exsqueezeme
joined May 11, 2018
  • Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
    The women are ok, the men are deeply affected and neurotic. They mean well


    Ok just doesn’t cut it though does it. It’s the equivalent of a shoulder shrug
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  • Posted by Arkansassy
    Ignore him and move on to a Scorpio.


    Only when he’s bought me a pair of the Guccky chanclas
  • Posted by Jade_Alexander
    Posted by exsqueezeme
    Posted by Jade_Alexander
    Posted by exsqueezeme
    Posted by Lioness18881
    Posted by exsqueezeme
    Posted by Jade_Alexander
    I’m confused why you want him back?

    He did something you found unforgivable, didn’t apologize and then moved on.

    What are you looking for from him?

    I found the best way to approach the Aqua is from a calm and gentle place. I apologized that my actions hurt or upset him and calmly stated that wasn’t my intention, once he realized he wasn’t being lectured he would join in. Ultimately I would not say humility was his strong point. Aqua or not he is reactive and tends to blame me for a lot. It’s not a positive quality in a partner and can be frustrating to deal with


    I wanted him to own that window of redemption that I’d left open in a silent manner. I really wish he fought for it when there was a chance to. He had messed up in a significant way and I just thought if you can earn back my trust and show me you’ll change I’m willing to see us through it.
    When I saw that he’d already seen other people it broke me in to a million different pieces and that’s when I cut off for good. It’s just been a little difficult.
    Posting jealous by labyrinth really didn’t help matters. click to expand


    Wait. Was he with other people after you broke up or were you in an exclusive relationship or was it non committal? If it wasn't an exclusive relationship you can't really be mad because there was no agreement. click to expand


    We were in an exclusive relationship before breaking up. Headed towards marriage or so I thought.
    But he started seeing multiple people with in a couple of months of us breaking up whilst still trying to reach back out to me. click to expand


    He could have been casually dating to help with the pain of the break up... click to expand


    He was perhaps. However I felt so disrespected and emotionally violated at that point that I simply couldn’t hold on any longer.
    I continuously said to myself that had he truly loved me how he said he did, he would’ve been beating a path to my door and truly taking ownership of his treetrunk up. He would’ve been doing that rather than fishing in the sea. click to expand


    While I understand you’re point of view, it’s unfair to have kept these expectations silent.

    Some people (like myself) need things said because we assume the worst...

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    He’s a grown man who knew what his actions said. They painted pictures with immense clarity conveying a powerful message directly to me. Plus it isn’t true proof of his love for me if I am the one whose dictating what he should’ve done. It has to come from with in the individual and not through my controlling the dynamic.
  • I cried to Labrinth just now. Make a topic about my chanclas being emotionally unstable.
    Gogogogogo
  • Posted by puhleeze
    Posted by exsqueezeme
    Draw an Aquarius back to them?

    Do I chant like a siren? Do I bathe in his favourite liqueur and hang myself up to dry?

    By not communicating or communicating less, will make them wonder why you are not communicating as before. But key may be to not intentionally not communicate but get busy with something else where you don't have time to communicate, not that you don't want to. click to expand
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    It’s been 4 months
  • Posted by Jade_Alexander
    Posted by exsqueezeme
    Posted by Lioness18881
    Posted by exsqueezeme
    Posted by Jade_Alexander
    I’m confused why you want him back?

    He did something you found unforgivable, didn’t apologize and then moved on.

    What are you looking for from him?

