Motivation, motivation, and more motivation!!! Don't waste your life. Get inspired! Be strict with yourself if that's what's necessary to shift your habits.
It's always been hard for me to commit because there are so many delightful possibilities to pour my passion into. There's a massive scope to be explored and committing can put restrictions on that. I love exploring the terrain of someone's heart or a vision that came from someone's heart. I'd be satisfied submitting the rest of my existence to this with no commitment. It takes a very special person to make me willingly submit myself to them
Your healing package is an abundance of beauty, serenity, harmony, and joy. Personally, I take full advantage of my minds ability to produce adrenaline and find my remedy in a skydive or exploration of the ocean.

That friendship was not the end all-be all this gigantic Earth had to offer you. The are so many people,places, cuisines, languages, sunsets, night skies, mountains, oceans, museums, books, poems, artistic performances, natural wonders, and animals to see, feel, and hear. The thing is healing holds out its hand and instead of taking it, we walk away farther from it. Don't sulk, don't regret, don't mourn the loss of an idea for too long: just let go and move foward. You've got more love to give.
Posted by SweetLily_89
By realizing it's more of a reflection of them.

Don't make the mistake of allowing someone else's behavior affect the way you feel about yourself. No matter the reason, he chose to act out in that manner and that is His problem. Don't make it yours.

You deserve better and you've been blessed enough that this man paved the way for a better man to step up to the plate.


@caplady28 If it's not pushing power and peace into you then let it go and don't look back. And don't you ever underestimate the powersource of your pain. It will transform your body, mind, and soul for the best if you let it...a combination of toughness and vulnerability will do wonders
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Posted by Freetobe007
Also, find healthy ways to express your anger. Get it out instead of bottling up. Write it down in a poem book or make it inspiration for a piece of art.

Since I was a child, whenever I've wanted to cry or show anger, I would dance. It brought something special and raw to my dancing and it helped me create the relatable choreography. I would use my pain to mold the details of a piece and it ALWAYS works. It's therapeutic. Maybe take up boxing if you're feeling angry. Pour out positive interactions, they'll balance out your negative emotion.


Love your advice
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☺️ Thanks, love
Also, find healthy ways to express your anger. Get it out instead of bottling up. Write it down in a poem book or make it inspiration for a piece of art.

Since I was a child, whenever I've wanted to cry or show anger, I would dance. It brought something special and raw to my dancing and it helped me create relatable choreography. I would use my pain to mold the details of a piece and it ALWAYS works. It's therapeutic. Maybe take up boxing if you're feeling angry. Pour out positive interactions, they'll balance out your negative emotions.

You've got to recognize the unique power of your experience yet humbly recognize that your experience is merely an echo of human existence. You're far from the first or last person to be submerged in that type of pain. In all of mankind's visions of grandeur, we are not the most sophisticated beings and we never will be. Chalk things up to others being imperfect human beings who are often too crippled by their own pain or pride or emotional blindness to be better. Do not make their baggage apart of your journey.
I've counseled so many friends on this.

The key is forgiveness. Forgive as soon as possible. Don't hold onto the pain or anger or sense of rejection or bitterness. Don't stay tethered to it. Don't make it a factor in your future relationships.

You have to be humble enough to accept his imperfect, unsatisfactory being and accept the way it has impacted the timeline of your life. Try to mute the loud, painful anger in your head by considering the moments that led up to him cheating, moments that occurred before you two even met.

You also have to make it a point to replace the negative emotions he's given you with positive, hopeful experiences. Walk/think/speak with a purpose. Pursue exciting, new experiences that make you grateful for the sequence of events in your life.
Hell no. I don't eff with that creepy mess.
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There's absolutely no necessary reason to have those statutes up outside of a museum. The confederacy lost. Those men were fighting to treat black people like cattle; for the "right" to demhumanize others and rape children. For the "right" to reduce black men to breeding machines who were forced to force themselves on black women and to fight each other brutally (Mandingo fights). They wanted to be able to lagally feed slave babies to crocodiles. For treetrunks sake, they made black men fight in war, with tattered clothes and shoes, for their own oppression, the oppression of their children, and the oppression of their parents.

