Posted by aquarius_beauty
Ok first of all I want to say, so keep this in mind, Aquarius are rebels with everything and everyone including themselves.

I can see he truly cared about you and he's upset over the breakup. Sometimes Aquas subconsciously test our partners to see how far they are willing to go. I use to do this all the time with my ex. I'd push him away because I'd want him to push back and fight for me. I'm extremely proud, stubborn, and a bit childish when I stick to my guns. So having someone who is willing to fight for me makes me feel special and loved. Even though I'd say NO a million times, eventually I'd cave and my actions proved otherwise (that I'd say yes). We rebel against ourselves...stupid up it's a character flaw.

He deleted you off social media because he's disconnecting with you so he can move on. It's a way of gaining emotional/mental control over a situation. Having a mutual breakup or being dumped equates to us having ZERO control over that decision. If we break up with you on the other hand, we left you and therefore know we have the advantage when you come back and plead with us to take you back. Again, character flaw.

I think he wanted you to fight for the relationship and to keep pushing for it, despite his actions. It's complicated for an outsider but it's not that hard to figure out that he's hurting. That salty "why do you care?" response show how hurt he is. The undertone of that remark is basically "why do you care to ask if you didn't even care enough to fight for me, for us?"

He's basically doing what I have done and I can tell you, he's broken at the time. It will take a while before he recovers fully.


Thats the thing. All three years, I was the fighter. I always foght to keep us together. To have a relationship way better than what he had. This time, I need him to fight for me. Show me that i am worth it because i did my best to keep us together before. Its his turn now. Im too exhausted to keep fighting when all he does is give me a million reasons to leave... its totally insane.

Posted by Areyoumytwinflame
Posted by Geminiforever23
Posted by Areyoumytwinflame
He didn't want to have kids or divorce his ex

Explain a little further


Basically he was married and has a kid. At first he promised he would get a divorce, wanted a family then fast forward to our 4th year, i asked again and he said he cannot give it to me. Of course i didnt let it happen without a fight. I loved him. I resorted to different emotions like anger, sadness, begging and many things to convince him that it makes sense for us to have a family of our own. But he still said no. So we ended it. I was angry at first but then i thought, maybe it is for the best. So i became a bit ok quite fast. Im a gemini and i just dont like to drag situations like this. Not that i have moved on or it doesnt hurt anymore. But he didnt want committment which means kids and divorce from his ex. Nothing is left for me to do... so lately ive been posting food photos and last night i posted a photo of myself. Then around midnight i noticed he deleted me. I was like wtf.


What was his reason for not filing divorce?

What is your definition of commitment? You were together 4 years. Not wanting kids doesn't necessarily mean you're not committed.


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Its something important to me... i have always wanted a family especially kids. If he loved me, i thought, he would compromise. I asked if he can give me a kid despite not being able to marry me. He wont. And he wont get a divorce either and saying it was because of his kid. So basically, i get nothing. I will be a girlfriend forever
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Posted by Geminiforever23


Basically he was married and has a kid. At first he promised he would get a divorce, wanted a family then fast forward to our 4th year, i asked again and he said he cannot give it to me. Of course i didnt let it happen without a fight. I loved him. I resorted to different emotions like anger, sadness, begging and many things to convince him that it makes sense for us to have a family of our own. But he still said no. So we ended it. I was angry at first but then i thought, maybe it is for the best. So i became a bit ok quite fast. Im a gemini and i just dont like to drag situations like this. Not that i have moved on or it doesnt hurt anymore. But he didnt want committment which means kids and divorce from his ex. Nothing is left for me to do... so lately ive been posting food photos and last night i posted a photo of myself. Then around midnight i noticed he deleted me. I was like wtf.


What was the reason for his denial all these years if i may ask?

