Love the intro and yes Caps make us all types of confused.

How do you get a Cappy man to get to that emotional point of opening up?

I know he trusts me, I'm certain he is feeling 80% secure with me, I've never let him down, I'm always there for him.
He had a horrible divorce 3 yrs ago that he still deals with because of his child and the mothers a cookiemonster. You can say hes a bit damaged. He's told me in the past he's not ready for a relationship but hes been acting different lately like more trusting, more relaxed, more open, I oddly got a hug the other day, emojis with texts, he's way more passionate in bed, he's trying to please me more in general, he's asking me to help him around his home, he mention future hangouts on specific dates now, etc...

So how do I get him to emotionally open up or admit he cares about me? Even better how do we transition to the ready for a relationship point?

I'm stuck on both. But i'm usually reliving the great moments during the time apart and its just like I fall more and more. My Cap goes on business trips that last weeks and I will be so chill like he didn't exist yet I'd be so happy for no reason waiting to see that smile of his again.

I am hoping the same is happening to him because Caps hide their feelings real good. His venus is in aqua my venus is in gemini

I have my own story with a cap guy but he did the same to me. In the beginning he took forever to reply back. Even if it was 2 days or a week later, he wouldn't even say anything about taking so long to text back.

Now he replys faster and apologizes if he took to long or will tell me he was busy and will specify what he was doing.

It took me a long time to get to this point with him and alot of issues to cross. But I think he does it now because he is letting his walls down more with me and he cares more. Yet again you never know with a cap man.

My cancer self is usually posting in the Capricorn page. Them Cappys are hard to crack.

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seems correct

What are the odds that they do all that and much more but won't admit to you or themselves that they are into you? Can they do all that and only want to be friends?

Also can a Cap be really into you, even have big feelings for you but still wont be ready for a relationship?

caps are hesitant

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I see that and read that a lot. But whyyy?? (rhetorical question)
My Cancer intuition is screaming he's way into me, I guess only my patience, security, support, and time will show me the truth.

Posted by starlord
But uuuuuhm friends do this too. If a person does this but does not try to pursue you, he's most likely not interested in you as anything more than a friend.

He could also do all of this and only be interested in sex. So unless someone actively pursues you and somehow communicate that to you, he's not interested. And that goes for all. In short: if you need to ask, he's not.

starlord who broke your heart and made you so pessimistic... The only reason I ask is because I can spot a treetrunkboy a mile away. I know when i am being used. In this case it's nothing like that so I am obviously stunned on how things are progressing. Back story my last relationship was 6 yrs ago, my choice, cuz men/boys in my city suck. I sometimes don't know whats normal anymore in true dating/relationships. And then I get this Cappy whom is damaged thrown my way and dammit if I have alot of treetrunking questions about his actions.

Posted by DeadInside
seems correct

What are the odds that they do all that and much more but won't admit to you or themselves that they are into you? Can they do all that and only want to be friends?

Also can a Cap be really into you, even have big feelings for you but still wont be ready for a relationship?

For example this piece from https://www.askmyoracle.com/things-that-help-you-win-a-capricorn-mans-heart/


Signs That Show That Capricorn Man Loves You
Here are some signs which confirm that your Capricorn man loves you…..

He opens us with you. He shares his feelings, talks about his life, his relationships and things that are important to him.
He invites you home. He doesn’t really call a woman to his place until and unless he has fallen for her.
He cooks for you. He doesn’t mind spending little time in the kitchen preparing something for you.
He is protective about you. He acts a little possessive.

Asking for a friend 😉... How accurate are all these websites that breakdown down the personality traits of Capricorns, soecifically men?

The how to make him miss you, the steps to open up his heart, the list of things he’ll do if he’s in love with you, like how accurate?

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Nothing about this makes it seem like he is really really interested in you though. Just sounds like he likes to hang out and eat and drink and have sex. As for getting emotionally involved that´s something completely else....

Its only 3 weeks ofcourse it will seem like that but only time will tell

Ofcours but it seems like this is what she as asking about.

And I don´t mean to come off rude, but let´s say I am pessimistic, and you - to me - seem to be VERY optimistic. One year without commitment, and you talk about cracking the cap code and getting to a guy through his penis...

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Yea I haven't cracked any code, I am just talking from my experience theses are the dos and don'ts I went through. And yes I am very optimistic and patient. Sometimes some people need patient people who are not out there looking for a title to make themselves feel whole, at least for me.

