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Ellygant
joined February 26, 2017
Ascendant in Clumsy, Sun/Mercury/Venus in Scary, Moon in Comfort, Mars in Giddy
  • Ellygant
    Ascendant in Clumsy, Sun/Mercury/Venus in Scary, Moon in Comfort, Mars in Giddy
    Posted by MyStarsShine
    Posted by Ellygant
    Posted by MyStarsShine
    Posted by Ellygant
    Big difference in where you work. Management, clientele, specialties, location, restaurant type, hours and prices would vary. You can earn as little as a around 3/4 hundred for a full week. All the way up to about 3/4 grand on a weekend (Thursday thru Saturday) that’s off tips.

    Where I live, restaurant work is based off only tips. Servers and bartenders get an hourly but it’s only $ 2.13, which all goes to taxes. Some states/countries pay better hourlies tho. And if you’re a bar manager you will make a high hourly or salary and if you work shifts you make tips.

    The higher money jobs do tend to come with more work. Hours are normally really rough (6/7pm till 4AM) more stress, more political. If someone is charming, good with drunks and good looking tho it’s a gold mine.


    Don't you have a minimum hourly rate....by law it's just under 10 euros an hour here?


    By law it is $ 2.13. That was my hourly rate lol. And it covers about 60-70% of taxes so I never take it home. You still end up owing more in taxes so I’d claim monthly so I wouldn’t have to backpay hundreds during tax season. In my four years in the service industry I never once was paid a check that I didn’t get directly from tips. Never saw my hourly. Where I live we literally live off tips.


    That sounds awful, illegal and totally archaic 😐

    Where do you live Elly?
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    Atlanta, GA, US

    Archaic yeah but not illegal lol. It wasn’t ever awful for me but I chose higher volume and/or price points to work. If I worked at some small diner it would have been rough. Though I will say even at my last restaurant job I wasn’t making more than $ 300 a week working 40-50 hours. Volume took a drastic downturn the last month I was there.

    Overall it was sustainable for the short term. The restaurant industry is known to be rough here tho. Rarely are there any tax documented full time employees, so they don’t have to offer us benefits. We rarely would ever get breaks for meals even though working 12-16 hour shifts on the weekend is pretty standard. If you complain then you get written up or your hours taken away. And you just budget well, then remember the day you took home $ 500 on the day you sat around for 8 hours and paid the restaurant to go home lol.

    But it was good for my life when I needed to work more freedom. I was going through intense therapy and dramatic life changes and the atmosphere is a little more lax for that. Paid the bills so no complaints there.
  • Ellygant
    Ascendant in Clumsy, Sun/Mercury/Venus in Scary, Moon in Comfort, Mars in Giddy
    Posted by MyStarsShine
    Posted by Ellygant
    Big difference in where you work. Management, clientele, specialties, location, restaurant type, hours and prices would vary. You can earn as little as a around 3/4 hundred for a full week. All the way up to about 3/4 grand on a weekend (Thursday thru Saturday) that’s off tips.

    Where I live, restaurant work is based off only tips. Servers and bartenders get an hourly but it’s only $ 2.13, which all goes to taxes. Some states/countries pay better hourlies tho. And if you’re a bar manager you will make a high hourly or salary and if you work shifts you make tips.

    The higher money jobs do tend to come with more work. Hours are normally really rough (6/7pm till 4AM) more stress, more political. If someone is charming, good with drunks and good looking tho it’s a gold mine.


    Don't you have a minimum hourly rate....by law it's just under 10 euros an hour here?
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    By law it is $ 2.13. That was my hourly rate lol. And it covers about 60-70% of taxes so I never take it home. You still end up owing more in taxes so I’d claim monthly so I wouldn’t have to backpay hundreds during tax season. In my four years in the service industry I never once was paid a check that I didn’t get directly from tips. Never saw my hourly. Where I live we literally live off tips.
  • Ellygant
    Ascendant in Clumsy, Sun/Mercury/Venus in Scary, Moon in Comfort, Mars in Giddy
  • Ellygant
    Ascendant in Clumsy, Sun/Mercury/Venus in Scary, Moon in Comfort, Mars in Giddy
    Omg is it you? Are you back?

