Posted by LadyNeptune
When he circles back around to you in a few months DON'T RESPOND. Don't give him the time of day. It's obvious he doesn't respect or value you, don't become a backup option for him.


I will never call him again. I have been going through a lot having to find a new place etc and all I wanted at the end of the day was to see him. He ruined it.
Posted by Pisces1803
What did he say though?


I can't remember the exact words but something like, "That woman ass mmm..
mmm...mmm..." It just seemed so out of left field for him. He seemed genuinely happy to see me before this but just chickeny. I can read people well and it felt as if he was trying to push me away before I left him.

After the night he wasnt able to perform he said I probably called some other guy up. I am not sleezy and so hung up on sex that I would need to do anything like that. Prior to everything he was so attentive, never missed an opportunity to text or call. As soon as the intimacy didnt happen boom...he was a different man.
Posted by LiveAndLove
That's just plain disrespectful to you. I don't think you over reacted at all. Did he even apologize afterwards?


The only thing he did was try to grab my arm and get me to stay at the restaurant. He has not called nor text me to apologize. I'm gutted right now.
Thank you all. I was truly hurt. I was confused. Never have I ever had a man do that to me.
I'm seeing...well was seeing this gemini man and one night we decided it was time to take it to the next level. He couldn't get it up and to me it was no big deal I was glad it didnt happen yet because maybe it just wasnt the right time yet.

Unfortunately after that he became sort of distant not contacting me as much as he use to then later stated he wanted me to contact him more that he wants to feel like he is my man. He later admitted he was disappointed that it didnt happen and that he was kind of embarrassed. Fast forward to now he seems a bit chickeny and arrogant. This is not something I am attracted to. We meet up at a resturant and he did something that pissed me off. He made a comment in my face about the waitress ass. At first I thought clearly he didnt say what I think he just said to me but he tried to brush it off but by that time I lost my appetite and told him how disrespectful that was.

Then he tried to brush it off as me being too sensitive and tried to get me to let it go. I politely got up and left out the resturant went home. I was hurt no guy has ever been that bold before. I get it if a man looks or comments something to his friends but to the woman he wants to be with? Did I over react?
You're blunt and the world needs more of that. Otherwise we'd have a bunch of yes people. F*** Cancer. I wish you peace and happiness.
Mercury in Aquarius

Not necessarily loud or flamboyant, but she often has a quiet way of stirring others up. Delights in exposing what she deems biases in others' way of thinking. Very quick to contradict others, and to offer a different perspective, she enjoys intellectual debates. Amazing powers of observation, and a quirky way of looking at the world. Humorous and interesting. Loves practical jokes and raising eyebrows.

Mercury in X

Her home and comfort are the only things important for her. She is intelligent and speaks easily and cogently. Easily keeps many irons in the fire and concludes her activities. Moves house a lot for business reasons.

You are good with language, and generally use this talent in your profession. You can have an authoritative air about you, or you are talented at communicating and negotiating with those in authority. You might have more than one job going at once much of the time, you could change your career directions frequently, or you could be attracted to jobs that keep you on the move. You require frequent changes of setting or activities in order to remain stimulated and challenged. You are skilled at bringing fresh energy to your conversations or to your job, perhaps because you need the stimulation.
I love my optimism and ability to be blunt but hate that I have a need to always want something or someone new and exciting which takes away from building true intimacy with one person long term. Sagittarius moon.
Posted by LibraRoseE
Why are some Leo's (particularly men , but can be about Leo women as well) become so desperate after a breakup?

Instead of fixing what they messed up, they rather run to another female/male for a "rebound" ?



As my close Leo friend says, "There is always a back up. No one is ever 100% faithful in a relationship."
How do you know he is divorced?
The ones I know require sex a lot and will fool themselves into thinking they love someone because they find it hard to separate sex from emotions. They do a lot running back to exes to fill a void.
If looking at porn is considered cheating then we're both cheating on each other because I watch it too.





Idk...the issue may be that I am insecure & have trust issues. I've been cheated on by two other men for thots. Im a nerdy, skinny but attractive black girl who likes anime, white humor, & all kinds of music in different languages. To a lot of black men I'm weird or not black enough. I guess I projected that onto him when he was a hell of a lot better & accepting than those other guys.

^^^^This is your problem. You're letting your past and insecurities dictate your present. A guy doesn't care if a woman is ghetto or not when he is checking them out you do. Just because he is into you doesn't mean he doesn't have other types.
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Posted by EveryOunce
Posted by Jikanyotomare
My ex blocked me EVERYWHERE on social media after I lost my temper over a photo he liked. The photo was of a topless ghetto girl. I said this to him:

"I can tolerate being ignored but I don't think I'll ever be ok with a man who likes these kinds of things. It's disrespectful to me & our relationship. It's childish. I give you my time body, & effort. I don't entertain other guys period. I've been stressed about you/us all weekend but this is where your mind is at"

"To me there aren't plenty of fish in the sea just one man I can build a future with. I overlook so many things you don't think I notice. It's just a photo to you but it's more than that to me. If you don't dump me over this in need a little time".

He knew how I felt about liking pictures of Facebook ho**. He was doing it out of spite, because he was angry at me over something else. He'd been a jerk to me all week and so I lost it over the photo.

He then blocked me. I even sent him a letter in the mail to apologize but he refused it.

