EveryOunce
joined January 05, 2017
  • Posted by STILL
    Posted by EveryOunce
    I want you alls advice on this. My Aries sister and I are roommates and we are both on a dating site. Often we send each other a pic of a cute guy who is into us online and just talk. One day I sent my sister a pic of a guy whom I was interested in that sent me a message. My sister found out he is on her friendlist on FB amd she decided to send him and message and pursue him.

    I would never do this to my sister but apparently she can do this to me. How do you all feel about this situation? I personally, feel weirded out while she on the other hand let me know they have kept in communication and apparently he has visited her at the house as if we never discussed him approaching me first.


    Dayumm your own blood! That's cutthroat! I'd definitely be weirded out. I wouldn't say too much, maybe remind her that you shouldn't be so desperate for a man that you slight your own sister.
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    I know right I am so taken back that I have not said much to her since then. I do not know how to tackle this. I have noticed that once we started living together she has been competitive in everything. I had to tell her I am not in competition with you. If someone compliments my cooking she prepares a meal. If I buy a dress she has to one up it. I do not recognize this person.

  • I want you alls advice on this. My Aries sister and I are roommates and we are both on a dating site. Often we send each other a pic of a cute guy who is into us online and just talk. One day I sent my sister a pic of a guy whom I was interested in that sent me a message. My sister found out he is on her friendlist on FB amd she decided to send him and message and pursue him.

    I would never do this to my sister but apparently she can do this to me. How do you all feel about this situation? I personally, feel weirded out while she on the other hand let me know they have kept in communication and apparently he has visited her at the house as if we never discussed him approaching me first.
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  • Posted by Adreamuponwaking
    Posted by EveryOunce
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    he got so turned on he screamed out c**kiemonster you the truth! .


    I died of laughter literally.

    so funny

    how is this not a troll thread?

    I've thought that it was one since the first page. click to expand
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    It's not a troll thread. I haven't spoken with him since the day after the rough sex happened. Not only was I turned off at the idea of him being okay with a threesome I was turned off at him dinding humor in my pain. The sad part is he did not apologize when I confronted him he just said, "I got carried away."

    He's text here and there but I never responded even sending me well wishes on Mother's Day but I did not respond to that either. That night just left me feeling awkward.
  • So things got a bit awkward the other night...he was asking me about my fantasies and of course he mentions threesomes and I told him I have thought about both before (girl/girl/guy and guy/guy/girl) but I let him know it wont happen because I am just not interested in sharing a guy because I am too possessive for that. He did mention that he would do both forms of threesomes with me and that he is not the possessive type. I was turned off by that.



    First off you would share me with another man? He told me I was overthinking things and that he would do it if it was something I truly wanted because he wants to satisfy me and that he was not requesting it. I do not care how you explain it I do not want a man to be okay with another guy having sex with me period.

    He could tell I felt some type of way and decided to let the topic go. He has been bringing up these fantasies ever since I had lunch with a friend and did not call him back. He asked if it took a whole day to have lunch with someone and that he feels like something else must have happened since I did not call him immediately afterwards. This coming from a man who claims to not be possesive. 😒

    You are not my father nor am I obligated to tell you every detail of my life.



    The next weird scenario was him calling me a c**kiemonster during sex. Granted the sex was mind altering but he got so turned on he screamed out c**kiemonster you the truth! I was so taken back I literally just laid there for a second and he did not even notice he just continued shaking his head and stroking. Um...how do I even confront him about that? It is weird even thinking about it .



    I also accidentally got carried away and scratched his back up. It was bad I could feel the welts and apologized for it but he chose to get his revenge. He knows that I do not like for him to get to rough so when I tap him or say stop he knows to stop immediately.



    Instead of stopping he went harder and pinned me down so I could not move. I said stop again and he started laughing and grabbed my neck and came. He then stood up and started laughing I told him it was not funny and that it hurt...he says, Well now you know how I feel. He responds to everything like a challenge.
  • That's awful. I'm sorry to hear that. The good news is he was honest wth you instead of leading you on. Mourn the relationship. Cry, yell, vent what ever you have to do then move on. Most importantly don't compare yourself to anyone else. Some things just don't work out.
  • Posted by MyStarsShine
    Posted by EveryOunce
    Posted by MyStarsShine
    Posted by EveryOunce
    Posted by MyStarsShine
    Christ it reminds me of myself in my last rship lol 😳











    Where is his Mars ?










