Posted by Chuckcem
Posted by Blue_Froggie
Posted by Chuckcem
Better question, why are you so hung up on getting pregnant? Sounds like Aqua guy is the one you want. Is he infertile? Or does he not want kids? Doesn't really make sense to get pregnant by another person if you love Aqua guy.


What if she wants a baby? Most women have maternal instincts


Right which makes sense. I wanted to know why everything hinged on her being pregnant (with or without the Aqua guy).
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I wanted to have a baby in the future... the aqua doesnt-- ever. And I just thought if i were to be with a man for long term, that all possibilities should be open. I dont like being limited to one option... so we broke up
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Posted by Geminiforever23
Good point. What should I do now? i am so confused. About my next step

What do you want? What do you see in your future?

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I want to be with someone that i can wake up next to everyday... you know in this day and age, relationships have been so different... i came from a traditional family where noone is divorced and everyone was married to the one they love.... i just always think i can have the same...
Im seeing a guy on Monday... scares me that I might not be ready because of this...
Good point. What should I do now? i am so confused. About my next step
Posted by Chuckcem
Better question, why are you so hung up on getting pregnant? Sounds like Aqua guy is the one you want. Is he infertile? Or does he not want kids? Doesn't really make sense to get pregnant by another person if you love Aqua guy.


He didn't want anymore kids. He had one with his ex wife and cannot bear to hurt his child by having another one with a different mom.
I stopped all contact with my aqua ex and started being ok and having fun with friends a lot. Last Saturday, out of nowhere, he sent me a link to Katy Perry's The One That Got Away and said he remembers me in Katy Perry. I knew he wasnt feeling ok because apart from that, he called me too a couple of days after and made me listen to Adele's When We Were Young. At 2am he started texting me asking if I think we should get back together. I responded by saying I wanted committment. I still love him ofcourse.

The other day he sent me another message and asked if i wanted to make love with him. I said ok.
But he couldnt get a bloody cab to my place so it didnt happen! He didnt come to work that day. That same day he asked if he can come over in the evening and I said ok. He started saying to me that no matter what happens, im his bestfriend and that he will always love me and he still does. We did it. Twice. In between those of course we had some conversations and i asked him if he was seeing anybody or if he was sleeping around. And if he has ever done what we did before. He said that he doesnt have any intentions of seeing other women because our breakup wasnt because he didnt love me or like me anymore. It was because i need something he cannot give. I asked if he was ok if i got pregnant with somebodyelse and then i get back with him and he said that he knows that will happen eventually because I promised him that I will comeback. This morning when we were parting ways, he was teary-eyes and i just jokes to him and said he shouldnt cry. I didnt text him after and he sent me a message saying it was very nice to see me and that i was probably disappointed that it wasnt the kind of "talking" i was expecting since we just made love all night.

Right now, I felt like i still love this man. holy butter. Thinking about what happened makes me wanna cry.... did i just set myself back to square one? I also started having doubts if i should rethink what im doing. Do i really want a baby over this man that I love so deeply? What if i end up realizing i never want a child after all and I was just getting pressured because everyone is getting married and getting pregnant? #aquagem is such a complicated relationship
I stopped all contact with my aqua ex and started being ok and having fun with friends a lot. Last Saturday, out of nowhere, he sent me a link to Katy Perry's The One That Got Away and said he remembers me in Katy Perry. I knew he wasnt feeling ok because apart from that, he called me too a couple of days after and made me listen to Adele's When We Were Young. At 2am he started texting me asking if I think we should get back together. I responded by saying I wanted committment. I still love him ofcourse.

The other day he sent me another message and asked if i wanted to make love with him. I said ok.
But he couldnt get a bloody cab to my place so it didnt happen! He didnt come to work that day. That same day he asked if he can come over in the evening and I said ok. He started saying to me that no matter what happens, im his bestfriend and that he will always love me and he still does. We did it. Twice. In between those of course we had some conversations and i asked him if he was seeing anybody or if he was sleeping around. And if he has ever done what we did before. He said that he doesnt have any intentions of seeing other women because our breakup wasnt because he didnt love me or like me anymore. It was because i need something he cannot give. I asked if he was ok if i got pregnant with somebodyelse and then i get back with him and he said that he knows that will happen eventually because I promised him that I will comeback. This morning when we were parting ways, he was teary-eyes and i just jokes to him and said he shouldnt cry. I didnt text him after and he sent me a message saying it was very nice to see me and that i was probably disappointed that it wasnt the kind of "talking" i was expecting since we just made love all night.

Right now, I felt like i still love this man. holy butter. Thinking about what happened makes me wanna cry.... did i just set myself back to square one? I also started having doubts if i should rethink what im doing. Do i really want a baby over this man that I love so deeply? What if i end up realizing i never want a child after all and I was just getting pressured because everyone is getting married and getting pregnant? #aquagem is such a complicated relationship
We were together for 4 years and broke up a month ago.

