Reminds me of the aqua i met in melb. 2 mos of sexting, i finally arrived in melb for my vacation, had sex then freaking guy kept cancelling on me but still texting me. Then i finally got pissed. We stopped talking sinc ei came back in Tokyo but now he just came back texting me over the weekend saying he is coming to tokyo soon. Wtf.
Also remember Aquas deep down can be very conservative about their approach. From my observation, Aquas can be just as possessive of their partners as Leos when they are truly in love. In which case Aqua won't necessarily want another partner in the bedroom, but may talk about the idea openly regardless. This can become very confusing if you're not prepared for their mental gymnastics, which in reality is also a test of your character.

- this. My ex and I were talking about going to a sex club or doing a threesome. Me being a gemini (with Leo moon) and him being an Aqua, ended up discussing the possibilities but never acted on it 😂 He said he wouldnt be comfortable seeing another guy do it with me. Haha. And well, I was the same. We ended up just watching porn thinking we are with another couple doing it in the same room. Creative isnt it? 😂😂😂
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I remember back in the days some Aqua said not to mirror their actions but instead show them consistency. mmm I'm on the mirroring option mode , listening to an Aqua encounter expert above (op) curious though .


But she isn't mirroring him. What she is doing is sampling the buffet, courtesy of newly found singledom and holding a teeny weeny of a grudge against the guy.

mirroring=games=reduction of interest=higher chance of quitting the game with you and starting it with someone else. Consistency will win at the end if all other conditions are the same.

Additionally, she has a special condition, the guy apparently realized his mistake in what he let go, so her advice in this should be taken with a bit of reserve as a go to manual of the "aqua encounter expert" as obviously she has the "upper hand" now, so it's not a standard situation example.


So, say if the Aqua goes quiet and doesn't respond u for 24. Then he reaches back out. Should I then mirror him and not reply Him for 24 hours also? Or wud he see it as a game? Simply just showing him how that might feel?


I would lol but By the time I respond I will put some humor into it though or probably like nothing ever happened. No emotions. To me, its more about not being too available. Like responding immediately after hes gone missing for 24 is like you waited for him all day long. I seriously wouldnt do that 😂✌🏻

Not doing that. mmmm they can sense games though so just trying to figure out this bullcrap hahahahaha
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Lol. I wouldnt consider it as a game. Well maybe it is if its not your normal instinctive response. For me though, instinctively, thats what I would do. So I personally dont consider it as a game. But we are all different. What I think is, whatever you decide to do, it has to be something you want to do. Nothing beats a flawless execution of anything! If its natural to you, it will work the way its supposed to. I might have a different circumstance because personalitywise, I am like this... and had a history if being a play girl before I met my aqua ex. In fact, he is the one who changed me and made me more domesticated. But in general, I am the girl who rarely gives a treetrunk and I move on pretty quick. I rarely hang on to anyone or anything. Not everybody will do or has done what I did so results may vary
I love Gemitati hahahaha cracks me up!!! 😂😂😂
I fear I won't fall as madly, deeply, inlove the same way again.

Gems, do you ever get this feeling? For one, as a Gem, I tend to get the attention I need from the opposite sex. Dating is not an issue and like a butterfly, I can fly over one flower to another. This might sound bad but it is what it is. But deep inside, I crave for that one true love. The one I will always come back to after a long day of doing what I do best. Sometimes the day gets tiring and i want arms around me to tell me I'm gonna be ok no matter what chaos i have started. Not someone who will fix me but someone who will take me as i am.

Its a crazy world. And I dont think many can understand. If you are a gem like me, do you ever feel the same? If so, what do you do?
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I remember back in the days some Aqua said not to mirror their actions but instead show them consistency. mmm I'm on the mirroring option mode , listening to an Aqua encounter expert above (op) curious though .


But she isn't mirroring him. What she is doing is sampling the buffet, courtesy of newly found singledom and holding a teeny weeny of a grudge against the guy.

mirroring=games=reduction of interest=higher chance of quitting the game with you and starting it with someone else. Consistency will win at the end if all other conditions are the same.