Posted by Alswope307
Ughhhh haha so basically i shouldn't initiate another date. Let him come to me, i mean clearly that would help me realize if hes interested or not.
I mean the first time we slept together i had to leave bc i worked early but he had made the comment he didn't mind if i stayed he enjoyed having me. And when i went over this last week to cook for him he was the one who brought up that i could sleep over he just had to work at 11 so he would be up and rushing around slightly early. The night was great, both times we have drank though as well. The last time he had just bought a vape pen and we both tried that right before bed...ended up getting the giggles and then just passed out. lol

But like i said said i haven't heard much from him and hes a bit short when texting. So weird. Im not sure if its just bc hes wanting to keep distance from getting hurt or keeping his options open. Sleeping together before we even had he said once he sleeps with someone and he likes it he typically only sleeps with that one person consistently. So i'm hoping that wasn't a lie. I also feel like i rocked his world by doing some things he hadn't done before in bed... lmao but yeah. Just weird all around. I just hope he thinks i'm still interested if i'm not reaching out.

Girl, kudos to you for not being in a committed relationship. But clearly its like you guys "Are" just not with the title. That's reassuring for you of course...... i just want reassurance like hey, i'm interested lets see where it goes... i'm only sleeping with you right now.
We have already kind of had the talk about no expectations and that we were both interested. So i know i cant bring it up again......maybe in a few weeks if things are still going steady.

Thank you so much for your feedback by the way!!

Capps cant reasurre you for nothing. They are walls. Until you crack them they wont show anything. Once they care for you then you’ll see it but it wont be goey romance stuff. It will be like “how do you like this” “what do you want to watch” “you want me to help you with that” its weird they suddendly want to please you and interact with you more like texting. Thats how they show their soft side.

The short texts is because they are super practical and simple. He will probably respond to a 2 day old text with the simplest of things and not even mention why he didnt answer 2 days ago.

The older Caps dont do the sleeping around from person to person thing.

I once heard a joke to get to a Cap you get to him through his penis. So great sex is a plus. Food too.

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Ughhhh haha so basically i shouldn't initiate another date. Let him come to me, i mean clearly that would help me realize if hes interested or not.
I mean the first time we slept together i had to leave bc i worked early but he had made the comment he didn't mind if i stayed he enjoyed having me. And when i went over this last week to cook for him he was the one who brought up that i could sleep over he just had to work at 11 so he would be up and rushing around slightly early. The night was great, both times we have drank though as well. The last time he had just bought a vape pen and we both tried that right before bed...ended up getting the giggles and then just passed out. lol

But like i said said i haven't heard much from him and hes a bit short when texting. So weird. Im not sure if its just bc hes wanting to keep distance from getting hurt or keeping his options open. Sleeping together before we even had he said once he sleeps with someone and he likes it he typically only sleeps with that one person consistently. So i'm hoping that wasn't a lie. I also feel like i rocked his world by doing some things he hadn't done before in bed... lmao but yeah. Just weird all around. I just hope he thinks i'm still interested if i'm not reaching out.

Girl, kudos to you for not being in a committed relationship. But clearly its like you guys "Are" just not with the title. That's reassuring for you of course...... i just want reassurance like hey, i'm interested lets see where it goes... i'm only sleeping with you right now.
We have already kind of had the talk about no expectations and that we were both interested. So i know i cant bring it up again......maybe in a few weeks if things are still going steady.

Thank you so much for your feedback by the way!!

Capps cant reasurre you for nothing. They are walls. Until you crack them they wont show anything. Once they care for you then you’ll see it but it wont be goey romance stuff. It will be like “how do you like this” “what do you want to watch” “you want me to help you with that” its weird they suddendly want to please you and interact with you more like texting. Thats how they show their soft side.

The short texts is because they are super practical and simple. He will probably respond to a 2 day old text with the simplest of things and not even mention why he didnt answer 2 days ago.

The older Caps dont do the sleeping around from person to person thing.

I once heard a joke to get to a Cap you get to him through his penis. So great sex is a plus. Food too.

Posted by starlord
Nothing about this makes it seem like he is really really interested in you though. Just sounds like he likes to hang out and eat and drink and have sex. As for getting emotionally involved that´s something completely else....

Its only 3 weeks ofcourse it will seem like that but only time will tell

Whats you sun sign?

You kinda invaded his bubble and slept over. Hes distant because hes over thinking the whole thing. Like what it means, where is it going, is she the one.... they have this list in their heads and you have to check off 9 out of 10 for them to committ.

