Idk what all of DXP is smoking lately but I want some.

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Answer honestly please.

Why would you ask this Dazed? Do you honestly think someone who is so disgusting would admit to it?

Also treetrunk the people that have done it. I fell when I was pregnant the last time and.. I’m not getting into all of it but I have guilt for falling. If anyone did that on purpose.. take the chair and die.

Were you a baby in the womb?

Yes Chef

Then you've kicked a pregger lady.

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No never kicked a person who was pregnant. I fell once. No kicking involved ☹️

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Answer honestly please.

Why would you ask this Dazed? Do you honestly think someone who is so disgusting would admit to it?

Also treetrunk the people that have done it. I fell when I was pregnant the last time and.. I’m not getting into all of it but I have guilt for falling. If anyone did that on purpose.. take the chair and die.

Were you a baby in the womb?

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Yes Chef

I miss Mafia games.

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Answer honestly please.

Why would you ask this Dazed? Do you honestly think someone who is so disgusting would admit to it?

Also treetrunk the people that have done it. I fell when I was pregnant the last time and.. I’m not getting into all of it but I have guilt for falling. If anyone did that on purpose.. take the chair and die.

Posted by Erinelda
I start dressed up with full make up and a dress to lure him into a false sense of security.. and then every date I do something a little less effort.. even buttertier perhaps. Until he is taking me to Walmart in a messy bun and yoga pants.
Sometimes they bail date two, I'm really not that good lookin' xD

Love thyself. I’m sure you’re gorgeous in sweat pants ❤️

I hate dating, so I’ve dressed up for them a few times and it wasn’t anything better for it.

I usually wear jeans and all sorts of tops, dressy and casual. I actually don’t care and I think or hope people pick up on it. Current Aries I think I’m falling in love with saw me in a pink hoodie and grey sweats when I picked my car up from the bar from the night before a few months ago.

We did know each other from before, and I changed my outfit before i let up with him later that day. Was still casual, just not bedtime I don’t care casual.

I don’t think men care all that much about what you’re wearing if they feel something for you already. Or maybe that’s how I feel. I don’t know.

Getting to dress up once in a while is fun for me. But I’d rather be comfortable and I dont want to portray myself as something I’m not.

Posted by LostinmyMind11
Sweat pants and a t-shirt...I want them to be disappointed at jump 😂

Dress to unimpress.. if they like you anyway, they’re a keeper 😁

Aquarius. Gemini and Scorpio is good for a while, but I don’t think that’s meant to last.

I’ve seen some good Aqua and Scorp couples though. Also Cap and Scorp seems to be a good match from what I’ve seen.

I don’t really believe in subtle red flags. It’s either a red flag, glaringly obvious, or it’s something so well hidden you couldn’t have known until you’re already invested and then it comes out.

Thank you.. probably the only Gemini staying in tonight, lol 😂🙏

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...but when you get there they are with their gfs/bfs with them?

I had mostly male friends growing up so it’s always weird when we get together now. I hate that feeling so I avoid the parties for the most part. I went to one a few weeks ago, my best friend (whose male) came home from CA and I couldn’t not see him.

Everyone else that I used to be close with was standoffish with me because I was there alone. It’s a weird feeling to be looked at like you’re a threat when it’s just your friends. And hence, that is why I lost touch with most of them.

Wow, but you would just endure it or give them a irish goodbye?

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I endured it at that party. Just kind of smiled and made small talk yet that awkward feeling was there. Towards the end a few of them started reminiscing after I said I was leaving. But for the most part they all moved on and so did I. They’re all still very close. So it kind of hurts to feel like an outsider with people you used to be so close with.

Put money into accounts for me kids so they can have something to start with. Give my parents money because they are just my parents and they have always had my back. Full support and I’d love to repay them for that without just saying thank you a million times.

Buy a small house by the lake that’s big enough but not so big I can’t handle it. Enjoy life. Donate a lot because I know what it feels like to be in need.

Just make the best of everything. Take care of my family and myself. That would be freedom.

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...but when you get there they are with their gfs/bfs with them?

I had mostly male friends growing up so it’s always weird when we get together now. I hate that feeling so I avoid the parties for the most part. I went to one a few weeks ago, my best friend (whose male) came home from CA and I couldn’t not see him.

Everyone else that I used to be close with was standoffish with me because I was there alone. It’s a weird feeling to be looked at like you’re a threat when it’s just your friends. And hence, that is why I lost touch with most of them.

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I have a fierce love for my kids. They changed who I was and I can never look back or want to. They are literally everything. And they’re the only thing I feel like I did right. But I can’t take all the credit. They are just good decent people. I love them so much. Can’t even put it into words. I just love them. I want to see them happy always.

As for relationships, that love can be so great it’s overwhelming. There’s hardly anything that can replace looking into someone’s eyes and having a connection so strong that everything else fades away and all that matters is you, and that person. Like you’re tearing up because you can’t believe it. Love that feeling. So imo love is good 🙏

Okay, you now have described how you love but not why? Is it just something that has always been there and you've never really thought about?