Additionally, she has a special condition, the guy apparently realized his mistake in what he let go, so her advice in this should be taken with a bit of reserve as a go to manual of the "aqua encounter expert" as obviously she has the "upper hand" now, so it's not a standard situation example.


So, say if the Aqua goes quiet and doesn't respond u for 24. Then he reaches back out. Should I then mirror him and not reply Him for 24 hours also? Or wud he see it as a game? Simply just showing him how that might feel?
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I would lol but By the time I respond I will put some humor into it though or probably like nothing ever happened. No emotions. To me, its more about not being too available. Like responding immediately after hes gone missing for 24 is like you waited for him all day long. I seriously wouldnt do that 😂✌🏻
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And I dont have a grudge towards him. Mirroring comes in different ways. My way is, if he is ignoring me and wants to be alone, i leave him alone. For as long as he contacts me first. If he is being cold, i become cold too versus asking too much love from him. If he doesnt text me in the morning, i wont text until he does. sometimes he will ask and say why cant i make the first move on those things. I tell him he has to be the man. And i know what hes like. If i bug him he will move away wven more. Whats the point? Plus, i make the first move in bed. That should be enough lol


do u feel like he treats u on a 'surface' level and never gets deeper than that as if u guys are friends?
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He used to. But he eventually figured out what to do. We ended up taking turns on who leads in what. If we had such a nice weekend he used to disappear over the weekdays fully detached. Then he comes back. Absolutley loves his space and i show him i love mine too. Then he is the one who comes back first.
And if he was going to play around with other chicks, he knows I can do twice as much as he can. And I can walk away. There's something about knowing someone can walk away from you. Yes, we can all say we wont chase someone who doesnt want to be with us. But there is also something about that person who can walk away from us that makes us want to chase them. Its the reality.
And I dont have a grudge towards him. Mirroring comes in different ways. My way is, if he is ignoring me and wants to be alone, i leave him alone. For as long as he contacts me first. If he is being cold, i become cold too versus asking too much love from him. If he doesnt text me in the morning, i wont text until he does. sometimes he will ask and say why cant i make the first move on those things. I tell him he has to be the man. And i know what hes like. If i bug him he will move away wven more. Whats the point? Plus, i make the first move in bed. That should be enough lol
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I remember back in the days some Aqua said not to mirror their actions but instead show them consistency. mmm I'm on the mirroring option mode , listening to an Aqua encounter expert above (op) curious though .


But she isn't mirroring him. What she is doing is sampling the buffet, courtesy of newly found singledom and holding a teeny weeny of a grudge against the guy.

mirroring=games=reduction of interest=higher chance of quitting the game with you and starting it with someone else. Consistency will win at the end if all other conditions are the same.

Additionally, she has a special condition, the guy apparently realized his mistake in what he let go, so her advice in this should be taken with a bit of reserve as a go to manual of the "aqua encounter expert" as obviously she has the "upper hand" now, so it's not a standard situation example.
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Only got the upperhand because I proved myself worthy when we were together. Lets not forget that part. I sampled the buffet only because I was given the opportunity to. Different case if we were committed. Prior to committment though, we were fwb and I let him do whatever provided im allowed to as well. One day he woke up and said to me "we never really labeled what we are. I dont want to see you with other guys though" and I responded "you never asked before. But now that you are asking, ok you are my boyfriend and moving forward stop seeing other girls" lol
I'm the same. Until recently. Like always 10 years okder or more hahaha but i have come to realize laely that the age gap affects the outcome of the relationship.
My aqua ex is 11 years older than me
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Actually I agree with CC to some extent..

After this watch his actions, he may seem chill for a while, but it will build up inside of him and he will show it when you least expect it like a ticking bomb.

If you're the type of girl who does too much and does extra all the time, that's not laid back. You don't go with the flow. You got in the back of his car to sneak on him, you make a several threads just about him, you ask a million questions about your man because you do not take the time to know him, instead you try to control the situation, now your doing all this swinger stuff?

Now is the time to step back, self reflect and ask yourself why he hasn't truly committed to you


Thanks. It's all done now that whole sneaking on stuff. And yes doing self reflect.. I still don't think that whole experience is about me wanting contro.. what?!!!


