over clutter. He used to come home and pick fights if I had a jacket on the couch or my shoes by the door. Wanted the table cleared off completely... picture it! No mail, no candles, and no other random necessary trinkets you use frequently.

He eventually tried to mold me into the cooking, cleaning type of woman. Wanted dinner on the stove and vacuum lines on the carpet when he came in the door after work. HA! It would have never worked out in a million years.

He did make a lot of money for our young age, and paid for most things because of it though. So it wasn't ridiculous of him to have found himself wanting that kind of relationship. It just wasn't me.

I think that if you're upfront to a guy about it in the initial phases of dating... they can decide if that will work for them or not. Its something important that should be discussed ,I have learned since then. It doesn't even cross my mind to not take my jacket and shoes off on the couch and on the floor by the door, respectively, when I get home lol.


It’s so funny how people tap into that though! The ex Scorpio says a lot now he never appreciated me in those aspects. For all I did around the house and the little things to accommodate him.

I think the crab had that same type of experience with learning how important cleanliness was to him. The first few weeks we’d be hanging out he’d be putting away his clothes and defensively say things like ‘I need to be clean. It’s just the way I am.’ And i’d be sitting there thinking *uhhh ok. I didn’t say anything so idk why you’re being weird* Then when after wearing his jacket or shirt, I’d fold it back away or hang it up and he’d stop and look at me astounded and thank me two or three times for putting it away. So I could definitely tell he had fights over it in the past lol. So strange to see those experiences carry on in people’s behavior!


Lol @ him with the clothes thing. It's like he was defensive because he figured it would be a problem or that you were judging him. Ugh I'm just not mindful of that kind of stuff. Super selfish.

And YEA, the more you think about it, the more depressing it sort of is. Like you move in with a guy, and realistically it's probably not going to end in marriage if we're being honest. Then you learn what works for you, and what doesn't. What works for him and what doesn't. Make mistakes. Learn more things. Then you break up and move on to be a better version of you for someone else entirely. Lmao.


I don’t think it’s depressing. It’s kinda inspiring to me. It’s why I adore all the exes of someone I am dating. (Assuming the past relationship is fully resolved of course.) Those people are so important to me, because they helped make the person I fell in love with, exactly as they are. I am thankful to those who came before me for helping form the beautiful person I get to experience, positive and negative.

Living together and then breaking up is hard. Before that experience I was aghast at how anyone could propose or be married before living together. Now though, after having to separate from someone and move out, I would refuse to live with anyone is we weren’t engaged at minimum. Once we are married, that’s it. Old school, suffer through the hard times till they turn. I have two friends with this type marriage. They’ve had some dark years where a lot of other people have separated. Times where they both just thought suffering is all marriage would be, because divorce wasn’t an option. Eventually though, that ends and they reconnect stronger than ever. Each time, they get better. They’re my inspiration in that way.

No matter what. I’m not surrendering my independence unless there is a serious goal of fully uniting though. That’s me though! I know other couples that thrive better in more modern senses. It just doesn’t connect with me.


That's a really mature way of perceiving his exes. I'm not mature enough to think that way most of the time, and have been guilty of thinking and saying mean things about them in the past. However my gem thinks the way you do. He has said that I should be grateful of his relationships and that the fact that they didn't work out, brought us together. He also has never said anything volatile about my exes either. I love his childlike heart, but the fact that he can say incredibly mature things like that at the same time. Oops, this wasn't supposed to be a brag about my gem post

And I think your view of marriage is admirable, though I disagree with it. And I realize that it's mindsets like mine that 'threaten the institution of marriage', and are environmentally caused. I am not naturally a hopeless romantic and the things I've seen had made me lose a lot of hope for marriages and love in general lol. I like to be proved wrong though, and I see glimpses of possibility in my gem at times, when he's not driving me totally insane. Part of me thinks marriage should be the end all be all, while another part thinks life is just too short and people grow up, grow old, and grow apart and that maybe two people aren't meant to be together forever. It's good that you have those marital role models in your life though. Its just that my life is devoid of such characters
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Well the thing about the institution of marriage, is it doesn’t give a rats ass what we think about it! It just is regardless. Lol. I think there’s definitely a sense of change with the Pluto Scorp generation. We’ve witnessed a huge rumbling of traditional ideals. The facades being ripped apart and exposed. Sag Pluto generation will use their fire to explore the remains. And the generation being born now, Capricorn Pluto’s, the first wave of Pluto in scorp’s kids, they’ll reframe all we tore apart. There will be a more authentic framing for them, putting together what we tore apart.

