Posted by SomeSortOfMermaid
If you prefer something easy breezy and a person with no moods, a water sign is defo not for you.



Yeah it's not my cup of tea. I can deal with Scorpio's tho for some reason. Libra and Leo is more my speed but leaning more towards Libra lately.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
Who cares.
Why do people need to get along anyways?

There's this Cap cry baby coworker that tried to make me feel guilty for being myself.

Well the bytch thought id just be cool with it and we can go back to being chummy

But if i can't be myself, i ain't going to be someone else for you

I'm polite and friendly but I've taken out my loud personality and gregarious nature . She doesn't get fun me. She can get serious me. She gets i don't give a flying treetruk cc.

I'm not going to tip toe around anybody

I also don't hang around her much

She notices

I'm just turned off

Her sensitivity really treetruking annoyed me to the point i don't want to interact


Why is she a cry baby?

For me, I look at myself to see what am doing to excite negative feelings in others. It's not about changing who you are, it's about presenting your best self.

I use the reactions from others as feedback.

I tend to be on serious side a lot. My Gemini sun is sandwiched between two super fixed signs so...

With that in mind, I made it a point to be social with this cancer and it made all the difference.
Posted by brianafay
Good luck!!


Lol thanks. Cause I'll need it, right?
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Do you think a cancer woman would manipulate a situation/ person in order to get a rise or to get a certain reaction from you?

Like if they have the upper hand or holds what everyone needs to do their job or move forward.


It depends on the crab. Some can really hit below the belt. Just observe her before you come to a conclusion of who she is and what she is capable of...



She's hit below the belt a few times but I just ignored it. I did have a conversation with her and I think that helped a lot.

I'm not a fan of this whole experience. I'm getting off this as soon as possible.


Some of them are odd that way. They initiate friendship by being total bullies. It's only until you put them in their place and give them a taste of their own medicine, that you see them soften up to you, care for you, protect you.

Must be a test or something. I have no idea why this happens... but I've experienced it a few times. One time a crabbette was bullying a Leo girl and the girl was quiet and no one came to her defense. So I lashed out and with a very stern voice gave her quite a speech in front of others. And told her to behave like an adult (we were in college 🙄). She immediately changed after that day and we became very good friends after that (the Leo included!)

If you've already experienced the worst... maybe it's worth it to find out what lies deyond the bully initiation period?

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Yeah I totally see the bully part in her. Maybe it's a coping mechanism because they are so sensitive. There seems to be a few like that here on this site. While the rest are secure within themselves so they have no need to exercise their demons.

All in all, this was a learning experience, I guess. One that I don't want to repeat.
Posted by brianafay
😂😂water signs like it when you're straight up with them.... 😂😂

I work with 2 Pisces women and they both say that they prefer people to be straight up with them and want people to tell them if they're being annoying, rude, etc. but they don't really want me to be straight up with them trust me 😒
They definitely CAN NOT take it. They are both highly defensive and combative.

Messy as hell

One of them asked me if I would let her know if she's being crazy, cause people had complained about her, and I was like haaaaa good one 👌🏻



Yeah my thoughts exactly. I would think being straight forward would be too much for water signs cause you don't know when you'll hit a nerve. I'll give it a try tho.
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Do you think a cancer woman would manipulate a situation/ person in order to get a rise or to get a certain reaction from you?

Like if they have the upper hand or holds what everyone needs to do their job or move forward.


It depends on the crab. Some can really hit below the belt. Just observe her before you come to a conclusion of who she is and what she is capable of...

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She's hit below the belt a few times but I just ignored it. I did have a conversation with her and I think that helped a lot.

I'm not a fan of this whole experience. I'm getting off this as soon as possible.
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Posted by Chuckcem
Well...THEY can push pull, YOU have to be direct. In fact I'd say it's best to be upfront and honest with water sign women. They'll FEEL your honesty. The worst thing you could do is play games with a Scorpio woman, even if SHE plays them first. I literally just finished a conversation with a Cancer friend who married her husband because he was so direct. She dated a Virgo who did the push-pull thing and she hated it.

When water sign women get upset they need a partner who can ride that wave. Generally they need someone who can bring them out of the depths of that emotion. It can be very cyclical, so it best is they have a partner wlho can keep them from sulking.


That makes sense actually. I can be too direct so it's not a problem. It just seems like a lot of work.

It seems like a lot of little things can upset a cancer. I'm not that aware but I guess I need to be.

I'm not romantically involved with this person by the way.


you dont get us, you'll never get us

just stop trying and go to greener pastures.

its' annoying reading your posts about crabs.

move on.
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I don't make posts about crabs. I understand you have a persona you feel you have to keep up but I'm desperately trying to understand this person. I'll appreciate any constructive feedback or criticism.
Do you think a cancer woman would manipulate a situation/ person in order to get a rise or to get a certain reaction from you?