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I am not really sure to be honest. Maybe he liked my company. We got on so well before and was fairly happy most times. It was almost perfect. But then he said he is 40 and doesnt want anymore kids. Doesnt believe in marriage as he is separated and his parents were divorced. I dont really know how we lasted that long with the denial thing. I always thought he loved me. When we broke up he said he didnt love me anymore. I didnt believe it even for a little because i knew him very well. He says things he didnt mean when he is hirt and angry. But i deeply feel it is for the best especially if he wont commit to me on a deeper level like giving me a child...
Posted by xXxQueenliciaXxX
He doesn't owe you friendship of any kind to be honest. It's over.


Of course he doesnt but isnt it a bit nasty? He got what he wanted. What more could I have done?
Posted by Areyoumytwinflame
He didn't want to have kids or divorce his ex

Explain a little further


Basically he was married and has a kid. At first he promised he would get a divorce, wanted a family then fast forward to our 4th year, i asked again and he said he cannot give it to me. Of course i didnt let it happen without a fight. I loved him. I resorted to different emotions like anger, sadness, begging and many things to convince him that it makes sense for us to have a family of our own. But he still said no. So we ended it. I was angry at first but then i thought, maybe it is for the best. So i became a bit ok quite fast. Im a gemini and i just dont like to drag situations like this. Not that i have moved on or it doesnt hurt anymore. But he didnt want committment which means kids and divorce from his ex. Nothing is left for me to do... so lately ive been posting food photos and last night i posted a photo of myself. Then around midnight i noticed he deleted me. I was like wtf.
Weird.

We had a mutual decision about he breakup. He didntwant to have kids, divorce his ex and all so we broke up. The other night sent him a message to ask about my house key because he did not return it after we broke up. Its the inly thing he didnt return. Anyway, he asked if i was moving and i said i will be leaving the country soonish which is true. Not lying. And that my couch is for sale as well as my rug. Asked if he was ok and he said "why do you care?" And i said just wondering how you are holding up. Then he said he is ok and asked me how im doing and i said "im ok i suppose"

Anyway last night i saw that he deleted me on facebook and blocked me everywhere like imessage, phone calls, Line app... now i feel like he is the one who is angry with me. He got what he wanted which is not being committed. So what more can he ever possibly want and why would he even block me or unfriend me? Its too much bitterness. He might be moving on from me and i get it. But blocking me and unfriending me... its borderline crazy especially that i didnt even chase after him when we broke up. Why would an aqua do this????
He just texted me now and started talking about kissing me in the cheek in front of the taurus girl to make her annoyed and leave him alone. Wtf. Our officemates will have a heart attack.
Posted by Saggi212
Yes he is!!!


How do i make him make a move???? Hahahhaa
Posted by beautifulsoul74
Posted by Geminiforever23
I have this sag friend that I have known for around 5 years. He is a lot older than me but had been single for a while. We have a really awesome connection considering that I am a gem. In fact, he said the same thing and that we enjoy the same things together.

3 years ago i started dating an aqua guy. Back then, sag friend said the only reason he will be friends with aqua guy is because of me. They never really liked each other and we stopped hanging out. Anyway, I recently broke up with the aqua guy. Sag friend was so happy about it and so supportive. Took me out for some drinks at a romantic restaurant with candlelight, and has been inviting me to hangout a lot. Wanted to watch movies like fifty shades darker. Asked me to join a supposedly, boys trip. We work together and almost everyone in the office would ask us why we havent dated yet or that maybe he secretly likes me because im the only girl he hangs out with and he doesnt mind other people teasing us. There was a taurus girl who likes him but he kept rejecting her. He told me as well that I dont have to change and that the right one will find me just perfect. That i should probably date a guy closer to home (we have the same nationality and grew up in the same area). We can spend hours an dhours texting. And he protects me and chooses me over everybody else. One instance was our group of friends didnt really like me because i am blunt and i like different things than them. In the end he chose me and he cut all ties with them. If one of our guy friends are being mean to me, he would tell the guy to stop or shut up.

I am just curious but do you think he secretly likes me? I dont want to jump into conclusions but i wanna understand how sag people act when they like someone.


