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My experience has been that it depends on their mood and what's going on in their world at the moment. If they have the time and are in a good place mentally, the conversations flow and they are very open (if they trust you). If they're feeling overwhelmed by life, etc., conversations are short without depth...I could see it being described as mysterious because they only give you crumbs. The swings took a little getting used to. I personally love the long, deep conversations...like precious little gems where you get to see sides of them they usually keep pretty guarded.
Posted by Jayc3on
As a Pisces man we do have times expressing ourselves because not every woman understand us. Our approach is different when we like a woman.


Different how?
Also, bummed that I lost your encouraging messages regarding my Pisces friend.
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Posted by glasshalffull
@lesenfantterribles Thanks for responding. Yes, he sucks at electronic communication, I've told him that. lol When we stopped working together it all started to fall apart...no more daily contact. I vented my frustrations when he started to ghost me but once he sent that text in the middle of the night, it was all about trying to help him work through whatever feelings he has for me....and a reality check that even if I was single, it would never work. We have two very different life style s. But that's what makes it so much fun as friends...we have fun with our differences.

I will just keep reaching out every few months, caring and light hearted. When I do, it is just one or two sentences. He'll need to respond to find out what's happening in my life. If he does come back, our friendship will be that much stronger.


similar thing happened w/ my last crush, a pisces. he was in town for work & we would see each other often, through out the week. hanging out was easy bc i was always around, in his weekly routine, running into him. we both left the city we met in (in june) and i have heard from him only twice since then.

he did, however, recently email to see if i was going to be in new orleans (where we met) next year bc i guess his work is going back to the city. so, that's a plus in my book. that email made me think that he was at least thinking about me so, i am just fine if i dont hear from him for like 7 months lol
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I have another male Pisces friend. He knows the story of the first Pisces and how his silence has hurt me. So, he goes above and beyond to ensure he doesn't follow the same pattern. But, funny...as hard as he tries, he still slips up sometimes. They both just have so much going on in their lives...and in their heads. Can't help but love them.
@lesenfantterribles Thanks for responding. Yes, he sucks at electronic communication, I've told him that. lol When we stopped working together it all started to fall apart...no more daily contact. I vented my frustrations when he started to ghost me but once he sent that text in the middle of the night, it was all about trying to help him work through whatever feelings he has for me....and a reality check that even if I was single, it would never work. We have two very different life style s. But that's what makes it so much fun as friends...we have fun with our differences.

I will just keep reaching out every few months, caring and light hearted. When I do, it is just one or two sentences. He'll need to respond to find out what's happening in my life. If he does come back, our friendship will be that much stronger.
Posted by Greendream69
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@Jayceon Another question if you could be so kind...

Different friend, very close Pisces/Aqua cusp male, 7 yrs younger who's been through so much personal tragedy the past 4 years. I was like his big sister, sounding board through his divorce, girlfriend, etc. We had a Seinfeld Jerry/Elaine type relationship where no topic was off limits. It was a blast and I thought he could handle it. Then he started to ghost me...and his last text was in the middle of the night "You know I love you and always will". That was one year ago. I immediately did everything I could to help him move me back to the sister/friend zone...no response to any of it.

I know he's still going through stuff, hurting. I can't bring myself to just walk away. I keep reaching out every few months, just to say Hi so he knows I still care. He's been through so much, I just want to show him love and kindness. I know from experience that when he's suffering he goes into hiding. I made mistakes by trying to push him to talk...not knowing it's best to just leave Pisces alone sometimes. So, he probably expects the same and just can't deal with all the questions...so he stays away. I've changed/learned but don't know how to convey that since he won't respond.

Am I doing the right thing? Might he come around when he's in a better place, if I keep leaving the door open? He's PAINFULLY shy when it comes to women in general. I know if I don't contact him, he for sure won't contact me for fear of being rejected. Or, am I just wasting my time...kidding myself? Appreciate your thoughts.


Why won't you ever consider him for more then friendship, some of the best relationships grow from friends first? Just curious, especially since you seem to not be able to walk away..
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I've been happily married for 24 yrs and he's recently divorced after 18 yrs. We worked together on a project for 10 months and just clicked as great friends. Nothing weird, he's even met my husband and they like each other.
@Jayceon Well, I have yet to meet a Pisces who isn't kind. So I should keep being consistent in my reaching out to him every few months, even though he hasn't responded for over a year? Again, I do know he continues to be in a bad place. When he first started ghosting me and I was venting my frustration, he said he would NEVER write me off. Just so hard, when this has been going on so long.
So appreciate you!
@Jayceon Another question if you could be so kind...

Different friend, very close Pisces/Aqua cusp male, 7 yrs younger who's been through so much personal tragedy the past 4 years. I was like his big sister, sounding board through his divorce, girlfriend, etc. We had a Seinfeld Jerry/Elaine type relationship where no topic was off limits. It was a blast and I thought he could handle it. Then he started to ghost me...and his last text was in the middle of the night "You know I love you and always will". That was one year ago. I immediately did everything I could to help him move me back to the sister/friend zone...no response to any of it.

I know he's still going through stuff, hurting. I can't bring myself to just walk away. I keep reaching out every few months, just to say Hi so he knows I still care. He's been through so much, I just want to show him love and kindness. I know from experience that when he's suffering he goes into hiding. I made mistakes by trying to push him to talk...not knowing it's best to just leave Pisces alone sometimes. So, he probably expects the same and just can't deal with all the questions...so he stays away. I've changed/learned but don't know how to convey that since he won't respond.