    Lol really? His Mars in Sag. What caused things to end? click to expand








    I was him lol







    It was an LDR, age gap.....much too much sex but not much common ground elsewhere....i had to move on for my sanity







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    Lol that is the same issue I am battling. We seem to do it at the drop of a dime but I am not sure that kind of passion can be sustained for so long but instead of over thinking it like I channel that energy elsewhere to keep from ruining what ever this is right now. click to expand




    For me, it wasn't sustainable ... it became predictable and our levels of spirituality and emotional input were at different places. The sex was beginning to define the relationship and I was as much to blame for that. He was emotionally stunted....



    I've heard people say that often when things start out very sexual, it burns out



    I guess anyone can have sex, but connecting on deeper levels is for me far more satisfying. If you meet a man that can meet you there, you're lucky click to expand
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    I understand that. I could not sustain anything with an emotionally stunted person. I'm sure that drove you insane.

    I need to feel something beyond the bedroom. I like the fact that he is starting to compromise with me. We both know that we are complete opposites and instead of pulling our hair out we explain the differences and how to work around it.
  • Posted by Pandora101
    Posted by EveryOunce








    "Please continue, this thread is the best thread ever on DXP." click to expand
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    I was just sitting here wondering if I should continue this thread. We have this chemistry and people in our personal life keep wanting us to define what we are but honestly right now I just want things to stay the way they are. So writing to you all helps in a weird way. Lol Thanks for reading.



    "people in our personal life keep wanting us to define what we are"



    what people? why these people want you to "define" what you are? what is their agenda? isnt it too early to define things after 2 months?



    PS. the story sounds more like an attempt to write a book - true or not, I think it would be a bestseller I bet you used to write a diary (lot of Aquas, myself included) used to write a diary and this story here is like excempt from a diary, spiced up click to expand


    I agree way too early to know what we are. Yes we had sex quickly and I hate that people want us to define us ...not every person you meet is meant to be with you long term or in a relationship. It makes me feel bad sometimes because they make me feel as if I am cheap for enjoying sex. He does not mind them talking...he is very laidback and feels nothing should be rushed. I agree with him.

    Yes I use to keep a diary years ago when I was a teen as well as write poetry. It is not a book though this is my real life and what I am currently going through. I have always had passionate sex. I can not sleep with a person if I do not feel that it will be all consuming and we have both said that this is the first time where we met someone whom it just works perfectly. Like we were made for each other in that way.

  • Posted by MyStarsShine
    Posted by EveryOunce
    Posted by MyStarsShine
    Christ it reminds me of myself in my last rship lol 😳







    Where is his Mars ?






    Lol really? His Mars in Sag. What caused things to end? click to expand




    I was him lol



    It was an LDR, age gap.....much too much sex but not much common ground elsewhere....i had to move on for my sanity



    Lol click to expand
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    Lol that is the same issue I am battling. We seem to do it at the drop of a dime but I am not sure that kind of passion can be sustained for so long but instead of over thinking it like I channel that energy elsewhere to keep from ruining what ever this is right now.
  • Posted by MyStarsShine
    Christ it reminds me of myself in my last rship lol 😳



    Where is his Mars ?


    Lol really? His Mars in Sag. What caused things to end?




  • "Please continue, this thread is the best thread ever on DXP." click to expand

    I was just sitting here wondering if I should continue this thread. We have this chemistry and people in our personal life keep wanting us to define what we are but honestly right now I just want things to stay the way they are. So writing to you all helps in a weird way. Lol Thanks for reading.
  • We have seen eachother almost everyday since we made up. He has been very insistant on seeing me and wanting to make sure that I do not cancel. This is how I know I like him because being an Aquarius with a Sag moon I need space but I do not mind when it comes to him.



    Seriously, is there something in the air with Scorpios right now because he messages me "I need you", "I want you." "I need to feek you."? Sometimes it is a bit overwhelming because I am not use to that type of intensity from someone and seems to have gotten a lot more intense. Especially after I suggested us making a video.



    So a few days ago I brought over a tripod and even though he was excited he started questioning why I have one, if I made videos with other people and if I have been with anyone else. He tried to brush it off like he was joking but he knows I hate those sort of questions.



    The second time he recorded me in my bathroom at work. I had no clue he was going to pull his phone out and record and the look on his face while doing it neatly sent me over the edge. He stares at me a lot more now. He stares so intensely when he pins my arms down and grins later telling me it turns him on to inflict pain on me by stroking really hard.



    He has found my g spot and gets a kick out of my reaction when he makes me O. Outside of the bedroom he is a lot more open. He is telling me things about him that helps me to understand him more because he is so quiet and he knows it frustrates me.