Those men were evil. It's a smack in the face to keep their statues up.


You forgot the part where those same black men were the first line of defense, aka, their human shields.
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Absolutely. Those "'men" were fighting for the legal right to rob people of their childhood, their womanhood, their manhood, their harmony, their confidence, to physically steal their family, to make them earn their riches while they let them starve to death. They would gang rape a black slave woman, beat her if she fought, then make her work hard the next day. They would rape a LITTLE BOY, have someone fetch him in the middle of the night, and his own parents were powerless to stop their child from being abused. Sometimes his parents were sold while his sick "master" was raping him then making him work crazy hours the next day.


They fought for the right to commit every type of abuse imaginable under law.

I don't understand how people want blacks to get over racism yet pridefully want to keep public reminders of racism.
There's absolutely no necessary reason to have those statutes up outside of a museum. The confederacy lost. Those men were fighting to treat black people like cattle; for the "right" to demhumanize others and rape children. For the "right" to reduce black men to breeding machines who were forced to force themselves on black women and to fight each other brutally (Mandingo fights). They wanted to be able to lagally feed slave babies to crocodiles. They wanted black women to use their breast milk to feed white babies then feed her baby last. They wanted the "right" to auction off black people, stare at their naked bodies, and decide how they would benefit their chickens, their friend's chickens, and their crops. For treetrunks sake, they made black men fight in war, with tattered clothes and shoes, for their own oppression, the oppression of their children, and the oppression of their parents.

Those men were evil. It's a smack in the face to keep their statues up.
Posted by Mike79
Some times being out of romantic relationships feels really good ... would you agree ?


Hell yes. Being single means you get to do what you want, when you want, how you want, as much as you want without having to factor in someone's wants and needs. If you do what you want, when you want, how you want, as much as you want with a SO, then you're probably an inconsiderate, insensitive πŸ’© SO. Being single means you get to map out your whole life without considering someone else's desired destinations. My advice: fall deeply in love with life and don't stop until you find someone who can authentically, calmly rival that passionate intensity. Don't just eagerly offer your creative, sensual, romantic side for anyone and don't waste your time with mediocre connections.

When I was single, my time was consumed by my career, constant family events, women's confrences, entrepreneurship confrences, dance workshops, belly dancing shows, canoeing, festivals, concerts, constant weekend trips, constant partying, biking, hiking, art exhibitions, runway shows, community soccer games. I got to plan my weeks and holidays out according to my own self-focused desires. Now that I'm taken, that flexibility is limited and I've naturally fallen into domestic duties. Some of those fun activities take a backseat depending on what we've got planned/the likes of your new boo. There's also the influx of new connections you may make through a significant other. Those connections need nurturing and require time/extended upkeep. For ex., before my girls and I would be planning for a boat party for the weekend. Now a BBQ with my boyfriend's fam at his aunt's house takes priority. You also can't entertain certain encounters and invitations in a fun, flirty, carefree way when you have a SO's feelings to take care of.
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Generally, on a wide scale; Sags. Geminis seem to rub many people the wrong way and they may prefer the clear-cut nature of Sags as opposed to the common "two-faced" nature of Gems.

Personally speaking, Gemini. It's practically impossible for me to resist Geminis/strong Gemini placements even if the person has done something effed up. For ex., I know this Gemini chick who pursued a relationship with this great guy/used him as her side cookiemonster while she was married. I realize that's treetrunked up, but deep down, I can't resist her cool, warm, hilarious vibe. Same with my Taurus sun/Gem moon bestie and a Pisces sun/Gem moon close friend. I have a really hard time staying mad or annoyed with Gems or people with strong Gem placements because I effing adore them.
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How about instead, you ask yourself what's healthy and harmonious?

