Posted by GeminPhilly
Do Aquarius men like women with issues? Like women that they feel they can "fix"?? When a woman is giving her all and treating a aqua dude like a king he doesn't value her or appreciate her. Not until she has to treat him like someone not that important for him to truly value her. Hmmm...any theories on this good people?


Yes the more issues the better. They attract clingy controlling women who resent their independence but love their quirkiness. To an Aquarius man dealing with a complex person makes them feel wanted and like a super hero but usually in the end they end up hurting themselves and limiting their freedom. I find some grow to resent their spouses after it ends
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My best friend became less communicative about a month ago then I received a text invite to a get together at his house. By this time his wife is 9 months pregnant. My sister asked if they had a baby shower after seeing gifts in the nursery. I was shocked because I asked him about it several times in the past but he never mentioned one. They had 2 baby showers I discoverd. Afterwards he began talking to me as much as he use to and I brought it up but he did not respond to it.

I was disappointed. These are the same people whom I helped move into their new home.. getting it all set up for the baby, told them I was preparing them a gift basket for the baby shower yet they didnt send out an invite? I have known him since we were kids. We have a platonic male/female relationship in which his wife was made fully aware of.

If it made her uncomfortable and I was aware of it I would have understood yet they smiled in my face and said nothing.

I am shocked. Why would you ask me to be the God mother to your kids but do this? So when he text letting me know they had their baby I just sent a congrats and nothing else. Am I wrong for being upset at how this all turned out?


maybe they thought you are too involved in their lifes? what you described sounds pushy, so they just wanted you to back off a bit maybe?



What part sounds pushy? Helping them with the babies room and gifts for the baby shower. Isn't that what she's supposed to do as a god mother?


maybe they told her to be a god mother to show gratefulness, but in the maintime they changed they minds? maybe they thougt what she would do, if she is a god mother, if even before she is too involved in their lives?

helping them with the babies room sounds too involved.... creepy even

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Helping them with the babies room sounds too involved...creepy????? They asked me to help them move...that's all I wanted to do was lift boxes but she requested that I help set up instead of actually moving boxes. I barely am in communication with them unless they contact me first just out of respect. Any correspondence usually come from them. They asked me to be the God mother I did not volunteer. I only inquired about the baby shower because I started realizing how far along she was. With this being her first child I highly doubt there wouldn't be one so instead of assuming I asked.
Hi guys thanks so much for your responses. After evaluating this situation I have decided to end my friendship with my Aquarius friend. I am an Aquarius as well but a very blunt one who makes my intentions known and although I respect differences in others I can not respect this situation. I was extremely hurt it is not what you do it's how you do it. My sister and I handled ourselves with class and did not let it be known that we were upset by the turn of events at their house instead we laughed, ate and had a great time. I am not giving them any gifts, I wont see the baby or communicate in any way with either of them because I am not fake. I do however wish them the best.

Some mentioned my friend being a pushover...he is I will admit that he bends over backwards to appease others and hates to rock the boat but never has he ever done something like this to me. I have nothing to gain by confronting him and I know one day he will come to regret this but by that time it will be too late. If being happy means sacrificing friends that were like family to him then so be it. I don't want to cause anyone any ill will.
My best friend became less communicative about a month ago then I received a text invite to a get together at his house. By this time his wife is 9 months pregnant. My sister asked if they had a baby shower after seeing gifts in the nursery. I was shocked because I asked him about it several times in the past but he never mentioned one. They had 2 baby showers I discoverd. Afterwards he began talking to me as much as he use to and I brought it up but he did not respond to it.

I was disappointed. These are the same people whom I helped move into their new home.. getting it all set up for the baby, told them I was preparing them a gift basket for the baby shower yet they didnt send out an invite? I have known him since we were kids. We have a platonic male/female relationship in which his wife was made fully aware of.

If it made her uncomfortable and I was aware of it I would have understood yet they smiled in my face and said nothing.

I am shocked. Why would you ask me to be the God mother to your kids but do this? So when he text letting me know they had their baby I just sent a congrats and nothing else. Am I wrong for being upset at how this all turned out?
Libras can at times be too insecure and demaning for most Aquarius causing them to look for something that may not even be there.