Today i asked him once again if he is coming back and if there is a chance he will change his mind about having kids... and he said unlikely... he asked if i have gotten over our breakup and i said no. I asked him back and he said he doesnt know and even said, do people actually get over it? Anyway, he asked where the guy is from and if he has kids or ever been married. I said no... he said i should date the guy because if i dont meet other guys, i wont be able to have kids. I might like the guy more than i like him. I sent him Katy Perry's video of the song "thinking of you" ... which is what is happening to us now... we love each other but the circumstances are challenging... and we cannot be together.... i have no choice but to move on with somebodyelse...
For some reason, I feel like im cheating in my aqua ex...
Thank you!!! I am so nervous right now and trying to find something wrong about him waaaaaaa its just me. Im a coward
Posted by justagirl
He might work weekends...

You are seriously already questioning and haven't even gone on a date yet? Lol

You are a red flag imo


Hahahahahaha i guess I am already just preparing for the worst you know my heart has been broken before....
Posted by Mimi24
It doesnt matter the day.. it can be a date no matter what day. And that goes for any signs. He might be busy during the weekend who knows. There are people like that..


Omg.. maybe I am just getting too nervouse. I havent dayed anyone for the last 4 years apart from my ex
Ok. So I mentioned that I met an aqua guy online after my breakup. Weve been talking quite a lot and last night I confirmed my schedule for our first date/meeting. I suggested a saturday thinking that it is the usual date day for people. The guy said how about a Monday?

I thought it was weird. Aqua guys why would you go on a date on a Monday??? Instead of the weekend? Is this a red flag?
Mind you, apart from being a gemini sun, i am also a leo rising lol
Lol hahahaha god I really find this weird as I am trying to move on from my aqua ex. I am pretty much used to aqua's aloofness by now but I dunno now if I actually want it for myself lol

Any spells to ward off the aquas! 😂 I wanna attract sags or libs for a change!!!!! Get me outta here 😂😂😂😂😂
Hey Aquas... I have posted here before about myself being surrounded by aquas. Recently I broke up with an aqua, hsd a fling with my aqua boss and well I actually used an app to meet guys and guess what... I met another aqua and currently chatting with him on a daily basis. Oh Lord. Aquas... why do i attract you in my life all the time? :/
Oh god. I was in a chat room. Been talking to this guy for days now and apparently he is an aquarius. Why on earth am i attracting them :/
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Posted by Geminiforever23
Hi gems, I was reading something online. I realized that some women are multitalented like they can pain, cook, sing.. they are attractive.. almost perfect. And they are married. I started to wonder about myself.. like what talents I have or in other words, what do I bring to the table. I am pretty good at my job and i have always excelled in school but you know.. the wife material thing, i am afraid that i do not have.

The thing is, I get bored easily... im a gem... and I wouldnt say I have mastered a thing except for trying out different things. I worry that this might be the reason why I am unmarried at 28. Sorry... maybe I am just in panic but all my friends are getting engaged and married.. and i just became single


28 is young though, don't pressure yourself into marrying anyone because of your age. It's not really about other woman being more talented, I'm sure you are in many ways yourself

Please don't tell yourself you're not wife material. Just keep focusing on you and if the right one comes along, you'll know and be ready. Until then...you. Just you.

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I will try to do that. Honestly, I've got insecurities too you know. And have always been a late bloomer. Not that I am mentally slow but it just happens all the time. I am always delayed in everything and I get frustrated about it sometimes. But also, despite being the late bloomer, I was lucky enough to still have amazing things in life after the long wait. Just sometimes I wanna be the first choice and I always imagined what it will feel like being the first choice on something... i guess the recent breakup made me think a lot and reflect on my life...
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Posted by Geminiforever23
Hi gems, I was reading something online. I realized that some women are multitalented like they can pain, cook, sing.. they are attractive.. almost perfect. And they are married. I started to wonder about myself.. like what talents I have or in other words, what do I bring to the table. I am pretty good at my job and i have always excelled in school but you know.. the wife material thing, i am afraid that i do not have.

The thing is, I get bored easily... im a gem... and I wouldnt say I have mastered a thing except for trying out different things. I worry that this might be the reason why I am unmarried at 28. Sorry... maybe I am just in panic but all my friends are getting engaged and married.. and i just became single


Keep trying things out. You'll eventually master the things you love. Geminis tend to be late bloomers. I used a scatter-shot approach to learning new things for many years, but eventually I got into a groove with the things that I wanted to do, needed to do, and felt good doing, including cooking! I got married at 29, and that still turned out to be too young, so don't rush yourself.
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Wow! Thats a very good information. Last night, I read an article that said that some men expect women to meet certain standards like being wife material even without a ring in hand. The woman who wrote it got married of course and she mentioned too, that after getting married, thats when she lewrned everything and became pretty good at it. I thought maybe I am the same... but what would a guy like about me when I dont have those talents? I evaluated myself last night.... and realized he following:

*i love kids.
*i like giving without asking for anything in return (sometimes this makes people take advantage of me)
*i am smart but i down play myself so as to make other people feel bad about themselves (i was a geek like chemistry quizbee champion geek. Proud of it!)
*i practically paid for my sister's tuition fee and cared for my family in different ways like being supportive of everyone and giving them unconditional love
*i believe in romance and marriage that lasts til the last day of my life
*i forgive easily

Cons:
*cant cook or clean well
*gets bored easily
*i do random butter and hate planning
*impulsive
*emotional
*easily complains or makes comments without thinking long and hard

Posted by bumboklatt
There is no marriage material. There's someone who appreciates you for who you are


You think so? Like even if I am not good in cooking or cleaning now... like a wife should?