Occupy myself with tasks or try a new hobby. The more I am busy the more that I think about it less and be more productive then just sitting around. But of course I accept the fact that moving on will not happen overnight and I just do what I need to do to get on by and time will definitely make things fall into their right place.
As a sag, when it's over it is over. I see no point being friends with an ex. Yes, we are civil and we greet each other whenever we see each other but no more hanging out or other communication. I feel like it's a waste of time and I'd rather move forward then read an old book.
Most of the time I just let things slide because I like peace but never been afraid of confrontation when needed.

What triggers it? Unjustice, deceit and people taking advantage of me or my loved ones. I also notice when I explode I know exactly what to do to get into peoples skin and then the angers subside and then I'm back to my happy go lucky self and act like nothing ever happened. Heheh
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After 5 months of seeing each other and the Virgo games of get close then disappear-I thought things were finally heading in a good direction. We went from seeing each other once a month to almost once a week-he was actually initiating conversation, we even had a convo about liking each other. I was finally feeling we were getting close-intimate. Then out of the blue, he starts pulling away. Not like the other times (or maybe I just didn't notice since I wasn't liking him as much in the beginning). We had plans he initiated, then he was a no call no show. He had a plausible explanation, but during that conversation he blurted out "I am not looking for a relationship if that is what you are asking". I was blown away-pretty hurt-like I said, things were moving along (finally!) and then this. I kept my cool (this was a phone convo) and said I appreciated his honesty. He basically said he enjoyed spending time with me and then we kinda ended the call on a normal note. I am devastated. I don't understand what could have happened?? My best friend who has known him for years says she thinks he is scared. I need advice. My gut says he really likes me (he is no player-quite the opposite so I find it VERY hard to believe he could have faked the level of intimacy we shared). What in the heck do I do? I initially told him I thought we could continue to see each other in a physical sense now that I knew what he was feeling, but I know I cant. I will just keep falling harder. I am so heartbroken. Advice would be GREATLY appreciated. I have posted before-I am a Sag, he is Virgo/Libra cusp.


Sag here and dated a couple of Virgos. At the early stages, my Virgo was a bit on/off with how he shows his feelings. I was also checking to see his true intentions were (I have Virgo moon), he will flirt with me then the next day he can be totally different. I don't know if it's a sag thing but I always feel that he is interested but just doesn't want to show it he can say with his actions that he is not interested but the way he looks at me was totally the opposite. We remain friends and I got to know him I try not to be bothered by the on/off thing, I always think that if he wants me he'll let me know. After a couple of months of being friends he finally decided to tell me and was not holding back at all and wasn't shy about it. He said he was very sure about me but didn't know how to express his feelings and now he put a ring on it.
I agree, no one should be in that position. I'm currently in a relationship with a man who has an abusive ex. When they were together she would physically hurt him and yell at him in public because she was mas mad because he was late or he was smoking. Even to this day that ex stills try to wiggle her way to our lives (even if they breakup 10 years ago) by reaching out to me, my friends or my SO's friends, by being in the same places we frequently go to (we live in a small city).

From what I've seen abusive people are insecure and they want control. No excuse for that behaviour.
Sag how do you deal with show off friends/one-upmanship?

We've encountered a couple of friends who are like this. Just curious how everyone deals with situations like this esp if it's someone you have to around most of time?
Posted by hellosaggy
@hhhmermaid

you have an earth moon. moons control emotions.... you want foundation and commitment.


That's very true. It sometimes confuses people since I'm very intense but at the same time want time to build foundation and trust and that takes a lot of time for me but being a Sag I find it easy to talk to people and be friendly with them which sometimes is misunderstood for flirting.

I do find that I'm not really good at 'dating' (meeting new people/blind dates) but almost all relationships I've had including the one that I have now started off as friends and for a very long time before I even think about dating them/be committed.
Can you please let me know the compatibility of these two charts:

Thank you!


Female
Sun / Sag
Moon / Virgo
Mars / Aries
Mercury / Sag
Venus / Scorpio


Male
Sun / Virgo
Moon / Cancer
Mars / Virgo
Mercury / Libra
Venus / Libra

We are intense especially with the matters of the heart. For me, I know who I wanted but became indecisive when I'm not too sure the person can commit to me or not or they did not made it clear what their intentions are to me. But once I make a commitment and 100% sure that person is also committed to me I stick around for good.

Sag sun / Moon in Virgo / Venus in Scorpio
Red flags everywhere.

You could tell him that you're uncomfortable about it. If he's gonna do something about it that means he cares if not then you know where you stand.
Virgos, Aries, Scorpios are my top 3! ❤️
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As everyone has already said, it depends on how the breakup happened. Who initiated it and why? If the breakup was bad and the Leo burned the bridge, then no. Even if you reconnect, he may not trust you romantically again.

If the breakup was pleasant, neutral, or unclear, then there is a chance the Leo still soft spot for you. You'll know this if the Leo has made it easy to access him. If a Leo doesn't want to communicate with you, we'll make it impossible for you to reach us. We don't play nice when we go cold. So there's a chance he harbors some affection for you still.

The best indication is that he reached out to you. Leos are proud, so this can be difficult for us to do after a breakup. If he's looking to reconnect, it could be a good thing. Only you can tell us how your relationship was though.



Hmm.. my fiance's ex who is a Leo tried to add him up on social media and try to initiate a conversation it was casual. She also tried to ask her friends to invite me on a trip (fiance was uninvited) and were not even friends. I didn't go it seems weird haha


Wait, so your Leo ex is trying to reconnect with you, but you have a fiance? If that's the case, what does it matter what the Leo wants? If you plan on remaining faithful to your fiance, just let the Leo know you're engaged and friendship is all that you can offer.