    Don’t leave us. Or do. Idk. It’s almost leo season. You deserve to shine. So do whatever you please to let your inner sunny leo bits shine.

  • Ellygant
    Ascendant in Clumsy, Sun/Mercury/Venus in Scary, Moon in Comfort, Mars in Giddy
    Jupiter in Scorpio has not been what I was hoping lol. But it has been showing me a lot of truth. Showing me where to root my joy truly.

    It’s been rough for a while. I think it probably still will be little longer thank I've hoped, or hyped rather as well. Haha.

    I really am through with wanting, with hoping, with chasing. Letting that go in terms of leaving the city, losing a job, ouch. Love has been the hardest hit though. The ex Scorpio, that crab, man, they hit me harder and deeper than my pride wanted to admit, and they hurt me longer than they remembered me(double ouch to Scorpio pride). I’ve always wanted a partner and a family, children. That, has been the hardest dream to let go. Lovers. Jobs. The city. Money. Status. And a large majority of fine friends. It’s all gone now.

    But treetrunk it. No more longing. Just living. And finding curious joys in simply being. Not in a person. Or a relationship or friendship. Not in money. Or a job title. Or feeling recognized or validated. Just me.

    Me enjoying me, now. For all my treetrunked up choices, my non accomplishments, my failures. My kindnesses, my talents, realized or not. My memories, the bitter, the sweet and all of them oh so malleable. The days where poetry and words fill my mind to the brim. The days I can’t move or eat.

    A toast to myself for the damn good, damn bad times. Simply me. This is how to happy. Guess I just needed to not have any of what I wanted or thought I needed in order to really be happy. Who would have figured.Laughing (And if they have I probably didn’t listen anyways #stubborn)
  • Ellygant
    Ascendant in Clumsy, Sun/Mercury/Venus in Scary, Moon in Comfort, Mars in Giddy
    Posted by MysteriousDreamer
    I think I could really come to like this new job! What other job has a three o’clock snow cone break? Boss comes around practically demanding everyone to go get their free snow cone. 😁


    🙌🏻

    All the tool and hardwork is paying off!! You deserve it chika!
  • Ellygant
    Ascendant in Clumsy, Sun/Mercury/Venus in Scary, Moon in Comfort, Mars in Giddy
    Posted by Dreamyboy
    Posted by Ellygant
    Big difference in where you work. Management, clientele, specialties, location, restaurant type, hours and prices would vary. You can earn as little as a around 3/4 hundred for a full week. All the way up to about 3/4 grand on a weekend (Thursday thru Saturday) that’s off tips.

    Where I live, restaurant work is based off only tips. Servers and bartenders get an hourly but it’s only $ 2.13, which all goes to taxes. Some states/countries pay better hourlies tho. And if you’re a bar manager you will make a high hourly or salary and if you work shifts you make tips.

    The higher money jobs do tend to come with more work. Hours are normally really rough (6/7pm till 4AM) more stress, more political. If someone is charming, good with drunks and good looking tho it’s a gold mine.


    $ 2.13 an hour?? Is this in the US?!
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    Yah. Some states will pay federal minimum wage or a higher state wage. But federal law allows restaurant service minimum wage to be lower than regular minimum wage. And the federal minimum hasn’t been raised since the 70’s. My state is one of those that doesn’t have a higher wage. So people literally live off their tips round here.

    It’s been a while since I checked but a few years ago about half the states in the US had hourly wages less than $ 5/hour for restaurant work. And about 2/3rds of those were for the $ 2.13 minimum. Places hit hardest by it are normally mom and pop/cheap/non booze places. Though there were some shifts where I actually paid money to the house because people wouldn’t tip or tip enough to cover taxes and extra tipout for hosts/bussers/runners/washers so I left with negative dollar lol. Those were rare at my places thankfully.
  • Ellygant
    Ascendant in Clumsy, Sun/Mercury/Venus in Scary, Moon in Comfort, Mars in Giddy
    Big difference in where you work. Management, clientele, specialties, location, restaurant type, hours and prices would vary. You can earn as little as a around 3/4 hundred for a full week. All the way up to about 3/4 grand on a weekend (Thursday thru Saturday) that’s off tips.