No, you're not laid back, give it some time and you will soon create another post wondering about your aqua man.


haha...yes most likely..

surely you r not laid back with ur venus in scorpio placement?

by the way he's not my man....i am going to date other people now coz he says he's not going to stop flirting around so....

this is where we r at.. lol


I'm a Venus in Pisces,

All I'm saying is that with fixed/fixed relationship, someone has to lower their control level and there has to compromising for both.


One of the aqua men I met has venus in pisces. Mine is in cancer. Now i wonder how thats gonna work out!


My Venus in Pisces likes Venus in cancer, Scorpio, and Capricorn.
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Interesting. Probably why he is coming to Japan to see me soon. Lol. Met him in Melbourne couple of weeks ago but i think he freaked out and since i dont live there yet he detached. Then came back. He is nice I think. Just being a careful aqua until he is sure its gonna be worth his time.
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Actually I agree with CC to some extent..

After this watch his actions, he may seem chill for a while, but it will build up inside of him and he will show it when you least expect it like a ticking bomb.

If you're the type of girl who does too much and does extra all the time, that's not laid back. You don't go with the flow. You got in the back of his car to sneak on him, you make a several threads just about him, you ask a million questions about your man because you do not take the time to know him, instead you try to control the situation, now your doing all this swinger stuff?

Now is the time to step back, self reflect and ask yourself why he hasn't truly committed to you


Thanks. It's all done now that whole sneaking on stuff. And yes doing self reflect.. I still don't think that whole experience is about me wanting contro.. what?!!!


No, you're not laid back, give it some time and you will soon create another post wondering about your aqua man.


haha...yes most likely..

surely you r not laid back with ur venus in scorpio placement?

by the way he's not my man....i am going to date other people now coz he says he's not going to stop flirting around so....

this is where we r at.. lol


I'm a Venus in Pisces,

All I'm saying is that with fixed/fixed relationship, someone has to lower their control level and there has to compromising for both.
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One of the aqua men I met has venus in pisces. Mine is in cancer. Now i wonder how thats gonna work out!
@ladylibra21 if its important for you, hang on to it. Its not just about the aqua men but in general, never let go of what is important to you. Its what defines who you are. And if not him, you might meet another aqua who is ready or wants kids. Talk to him about it and see if its workable. If not, leave.
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spot on!


Hahaha! Aqua men. Cant live with them, cant live without them 😂✌🏻
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Please let me know if I got some things correctly. This is not a generalization but would be great if you can add things to it.

As far as being surrounded by aquas, well I grew up with several and dated, flirted with several. When it comes to dating, Aquas seem to not open up easily. One of the reasons is because of threat of their independence/freedom. They love, love but they dont like being confined in the relationship so one day they can be very sweet, caring or even vilnerable and then they do a full change of their attitude and goes missing so that their partner dont become too dependent on them.

The other thing is that Aquas are stubborn. When they have decided on something, normally they stick to it. In some rare cases they do change their minds but that takes a while and a bit more convincing. For example if both of you do not agree on certain topics, either agree to disagree or make logical points and give the aqua time to think about it. If your points are valid, they will consider eventually.

Aquas love women who doesnt wait for them. They love independent women. Women who can survive without them. Part of the reason is that Aquas get excited about figuring out people the same way we try to figure them out. If you are easy, always available... they don't find mental stimulation. Therefore they dont or wont commit and will continue to look for someone that will be more stimulating for them.

I dated an amazing aqua for 5 years and it wasnt the easiest but the moment I didnt become too available or asking him about every single detail of his day, the more he felt comfortable having me around and wanting to spend more time with me. And yes, he is my ex now by my choice (as you may know he didnt want a kid before. He recently changed his mind though so we might have something to reconsider) I completely trust that we had something real. The aqua from Melbourne also made a compelte turnaround after i didnt bother texting him when he didnt text and now he is coming to Japan to see me and said he is still hoping to spend time with me when I move to Melbourne. And finally, my Aqua boss who I left because he stresses me out had been asking me to return to his team to fix things.