Am I doing the right thing? Might he come around when he's in a better place, if I keep leaving the door open? He's PAINFULLY shy when it comes to women in general. I know if I don't contact him, he for sure won't contact me for fear of being rejected. Or, am I just wasting my time...kidding myself? Appreciate your thoughts.
Everyone says "We will stay in touch". Does Pisces keep their word if the other person does their part to keep the friendship going? (Cancer Female / Pisces Male)
Posted by Rozaeon
I always had just one or two girl friend and the rest are guys. Why ? I don't know, but i'm always more comfortable with men


Guys are just WAY more interesting. Females tend to bring too much drama. I work in IT, so many times I'm the only female on the team.
Posted by Jayceon
He's probably an Pisces/Aqua cusp hence the awkwardness.


Ahhh...so that explains why my friend acts like 47 going on 17. Manly man, hard a** who melts and turns into this insecure teenager when he's around a lady he likes. Poor guy just freaks.
Posted by Wineaux15
Most people I know born on Feb. 19th are still open a free like an Aqua but still VERY emotional like a Pisces. For example: I have a friend who's birthday is that day.... she's open to threesomes with her boyfriend, but he can't step out on her without her in the pic. Another Feb. 19th guy I know is fun to party with, but in relationships he's very loyal and emotional. Like... don't even look at another man type thing or he'll cry ?.


Interesting. I see the same guy behavior in my friend as well. So fabulously entertaining socially and yet he's emotional as b*tter when it comes to relationships. Thanks for the info!
Posted by lesenfantterribles
in my experience, pisceans are bad with the phone, computer, etc & best face to face.

they are the best "vibers" & seem to do best when in physical presence so they can feel things out.

even more intensified if they have a mercury in pisces


Seems they use electronic communication to be polite, or for example if you've asked for their help, but it's usually short and to the point. They will initiate that type of communication once and a while if they have something important to say (e.g., wish you happy birthday, congrats on something, news they feel you need to know about, etc.)...rarely just to chat. Or, they might ask you how you are doing and let you do all the talking. They will 'show up' when you least expect it...and SHOW you how they feel with sweet and very thoughtful gestures.

FB and social media, NEVER in my experience. They won't even have an account. I think it's because, as others have said, they are guarded and can pick up on bs in a flash, social media is a waste of their time. In-person communication is their preference and they can be so attentive making you feel like you're the only one in the room. Even just as friends. I believe you will find you make the most progress (emotional closeness) in-person. Electronic communication will continue to frustrate you. She'll seem like you have her undivided attention and then she'll be gone again. Try not to take it personally. In my experience, it's just how they are.

Once they trust you, they are extremely loyal. As long as you let them have their space and you aren't too demanding of their time and attention. It may sound silly but I find it's best to let them be the last text/chat in the conversation. Not sure why but maybe it keeps them wanting more and not feeling smothered.
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@soundsunscene "As a Pisces as I know they internalize things and as man when you have no one to talk to it isn't easy. That stereo typical Pisces going to the dark side is just so hard to watch as an onlooker and I feel like I'm living an abnormal life watching it all go on and being involved in it so I'm not sure what to do for myself as well as him."

My heart goes out to you. I've been trying to support a male Pisces (I'm Cancer too) who has been going through a dark period for a few years now. Ugly divorce after 18 yrs, followed by a girlfriend break up after 2.5 yrs and the guilt of it throwing her into a clinical depression. He's cried in front of me too and shared very personal stuff. He's an emotional mess...I just try to give him space when he needs it to go through his process of healing, while letting him know I'm always there for him. But it's VERY hard for me, caring about him as I do...that maternal Cancer in me. He'll just ghost for months at a time. Show up like all is well and then disappear again just as quickly. Cancers/Pisces connect at a very deep, unique level. I have the same special connection with another male Pisces but he knows how to handle life without the destructive behaviors and is always present in my life.

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Posted by MagicMarch
So you should've called him out on his behavior. Be direct. Tell him he was wrong for not keeping it real and letting you know that he didn't or couldn't hang out.

Don't beat around the bush with these men, gets you nowhere.


I did basically. After I got no response from him about our plans still being on I sent him this last text.

You know it's very cruel and hurtful to make plans with someone and then just stop talking to them. For future reference, a simple "I'm no longer interested" would do the job.
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To say this is familiar is an understatement! I struggle with a male Pisces friend who is always quick to talk about plans but never follows through...so frustrating Not just with me, he does it to other guy friends as well. Then he's shocked when the guys blow him off. smh I've called him out on the behavior a number of times...nothing but silence in return. I consider him a dear friend. I know he's an emotional mess, going through a lot of b*tter on a personal level...so I will continue to try and 'deal' with him. Can't imagine dealing with him on a romantic level though. He flip-flops from being very caring to not giving a b*tter about what people think.
Posted by Jayceon
He is what you would call an unevolved Pisces.


Can you please provide more detailed examples of 'unevolved'? Would you consider it the same as 'low functioning'? Just curious since I have two (very different) Pisces male friends.
Following your previous thread...interesting Pisces times you are having indeed!
My experience is they are very purposeful in their comments. They choose their words very carefully.
@WaterDevil Two different Pisces males. With the first friend, we both didn't understand the natural connection, his eyes would lock on and not let go, he started having feelings and pulled back (I'm married and he was coming off an ugly divorce). I will never give up hope that he'll come back into my life some day.

The other friend came into my life a year later. I started the 'connection' conversation as soon as I found out he's a Pisces as a proactive measure. He immediately got it, no problem. He's also married. We've been good friends for over a year. But, still those eyes...man...they are dangerous! lol