The whole spending alot of time together does not come easy with a Cappy. They love their alone time and space. When they want to settle down is when they will spend more time with you. But still not alot.


Don’t rush him into anything a date for instance. He will come to you if he is interested. Cappys tend to not stay in doing the whole fwb thing. If he wants just sex he wont initiate a date. Dont invite him to your place again, give him space. If he keeps invinting you to his place thats good for you. If he asks to visit your place after being a few times at his, it means he likes you.

Dont bring up the why you disapeared on me topic. It does nothing.

Also dont give more than him in the relationship or move fast. I did that and it bit me in the ass. Mine ghosted me for 3 months for that and another reason but he knows now to never do it again. And i changed alot, i put my emotions away and just gave as mich as he did.

In my case its been back and forth but since day 1 of sex he made me promise not to sleep with anyone else. He likes to drop the “i dont sleep with other women” once every few months. He is super possesive and jeolous. He tends to leave on long business trips so everytime he always jokes like “dont go getting it somewhere else while im gone” he cant committ to me fully just yet and i understand that. Buy my very inuitive cancer also knows he is sooo getting way into me now so its a matter of him being ready. You have to build trust, comfort, security with them and be practical.

They are the slowest sometimes, especially if they have been hurt in the past.

The whole you coming over his place is a big thing for them. Its one of the steps they hold back on when learning to trust you.

They will pull away a lot. Sometimes because of other dramas in their life that you have nothing to do with. And a rare time is when they have feelings for you that they are not sure of. But I will say for not he has other things to deal with.

You need to do you and have your own thing because there will be times they go missing. They like women with their own goals and independence. Because if you wait around for them you'll nag and they don't like that.

I've been dating (no commitment no relationship) a Cappy for a yr now but he's very broken from his past relationship. He's told me in the past he's not ready for a relationship but I see him making small efforts to change that. Either that or he can't help but have feelings for me and he's hiding them. Because Cappys are great at holding back.

My advice have tremendous patience with him.

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I'm here for ya

Cappys how did you get over a hurtful past relationship? Are you really over it? Do you have or had commitment issues?

Since the end of August I have been seeing constantly the time at 11:11 1:11 4:44 2:22 5:55

It has gone from once every few days to twice a day at times. I have literally woken up at 4:44 am. I was manifesting and meditating heavily in the beginning of August. I still manifest here and there but not as much.

My manifestations are very slowly coming to light but these angel numbers are just popping up all the time. I think this is a very good omen for me but I wanted some insight on others experiences.

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Would you pacify someone with promises in an effort to keep them near, even if you had no plans to deliver on those promises?

Yes

But that would be my Pisces self talking (I'm Pisces dominant)

Yeah I can definitely see a Pisces/pisces dominant doing that. Lol

My sons dad doesn’t have any Pisces in his chart. But I’ve wondered about this with him. We were together for 10 years. Still very good friends, love and mutual respect is still there. But a lot of reservations on my end.

As in you're reserved towards him? Is it because he makes promises he doesn't carry out just to keep you around?

My Cap mom always taught me to be able to carry out promises and be a responsible person though, but maybe that's more of a time thing (its the 21st century) than it is with one's natal chart placements.

I think it's more of an upbringing thing first and natal placement thing second. For me, I've got so much Cap in my chart, and a Virgo moon. Rarely, if ever, do I have to modify a promise or duty. I'm driven to deliver upon anything and everything I commit to or give my word on. Super stable.

My sons dad is a cap with cancer moon, aqua Venus.. I feel like his aqua Venus might be part of the reason he’s reluctant to marry. Maybe his cancer moon daydreams about but then his aqua venue shuts that butter down? Idk.

As far as his upbringing... well, that’s a whole other story. He has a lot of childhood trauma which is a big part of why I will always have a soft spot for him, aside from him being my sons father and the man I’ve loved the most in my life.

Your son's dad is me, minus the Cancer moon lol. I'm an Aqua Venus. I'm 28, never had a relationship. There are things that I'd like to do in one, but others, I'm deathly afraid of having all these images taken with a significant other, and committing that much to a person. I think part of it is also having a natal Venus retrograde. A very difficult retrograde placement.

I know I'll marry one day, but it may take some more time.

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Wow reading this makes me think that my cappy journey will be slow and long before any commitment can happen. Hes a venus aqua, pisces moon, whos ex wife left him for no reason. He must be very afraid of committing again.