Like if they have the upper hand or holds what everyone needs to do their job or move forward.
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Posted by Chuckcem
Well...THEY can push pull, YOU have to be direct. In fact I'd say it's best to be upfront and honest with water sign women. They'll FEEL your honesty. The worst thing you could do is play games with a Scorpio woman, even if SHE plays them first. I literally just finished a conversation with a Cancer friend who married her husband because he was so direct. She dated a Virgo who did the push-pull thing and she hated it.

When water sign women get upset they need a partner who can ride that wave. Generally they need someone who can bring them out of the depths of that emotion. It can be very cyclical, so it best is they have a partner who can keep them from sulking.


Im a male but i can relate to what you say. I feel when someone isn't honest with me. Because of that, honesty is extremely important for me in every relationship (romantic or not), i value it a lot and can hardly tolerate dishonesty.
The second part of your post is also a very good point, imo. Someone who understands the emotions a water sign feels and knows what to do in order to help the person stand up and not succumb to the wave is a very good quality.
OP, to that i would add having patience and being able to detach from what the water sign person does. Water people are often very emotional and sometimes do inadequate things. One needs to have a lot of patience and be very understanding towards the water person. We rarely do what we do to hurt u, so don't take it personal, it doesn't help instead talking about the issue can be very helpful, communication is very important
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I have no issues communicating. I
Posted by Chuckcem
Well...THEY can push pull, YOU have to be direct. In fact I'd say it's best to be upfront and honest with water sign women. They'll FEEL your honesty. The worst thing you could do is play games with a Scorpio woman, even if SHE plays them first. I literally just finished a conversation with a Cancer friend who married her husband because he was so direct. She dated a Virgo who did the push-pull thing and she hated it.

When water sign women get upset they need a partner who can ride that wave. Generally they need someone who can bring them out of the depths of that emotion. It can be very cyclical, so it best is they have a partner wlho can keep them from sulking.


That makes sense actually. I can be too direct so it's not a problem. It just seems like a lot of work.

It seems like a lot of little things can upset a cancer. I'm not that aware but I guess I need to be.

I'm not romantically involved with this person by the way.
Is there supposed to be a push and pull?

Like water sign gets upset then you go make up? Doing that over and over again...is that the norm until understanding it reached between you too.
"Life is found when you shed your skin."


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Posted by ScorpioTruth
I'd advise men to never do this. I've received unsolicited dick pics and had to embarrass the guy for thinking I wanted to see his little crooked butter. Women are not as visual as men are. A dick pic does nothing for me expect make me think you're starved for attention.


How did you embarrass him?
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You men need to cut it out with the dick pics, unless she's your girl and she's asking for them. I'm sorry, but when you're texting or messaging casually, and a dick pops up, it makes you want to throw your phone across the room. "Well hell, what am I supposed to do with this?", "do I tell him it's pretty, or that it's huge, even if it's not?", "what the flip am I looking at?", "I'm not sending any pics of my couch". Damn, bro. Enough.


LOL took the words right out of my mouth.

Imagine trying to have a decent text conversation with someone who is only a platonic friend, and then out of nowhere he sends you a dick pic.

My exact words then were, "Unless you have a sore or a wound there that you want my opinion on, please don't show me that."
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Reply "sounds great !! 😉"

Then see what he says...


Yes, this ^

And add "I'll make sure to wear my lucky panties haha" or "sweater." Depending on how close you guys are


Hahaha definitely not the kind of response that'd be from me


Bro.... you gotta send more texts like this! And nudes too!! Capture and lead his imagination. Puts the ball on your court.


No
He'll only want sex from me and he'll have sexual expectations etc


That depends on a number of Factor's so you can never know for sure. Is this someone you recently met? How'd you meet? How long you known each other?


End of January, tinder. Had good long convos for sometime.
Then met early February in person.
Conversation became scattered and weird that week after we met.
Then no contact the week after that
Then I contact him the following week and he takes too long to respond so I thought he was either upset with me or lost interest.
At the end of that week, i spontaneously ask if he wants to do something and he takes me to his game. We hangout after and kiss.
Then basically back to butterty texting so now here I am.


In both instances you initiated the contact to get things going. Are you expecting him to initiate things because he's the guy?

Are using astrology to predict his behavior?

You probably come off as really boring and hella conservative but I can tell that you're not. There's obviously interest but something or someone is creating a barrier to entry.



No I didn't initiate in the beginning. He did.
I only initiated after we didn't talk for a week and the second time we hungout.

I'm expecting initiation from him because it will help me gauge his interest.
And I always use astrology to figure out how to get to a particular guy but being manipulative doesn't really work does it?

How did I come off hella boring to him?

The barrier is Saturn or that he's got hotter options.
I just can't compete with other girls


SMH..Vagina, vagina, vagina... we have a lot of work to do, love. *deep sigh*

1). You ALWAYS have to be your biggest cheerleader. Even if he does have other options, what makes you think they're hotter than you? Have you seen them?

