I imagine it should be getting better and better each time, for both men and women. -You can learn the persons ticks and can play around with that more. -A level of trust is developed which leads to people being more open to explore.
I have a scorpio relative who has called me when she gets anxiety. It hurts me deeply when she is feeling bad, but I don’t show it. Instead I stabilize my energy and talk calmly. I also start talking to her about other things(could be a kitchen decor project), to pull her out of her head a bit and bring her back to earth.