I don’t frame marriage as the end all be all. To me it’s the ending of one way of being and beginning of another. I don’t expect problems in a relationship to end once marriage begins. But the way I approach them will have to be different. Once I’m all in for life, it’s only natural I will have to change to let that relationship grow more. I can’t say exactly how until I get there though.

I used to think very much like you. But as I lived out certain ideals I realized it wasn’t for me ultimately. Which is not to imply the same goes for you. Everyone has their own set of ideals for a reason, to sharpen, clarity or grow those around them for whatever reason. Who knows, life might drop your own set of inspirational couple, one that perfectly shows you what you need for your own relationship.
I’m grateful for having had the darkest years of my life just 2/3 years ago.

I’m grateful that every night at work, I look up through huge windows and see my beloved city’s skyline in a beautiful sunset turned twilight turned twinkling nightscape. Because when I look at it, every single time, my chest swell with happiness that I am living out a simple dream of never thought I’d be able to have.

I’m grateful that I set three simple goals last year. Move to the city. Get a job there. Get a dog. And all three are more beautiful and perfect than I’d hoped for.

I’m grateful that out of those terrible years, my relationship to my family completely transformed. And I have a deeper bond with all of them than I thought possible.

I’m grateful to have reconnected with the more intuitive and emotional core of myself. And that allows me to accept myself and just be more often than I used to. Not all the time. But enough to notice.

I’m grateful to be alive.

I’m honored to be living this life.

I’m humbled that I get to have even the simplest pleasures.
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Sneezing, coughing.....?

How about the farting, burping, skidmarks in the boxers, making bed sheets stink, B.O., etc etc

IM SO DONE TOO


Ew.

I’m beginning to realize why I’m so attracted obsessively clean men. They’re a little annoying/neurotic but I prefer mild annoyances over skidmarks.


I like clean men, but then they judge you relentlessly if your living area also isn't spic and span at all times. Which mine is not. They are not fun to live with.

I'm a clean person as far as my body goes, but my living area is cluttered AF. Never won't be that way.


Really? Idk. I’m a little messy. My car is like a moving trash pit. My living areas are sporadic. Like my closet is awful. But my room is mostly clean with a few things strewn about near my bed.

My ex of five years was super neat and clean. And the former crab was even moreso. Neither really judged me for it though. I kept my stuff out of their areas and it was fine. The crab was sweet and even cleaned my car out for me once cause I kept saying how stressed I was and wished I had time to clean it.

At worst the ex Scorp did get whiny and rude about dishes once. But that was when we were also fighting about a ton of other things and it was one of those ‘just gonna vent in general’ cards.


You're lucky! I've only found myself with 1 super clean guy. (Geminis are slobs, it's just the way. At least me and the 2 gems I've been with). He was an aqua, and it was his first major relationship, so he learned a lot about himself. He figured out he was resentful over clutter. He used to come home and pick fights if I had a jacket on the couch or my shoes by the door. Wanted the table cleared off completely... picture it! No mail, no candles, and no other random necessary trinkets you use frequently.

He eventually tried to mold me into the cooking, cleaning type of woman. Wanted dinner on the stove and vacuum lines on the carpet when he came in the door after work. HA! It would have never worked out in a million years.

He did make a lot of money for our young age, and paid for most things because of it though. So it wasn't ridiculous of him to have found himself wanting that kind of relationship. It just wasn't me.

I think that if you're upfront to a guy about it in the initial phases of dating... they can decide if that will work for them or not. Its something important that should be discussed ,I have learned since then. It doesn't even cross my mind to not take my jacket and shoes off on the couch and on the floor by the door, respectively, when I get home lol.


It’s so funny how people tap into that though! The ex Scorpio says a lot now he never appreciated me in those aspects. For all I did around the house and the little things to accommodate him.

I think the crab had that same type of experience with learning how important cleanliness was to him. The first few weeks we’d be hanging out he’d be putting away his clothes and defensively say things like ‘I need to be clean. It’s just the way I am.’ And i’d be sitting there thinking *uhhh ok. I didn’t say anything so idk why you’re being weird* Then when after wearing his jacket or shirt, I’d fold it back away or hang it up and he’d stop and look at me astounded and thank me two or three times for putting it away. So I could definitely tell he had fights over it in the past lol. So strange to see those experiences carry on in people’s behavior!


Lol @ him with the clothes thing. It's like he was defensive because he figured it would be a problem or that you were judging him. Ugh I'm just not mindful of that kind of stuff. Super selfish.

