Posted by Alittlebirdie
So where do I start…?
I met this man two years ago while I was serving at a restaurant at the time, he was a customer & when I asked “is there anything else I can get you this evening?” He replies “yea, you can leave me your number.” Cheesy I know! Normally my response to customers asking me things of that nature I declined, or told them I was married. Not him haha. He immediately texted me when he left the restaurant & I ran into him at a place down the street where coworkers & I went to meet up after work. He stops me dead in the middle of the place & starts asking me where I was from & where I’d gone to school, just baffled he hadn’t met me before. Which he does know basically everyone in the town we live in.
Moving forward a bit we texted & snapped pretty often. I was kinda still hung up on someone else at the time & honest about it. He kept trying to get me to hangout & I always had a reason not too. & if I talked about the other guy he would just always say things like “well you should have just hungout with me instead.” Once I stopped being hung up on the other guy I decided it was okay to hangout with the Gemini. He met me at a parking lot where I rode with him a couple towns away & we got milkshakes. The town we went too he spends a lot of time there with friends in the summer at the lake, it was kinda colder at the time so not much happening there so not so much to show me at the time but we did a little driving around. We still texted & he would come in the restaurant where I worked & I kinda would ignore him a little bit & he would get up & go to the bathroom to pass by where my work station was so he could see me, this he admitted to me later. Finally he came in one night when we closed a little earlier & we ended up going to have drinks with a few other people after I was off work & we ended up hooking up.
Still texting after that saying he had a good time & hopes to do it again & I keep trying to set the stage to make that happen. Without going into every last detail & making this a forever long post, he ends up getting upset with me & saying that I’m just not the girl for him & he blocks me. I’m annoying & text too much. But every other day it was fine? I was confused & just left it be.
He ended up coming into my work on Christmas Eve & we talked generally a little bit. Not about anything particular, but he ends up calling me at like 2 am later on drunk telling me “he wants to try” when I was never under the assumption we were ever trying for anything. I never tried to get him into a relationship, I only tried to see him & meet up whenever I was free & that’s where the problems seemed to start forming. But I just continue the conversation with him about other things & on Christmas Day after I get back into town I meet up with him.
Moving forward a bit for lengths sake, he ends up getting frustrated with me again, saying “I’m annoying”…”he’s told me multiple times he didn’t want anything serious” which he really never did, never was it brought up. Not that I never wanted to have the conversation I was just trying to keep things simple & I assumed we were on the same page about only seeing eachother, maybe I was just hopeful.
Moving forward aging because it’s always the same argument he says “I can’t get it through my head that he doesn’t want to be with me” & he’s gathering this from me wanting to hangout or have sex consistently. I never ask him to define our relationship. Though when he did explode & tell me things like that I would say “so you’re just using me at your convenience?” So I can understand where his remarks would come from..but also it wasn’t like I was pressuring him.
I ended up pregnant. He knew I was not on birth control & I was using Plan B’s. I sent him snaps & texts everytime I bought & took the contraceptive. He was calm when I told him then later while texting tells me in a round about wag he didn’t want me to keep the baby. We have multiple different conversations about it, maturely. I express how uncomfortable I was with having an abortion & that I didn’t feel like it was the right situation (my opinion).
He clams I’m difficult & starts a whole different argument. He would often (still does) call when he’s drunk & that’s where the feelings come out the most. While he’s trying to tell me how I shouldn’t have this baby he flat out says that he can’t have a child because he has problems. Never elaborates on that even when I ask. As the pregnancy progresses I try to keep him involved. At first he would respond with “I don’t know what you don’t understand about this” meaning again that I’m “thinking we are in a relationship & about to have a family.” Because I’ve communicated with him that I have an appointment if he’s like to go. He accused me of getting pregnant on purpose too. He would still call drunk & come over sometimes, he’s kiss my stomach while we were being intimate & sometimes talk about the how things were going to be for the baby. “My child will have everything he wants, even if you say no” just randomly. Then he started saying to me that he wants a blood test done to be sure that the baby is his. When it came to trying to choose a name, he was hit & miss with that as well, then he would randomly text me “what do you think about this name___?” Saying he’d like either his first or middle name included in the babies name. So he was very back & forth with the entire situation…
Flashing forward he ends up blocking me again…while I’m still pregnant for maybe a couple months. I was very emotional & probably annoying, but understandably. He ends up not coming to the hospital when I had his son. Which I was scheduled to be indicted so it was planned. His excuse was “he had to work & couldn’t miss” which he literally works for himself & does whatever he wants. He does actually do work but I know him & if he doesn’t want to go he just flat out doesn’t go that day. He ends up calling drunk the night I had the baby & sends me a picture of him as a baby. I don’t exactly remember the conversation because it was a big day.
I send him photos & let him know we made it home the next day (drove myself home). Three days after I had his son he calls me at 5:30 am from a county jail…arrested for a DUI & asked me to come get him. The call was super short so I didn’t get a lot of information but I know where he is & I figure out what for & what needs to be done to get him out. I waited until about 7 to get him. I though about it all day & wasn’t sure I wanted too…he just didn’t show up to his sons birth??? But I put my pin his shoes & jumped through all the hoops to go & get him. Of course I had the baby with me so I thought alright he HAS to see him now. He gets in the car & it was like he couldn’t look at him…? He starts making phone calls on what needs to be done to get his car & all that. He figures it out & I take him to where his car is. He gets out & thanks me & I say before he walks away “do you want to hold your son?” He says “I just got out of jail, I’m dirty!” Which is understandable but I’m just so confused how nonchalant he was.