I care about the aquas in my life (except my boss. Its just work for me. I dunno what it is to him as we flirted in the past). I know they are hard to figure out but so far, I still think they are one of the best signs I have encountered. Probably the only ones that fit my mold. Never have I met people that i just click with instantly. Like magic.

The not wanting a child thing how did you approach him about that? That is my only hang up with the Aqua I am dating. I tried to break things off on our second date after he told me he had been snipped but he insisted we try to see what come of the relationship but now I really like him and I want to have the conversation again before I fall in love because I will feel stuck and resentful. Did you know at the beginning that he didn't want a child?
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Actually, I didnt know he didnt want another child in the beginning. By the time I felt I was ready, he said he didnt want one. It was tough. Ive been discussing it with him for one year. I gave an ultimatum. On the final day, he still said No considering he is stubborn and didnt see valid points in my argument why I wanted a child. I told him i didnt want us to grow old on our own. Its gonna be lonely. He is much older than me so i told him what will happen to me when he is gone. Those are things i have been worried about. Anyway, he didnt agree and I broke it off. No contact at all and I started seeing other guys. We saw each other on the 3rd month of our breakup and slept together casually. On the 4th month, he said he is considering having a child with me. I said No because i have already decided to leave the country. He is going through depression now because of it. I still love and support him but I need him to let me go now. Like I mentioned, they like women who dont wait for them. I didnt wait. No matter how hard it was. If he wants to, he should do a bit of heavy lifting because I fought for it for a year. I cant give anything anymore.
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He wouldn't force you on anything anyway. He observes you. If no such plans surface, they don't exist at all.


Exactly the point. No forcing on anything. If at one point, one of us forced something that one is not comfortable with, i dont think we would have gone past the fwb stage. I gathered he thought he can relax with me and lower his walls a bit. Without me asking for it.
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@saweetz1988

Actually I agree with CC to some extent..

After this watch his actions, he may seem chill for a while, but it will build up inside of him and he will show it when you least expect it like a ticking bomb.

If you're the type of girl who does too much and does extra all the time, that's not laid back. You don't go with the flow. You got in the back of his car to sneak on him, you make a several threads just about him, you ask a million questions about your man because you do not take the time to know him, instead you try to control the situation, now your doing all this swinger stuff?

Now is the time to step back, self reflect and ask yourself why he hasn't truly committed to you


Go with the flow! Thats how me and my Aqua ex got in a relationship after 3 mos of just being fwb. Lol


Did you go with the flow or his flow?


I'm a very chill person in general. I went with the flow on everything. No rush in getting in a relationship, no rush in knowing everything about him. More like living in the moment. We had so much fun hanging out we only talked about the now. Until one day, we realized that we just want to be together and not see other people.


So his flow i gather from this convoluted response.

Technically there is no such thing as going with the flow. Someone is leading, someone is following.

Nothing wrong with following someone else's lead if youre indeed comfortable.

Friction occurs when you aren't comfortable with the dynamics.
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Not just his flow but also my personal preference. I dont think i would jump into committment either if I have doubts about things between us. Its hard to explain but we just felt it in the right time. He decides when to see me, i decide what to do when we see each other. If plans dont happen, we dont fight over it. We just try again. He didnt force me to talk about my future plans and i didnt force him to talk about his past. Its more like give and take all through out without the pressure of when are we gonna be exclusive? Is he falling for me? I wonder how he feels about me now? Nothing like that during our fwb stage.
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"he hates always having to fight to take the lead as the man. She's controlling and doesn't even know it."


Can you elaborate on fight to take the lead as a man. I never understood what that means. I'm very independent and don't know what it means to let men lead. Do you have examples off the top of your head so I can try and relate? @Flo
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I have an example for you. Driving. My Aqua ex likes to be the driver of the car. He takes the lead on that. I never ever ask to drive. Driving makes him feel like he is in control. I give it to him. But I lead when it comes to deciding where we go. He drives, i take care of the direction. He feels like a man in control of the wheels and i lead in identifying where our adventure is because i choose the location. Balance.