    I found the best way to approach the Aqua is from a calm and gentle place. I apologized that my actions hurt or upset him and calmly stated that wasn’t my intention, once he realized he wasn’t being lectured he would join in. Ultimately I would not say humility was his strong point. Aqua or not he is reactive and tends to blame me for a lot. It’s not a positive quality in a partner and can be frustrating to deal with


    I wanted him to own that window of redemption that I’d left open in a silent manner. I really wish he fought for it when there was a chance to. He had messed up in a significant way and I just thought if you can earn back my trust and show me you’ll change I’m willing to see us through it.
    When I saw that he’d already seen other people it broke me in to a million different pieces and that’s when I cut off for good. It’s just been a little difficult.
    Posting jealous by labyrinth really didn’t help matters. click to expand


    Wait. Was he with other people after you broke up or were you in an exclusive relationship or was it non committal? If it wasn't an exclusive relationship you can't really be mad because there was no agreement. click to expand


    We were in an exclusive relationship before breaking up. Headed towards marriage or so I thought.
    But he started seeing multiple people with in a couple of months of us breaking up whilst still trying to reach back out to me. click to expand


    He could have been casually dating to help with the pain of the break up... click to expand
    click to expand


    He was perhaps. However I felt so disrespected and emotionally violated at that point that I simply couldn’t hold on any longer.
    I continuously said to myself that had he truly loved me how he said he did, he would’ve been beating a path to my door and truly taking ownership of his treetrunk up. He would’ve been doing that rather than fishing in the sea.
  • Posted by Lioness18881
    Posted by exsqueezeme
    Posted by Jade_Alexander
    I’m confused why you want him back?

    He did something you found unforgivable, didn’t apologize and then moved on.

    What are you looking for from him?

    I found the best way to approach the Aqua is from a calm and gentle place. I apologized that my actions hurt or upset him and calmly stated that wasn’t my intention, once he realized he wasn’t being lectured he would join in. Ultimately I would not say humility was his strong point. Aqua or not he is reactive and tends to blame me for a lot. It’s not a positive quality in a partner and can be frustrating to deal with


    I wanted him to own that window of redemption that I’d left open in a silent manner. I really wish he fought for it when there was a chance to. He had messed up in a significant way and I just thought if you can earn back my trust and show me you’ll change I’m willing to see us through it.
    When I saw that he’d already seen other people it broke me in to a million different pieces and that’s when I cut off for good. It’s just been a little difficult.
    Posting jealous by labyrinth really didn’t help matters. click to expand


    Wait. Was he with other people after you broke up or were you in an exclusive relationship or was it non committal? If it wasn't an exclusive relationship you can't really be mad because there was no agreement. click to expand
    click to expand


    We were in an exclusive relationship before breaking up. Headed towards marriage or so I thought.
    But he started seeing multiple people with in a couple of months of us breaking up whilst still trying to reach back out to me.
  • I know you’re watching me. Tormentor.
  • Posted by Jade_Alexander
    I’m confused why you want him back?

    He did something you found unforgivable, didn’t apologize and then moved on.

    What are you looking for from him?

    I found the best way to approach the Aqua is from a calm and gentle place. I apologized that my actions hurt or upset him and calmly stated that wasn’t my intention, once he realized he wasn’t being lectured he would join in. Ultimately I would not say humility was his strong point. Aqua or not he is reactive and tends to blame me for a lot. It’s not a positive quality in a partner and can be frustrating to deal with


    I wanted him to own that window of redemption that I’d left open in a silent manner. I really wish he fought for it when there was a chance to. He had messed up in a significant way and I just thought if you can earn back my trust and show me you’ll change I’m willing to see us through it.
    When I saw that he’d already seen other people it broke me in to a million different pieces and that’s when I cut off for good. It’s just been a little difficult.
    Posting jealous by labyrinth really didn’t help matters.
  • I didn’t need this song right now
  • Posted by Lioness18881
    Posted by exsqueezeme
    Posted by Lioness18881
    Posted by exsqueezeme
    Posted by Lioness18881
    Posted by Ariqua
    I will never make the first move in this situation.

    Then you don’t love them, honestly.