And YEA, the more you think about it, the more depressing it sort of is. Like you move in with a guy, and realistically it's probably not going to end in marriage if we're being honest. Then you learn what works for you, and what doesn't. What works for him and what doesn't. Make mistakes. Learn more things. Then you break up and move on to be a better version of you for someone else entirely. Lmao.
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I don’t think it’s depressing. It’s kinda inspiring to me. It’s why I adore all the exes of someone I am dating. (Assuming the past relationship is fully resolved of course.) Those people are so important to me, because they helped make the person I fell in love with, exactly as they are. I am thankful to those who came before me for helping form the beautiful person I get to experience, positive and negative.

Living together and then breaking up is hard. Before that experience I was aghast at how anyone could propose or be married before living together. Now though, after having to separate from someone and move out, I would refuse to live with anyone is we weren’t engaged at minimum. Once we are married, that’s it. Old school, suffer through the hard times till they turn. I have two friends with this type marriage. They’ve had some dark years where a lot of other people have separated. Times where they both just thought suffering is all marriage would be, because divorce wasn’t an option. Eventually though, that ends and they reconnect stronger than ever. Each time, they get better. They’re my inspiration in that way.

No matter what. I’m not surrendering my independence unless there is a serious goal of fully uniting though. That’s me though! I know other couples that thrive better in more modern senses. It just doesn’t connect with me.
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Sneezing, coughing.....?

How about the farting, burping, skidmarks in the boxers, making bed sheets stink, B.O., etc etc

IM SO DONE TOO


Ew.

I’m beginning to realize why I’m so attracted obsessively clean men. They’re a little annoying/neurotic but I prefer mild annoyances over skidmarks.


I like clean men, but then they judge you relentlessly if your living area also isn't spic and span at all times. Which mine is not. They are not fun to live with.

I'm a clean person as far as my body goes, but my living area is cluttered AF. Never won't be that way.


Really? Idk. I’m a little messy. My car is like a moving trash pit. My living areas are sporadic. Like my closet is awful. But my room is mostly clean with a few things strewn about near my bed.

My ex of five years was super neat and clean. And the former crab was even moreso. Neither really judged me for it though. I kept my stuff out of their areas and it was fine. The crab was sweet and even cleaned my car out for me once cause I kept saying how stressed I was and wished I had time to clean it.

At worst the ex Scorp did get whiny and rude about dishes once. But that was when we were also fighting about a ton of other things and it was one of those ‘just gonna vent in general’ cards.


You're lucky! I've only found myself with 1 super clean guy. (Geminis are slobs, it's just the way. At least me and the 2 gems I've been with). He was an aqua, and it was his first major relationship, so he learned a lot about himself. He figured out he was resentful over clutter. He used to come home and pick fights if I had a jacket on the couch or my shoes by the door. Wanted the table cleared off completely... picture it! No mail, no candles, and no other random necessary trinkets you use frequently.

He eventually tried to mold me into the cooking, cleaning type of woman. Wanted dinner on the stove and vacuum lines on the carpet when he came in the door after work. HA! It would have never worked out in a million years.

He did make a lot of money for our young age, and paid for most things because of it though. So it wasn't ridiculous of him to have found himself wanting that kind of relationship. It just wasn't me.

I think that if you're upfront to a guy about it in the initial phases of dating... they can decide if that will work for them or not. Its something important that should be discussed ,I have learned since then. It doesn't even cross my mind to not take my jacket and shoes off on the couch and on the floor by the door, respectively, when I get home lol.
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It’s so funny how people tap into that though! The ex Scorpio says a lot now he never appreciated me in those aspects. For all I did around the house and the little things to accommodate him.

I think the crab had that same type of experience with learning how important cleanliness was to him. The first few weeks we’d be hanging out he’d be putting away his clothes and defensively say things like ‘I need to be clean. It’s just the way I am.’ And i’d be sitting there thinking *uhhh ok. I didn’t say anything so idk why you’re being weird* Then when after wearing his jacket or shirt, I’d fold it back away or hang it up and he’d stop and look at me astounded and thank me two or three times for putting it away. So I could definitely tell he had fights over it in the past lol. So strange to see those experiences carry on in people’s behavior!
Take the tv. The waiting will be hot. You’ll be wanting it so bad you’ll be grinding a nice looking corner by the end of it. He will believe you to be a goddess.