As for the second part: you mean you love to have this feeling or that it is just a result of love? If it is the latter the question for the why remains unanswered and it might be something else.

Why.. I don’t know. It just takes over me. For every kid I had, it was this overwhelming feeling that I just wanted to protect them and take care of them.

Romantically, I think I need to be loved. I hate to say that, Like it might sound selfish or whatever, but I love the feeling of being loved by someone who feels the same things I do. The connection is almost addicting.

I’m perfectly fine on my own. But when I’m with someone who I fell in love with, it kind of puts everything else into perspective.

You mean the child thing is merely instinct and simply happened?

So, it is about the pleasure, hence hedonism?

Maybe a little, but if making someone else happy makes you happier, is that really hedonism?

Technically yes.

Hmm. Ok so why do you love? Do you do it intentionally or is it a feeling that just overcomes you?

After months of reflection I came to the conclusion that I do not love. At least individual people.
Even if I would I would ever allow to be something that overcomes me but a conscious decision.

I don’t think it’s that easy with love, to just make the decision of hey I decided to love you or love this pet or whatever else you might lovebit choose not to. I think it might be something that is causing you to reject the feeling. I did that for a long time. And then I realized I was only hurting myself by pushing people away. That’s just my opinion and I hope you don’t take it the wrong way.

You made this thread, which makes me rhibk you want to feel love and want to understand it.

I don’t know how old you are, but have you ever had an experience where you felt something more than friendship for anyone and couldn’t deny your feelings?

No, but one can decide to accept those feelings and act on them or wait and repress until they die out, which they will.

My interest in this topic is and has always been purely intellectual and partially to help me to improve the parts of my writing that touch on this area.

I did and although I could have pushed those feelings aside, and for some time I did, but ultimately decided to accept and act on those feeling. Yet, in hindsight, I would no longer say it was and is love.

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I support writing, good for you. I love to write as well. What makes you say in hindsight it wasn’t real? Did it feel real at the time? Because love can fade and will if it’s not being taken care of. Look at it like a flower.

I’ve only had a few serious relationships. I don’t like dating and when I tried that it was pointless.

I’ve had 3 serious relationships, possibly in another one right now. But I can look at all of them from the past now and know I felt love at the time and even though it didn’t work out, I gained a lot and learned from it and enjoyed the good times we had. And I still want them to be happy. Although the father of my kids passed away at 40, I have a lot of resentment towards him. But I’m working on letting that go. It wasn’t always bad and I hope yes at peace.

Sorry getting off topic.

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To make us procreate.

That’s one reason. I remember reading something about how you are attracted to the way someone else smells. Like there natural scent. It’s an animalistic thing that can take over.

I know divorce is a very common thing. I got divorced and never thought I would do that. But I had to. Yet I also see couples long after there kids are grown still sticking together. Thorough menopause and mid life crisis, and everything else in between. I would like to believe it’s because they truly found there match and I want that.

And it may not always be perfect, but nothing in life is. I think the people that make it work have a stronger love for each other and are probably really practical and realistic about everything.

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I have a fierce love for my kids. They changed who I was and I can never look back or want to. They are literally everything. And they’re the only thing I feel like I did right. But I can’t take all the credit. They are just good decent people. I love them so much. Can’t even put it into words. I just love them. I want to see them happy always.

As for relationships, that love can be so great it’s overwhelming. There’s hardly anything that can replace looking into someone’s eyes and having a connection so strong that everything else fades away and all that matters is you, and that person. Like you’re tearing up because you can’t believe it. Love that feeling. So imo love is good 🙏

Okay, you now have described how you love but not why? Is it just something that has always been there and you've never really thought about?

As for the second part: you mean you love to have this feeling or that it is just a result of love? If it is the latter the question for the why remains unanswered and it might be something else.

Why.. I don’t know. It just takes over me. For every kid I had, it was this overwhelming feeling that I just wanted to protect them and take care of them.

Romantically, I think I need to be loved. I hate to say that, Like it might sound selfish or whatever, but I love the feeling of being loved by someone who feels the same things I do. The connection is almost addicting.

I’m perfectly fine on my own. But when I’m with someone who I fell in love with, it kind of puts everything else into perspective.

You mean the child thing is merely instinct and simply happened?

So, it is about the pleasure, hence hedonism?

Maybe a little, but if making someone else happy makes you happier, is that really hedonism?

Technically yes.

Hmm. Ok so why do you love? Do you do it intentionally or is it a feeling that just overcomes you?

After months of reflection I came to the conclusion that I do not love. At least individual people.
Even if I would I would ever allow to be something that overcomes me but a conscious decision.

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I don’t think it’s that easy with love, to just make the decision of hey I decided to love you or love this pet or whatever else you might lovebit choose not to. I think it might be something that is causing you to reject the feeling. I did that for a long time. And then I realized I was only hurting myself by pushing people away. That’s just my opinion and I hope you don’t take it the wrong way.

You made this thread, which makes me rhibk you want to feel love and want to understand it.

I don’t know how old you are, but have you ever had an experience where you felt something more than friendship for anyone and couldn’t deny your feelings?