Umm I'm a Sag guy... and yes he likes you...as in seriously likes you. We don't reject other women unless we really like someone. The thing with the Aqua guy was him being protective over you both as a friend and as someone who's hoping to be more. Please...don't play with him

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I dont want to play with him! I gues she is just probably very slow and taking his time to get to know me better today we were talking about our trip somewhere separate from our officemates.. we will bring one pf his guy friends with us so its not just the two of us. He booked everything for me hahahaha and kept messaging me about it like what to do and where to go. I feel bad for he taurus lady because she wanted to join but sag said no to her and now she has to see that sag invited me. I do get special treatment from him which is pretty awesome. But he has to make a real move!! Ive been kissing so many frogs since ive met this guy.. who jnows if he is he right one??? Waaaaaaa

Posted by Seraphlight
Oh sorry I think I misread that ..I'm confused.


He basically likes the same hotel I wanted to stay in. Lol
Posted by puhleeze
Posted by Geminiforever23
Posted by xXxQueenliciaXxX
He likes you and you know he likes you.




You think so? I always worry maybe I am wrong. Its been 5 years and he hasnt made a move yet officially.

I have seen sags being very close to their friends. They don't care if you are married, guess they are attached and loyal and in constant touch with someone they consider close? It makes you wonder if they are that close why are they not together, or why did sag let them marry someone else. Maybe he likes you but when you mention 5 years and no move, reminded me of this. Or maybe sags wait for the other party to make the move? Not sure. Sags are social butterflies so maybe they hold friendships more close to the heart than love? Do you consider yourselves to be good friends?
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We are good friends I believe. Why would he pick me over other people if we are not? But also... he hasnt made a real move in 5 years! Now he invited me in his guy's trip and even ok that I stay in the same hotel when he has been telling everyone we will all be staying in different hotels lol
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Posted by Geminiforever23
Posted by xXxQueenliciaXxX
He likes you and you know he likes you.




You think so? I always worry maybe I am wrong. Its been 5 years and he hasnt made a move yet officially.

I have seen sags being very close to their friends. They don't care if you are married, guess they are attached and loyal and in constant touch with someone they consider close? It makes you wonder if they are that close why are they not together, or why did sag let them marry someone else. Maybe he likes you but when you mention 5 years and no move, reminded me of this. Or maybe sags wait for the other party to make the move? Not sure. Sags are social butterflies so maybe they hold friendships more close to the heart than love? Do you consider yourselves to be good friends?
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We are good friends I believe. Why would he pick me over other people if we are not? But also... he hasnt made a real move in 5 years! Now he invited me in his guy's trip and even ok that I stay in the same hotel when he has been telling everyone we will all be staying in different hotels lol
Posted by Noni05
Well sag men are something else you can tell when they want you in their life!these men make the effort to see you to spend time together they invest their time. I have a sag friend too we hung out today since I'm single again and we could just hang out and talk and laugh about anything!!!

Notice little comments sag men say that's how you'll know they have feelings. They like to stare too they look at you with a smile on their face!!

So to me based on your sag making time to be with you and do things with you that sounds like you on the right track! They don't invest time if your not what they want.

I'm sag too & I only make time for those who interest me. & when I'm into someone I'm extremely nice polite to them I just treat them differently than the rest. That's how you know when you caught a sags eye!


He does treat me differently. More gentleman to me than other women hahahhaa and he loves to hangout with me. He said because he understands me.
Im trying to get drunk and get comfortable! Lol hahaha
Posted by NotSoInstant
Posted by Geminiforever23
I have this sag friend that I have known for around 5 years. He is a lot older than me but had been single for a while. We have a really awesome connection considering that I am a gem. In fact, he said the same thing and that we enjoy the same things together.