    Where I live, restaurant work is based off only tips. Servers and bartenders get an hourly but it’s only $ 2.13, which all goes to taxes. Some states/countries pay better hourlies tho. And if you’re a bar manager you will make a high hourly or salary and if you work shifts you make tips.

    The higher money jobs do tend to come with more work. Hours are normally really rough (6/7pm till 4AM) more stress, more political. If someone is charming, good with drunks and good looking tho it’s a gold mine.
  • Ellygant
    Ascendant in Clumsy, Sun/Mercury/Venus in Scary, Moon in Comfort, Mars in Giddy
    I’ve been told this a lot all my life as well. Sag rising. Scorp dom.

    It’s been my observation, the same people that say that are the same people who actually like this a lot at first. Makes them feel important. Special. But when they realize that’s just who you are some feel insulted (because it wasn’t really about them) or tired of it (because they only like it when it’s about them). People that are friends with me for me don’t say it hardly at all. Or when they do it’s gentler and more constructive than constrictive.
  • Ellygant
    Ascendant in Clumsy, Sun/Mercury/Venus in Scary, Moon in Comfort, Mars in Giddy
    Opposite is a bit of a misnomer. Opposites are more inside out versions of each other. Same themes but expressed in complementary ways.

    Shared Traits of the Axis
    Learning. Development. Pursuit of knowledge.

    Gemini - Mercury Driven
    Knowledge for the sake of curiosity. Provokes in order to disrupt so they can analyze. Focuses on the details to fully absorb a new lesson. Collects many pieces of various puzzles simply to explore and experience. Rarely has an agenda.

    Sagittarius - Jupiter Driven
    Knowledge for the sake of collection. Provokes in order to create or substantiate theory. Focuses on broader concepts to integrate a lesson. Puts together the pieces others have collected. Exploration for the sake of a larger and specific purpose.
  • Ellygant
    Ascendant in Clumsy, Sun/Mercury/Venus in Scary, Moon in Comfort, Mars in Giddy
    Why would he let you go when he is getting everything he wants? That’s be stupid on his part. He gets a stable home and two exciting relationships on the side. He gets to be entertained 24/7 on demand.

    Why don’t you let him go? Why don’t you find a new job? Why don’t you not answer his calls? You’re giving him all this power and all your happiness. Your practically begging him to take your self respect. He’s certainly not going to give it back. If you want to be done then you leave. Love isn’t slavery. It’s an emotion. You’re not a victim. You signed up for this.

    Clean up your life then have kids. Children imprint on their parents. You really want a child watching and learning from you right now? Learning that it’s ok for someone to treat their mother like butter and for her to not know how to manage her own life?
  • Ellygant
    Ascendant in Clumsy, Sun/Mercury/Venus in Scary, Moon in Comfort, Mars in Giddy
    Posted by tiziani
    Posted by Ellygant
    Sagittarius or Aquarius.

    Sag if you’re looking for a more extroverted relationship. Aqua if you’re looking for a more introverted.


    Definitely extroverted.


    What links those two signs though?
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    I see a lot of sag and libra matches. Right amount of commitment and brevity. Not too intense or suffocating for either sign.

    Aqua is deeply relationship oriented while being breezy and intellectual. Not often quite as much for the social scene as sags when they’re in relationships though.

    If you want something less quiet and more of challenge I’d even say Capricorn. It’d vibe with your Virgo bits. And even moon a bit. If you could find one with a fire moon, that wasn’t quite as locked in her mind all the time.

    The universal signs seem more where you’re at currently. Idk why just one of those annoying nonlogical watery opinions lol.
  • Ellygant
    Ascendant in Clumsy, Sun/Mercury/Venus in Scary, Moon in Comfort, Mars in Giddy
    Sagittarius or Aquarius.

    Sag if you’re looking for a more extroverted relationship. Aqua if you’re looking for a more introverted.
  • Ellygant
    Ascendant in Clumsy, Sun/Mercury/Venus in Scary, Moon in Comfort, Mars in Giddy
    Sagittarius or Aquarius.

    Sag if you’re looking for a more extroverted relationship. Aqua if you’re looking for a more introverted.
  • Ellygant
    Ascendant in Clumsy, Sun/Mercury/Venus in Scary, Moon in Comfort, Mars in Giddy
    Posted by PhoenixRising
    My best friend, my family, my heart is really sick and I'm afraid to face what this mean. I'm not ready to say goodbye. Been standing outside the hospital for 30 min...


