I view that less as pride and more as confirmation that the guy is reciprocating interest. Astrology set aside, what woman wants to be the one constantly reaching out first and initiating communication? I sure as hell don't know any.

How did I handle that when I was single?

If a guy was not intiating conversation or putting in blatant effort to spend some form of time together, then I would swiftly smother any enthusiasm or hope I had for us. If a guy wants you, he will make it known. He will make time for you and the effort to reach out will be undeniably noticeable. Especially if he's a grown ass man.
Pertaining to the dominant Pisces placement specifically...

Although they usually mean well, they have a tendency to halt the path of discovery by inserting their speculations and ideas where something else needs to grow and that can impose the spiritual process. I think it comes from their curiosity/nosiness and desire to be active in problems where logically and realistically, their presence obstructs. 😬 So, Pisces can be very sweet, protective, and caring so naturally, they want to concern themselves with their S.O.'s problems, but the cure and solution is not always found within Pisces gestures. They may try to give you a map that's ink is their intuition; their, sometimes flawed/inaccurate intuition and emotion drafted that map and it can place people at the wrong destination. I.e., I know a Pisces personal assistant who essentially encouraged her client to stay with a woman who was married for the whole first 2 years of their relationship. She thinks she's helping with her suggestions and hopeful advice but she's inadvertently keeping her client where he should not be with her interfering/meddling from a distance. *she's friends with the woman*

Anyhow, the main point is that it's very Piscean to position themselves where they're maneuvering gears that they're not meant to maneuver. They're also a paradox which requires contrasting methods to grow with them. Be careful about how, what, and when you vocalize.
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1. Aries
2. Leo
3. Gem

Worst
1. Scorpio
2. Cancer
3. Pisces


This!

I wouldn't advise dominant water sign placements unless there's enough air or earth to balance out their chart. As friends, they are lovely and the situation is manageable, but in a mentally/emotionally intimate connection romantically....😬 What I have found is that the mechanics of their personality can feel extremely burdensome to a Sag moon because a lot of what they do, how they form firm opinions, and how they proceed is rooted in emotion, not logic. While they tend to be intuitive, often times the concept of intuition is the mask that covers their true motivation; untamed emotion. Intuition didn't lead them to a conclusion, unchecked emotion and the desire to soothe or cater to a feeling did. So there's this constant detangling of emotional messes that don't even have to occur.

It's insufferable, draining, and Sag moons may not have the gentle patience to deal with it. They require a certain measure of sensitivity and emotional coddling that we may not bring which causes issues on both sides; we think they're needy, they think we're insensitive/not delivering emotionally. Being interlinked with them can be so taxing that a Sag moon may be unwilling to meet their emotional needs or even just lose interest in the process. They also may feel we're too brash and blunt if we call them out on their butter (tango of passive aggression/manipulation attempts).
My very best friend has a Gemini moon. We're inseparable!
If he was just a boyfriend then insecurity would be a factor but because he's your actual husband, I doubt it. I don't think he's worried about you divorcing him for the nutcase who used to call you 200 times a day.

Leo's are generally unstoppably, EXTREMELY protective and if there's reason to believe someone is a threat to a loved one's physical safety or internal existence, they will never get that sunny, light-hearted warmth. Heck, I once shoved an elbow into someone's eye socket for treetrunking with my big sister and it started with the icy glares. It might be as simple as verbally backing you but they also may feel like they need to have their Leonine claws sharp and ready to stop someone in their tracks. If that's the case, that "sharpening" is going on with or without your approval. Some Leos get creative and never even lay a hand on someone, but quietly, discreetly go straight for their future.

Anyhow, @LibraMurda, just do your best to make the awkward tension less obvious for your daughter. I doubt your Leo hubby will ever give more than the bare minimum of good behavior after everything your ex put you through.
Certainly the treetrunk not!

The icy glare is the least of it and there's really nothing you can do to deintensify the protective aspect of a Leo's nature. You can sprinkle some charm on the situation or maybe take precautions to avoid a clash for specific events but because we are so fixed, his long term behavior is out of your hands. Especially considering there's something in your ex's nature that makes him high risk for causing you pain and stress. And especially if there's a sense that you struggle to stick up for yourself/if that person feels like they can abuse/misuse your trust and walk all over you. It looks possible that the Leo has already decided that he will be prepared to pounce and rip apart his jugular. And knowing how your ex operates, he might be that much more vicious with him hence the murderous look on his face. Harmony is plan A, but I'd be willing to bet he has plan B and maybe even plan C if that doesn't work out. He is never going to be cool with the psychotic coward who put his hands on you. You might as well let go of that hope right now. And honestly what I know of Scorpios, your ex would most likely misuse that gesture to scheme and plot so it's best your hubby doesn't let his guard down anyway.
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Are you familiar with what an empath is and this energy works?