Don't beat yourself up. Learn from it and move toward. Commit to not doing it again. Ask yourself why you have to be honest to benefit from that situation


I don't feel Worthy.
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If I may ask, why not?

Feel free to PM me if it's too personal

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I have never dated a fellow fire sign. What's was you experience. I think the sag/sag would be to relax to get far, the sag/aries may be a match made in heaven, and the sag/leo oh boy.


I'm a Leo sun with Sag moon and I have dated an Aries, a Leo, an Aries/Taurus cusp, and a Sagittarius.

Aries man/Leo woman

Ultimately a dull connection. Massive chemistry in the beginning but it fizzled out fast. Mind you, we were about 18 or 19 and he was one of those gorgeous men who was used to getting female attention/not having to work to keep it. I think he relied on his looks more than his intellect which bored me.

Leo man/Leo woman

For the most part, great experience full of liveliness, fun, and level 3 intensity. Intensity that did not transcend past the flesh. Intensity that glowed mainly due to our eyes, hands, mouth, hips, ears, tongue...nonetheless, my soul would only yield so much to him. We had crazy fights. He didn't know how to handle my soft, submissive feminine side.

Aries/Taurus cusp with Leo woman

This was a very special connection. We were always very chill with each other but there was this smoldering force building and lingering in our interactions. We would get lost in each other's gaze at any random moment. It's like we would do exciting things but there was always this mutual sense of woven calmness. He was hyper-masculine and it brought out my soft, vulnerable, submissive side. Sometimes I'd feign submission just to bask in his dominance because I loved watching/hearing/feeling him be a leader and assert his power. Things didn't work out because he seemed to have wanted something serious and I did not. It felt like a threat to my freedom. Dude would invite me over for dinner after work and have a bath ready for me with candles on the ledge. He invited me to Paris within month 2, offered to fly me out while he was away on business, wanted me to meet his closest friends before month 2, and even mentioned me moving in. It was too much for me. But damn, I adored his tongue...

Sagittarius man/Leo woman

This is a treetrunking fairytale. He is so good to my mind, body, and soul. Before him, I didn't know imperfections could be so utopian. He always knows just what to do with my sassy mouth. 😊 He's tough and soft with me at the same time. There's this sensation of understanding another's bottomless craving for freedom which has been rare in our lives. We can plunge to the dark depths of things yet blissfully enjoy the uncomplex, sunny surface. Just his whole vibe is a remedy, a shot, a fix, a challenge, an elixir. I am in love with this man.
Yes. I'd rather have little to no company rather than trash company. I'd rather surround myself with books, connect with animals, reconnect with nature, and travel while waiting for quality people instead of settling for a weak, replaceable wolf pack.
How about instead, you ask yourself what's healthy and harmonious?

Don't beat yourself up. Learn from it and move foward. Commit to not doing it again. Ask yourself why you have to be dishonest to benefit from that situation
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I'm a Pisces Venus, I don't agree but I've heard the "you are a heartbreaker " more than many times.


Same. Guys often mistake my ability to sense what they enjoy/desire/need and bring it as chemistry.
@Capmercury87 I think this post is your pain evolving into a different type of monster. I'm not sure what you think you're accomplishing by elongating these ideas, but it's likely that you're feeding that monster and giving it the strength to devour your positive, progressive, peaceful thoughts. Pursue something better.
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For those of you that assumed what's go if on: I'm sorry you don't have perspective.
Every single Pisces Venus I know and have been close to have treated me like butter, abused me, lied to me, been the reason why my bf cheated on me. Everything that a butterty friend or parent could do, it was done and all with a Pisces Venus.
Oh there is forgiveness, but a Pisces Venus will forever be a Felicia.


Everyone has a glitch effect somehow at some point once you get them on a deeply intimate level. It's inevitible. Emotional malfunction is human nature, not a matter of your Venus sign. Some people submit to the nonfulfillment, others refuse to. It's not a matter of a Venus placement.

We can't control who others are and how they function. We can only control what we let it do to our internal existence. Let it go or you're gonna carry that weight πŸ™