    I don’t mean to be pushy. But I think I’m about to be (hopefully just a little) pushy. If you don’t go in, imagine what you’re feeling now being the last feeling with her. Forever.

    When I was a tween my grandmother had a stroke and was dying. She was in home care, out of state from where my family lived, and everyone was taking their time with her that last summer. When it was the end of summer and our family was leaving, my mom nudged me to go talk to her alone. Insinutating it would likely be the last time. I put it off till finally she made me. I made a hesitant and breezy bye, and scurried out of the room about two minutes after I entered. I didn’t want to say goodbye and thought if I didn’t she’d be around next summer. She wasn’t. And I hated myself for years. At first for thinking she thought I didn’t love her. Then as I was older and knew better, I was just mad that I could have had a better last moment. Granted it’s my experience as a kid versus yours as an adult, and I know there’s a degree of difference in the complexity of emotions that goes with that.

    Hug minus the smiles

    All my heart and good vibes to you darling. I’m sorry. We are always here for words. Or no words. Just checking in if you need to. Sending love to you and yours on this time.
  • Ellygant
    Ascendant in Clumsy, Sun/Mercury/Venus in Scary, Moon in Comfort, Mars in Giddy
    Fun. Art. Comfort. Not being shaken by a few mood swings. If you wanna surf the ocean then you gotta understand that crashing occasionally and letting it overtake you is part of the process, if you wanna catch the high of riding a wave. Insert other cheesy water metaphors here.

    And don’t make me your therapist or explain your own emotions to you.

    We are a bit unstable at times. And we can push/pull while we are in the process of attaching to someone new. But there’s a reason people call us when butter becomes unmanageable in their lives, particularly emotionally. We don’t blink when people lose their butter. We take care of butter. So, sometimes there’s blowback when we get caught up in taking care of everyone else’s butter and forget ourselves. Someone who reminds us to do that (note, not does it for us) is vital.
  • Ellygant
    Ascendant in Clumsy, Sun/Mercury/Venus in Scary, Moon in Comfort, Mars in Giddy
    A very well mannered way of saying ‘I’d like to have sex and see you when it’s convienent but I don’t want you to ask anything of me or expect anything other than for me to do what makes me happy.’
  • Ellygant
    Ascendant in Clumsy, Sun/Mercury/Venus in Scary, Moon in Comfort, Mars in Giddy
    Well it can be occasionally fashionable yet not all that beautiful.
  • Ellygant
    Ascendant in Clumsy, Sun/Mercury/Venus in Scary, Moon in Comfort, Mars in Giddy
    Where for art thou @ex0

    You’ve been on my brain chika. Hope Pluto in Cap is treating you to better saturnine delights than Pluto in Sag did me. (If I’m remembering your rising correctly?)

    Much love.
  • Ellygant
    Ascendant in Clumsy, Sun/Mercury/Venus in Scary, Moon in Comfort, Mars in Giddy
    Posted by ellesbelles
    I love him ❤

    So this work week has been super intense. It landed on a great note but still....intense. It was thrown on the table early Friday that I needed to stay another three weeks because I have to go hard at Mexico and China, which put a wrench in things because I planned on spending Easter in Texas....which doesn't put me home until mid April.

    So, I'm wrestling with this in my mind last night because that means I won't see my Pisces, my little Virgo, Tizzy or my Cap for over two months!

    So, the Cap calls me...same time every night ❤....asks me what I'm doing and I say "Worrying"...lol

    Cap - *voice changes to concern* About What?
    Me - *starts rattling off thoughts a million miles per minute*
    Cap - I didn't understand a word you said but I caught Austin and Easter....lol
    Me - Okay *slows down*
    Cap - You need to see Cheeks (My other little Virgo in Texas)
    Me - Yes! I promised Easter because my Pisces got Christmas.
    Cap - Okay, then what's the problem?
    Me - I miss everyone!
    Cap - We are right here. Nobody is going anywhere. What do *you* want?
    Me - I want to see Cheeks!!!
    Cap - Then you do what you need to do to see Cheeks. That is your focus.
    Me - I love you.
    Cap - I know. lol

    ❤❤😂






    Quoting just cause.