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Yes. I can literately feel the climate of people's minds. It's like watching overcast transform a sky. The emotion radiates off of them.

It's puzzling because it's like these layers of sadness invite themselves to me even if I decline the invitation, it's like the small signs of vocal tone, facial expression, or partial statements echo their pain. I can feel the aftereffects of evil on their souls. I can sense the demolition and destruction dwelling inside of people. I can identify exactly what type of poison is spreading in someone's existence. It shows me where exactly the cracks are in someone's confidence. It's an equation among souls, before logic can do its thing and it's exhausting tbh.
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im a sun leo aries moon venus caner



How do u handle dating? Do u like the chase or do the chasing? Do u like compliments or shy away if someone do? Do u find nurturing ppl annoying or do u like being cater to? Lol those are some of my questions... asking for a friend lol
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Not sure if this will help you, but when I was single, here's how I handled dating...

It was all fun and games but I was seldom serious. Because I am such a romantic at heart and infatuated with appealing all five senses of a man and receiving the reaction, dating was mainly about exploring satisfaction and seduction. I enjoyed coy flirtation, witty one-liners, blushing and making someone blush, dinner dates, having someone to share affection with but I was so madly in love with freedom that it was difficult for men to catch and keep my attention. I typically never unlocked a certain side of me because I was constantly craving a man who could excite more than my eyes and body.

I didn't really care to chase or be chased/always valued reciprocity. If we weren't equally going after the other then something felt missing connection wise. I don't care too much for compliments especially if they're shallow and passionless or solely based on the gratification of his dick. I'd rather a man show me that he likes my____ than tell me. Nurturing men tend to bring out my soft side more quickly and easily and I enjoy a nurturing environment between us two.

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Any Leo sun, sag moon, cancer Venus peeps in here?


Close! Cancer rising, Leo sun, Sag moon, Pisces Venus
Another huge thing for me is being cognisant of the transference of energy. How is the interaction impacting their mind and yours? If it's conclusively negative or generally not fruitful, then I'm only willing to offer a limited amount of time, energy, and interest. If I detect excessive bullbutter or destructive personality habits then I automatically exclude those people from the power source of my capability and I save that energy for another place and time. Having a permanent or long-term place in my brain is a privilege that I do not just hand out to anyone. Don't just offer up the crop of your psyche to anyone and be intentional about how you harvest your thoughts and who reaps the benefits of that harvest so that what you have to give is plentiful and not depleted by butterty people with butter presences.

So basically, don't give people the chance to contaminate your positivity and ability to outpoor positivity. Get in the habit of identifying a worthless attendance of someone and don't hesitate to dispose their presence. Get in the habit of filtering butter vibes, butter presences, and butter interactions. If you absorb people's energy then you must have a way to psychologically ring that energy out on a regular basis. Don't ever be puppeteered by negative emotion. Be intentional about protecting and preserving a fruitful spirit and it creates much more to give and share.

Deep down, I love to serve people emotionally and get them to a joyous place so positivity and good vibrations are the fuel to that. Apart of it may have to do with upbringing because I come from a huge, social family plus a strong sense of military community which came with countless events where we would help host and make sure everyone was having a good time/generally being hospitable and outpouring a vibe that can be appreciated. As far as it comes to attitude, give yourself a limited amount of time to be upset but then mute the emotions and start taking action. Don't wallow in negativity, don't feed it, don't let it grow large enough to devour positive things in your brain. Give yourself enough time to process the negative aspects but always pursue a positive result, even if it's not initially what you had in mind.
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How do I be friends with him now? I don't like this awkwardness and I know I ignored him and avoided him. How do I make things okay?


Don't.

A platonic friendship is not realistic when there's an "instant attention" simmering below all those acts of friendliness.


Posted by MiZLeo
He probably initially liked you and thought you might be dating material but as he got to know you a little better he decided that he liked you more as a friend than a dating partner. That's kind of what it sounds like. I have done this too. He wants to keep you as a friend but doesn't want more than that from you and now you're being all sour about it so he's backing off since you told him you needed your space from him. He backed off initially when he decided he just wanted you as a friend as to not hurt you and establish that since he could probably see you were wanting more. OR he just wanted to be friends in the first place but sometimes us Leo's tend to come off strong and people think we are flirting when we aren't. We are just trying to get to know you better.


👍🏽 Basically.
So, there's levels to this. If he is hungry for your touch, your voice, your vibe, your presence, then he will come back. The Leo man I know feels starved without my love, in his words, which is why my ignoring of him brings him back. You have to know just how to appeal to his soul before his body and mind. That is key.
Mine did.

I ignored him because I was over his existence but this man and I were together for years so in terms of having a grip of one's heart, I did/do.