    If he doesn't, does that mean he doesn't love her either? Or does it mean he's just too stubborn. click to expand


    The reason I’m not willing to reach out right now is because he was in the wrong and messed up astronomically in my books. I would never want to continue a relationship allowing my partner to think that I stand for such nonsense. Ever. Call it prideful but I call it self respect and loving myself over and above everything.
    I always held a hope that he would realise his mistake and at least try and right his wrongs but unfortunately it’s been months and I’ve seen no sign of him. click to expand

    If you care for someone it's not always about who's right and who's wrong. Sometimes it's doing what you have to do to fix it, because you value the person more than your pride or ego. Wanting to talk to him and wanting him back but doing a stand off just to prove a point hurts more and causes more damage than good in the end. If you can't overcome this sort of stuff because neither wants to make the first move, then your relationship isn't solid enough to withstand problems that arise. Did he cheat or do something big or was it petty? click to expand


    I did forgive him for more minor infractions that occurred during the course of the relationship. However he repeated a behaviour that I had warned him was a prohibitive offence in my books. He did it again a couple of times and at that point I would no longer tolerate it.

    Then I found out a couple of months later he’d seen a few people and at this point I cut off completely. click to expand

    If he was seeing other people, then why would you want him back? click to expand
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    ☹️
  • Posted by Ariqua
    Posted by exsqueezeme
    Posted by Lioness18881
    Posted by Ariqua
    I will never make the first move in this situation.

    Then you don’t love them, honestly.

    If he doesn't, does that mean he doesn't love her either? Or does it mean he's just too stubborn. click to expand


    The reason I’m not willing to reach out right now is because he was in the wrong and messed up astronomically in my books. I would never want to continue a relationship allowing my partner to think that I stand for such nonsense. Ever. Call it prideful but I call it self respect and loving myself over and above everything.
    I always held a hope that he would realise his mistake and at least try and right his wrongs but unfortunately it’s been months and I’ve seen no sign of him. click to expand


    What did he do? People make mistakes. And someone you spend your life with will make a lot of mistakes.

    Aquas apologize in their own ways if given the chance. My aqua has always put in effort to change anything I’ve brought up that upset me. But I don’t nag him or punish him when he does something wrong. I bring it up calmly and let it go. Then he goes to work on fixing it.

    Did he do something worth ending what could have been a long fulfillling relationship? click to expand
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    I responded to this question in a reply sent to lioness
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  • Posted by Lioness18881
    Posted by exsqueezeme
    Posted by Lioness18881
    Posted by Ariqua
    I will never make the first move in this situation.

    Then you don’t love them, honestly.

    If he doesn't, does that mean he doesn't love her either? Or does it mean he's just too stubborn. click to expand


    The reason I’m not willing to reach out right now is because he was in the wrong and messed up astronomically in my books. I would never want to continue a relationship allowing my partner to think that I stand for such nonsense. Ever. Call it prideful but I call it self respect and loving myself over and above everything.
    I always held a hope that he would realise his mistake and at least try and right his wrongs but unfortunately it’s been months and I’ve seen no sign of him. click to expand

    If you care for someone it's not always about who's right and who's wrong. Sometimes it's doing what you have to do to fix it, because you value the person more than your pride or ego. Wanting to talk to him and wanting him back but doing a stand off just to prove a point hurts more and causes more damage than good in the end. If you can't overcome this sort of stuff because neither wants to make the first move, then your relationship isn't solid enough to withstand problems that arise. Did he cheat or do something big or was it petty? click to expand
    click to expand


    I did forgive him for more minor infractions that occurred during the course of the relationship. However he repeated a behaviour that I had warned him was a prohibitive offence in my books. He did it again a couple of times and at that point I would no longer tolerate it.

    Then I found out a couple of months later he’d seen a few people and at this point I cut off completely.
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    Current ones are withering away in to nothingness
  • Sad chanclas.
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  • Posted by pinkbird03
    The more time that passes, the more likely he forgets all about you.

    I make my aqua ex think of me allllll day long. Morning to night. Thinking he’s addicted but who knows 🤷🏻‍♀️


    How do you make the ex think about you?