3 years ago i started dating an aqua guy. Back then, sag friend said the only reason he will be friends with aqua guy is because of me. They never really liked each other and we stopped hanging out. Anyway, I recently broke up with the aqua guy. Sag friend was so happy about it and so supportive. Took me out for some drinks at a romantic restaurant with candlelight, and has been inviting me to hangout a lot. Wanted to watch movies like fifty shades darker. Asked me to join a supposedly, boys trip. We work together and almost everyone in the office would ask us why we havent dated yet or that maybe he secretly likes me because im the only girl he hangs out with and he doesnt mind other people teasing us. There was a taurus girl who likes him but he kept rejecting her. He told me as well that I dont have to change and that the right one will find me just perfect. That i should probably date a guy closer to home (we have the same nationality and grew up in the same area). We can spend hours an dhours texting. And he protects me and chooses me over everybody else. One instance was our group of friends didnt really like me because i am blunt and i like different things than them. In the end he chose me and he cut all ties with them. If one of our guy friends are being mean to me, he would tell the guy to stop or shut up.

I am just curious but do you think he secretly likes me? I dont want to jump into conclusions but i wanna understand how sag people act when they like someone.

I think he is being a very good friend.... idk... wouldn't he tell you if he likes you?

But watch his eyes... and boys blush a lot too!


PS- I'm bad at this...
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He blushes a lot hahahaha and he likes to look me in the eyes and i am the one who avoids the eye contact lol
Posted by xXxQueenliciaXxX
Posted by Geminiforever23
Posted by xXxQueenliciaXxX
He likes you and you know he likes you.




You think so? I always worry maybe I am wrong. Its been 5 years and he hasnt made a move yet officially.


You were in a relationship before.


He might be nervous to make a move because he doesn't know how you feel.


Show him that you're interested.
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I honestly dont know how (( its like i didnt want it to be awkward between us although i do look forward to spending time alone with him overseas
Posted by xXxQueenliciaXxX
He likes you and you know he likes you.




You think so? I always worry maybe I am wrong. Its been 5 years and he hasnt made a move yet officially.
I have this sag friend that I have known for around 5 years. He is a lot older than me but had been single for a while. We have a really awesome connection considering that I am a gem. In fact, he said the same thing and that we enjoy the same things together.

3 years ago i started dating an aqua guy. Back then, sag friend said the only reason he will be friends with aqua guy is because of me. They never really liked each other and we stopped hanging out. Anyway, I recently broke up with the aqua guy. Sag friend was so happy about it and so supportive. Took me out for some drinks at a romantic restaurant with candlelight, and has been inviting me to hangout a lot. Wanted to watch movies like fifty shades darker. Asked me to join a supposedly, boys trip. We work together and almost everyone in the office would ask us why we havent dated yet or that maybe he secretly likes me because im the only girl he hangs out with and he doesnt mind other people teasing us. There was a taurus girl who likes him but he kept rejecting her. He told me as well that I dont have to change and that the right one will find me just perfect. That i should probably date a guy closer to home (we have the same nationality and grew up in the same area). We can spend hours an dhours texting. And he protects me and chooses me over everybody else. One instance was our group of friends didnt really like me because i am blunt and i like different things than them. In the end he chose me and he cut all ties with them. If one of our guy friends are being mean to me, he would tell the guy to stop or shut up.

I am just curious but do you think he secretly likes me? I dont want to jump into conclusions but i wanna understand how you guys and gals see this scenario?
Posted by PootyButt
Everything I experience is a learning opportunity. I guess Geminis are forever students of life, so yes, I learn from each of my relationships too. But I have Venus in Taurus, so it's not a flip switch for me. I have to take my time figuring out what went wrong and whether I could have done more before I call it quits. But once it's quits, it's quits for real.

One thing that I have learned is that when I get really hurt I have a victim mentality. Pisces moon, maybe? Gemini allows me to retaliate with words to protect myself. This is ALWAYS a bad thing. There is never a good time for it, because I lose any credibility I had in an argument. I've also learned to sense when someone is cheating and to understand that some men will take advantage if you take care of them too much. Probably the most important thing I've learned is that most men do not want to talk about relationships. It's not just a joke. They want to have the relationship, not discuss it. I've had to learn when something should be brought up and when it should not. And that's a little different with different people.


I sometimes have the victim mentality too. It helps me move on faster lol at this stage i dunno if its good or bad for me yet.