I've already asked this in the libra moon forum but am curious for cancer sun/venus signs input.

This man, he has a girlfriend yet continues to message /drunk text/ and initiate hang outs with me and who knows how many other girls.
It seems he's obviously not satisfied with his gf - so why is he even with her in the first place? they've already been together for 6 months.
He is a cancer sun, but wow his actions are not loyal at all!!

he has a girlfriend yet continues to message /drunk text/ and initiate hang outs with me and who knows how many other girls.
It seems he's obviously not satisfied with his gf - so why is he even with her in the first place?
mm i know a cancer sun cancer venus who is still holding on - while he has another girlfriend. I know he has been disloyal in the past, and even now has acted towards me in a way his girlfriend wouldn't approve of (asking to hang out one on one etc). The thing is, the whole time he wasn't dating anyone he didn't try to see me, but we did hook up.

Because of his behaviour - yea I think he's got me held as "backup" only because our friendship has become so much stronger since he's dating someone else lol.
physical, mental, spiritual etc. whats the thing that makes you "love" the other person?


For me it will definitely stem from a feeling of that person understanding me and valuing my values.
i love long hair, free spirited people, family orientated, caring
physical, mental, spiritual etc!

even just a crush, whats the thing that makes you "love" them?
to me it sounds like he has feelings for you. You on the other hand have feelings for someone else.
Any water sign would bail on that as fast as they could if they believed there was no chance to change things - relationship wise.
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why does an Aries Venus like the chase?



dont know if we "like" the chase. Its more or less a natural instinct. we see what we want and we go after it
pisces here and an aries venus. no i wouldn't do this. I don't understand the whole "pretending to be your friend so your own friends dont make a move thing". I know a cancer friend who would pretend he always hangs out with me, but in reality never did hahahahah.

The only thing i would do is joke around to a friend that someone is my boyfriend/girlfriend if i like them, and my friend knows it too
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Ok well that's not how i work I respect that. But we couldn't be friends. That's fine :-) You need to find someone like you i guess :-)


So you like to gossip about other people and their life? You don't want to talk about your life or the other person's life who you're speaking to?


All the above. oh yeah ...I do want to talk about the other person and their life. I want to talk about others too though.

I have issues speaking about myself. I find it hard if i don't know the person well. Also you find ...well I have only one me...i mean if i meet five peeps at a party wouldn't have the same convo over and over?? I speak about me once that day I am done! Yeah i want to hear about all about you..and how your life your family your friends etc ...but that means talking about people not related to me...and then your friends friends ..cuz you KNOW your friends have been coming to you with their problems..(well my friends do)...


I tend to worry if i talk about myself i am ...being too self centered..it seems ...i dunno

Mostly i just let the convo flow..

You would possibly hate me.
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I totally agree with you here! I hate talking about myself. I'd much rather hear the entertaining lives of others. Not in a bad cookiemonstery way, I just am incredibly curious, about everyone and it takes the pressure off of making sure you're interesting enough
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Posted by firefis1996
So i've noticed that all my aquarian friends have somewhat "left" me. For example one was a uni friend, who i got along with really well for the whole year, now that its holidays i haven't heard from her in over a month.

Another one i met online and we became good friends for 2-3 months. Suddenly she also disappeared and has become an acquaintance.

and theres another one who has done the same.

What is this and why?

I haven't seen this recurring pattern in any other sign. What are the motives behind this? do pisces and aquarius just not mingle well? because I've always felt we do get along really well.


Have you tried reaching out to them?

I kind of read it as ..it's always her doing that. Some people are less ...giving socially. I don't know that is the case. I read it as if the op had not been the operator ..the relationship would have sunk. You can hold the ball on your own for a while...in friendships...then you have to throw it ..it doesn't always come back.
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the friendships were always mutual. I am not a type to chase after friends, I've always been quite shy and if i feel not 100% comfortable i will just leave it alone. No i haven't tried reaching out to them. ON some level it doesn't entirely bother me, i have heaps of other friends, and dont want to waste it on sketchy ones
Posted by bumboklatt
We get along but sometimes Pisces get the wrong idea of friendship