I think it’s cute. He wants to fulfill your raw sexual energy after all the time apart. Literally or figuratively. Whatever y’alls fetish lol. Very deep bonding.
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Sneezing, coughing.....?

How about the farting, burping, skidmarks in the boxers, making bed sheets stink, B.O., etc etc

IM SO DONE TOO


Ew.

I’m beginning to realize why I’m so attracted obsessively clean men. They’re a little annoying/neurotic but I prefer mild annoyances over skidmarks.


I like clean men, but then they judge you relentlessly if your living area also isn't spic and span at all times. Which mine is not. They are not fun to live with.

I'm a clean person as far as my body goes, but my living area is cluttered AF. Never won't be that way.
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Really? Idk. I’m a little messy. My car is like a moving trash pit. My living areas are sporadic. Like my closet is awful. But my room is mostly clean with a few things strewn about near my bed.

My ex of five years was super neat and clean. And the former crab was even moreso. Neither really judged me for it though. I kept my stuff out of their areas and it was fine. The crab was sweet and even cleaned my car out for me once cause I kept saying how stressed I was and wished I had time to clean it.

At worst the ex Scorp did get whiny and rude about dishes once. But that was when we were also fighting about a ton of other things and it was one of those ‘just gonna vent in general’ cards.
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Sneezing, coughing.....?

How about the farting, burping, skidmarks in the boxers, making bed sheets stink, B.O., etc etc

IM SO DONE TOO


Ew.

I’m beginning to realize why I’m so attracted obsessively clean men. They’re a little annoying/neurotic but I prefer mild annoyances over skidmarks.
Idk about your fancy and logical metric system.

But using the less sensical system, my job is less than two miles away.
I hate this about myself. Just let that be noted.

I’ve been sitting in my car in front of my house for the last hour. I brought beer home from work and cracked one open in the car and called the cap. And I’m avoiding going inside.

My roommates new boyfriend’s car is out front. And I am happy for her. She’s had a rough go the last few years and deserves the happiness she’s found.

But we share a rather thin wall with our rooms. And I’ve already heard them banging three times in the last five days. And it reminds me of how super single I am. And I do feel envious. And I wish to god I didn’t feel slightly bitter about being alone and feeling unconnected. But I do. And I don’t want to go inside. And I feel like less of a strong woman. And less of a friend. And just overall butterty about it.

Sometimes. Being human really sucks.
The lady wins!

April 17th

Aries Sun
Gemini Moon
Aries Merc
Gemini Venus
Cancer Mars
Congratulations! That’s amazing!

Excited for all the wonderful adventures you’re going to have.
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Melly, this may be my moon/venus talking but I'd play with him a bit. Take abstract pics of the toy and nothing more (no caption. no text):

- toy on the edge of a messy bed
- just peaking out from your sheets/pillow
- a partial view of your thigh next to the toy
- your finger grazing the toy/toy in your hand


I've been known for messing with my lover's heads when I feel off balance, so take the above advice with a grain of salt.


No this is pretty spot on. For Scorp men especially. I’ve done this with probably all my former scorps to some degree and it would always work.

butter a former fwb Scorp male does it to me sometimes still. He knows I’m a fan of dancing, eight packs and well crafted obliques, and when he’s truly feeling himself I’ll get a surprise Snapchat video out of no where after months of silence. Lol.


LOL!

Idk. I've already sent a "Are you OKAY? Please let me know you're at least alive" text.. would sending sex toys cameos seem manipulative?
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Idk. Depends on how he sees you I guess.

If there’s genuine affection he’ll see it as playful. If he’s thinking about himself and feeling defensive he’ll see it as manipulative.
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I attract earth every so often. They hang around quite a bit too. Particularly earth moons and Virgo suns.

They move too slow for me though. They kinda like to always have a plan when it comes to love, which they keep to themselves. I like to feel as if there’s some sort of flow rather than a script or item list. That’s normally why we never get too far lol.

I’m tryna be in some grand romantic moment and they’re like ‘no you’re supposed to do uvw BEFORE xyz, see the minutes for the relationship I drew up?’

At which point we just fade away and they exchange awkward hellos a few months later lul.


Bolded part applies to me as well.

How slow is "too slow"?


Honestly, even a ‘normal pace’ is too slow. I always want a lot of security from the other person upfront. Which is asking a lot. I’m aware.