If I may ask, what makes you feel compelled to ignore him?
@ZuriScorp There's no need to approach him. He said what he needed to say. You said what you needed to say. He'd like you to settle with a physical tie and an unreturned desire while he enjoys your friendship. You'd like a side of him he's not willing to offer. It's time to part ways. Take that anger to a boxing ring or call up a friend for girl chat/venting session but DO NOT bring it to him.

Discount this if I'm wrong but it sounds like you're holding him accountable and responsible for your emotional state as if it was/is his duty to make sure you end up in a good place emotionally. Love, that's not what he agreed to. You can't expect the same emotional regard and consideration that a boyfriend would give you from a "friend" who won't stop you from being willingly used. Personally, I don't think a true friend will cross that line with you unless you're actually dating.
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Not only that but it's treetrunked up that he essentially got you excited and built up your hopes, verbally communicating a specific conclusion between you two, then went back on his word. Maybe that hurt he showed also came with guilt because he encouraged his "friend" to be stuck in a situationship, offering unlimited sexual creativity, knowing damn well that a situationship is all he was ever going to offer and logically he understands that was a butterty move. Darling, friends don't lead you into emotional destruction for their own selfish desires. The least he could do was comfort you through tears he caused. I don't think you should be giving him brownie points for that.

With that being said, I need you to understand that any further connection is you embracing the friend zone. This has evolved past friendship; you've made a physical tie and you've made a non-platonic emotional tie. A regular friendship is no longer realistic especially when he starts dating someone. Guys like to play house too but you are worth more than "playing house" with and this sort of artificial, impartial romance which is based on the needs of a genital. Cutting him off is most likely the best overall option. Find someone else who will appreciate your being not just spoil you with the facade of appreciating your whole being.


Thank you so much! This was one of the realist things I've read.. what you're saying makes so much sense. Now, I'm conflicted. I knew I was hurt, but now I'm MAD. I'm unsure of how to approach him.. I know my mouth can get me in trouble when Im mad and I start saying anything just to hit a sore spot. I know that's not the thing to do in this situation tho
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You're welcome!

You have every right to be mad but in all honestly, you consented to that situation. 😁 You agreed to these risks and you may not have realized at the time but you both jeprodized the friendship by approaching FWB. I get your anger because on some level, he greedily valued his genital over your feelings but in all fairness, you valued your genital over your own future feelings too and you kinda, possibly, definitely put yourself in harm's way by accepting and normalizing this situationship.

No disrespect or judgment, but you gotta do a better job at protecting your spirit.
Personally, I would tell him just out of respect for his feelings/so he wouldn't feel like something was going on behind his back. But also because my boyfriend and I strongly value transparency and openness.

We had a similar situation where a woman my boyfriend used to date was basically begging him to give things another chance, knowing that he is with me. I would have never known had he not sat me down, showed me the messages, asked me how I wanted him to respond, then blocked her from all social media right in front of me. That was a declaration of loyalty and massive respect. It meant a lot that he was willing to volunteer that information and invite me into his private spaces even though he didn't have to and it made us feel like a stronger team.
Family should never be a burden, especially if that family member used to wipe your ass and clean your vomit or put up with your 2 a.m. wailing. If that fam molded your childhood, how can you just discard them like a "burden" when they need you? Is it really too much to expect for an extra hot plate, a safe, comfortable place to sleep, clean towels, and a damn bath?

What we do is function in shifts, as a family unit. We have regular family meetings where we discuss our schedules to set a care plan. All the uncles, aunties, grandchildren, and children get involved. If possible, we'll have at least up to four people in the house at once so that all the responsibility doesn't fall on one person. Sometimes they just need someone to hang around and check in, it's not like you have to sit there and watch them in the same room for hours.

I can't imagine sending my fam to a retirement home. People get physically and sexually abusef there or straight up neglected
Not only that but it's treetrunked up that he essentially got you excited and built up your hopes, verbally communicating a specific conclusion between you two, then went back on his word. Maybe that hurt he showed also came with guilt because he encouraged his "friend" to be stuck in a situationship, offering unlimited sexual creativity, knowing damn well that a situationship is all he was ever going to offer and logically he understands that was a butterty move. Darling, friends don't lead you into emotional destruction for their own selfish desires. The least he could do was comfort you through tears he caused. I don't think you should be giving him brownie points for that.

With that being said, I need you to understand that any further connection is you embracing the friend zone. This has evolved past friendship; you've made a physical tie and you've made a non-platonic emotional tie. A regular friendship is no longer realistic especially when he starts dating someone. Guys like to play house too but you are worth more than "playing house" with and this sort of artificial, impartial romance which is based on the needs of a genital. Cutting him off is most likely the best overall option. Find someone else who will appreciate your being not just spoil you with the facade of appreciating your whole being.