Also your fiance has a Leo ex who is trying to connect with you and invite you on a trip? That's very strange if you don't know this woman.


Sorry for the confusion. My Fiance had Leo ex that he broke up 10 years ago (she was physically abusive) But this Leo woman still tries to initiate contact with my Fiance after they broke up. She also tried to invite me through our common friends to join them on a trip even more odd that they invited me without inviting my fiance.

Hope this made sense. I usually don't have problems with Leos. I have a lot of Leo friends and mostly females. But this one is just kind of odd to invite me when we are not even friends to begin with.



Oh got it, if she was abusive towards him then she may be looking to weasel her way back into his life. What better way to maintain some control over him than by getting in good with his fiance. On top of that, she may have some resentment towards you as well.

I can't see how getting close to his ex would help either of you. I suggest you keep her at arms length OR just remove her from your lives altogether. She's an abusive ex after all, meaning there's no real friendship worth salvaging.
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Yes, my fiance did remove her from his life. When we started dating and the Leo still keeps trying to connect with him. He told the Leo that he is replying to her not because he wanted to be a part of her life again but to make it clear that what they have was over. He is sorry that they didn't work out but it was done. That he wishes her happiness. But the Leo replied with something like "if you are sorry you could have put in more effort". My fiance never bothered to reply and just ignored her after that.

Now, the Leo tries to joins the club that I'm in and then befriends my and my fiance's friends. Even her friends wants to be friends with me acting all friendly which is very odd.

I just wish this Leo will just stop and move on.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
Has she ever met your so?


Yes, but briefly, my SO picked up me during one of our get togethers.
I have a friend whom I recently met through a hobby, she's a Leo, we've instantly got a long (I'm a Sag). She always share her relationship issues with me and she always says how much she admires the relationship that I have with my SO who's a Virgo man. At first it was okay but almost all the time my friend Leo and I got together she always ask where my partner is, that I should brought him with me and/or that she sometimes says that how she wish she has something similar to what I have with my Virgo man. I always reassure her and give her advice that the right man will come along and she just needs to enjoy life. I always never bring my SO to our get together because I wanted to have some girl time and most of the time we go out it's mostly just girls anyway.

The reason why I posted this is this is becoming a habit and just today she asked me to join her on a trip and to bring a long my SO. It's not a double date or anything and she will bring along her other girl friends.

I have no issues in the past with Leos as I have a couple of close friends both male and female who are in the same sign (but those friends I knew for a while) and have been through a lot with them.
For me Dishonesty (cheating) is at the top of my list.

Nothing turns me off than a man without ambition and being too negative. I can't stand it. I try to be optimistic as much possible so this really turns me off.
Thank you all for the input. I usually attract earth (virgo and taurus), Fire (Aries, Leo and Sag) and Air (Aqua)

I'm attracted to Virgo there something so calming about Virgo guys.

Also there's one Taurus but he has a lot of Aries placement on his chart. I always find Aries people too much. That relationship didn't last long. We always clashed. But I find Aries to be very great as friends! Love them
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As everyone has already said, it depends on how the breakup happened. Who initiated it and why? If the breakup was bad and the Leo burned the bridge, then no. Even if you reconnect, he may not trust you romantically again.

If the breakup was pleasant, neutral, or unclear, then there is a chance the Leo still soft spot for you. You'll know this if the Leo has made it easy to access him. If a Leo doesn't want to communicate with you, we'll make it impossible for you to reach us. We don't play nice when we go cold. So there's a chance he harbors some affection for you still.

The best indication is that he reached out to you. Leos are proud, so this can be difficult for us to do after a breakup. If he's looking to reconnect, it could be a good thing. Only you can tell us how your relationship was though.



Hmm.. my fiance's ex who is a Leo tried to add him up on social media and try to initiate a conversation it was casual. She also tried to ask her friends to invite me on a trip (fiance was uninvited) and were not even friends. I didn't go it seems weird haha


Wait, so your Leo ex is trying to reconnect with you, but you have a fiance? If that's the case, what does it matter what the Leo wants? If you plan on remaining faithful to your fiance, just let the Leo know you're engaged and friendship is all that you can offer.

Also your fiance has a Leo ex who is trying to connect with you and invite you on a trip? That's very strange if you don't know this woman.
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Sorry for the confusion. My Fiance had Leo ex that he broke up 10 years ago (she was physically abusive) But this Leo woman still tries to initiate contact with my Fiance after they broke up. She also tried to invite me through our common friends to join them on a trip even more odd that they invited me without inviting my fiance.

Hope this made sense. I usually don't have problems with Leos. I have a lot of Leo friends and mostly females. But this one is just kind of odd to invite me when we are not even friends to begin with.

Posted by Chuckcem
As everyone has already said, it depends on how the breakup happened. Who initiated it and why? If the breakup was bad and the Leo burned the bridge, then no. Even if you reconnect, he may not trust you romantically again.

If the breakup was pleasant, neutral, or unclear, then there is a chance the Leo still soft spot for you. You'll know this if the Leo has made it easy to access him. If a Leo doesn't want to communicate with you, we'll make it impossible for you to reach us. We don't play nice when we go cold. So there's a chance he harbors some affection for you still.

The best indication is that he reached out to you. Leos are proud, so this can be difficult for us to do after a breakup. If he's looking to reconnect, it could be a good thing. Only you can tell us how your relationship was though.



Hmm.. my fiance's ex who is a Leo tried to add him up on social media and try to initiate a conversation it was casual. She also tried to ask her friends to invite me on a trip (fiance was uninvited) and were not even friends. I didn't go it seems weird haha