Most earth signs I know take years though to be able to express themselves. Doesn’t mean they don’t feel it. But it takes yearssss. I had a Taurus male acquaintance confess back in early January he thought he was in love with me. I see the guy probably only 3-4 times a year and in group settings. Really wasn’t expecting it. Also had a Virgo female friend confess she was falling last year. Which I really didn’t see coming. I just don’t vibe with earth energy quite like that I guess. For all my intuition they fall in some blind spot I guess.

I’d say my preferred speed is a notch or two below the sound barrier lol.

I THink we like torture lol
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I didn’t have any romantic feelings for either of those earth signs though. As friends yes. But neither have I ever wanted to date.

I don’t like torture. But I do like a bit of drama. Probably another reason I never really stick with earth signs.
Gosh. Now I’m thinking of all the captionless and textless photos or songs I’ve sent over the years and all the various responses and what worked for each sign and what didn’t.



I should have been writing them down. For science.
Gosh. Now I’m thinking of all the captionless and textless photos or songs I’ve sent over the years and all the various responses and what worked for each sign and what didn’t.



I should have been writing them down. For science.
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Melly, this may be my moon/venus talking but I'd play with him a bit. Take abstract pics of the toy and nothing more (no caption. no text):

- toy on the edge of a messy bed
- just peaking out from your sheets/pillow
- a partial view of your thigh next to the toy
- your finger grazing the toy/toy in your hand


I've been known for messing with my lover's heads when I feel off balance, so take the above advice with a grain of salt.


No this is pretty spot on. For Scorp men especially. I’ve done this with probably all my former scorps to some degree and it would always work.

butter a former fwb Scorp male does it to me sometimes still. He knows I’m a fan of dancing, eight packs and well crafted obliques, and when he’s truly feeling himself I’ll get a surprise Snapchat video out of no where after months of silence. Lol.
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I attract earth every so often. They hang around quite a bit too. Particularly earth moons and Virgo suns.

They move too slow for me though. They kinda like to always have a plan when it comes to love, which they keep to themselves. I like to feel as if there’s some sort of flow rather than a script or item list. That’s normally why we never get too far lol.

I’m tryna be in some grand romantic moment and they’re like ‘no you’re supposed to do uvw BEFORE xyz, see the minutes for the relationship I drew up?’

At which point we just fade away and they exchange awkward hellos a few months later lul.


Bolded part applies to me as well.

How slow is "too slow"?
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Honestly, even a ‘normal pace’ is too slow. I always want a lot of security from the other person upfront. Which is asking a lot. I’m aware.

Most earth signs I know take years though to be able to express themselves. Doesn’t mean they don’t feel it. But it takes yearssss. I had a Taurus male acquaintance confess back in early January he thought he was in love with me. I see the guy probably only 3-4 times a year and in group settings. Really wasn’t expecting it. Also had a Virgo female friend confess she was falling last year. Which I really didn’t see coming. I just don’t vibe with earth energy quite like that I guess. For all my intuition they fall in some blind spot I guess.

I’d say my preferred speed is a notch or two below the sound barrier lol.
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I have a Pisces woman on my hands.. And face 🙄

Not sure how I feel about it.


Let her stick around long enough and she will tell you. Lol.

Also, congrats on your future engagement to be where you’ll never be married to the Pisces woman.
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I attract earth every so often. They hang around quite a bit too. Particularly earth moons and Virgo suns.

They move too slow for me though. They kinda like to always have a plan when it comes to love, which they keep to themselves. I like to feel as if there’s some sort of flow rather than a script or item list. That’s normally why we never get too far lol.

I’m tryna be in some grand romantic moment and they’re like ‘no you’re supposed to do uvw BEFORE xyz, see the minutes for the relationship I drew up?’

At which point we just fade away and they exchange awkward hellos a few months later lul.


I like earth signs but I see what you're saying and can somewhat relate, especially with Capricorn. Part of that may be my fault though, because knowing she was a Capricorn I didn't want to rush her and "scare" her off...but looking back there were probably some opportunities to push things to the next level and I didn't because I worried it would be too rushed for her. Now we've pretty much faded away and don't really have much to say to each other and don't talk much. We still like each other but the spark isn't there
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Earth is one element that I notice pairs really well fairly consistently within itself. Earth signs understand and have a certain respect for the whole plan thing and how much love and effort go into it. Other elements don’t see that at all.

Even with me, I see it, but I just can’t emotionally connect to it. Being water dominant, I can’t continue dating with no emotional link. I wish I could honor it more, probably would be really good for me truthfully. But I am who I am just like they are who they are.

Sorry about your cap tho. With time things will heal and change and grow. I’m friends now with pretty much all the earthy folks I had fleeting interests in.