     

    He lets me know that he sucks at time management and balancing more than one task at a time and I told him now that I know that I will be more understanding because he hates me being upset with him.
  • Posted by MyStarsShine
    Posted by EveryOunce
    It never goes away. My Scorpio lover is almost 40 and if I breathe in the direction of another man I get the cold shoulder.




    The black guy with the whopper ?



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    Yes lol my goodness he is a lot to deal with. He is currently upset with me because I had other plans last night. I'll make it up to him today. 😏
  • I am an Aquarius through and through but I definitely possess the brutal honesty of my Sag moon. My foot in the mouth syndrome gets me in trouble a lot.
  • It never goes away. My Scorpio lover is almost 40 and if I breathe in the direction of another man I get the cold shoulder.
  • Posted by Klh1203
    So I’ve been posting on here about this Aquarius guy who I’ve known for the past year, we have been speaking and just getting to know each other but I found his actions so confusing until he finally admitted he had a relationship already. I’m so gutted because I really do like him and I know he likes me but now I’m starting to doubt he likes me at all.



    He’s saying he wants us to be friends regardless without any sexual contact but just friends but I know there’s still that chemistry between us and there’s no way in hell we are just “friends” there’s too much attraction and just general chemistry I don’t think it would work out for long🤷🏽‍♀️



    What shall I do? I tried to cut him off and he always comes back then today I told him that we should just leave it here and I hope he has a nice life and he thought about it then told me he doesn’t want me to leave his life... he doesn’t want to cheat on his girlfriend at all but he’s basically already doing that by having feelings for me and speaking to me, and I don’t want to be a home wrecker and I have stressed this to him but he sees no problem with us just being friends.



    Do you think this could work out on his behalf? Does he genuinely like me or am I just someone he wants to sleep with? I feel like I can be friends with him from a far but I can’t be around him alone because it’ll probably get too intimate.



    Everytime he tries to come back remind yourself that he wants you to be his secret and secret loves never last that long. You deserve better from a man and a so called friend. If he was truly a friend he would not put you in this predicament.
  • Posted by MilaniKisses
    I prefer for someone to honest to me about what they want. If he is not interest, then he can just tell me. Should I send him a text like...



    "Hi, so if you arent interested in me, its okay to let me know. I'd rather know your honest answer then nothing at all..."



    ??


    No no no...do not message him anything. Keep your dignity and pride intact and move on. Truth of the matter is some men are okay with sex too soon others are not. After sex women want to know " so whag are we"...for men they stsrted to ask themsleves if this is really what they want. Just take your time in the future if a relationship is what you are hoping for.
  • You're leaving a lot out. Did the two of you sleep together? How long have you known him? Seems like a short time frame to assume he is ghosting you.
  • It has been almost month since we have last seen each other. We had a falling out all because I cancelled on him one day and instead of him telling me he was upset he stopped talking to me. Thinking I would beg for his attention he soon learned I am as stubborn as him and I did not budge. Long story short he sent a message saying that he missed and he got upset because I did not say it back. I told him that where ever he was all of this time he can stay over there ✌🏾. And I meant it and had no intentions of answering his calls. He ended up calling me from another number and cussed me out. He told me how pissed he was at me yet he wanted to see me. Smh weirdo.

    We aired things out and agreed to meet up. He could not stop himself from smiling I wont lie I could not either no matter how upset I get at him once I see him the drama goes out the window.

    We talked about his mothers failing health and other things that he was dealing with and he asked me what my sign was which was so weird because he was never into that sort of stuff so I asked him why he is curious about my sign all of a sudden and he said he is just trying to figure me out.

    He said that he does not get me and that I am different and that he has never taken so much from a person as he does with me. He told me I am controlling and like things my way or the highway. He said I need to trust him and let go more I told him I dont trust easily. He said he can not understand why he keeps coming back and called me crazy. I said well you are crazy too and he knodded his head in agreeance. Lol

    Everytime we have sex it feels like the first time. We could not keep our hands off of eachother. He kept asking me if I had been with anyone else and that my p belongs to him. Then he asked if I ever had it as good with anyone else. I stopped him, looked him in his eyes and told him that I do not want anyone else but him and that he is the only person that satisfies me. This drove him crazy. He just started pounding harder. Neither of us had plans so we had all of this time together to explore eachother. We laughed about how we would not get any work done if we lived together because most of our time would be spent in bed.

    In the past I always felt as if he just got up and left right after sex and I told him I do not like that sometimes I just want to breathe him in. He laid back down on top of me and buried his head in my chest for awhile and after I put his fingers inside of me we went at it again.
  • Loving someone that does not love me back.