Next day he texts me to thank me again & to see if I would be in town to repay me for what I had to pay to get him out of jail. Then he calls to see if I wanted to come over & bring the baby so his mom can see him. I go, & it’s my first time meeting his family as well. He holds him & looks so natural.
Baby is now 6 months old (babies middle name is Gemini’s first name, & I did give him his last name) he loves his son & says every chance he gets “that’s MY BABY” he does not ask to get him, he asks US to come over & by us I mean like he expects me to stay too. He has had him alone before & does great with him, but he is just adamant on me staying there with him. Same argument happens about us NOT being together so I have offered to take the baby to him to visit & he doesn’t have to see me. But it just never happens. One day “he hates having to deal with me & tells me this is why he never wanted to have a child with me” the next day he’s calling late at night drunk telling me “now you know I love you to pieces” We are still physical & just a couple weeks ago on one of his drunken calls he’s telling me how when he’s sleeping with someone he doesn’t like to share, & how “I know he’s not trying to be with anyone else”
I love this guy deeply & he knows it. I don’t expect anything from him (relationship wise) but WHY IS HE SO CONFUSING!!
Posted by Jan12girl
I would also like to add. I will tell you an unfortunate fact. When someone is soo helplessly "in love" they expect other person to understand even if they become weak, extremely emotional and act mad in a way . I am speaking from experience (may be not similar stories or scenarios) that even our partners / lovers judge us. If they see you lacking control completely they lose respect. Some of them will run away from you and some will walk all over you.
Posted by aquarius09Posted by GemCurioThe1
I see people avoided answering your questions like the plague, so I will give you my best answers after dealing with Aquarius women most of my life.
First understand that they're not so different than other people, just think more and try various things in life. An aquarius when in love will go out of their way to do something special and specific that you said you wanted. It will be unique and personal. Most likely something that you really didn't think that they were paying attention to, but that's how you know that he/she was deeply thinking about you.
Also, whenever the Aqua falls in love, all of a sudden you're going to feel like you're in a best friend situation instead of an intimate relationship. They will share the deepest secrets of their soul. Things that you wouldn't have ever guessed about them, and even some of the things that would make you question who exactly is this person.
The last sign that an aquarius is in love is that he/she will share the entire day with you. All the people in his/her life that is hitting on them, you'll know. All the strange behavior of the people around them you'll know. The only secret that'll be kept is verbally saying "I love you" in flaring passions.
Here's one more that will only occur when the relationship is falling apart and all bets are off. If...if they love you, only then will they swallow their pride to make the relationship work. I hope this helps..
I love this!! Such an apt description of when an Aqua is in love. If an Aqua stays and tries to make it work instead of running, they are surely in love.
I run from things and people once they have run their course because I remain detached and my belief that everything comes with an expiration date, so if I stick around and resolve issues with communication, which is what air signs do best, then I’m in love.
Also, I will only make an effort for those I really care about. If I go out of my way in action for
someone, it’s because I love them. Sweet verbal affirmations from me don’t count for much. This is why I don’t place importance or value to sweet talk by anyone.click to expand
Posted by Wizardz
This was actually beautiful! Thanks. Did you write it yourself?
I am always trying to find the inner child that you describe. Being present in the moment and not thinking about tomorrow
How does that work with finances and that sort of thing? That's where I come unstuck 😅
Posted by Candy_girl
Actually I friendzoned a Virgo guy. He said me he doesn't want to be my friend. Maybe he expected more than that. Or else asked me never to talk with him again. Misunderstandings happened. I asked him if I can express my feelings of love to him. He said ok. I removed my WhatsApp DP and about. He thought that I blocked him and he blocked me. I thought he doesn't love me so he blocked me. Since I was not realising my mistake. I blocked him back. Since 5 days, I sent him how much I hate him messages. He didn't reply. Finally, I realised my mistake today and expressed my care messages to him. And unblocked him. Will he ever unblock and be my love like before?
Posted by Fiolina
When a virgo man says he is going through some difficult stuff, and that he needs ti fix that first. Is he coming back, or is he just trying to dump me in a nice way? 😂
He is very honest and open, so I know that his life is a mess at the moment.
Posted by Centaur12Posted by GemCurioThe1
Here's some advice which goes against probably everything that you're feeling and thinking, but at this point what you're thinking and feeling doesn't work for the results you're seeking. Try this... Get a hobby!!! You've been sitting on a shelf doing the same crap week in and week out. Go walk a chip trail you've never been on and take pictures. Take your children out for ice cream or video games or to the beach or something. Live.... Do whenever you want to do as long as it doesn't involve contacting her. Join a gym. Your relationship is depressing because you're too focused on it. Laws of attraction. Be what you want in a partner instead of what you are receiving from Gem girl. I have a bias for Geminis, but buddy, you're not thinking this through. Same actions. Same questions. Same results. Change your focus bro... Your energy sucks. I can feel it through the words. Happiness in your life is your responsibility. NOT HERS!!! So if you're a walking ball of negative energy, how can you attract positivity. Opposites attract my bumm. Be the light for Gem girl to see on the hill. Be a new energy. New vibe. New you... In life we attract. Nothing else works. Your topics case and point. I'm just trying to help you because you don't have to figure her out to attract her. She was once attracted to you without all this zodiac sign stuff... Seriously...
Yeah I already know this I asked her if she wanted to go for a walk on Thursday she said yeah and I am planning on taking the kids out somewhere on the weekend.
I am going to see if she would like to go do a zipline together next weekend should be good.
She has told me she doesn't want to be in the relationship right now but wants to be friends and hang out and see if it can change so be can build everything back up again.click to expand