I didn't want to breakup over something so stupid and I really miss him. I kind of blame myself because I should've just given him space. He would've came around like he usually did. I was just so angry! Now, he's gone & I'm hurt. This is our second breakup! He's never been so cut throats with me though.


Do you know how many pics of hot people I l hit the like button on in a day? You would lose your mind. This was so silly. You're not the only person in the world he is attracted to. Figure out why it bothers you that he is human.

Let him come to you if he still cares you'll know.


Yes, were human but it's not hard to like more respectable things or at least women who are the same standard as your girl. He liked picture of thots, girls completely opposite of me. Weave, makeup, huge earrings, booty short, phat asses revealing shirts, etc.

I know why it bothers me.
I'm the opposite of that, which makes me feel insecure. I'm a skinny, natural, black girl who is in college, loves white humor, bates motel, & anime.
I felt too white & skinny for my ex.

I would've loved if he liked pics of girls like me or even sexy models, not thots. Thots don't respect girls like me.


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But he chose YOU so obviously you have everything he wants. A respectable classy woman he can take home to mom. Take that as a compliment. As long as he is not cheating on you what's the problem? I love to look at models but that is a fantasy not reality. I just like to look at beautiful people doesn't mean I want to be with them.
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Posted by EveryOunce
Thank your lucky stars she left you. I love my gemini sister but she is a whack job who has always let many men in and out of her sons lives without a second thought. She was looking for people to fill a void. She still hasn't filled it and her sons are now 18 and 22. Thank goodness they weren't affected by her choices and old enough now to live on their own. Lets just say the last man she brought into their life was recently released from prison. He killed someone.


Wow. Curious, are both kids from the same father? Thanks for your input.
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Two different fathers. The first one is a taurus that loves her til this day and raised both boys as his own. We all love him and hoped she'd someday marry him but she never gave him a second chance.

The second guy was not active in his sons life and died of a heart attack. She is a sweet person despite the things she has gone through. No man has ever been able to tame her and any engagements were short lived.
Thank your lucky stars she left you. I love my gemini sister but she is a whack job who has always let many men in and out of her sons lives without a second thought. She was looking for people to fill a void. She still hasn't filled it and her sons are now 18 and 22. Thank goodness they weren't affected by her choices and old enough now to live on their own. Lets just say the last man she brought into their life was recently released from prison. He killed someone.
Posted by Jikanyotomare
My ex blocked me EVERYWHERE on social media after I lost my temper over a photo he liked. The photo was of a topless ghetto girl. I said this to him:

"I can tolerate being ignored but I don't think I'll ever be ok with a man who likes these kinds of things. It's disrespectful to me & our relationship. It's childish. I give you my time body, & effort. I don't entertain other guys period. I've been stressed about you/us all weekend but this is where your mind is at"

"To me there aren't plenty of fish in the sea just one man I can build a future with. I overlook so many things you don't think I notice. It's just a photo to you but it's more than that to me. If you don't dump me over this in need a little time".

He knew how I felt about liking pictures of Facebook ho**. He was doing it out of spite, because he was angry at me over something else. He'd been a jerk to me all week and so I lost it over the photo.

He then blocked me. I even sent him a letter in the mail to apologize but he refused it.

I didn't want to breakup over something so stupid and I really miss him. I kind of blame myself because I should've just given him space. He would've came around like he usually did. I was just so angry! Now, he's gone & I'm hurt. This is our second breakup! He's never been so cut throats with me though.


Do you know how many pics of hot people I l hit the like button on in a day? You would lose your mind. This was so silly. You're not the only person in the world he is attracted to. Figure out why it bothers you that he is human.

Let him come to you if he still cares you'll know.
Posted by oknoobs
this sounds weird and it is. I dont take it seriously but he says he trusts his dad. He lied about his sexual history and I was upset. he said before 'if you really want to have sex with someone else then do it with my dad' and to go up to his dad and ask him

He's okay with 'touching tips' .



You're settling if you choose to date this guy down the line. Clearly he is not what you should invest your time in. I think your Venus in Aquarius like the inconsistency of him subconsciously so you're dealing with disrespect longer than you need to and your moon in Libra is wanting so badly to give him the benefit of the doubt. He's a loser stop wasting your time on him.
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Posted by TerramineLightvoid
Here let me make this simple so you idiots can get it:

Lust: You get a boner and want to treetrunk them.

Love: The above doesn't matter.

Amazing. So simple even the most infinitely simplistic mind can understand.



Is not that simple...and this is not a right / wrong answer, if you read that right you'd have known is in your own opinion...lust goes beyond getting a boner and treetrunking "someone"... and in my own opinion, if you truly love someone you'd desire that person..so there should be lust there as well.

There is no opinion about it. Love is what it is. Objectively. It is not subjective. Love is of God and of the Light Wave. It is the very fact that you or I even exist. That we have presence within reality.

It is acceptance, embracing, and ultimately considering someone more important than yourself.

Love is not Lust, Attraction, Desire, Connection, Relation, Chemistry, Compatibility, Benefit, etc. It is none of those things. They may or may not come with it. But they are completely separate.

There is no such thing as conditional love. If you require something to love someone, or it depends on your attraction to them. Then that isn't love. Love never ends, it never dies, it never fades.

Yet your mentality is that of mindless drones. That of an ANIMAL. You do not know what love is and for that, I pity you.


I have a strong desire to bang you after reading your comments. Your intelligence is so sexy.


Is it love? Lol
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It's pure lust. lol