2). Wtf does Saturn have to do with anything? Let the stars do what they do where they're at. Put more faith in who you are and your own efforts.

3). He initiated the first time but I'm sensing that you're creating the barrier unnecessarily. Maybe you have a vision in your head of how you think things are supposed to go instead of surrendering to the situation and letting things evolve organically.

Have you had a lot of relationships in the past?


I'm inexperienced in that department--that's why I ask a lot of questions in the man cave to gather research on males.

Idk anything about his other options but I always feel like I'm at a disadvantage.

My own efforts: what can I do now? I don't want to do all the 'work' and I'm not texting him unless he texts me--I've already decided this part.

Perhaps there is a barrier but I thought it was him putting up a barrier. Idk how to just let myself go. I don't want to treetrunk this up.



Why does it have to be 'work?' Aren't you interested?

You have to give a little if you want something back, love. That's usually how it goes.

I feel like people dive so much into astrology because it takes responsibility away from them... like if they "know" so much about a person they can control the situation without much skin in the game.

But it doesn't work like that. He hasn't completely axed you out of his life so there's a window of opportunity, but you have to go for it.

"Lazy people always work twice as hard"

Your relationship is stale at this point. Since you won't text something sexy to get his attention. Put on some super sexy and send him a pic asking him what he thinks. Push your pride and fear out the way.


Ok I'll compromise
If he initiates again--I'll let go and try to flirt n be sexy instead of calculating
I'm not going to randomly sext him.


Lol why not?


Because
How would you respond to someone randomly sexting you?
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With piqued interest. It doesn't have to be a sext. Like I said, you can take a pic of you in a sexy outfit asking for his opinion. I understand you don't want to be portrayed a certain way but at least you'll have his attention. Idk, good luck
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Posted by Noni05
Reply "sounds great !! 😉"

Then see what he says...


Yes, this ^

And add "I'll make sure to wear my lucky panties haha" or "sweater." Depending on how close you guys are


Hahaha definitely not the kind of response that'd be from me


Bro.... you gotta send more texts like this! And nudes too!! Capture and lead his imagination. Puts the ball on your court.


No
He'll only want sex from me and he'll have sexual expectations etc


That depends on a number of Factor's so you can never know for sure. Is this someone you recently met? How'd you meet? How long you known each other?


End of January, tinder. Had good long convos for sometime.
Then met early February in person.
Conversation became scattered and weird that week after we met.
Then no contact the week after that
Then I contact him the following week and he takes too long to respond so I thought he was either upset with me or lost interest.
At the end of that week, i spontaneously ask if he wants to do something and he takes me to his game. We hangout after and kiss.
Then basically back to butterty texting so now here I am.


In both instances you initiated the contact to get things going. Are you expecting him to initiate things because he's the guy?

Are using astrology to predict his behavior?

You probably come off as really boring and hella conservative but I can tell that you're not. There's obviously interest but something or someone is creating a barrier to entry.



No I didn't initiate in the beginning. He did.
I only initiated after we didn't talk for a week and the second time we hungout.

I'm expecting initiation from him because it will help me gauge his interest.
And I always use astrology to figure out how to get to a particular guy but being manipulative doesn't really work does it?

How did I come off hella boring to him?

The barrier is Saturn or that he's got hotter options.
I just can't compete with other girls


SMH..Vagina, vagina, vagina... we have a lot of work to do, love. *deep sigh*

1). You ALWAYS have to be your biggest cheerleader. Even if he does have other options, what makes you think they're hotter than you? Have you seen them?

2). Wtf does Saturn have to do with anything? Let the stars do what they do where they're at. Put more faith in who you are and your own efforts.

3). He initiated the first time but I'm sensing that you're creating the barrier unnecessarily. Maybe you have a vision in your head of how you think things are supposed to go instead of surrendering to the situation and letting things evolve organically.

Have you had a lot of relationships in the past?


I'm inexperienced in that department--that's why I ask a lot of questions in the man cave to gather research on males.

Idk anything about his other options but I always feel like I'm at a disadvantage.

My own efforts: what can I do now? I don't want to do all the 'work' and I'm not texting him unless he texts me--I've already decided this part.

Perhaps there is a barrier but I thought it was him putting up a barrier. Idk how to just let myself go. I don't want to treetrunk this up.



Why does it have to be 'work?' Aren't you interested?

You have to give a little if you want something back, love. That's usually how it goes.

I feel like people dive so much into astrology because it takes responsibility away from them... like if they "know" so much about a person they can control the situation without much skin in the game.

But it doesn't work like that. He hasn't completely axed you out of his life so there's a window of opportunity, but you have to go for it.

"Lazy people always work twice as hard"

Your relationship is stale at this point. Since you won't text something sexy to get his attention. Put on some super sexy and send him a pic asking him what he thinks. Push your pride and fear out the way.


Ok I'll compromise
If he initiates again--I'll let go and try to flirt n be sexy instead of calculating
I'm not going to randomly sext him.
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Lol why not?