Posted by shellshocker
I think you've been insecure through this whole relationship and have burdened him with it. You talk about his career, his friends, his personality and how you're not up to par. Were most of your arguments about him making you feel a certain way?
A person will end things if their partner seems to never be happy or satisfied. You've listed off all the changes he's made, If he can't even recognize himself and there's still problems and complaints, there's nothing left to give.
That break up was planned out and clear. Sorry
Posted by GalOnTheCusp
You know the thing with issues from our parents and stepparents and that teacher in third grade is... when you grow up, you don't get to use them as an excuse anymore. As an adult it's our job to get the treetrunk over the things that happened to us, and let them go and move on, or continue to use them as crutches and excuses. So people who choose to hold on to those things use them as tools to ruin a relationship, then use them as the excuse that the relationship failed (even though they blame us - "You know I have trust issues because of my mom - waa waa.").
The fact that he blames you for 'compromising' himself - whatever nonsense he's trying to infer there - it means you have to go. GO. Your relationship will be a constant blame game. You can't get him to see the relationship as it was, if this is the way he views things.
You're allowed to be depressed and sad and working through things when things are tough. You shouldn't have to keep that in check around someone you love. For him to be scornful of the fact that you were crying - whether due to the fight or just feeling overwhelmed from what is happening to YOU - speaks a lot to who he really is.
That's some Grade A baloney if you ask me.
Posted by BlackMamba
you talk alot about him, but not you...it's weird.
where do you fit in all of this? what do you want?
Posted by Shaks
most useless to mankind: Pisces
most useless to the whole universe: Libra
most useless when youre going through a tough time and need some sympathy: Gemini
most useless as a spy: Cancer
most useless when youre planning something: Sag