Aquarius with pisces moon are very sensitive and need a lot of alone time to live in a dream world and do better with people who give them that space to mentally roam. My best friend is one and I can read his moods even through email. He suffers in silence but sometimes the silence is comforting.

You have to practice patience but never give up on him eventually he will come around but one thing you can not do is change him.
Just tell her you're not interested in being friends and that she can discontinue her emails to you. I'm an Aquarius and I see no need to still communicate with someone I am done with romantically. This is what you want right?
Just tell her you're not interested in being friends and that she can discontinue her emails to you. I'm an Aquarius and I see no need to still communicate with someone I am done with romantically. This is what you want right?
Posted by Aquistorm
Any dogs up in here? I am born in 1983, but technically I was born before the chinese new year. So instead of being the Water Pig. I ended up as the Water Dog. Or what would be for 1982.

Woof.




Woof
DO NOT contact him anymore under ANY circumstances. Treat him like he is crap and dead to you. MEN especially Aquarius men don't want you until you don't want them. And if and when he does come back ask yourself if this is the man you deseve and go from there.
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We do attract needy partners because we use our charm and magnetism to bring people to us, it's a part of being a fixed sign, we are patient and wait for things to come to us..

The thing about us that makes partners needy is our detatchedness, it takes ages for us to process loads of information and that's when we go up in the clouds and become distant and this can become infuriating to people and in turn it becomes infuriating for us when we don't have sufficient time to process or if we feel like we need to rush.

So when people become more clingy it has the opposite effect on us, we are air signs and we need to breathe, drowning us is toxic and turns us into earth dwellers


So true. I have hurt many of partners in the past due to my detached ways. Aqua/Sag moon. I am so emotionally detached to the point it hurts their feelings then they cut me off cold turkey only to rerurn which doesnt work with me (very loyal). I just detach further because at first it had nothing to do with them.

I tried to do the detach as well approach having moon in Aqua but I always have to switch myself back to showing him consistency andtons of understanding. I don't know if it's the Aqua or Pisces in him that need a partner who can truly UNDERSTAND them ..?


She is a sweet person from what I know of her but very insecure and damaged (his words) from previous relationships so he spends a lot of time reassuring her. Before he said I do I couldn't believe he said hopefully her clingy ways would subside. I think he compromises a lot to make her happy. As a friend I am afraid he will either start to resent her or become a yes man who loses everyone but her.

Had a Pisces friend who lost everyone he was friends with (including myself) and said he was lonely because her needy ways turned everyone away. I hope they figure out a balance at some point.


That sounds awful I hope she changes soon too because there's nothing worth than a lonely marriage... life is too full of life ... his Pisces moon seems to like rescuring her.........
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Very true. He is a person that likes to rescue people.
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Posted by EveryOunce
Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
We do attract needy partners because we use our charm and magnetism to bring people to us, it's a part of being a fixed sign, we are patient and wait for things to come to us..

The thing about us that makes partners needy is our detatchedness, it takes ages for us to process loads of information and that's when we go up in the clouds and become distant and this can become infuriating to people and in turn it becomes infuriating for us when we don't have sufficient time to process or if we feel like we need to rush.

So when people become more clingy it has the opposite effect on us, we are air signs and we need to breathe, drowning us is toxic and turns us into earth dwellers


So true. I have hurt many of partners in the past due to my detached ways. Aqua/Sag moon. I am so emotionally detached to the point it hurts their feelings then they cut me off cold turkey only to rerurn which doesnt work with me (very loyal). I just detach further because at first it had nothing to do with them.

I tried to do the detach as well approach having moon in Aqua but I always have to switch myself back to showing him consistency andtons of understanding. I don't know if it's the Aqua or Pisces in him that need a partner who can truly UNDERSTAND them ..?
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She is a sweet person from what I know of her but very insecure and damaged (his words) from previous relationships so he spends a lot of time reassuring her. Before he said I do I couldn't believe he said hopefully her clingy ways would subside. I think he compromises a lot to make her happy. As a friend I am afraid he will either start to resent her or become a yes man who loses everyone but her.