Our friendship isn't emotional and trusting like yours

Our friendship is understanding and respecting individuality

Sometimes you guys can get persistant or show too much emotion for us to be comfortable


thank you very helpful
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Posted by bumboklatt
We get along but sometimes Pisces get the wrong idea of friendship

Our friendship isn't emotional and trusting like yours

Our friendship is understanding and respecting individuality

Sometimes you guys can get persistant or show too much emotion for us to be comfortable


But If you respected individuality, wouldn't you accept that Pisces are emotional?
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I think its referring to the fact pisces express their emotions and want others to feel them to. maybe aquarius doesn't like the baggage?
So i've noticed that all my aquarian friends have somewhat "left" me. For example one was a uni friend, who i got along with really well for the whole year, now that its holidays i haven't heard from her in over a month.

Another one i met online and we became good friends for 2-3 months. Suddenly she also disappeared and has become an acquaintance.

and theres another one who has done the same.

What is this and why?

I haven't seen this recurring pattern in any other sign. What are the motives behind this? do pisces and aquarius just not mingle well? because I've always felt we do get along really well.
pisces are walking contradictions until we switch on - and when we switch on other people will know it. considering she's definitely still out there and playing with her values and the consequences, she hasn't made much effort to really help herself.
you're a smart guy. she may not want to hurt you, but with the life style she's living she will.
that sounds very nice! but the "secret admirer" may be a set back, does she know it will be you?


Pisces, and any sign, NEED other interests apart from relationships. Without your own hobbies, you will be dependent on others and at the same time, incredibly boring. I urge you to find something, a sport, a social group, music, art etc etc, that will take your mind away from people and give you a chance to EXPRESS. pisces are creative people
and i never even understood this until i tried it myself but doing something expressive with yourself helps immensely. Even sport is expressive and a form of creation. you're working on your body and your skills.
Don't go out and get hammered - for a pisces especially - once your hooked onto this its an absolute disaster to the amazing energy you actually are!
You hold so much power to love and benefit people that if you were to party to hard, you will lose this and swim downstream.
I understand your sex thing, and it might even make the pain worse.
My best advice for you my friend, like i said above, is to start finding some passions of yours and work with them by the sounds it
" I have no interest in anything and I feel a horrible tearing inside of me"
- you're on the verge of downstream. Swim upstream fellow fish! A break up is rough of course! But when you focus on yourself (your highest self), you will attract the right relationships into your life
Thank you so much for all our answers everyone. yes I KNOW how pathetic i sound but srsly I'm so curious.

anyway to clear things up - we ARE friends, and have been friends with benefits in the past

no I'm not chasing him, i dont go out of my way at all to talk to him anymore (only i think about him a LOT)

I actually know what his hidden agenda is, i was merrily curious to see what others will come up with in regards to his star sign.
This cancer man i like (hehe i think we all know by now)
has a gf. Yet the other morning he messaged me asking me, and me alone, to go out fishing with him. He has also been keeping track of my whereabouts occasionally and still comes into my work to see me. I'm flattered, but why is he still doing all this with a girlfriend?

Posted by PiscesFish123
Pisces male here, I've had many cancer friends throughout life from childhood to adulthood. I'm speaking man to man friendships. How come it always seemed like I made them insecure? They always seem to be comparing themselves to me and as humble as I am, I can't help the fact that my light may shine brighter than theirs, and they take this as a personal offense.

Why so insecure cancer? I even had one who literally tried at every opportunity to bring me down or try to bully his way to superiority. Even my calm understanding of his true insecurity seemed to destroy him. Like even by not reacting I was superior. Maybe it's our otherworldliness that intimidates you all.

Would love some insight.




this friend of yours is INCREDIBLY insecure and what do insecure people do? bring down people they KNOW are more confident than them, and when you show you dont give a flying f, they will try harder. its dark energy trying to create more dark energy. drop this friend - you dont need this type of toxic relationship
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Posted by moongirljj
Might be true of Scorpios, but I don't think thats true of all water signs. It also sounds very much like a male perspective, I doubt this would be true of female water signs.


Thats true for cancer and pisces. Its just that cancer and pisces want you to think that only scorpios are interested in manipulation
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very well said!