Had a Pisces friend who lost everyone he was friends with (including myself) and said he was lonely because her needy ways turned everyone away. I hope they figure out a balance at some point.
Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
We do attract needy partners because we use our charm and magnetism to bring people to us, it's a part of being a fixed sign, we are patient and wait for things to come to us..

The thing about us that makes partners needy is our detatchedness, it takes ages for us to process loads of information and that's when we go up in the clouds and become distant and this can become infuriating to people and in turn it becomes infuriating for us when we don't have sufficient time to process or if we feel like we need to rush.

So when people become more clingy it has the opposite effect on us, we are air signs and we need to breathe, drowning us is toxic and turns us into earth dwellers


So true. I have hurt many of partners in the past due to my detached ways. Aqua/Sag moon. I am so emotionally detached to the point it hurts their feelings then they cut me off cold turkey only to rerurn which doesnt work with me (very loyal). I just detach further because at first it had nothing to do with them.
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Posted by EveryOunce
I am asking because I have a friend who thought that after marriage his wife would ease up on her clingy ways but she hasn't. He is a bit passive aggressive (Aquarius Sun/Pisces Moon) and either blows up when smothered or vent it to others. Just wanting to see if other Aquarians attract the needy type.


I understand him. Dating Pisces moon Aqua sun myself but it takes me and my Aqua moon ability to work him out all on my own of what his true needs are as he never told me bluntly like I need space.. he's very sensitive and very nice so I think he doesn't wanna hurt the person by being upfront about it. He dissapeared into his dreamland normally after work, and on Sunday.. which I call it sometimes dissapearing Sundays or Sunday treetrunk off day haha. We laugh about it as he would go off on all social media and got me worry but now I know him deeply so I don't take it personally anymore... I think he needs a partner who understnsss him or try to understand without him needing to explain to her his needs... obviously his wife has no idea and taking it personally so I would suggest he explains to her how much space he needs.. and that it's nothing personal. what's her sun and moon sign!?
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Wow you described him perfectly. Known him forever and yes he hates to hurt peoples feelings. She is a Libra not sure of her moon but they are both Dragons in Chinese astrology.
I am asking because I have a friend who thought that after marriage his wife would ease up on her clingy ways but she hasn't. He is a bit passive aggressive (Aquarius Sun/Pisces Moon) and either blows up when smothered or vent it to others. Just wanting to see if other Aquarians attract the needy type.
How do you deal with a partner who doesn't respect your need for space at times? Please include your moon sign as well.
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Yes and i like being alone.
As long as my Aquarius best friend let's me give him head when I come over I'm a happy aqua.
Lol


Are u for real because I wish I actually had a guy friend who was down for that.

Yeah he has a cap Venus like me.
Find an earth Venus Aquarius we love sex
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I agree.
We Aquarians are not emotionless we just compartmentalize our emotions.
A man would tell you anything to get your honey pot. He is MARRIED. You should move on to someone who is single.
Posted by peo
Both my mom and my oldest sister are Aquarians and both barely socialize outside of our family. My sister more so than my mother, but rarely and mostly driven by her Cancer husband. The problem isn't making friends. They are both very sophisticated and charming and people actually are naturally drawn to them. Both have difficulties having to commit to keeping up friendships. Both enjoy company, but will tell me how relieved they are once they are by themselves again.

I know that my mom feels pretty lonely at times, which is almost ironic because people always want to spend time with her and I'm essentially just repeating my mantra of "if you want to have a circle of friends you can rely on, you need to invest a little of your time and freedom" every time we talk.

Has anyone experienced similar and have advice as to how to best tackle this?



That's me in a nutshell. I love my own company but every once in awhile I need a friend or two but if they stay or talk too long I need time away. Nothing against them I am just both an introvert and an extrovert. Bouts of loneliness is a result of our moodiness. Sometimes I am lonely and have no clue why.
Omg get a clue the dude likes you and is interested in more. He is telling you that you could be the one if you give it a try.