Posted by egyptianeyes
Long cancer male post ahead…
I just can’t figure this out…even with all the threads on Cancer males…
I’m a Libra, with my moon in Cancer…he’s a Cancer, with his moon in Libra…we’re both in our 40’s…he approached me on facebook…normally I would just ignore…too many creepies on FB, but since we had many mutual friends in common, I messaged him back… & before I knew it, he was calling & messaging me everyday…we decided to meet in person & we hit it off instantly…NYE, 1 month later, was our first kiss & when things started getting serious…we dated exclusively for six months & during those six months, he wooed me, swept me off my feet…he was the perfect gentleman, in EVERY sense of the word…& the chemistry between us was mind blowing…he:
• Told me that he wanted me to meet his parents & come over for family lunches
• wined & dined me 3, sometimes 4 days of the week
• would pick me up from home & drop me off, for every date, always opening the car door for me & would walk me to my elevator
• would call me to make sure I got home ok if I was out with friends
• bought me a dozen roses & a really expensive haute couture bag for Valentine’s Day
• asked to meet my family & friends, which he did
• took my mother out a couple of times & bought her flowers for Mother’s Day
• went out of his way to help me finish building up my business…whether it be with electrical, plumbing, carpentry, IT needs…he was always there for me
• told me he loved me & that I was gift from God, not once, not twice, but on several occasions & not even just that…he told me he wanted to get married someday
As a typical Libra, I go in head first into any relationship, never with my heart…with this crab, I felt so secure & so stable, I gave him my heart…I did things I never felt the need to do with any of my past relationships because I never really loved any of them, & because I was sure he was the one…I baked for him & loved him with my entire being…
& then, 6 months into the relationship, I realized that I hadn’t seen him in over 1 week… I assumed it’s just the Crab retreating into his shell,& so I gave him his space…1 week became 2, then 3… & though we were still talking & texting almost everyday…I noticed it wasn’t as lovey dovey on his side… he stopped saying I miss you, I love you…
So I sent him a text message asking him if something was wrong…he told me, nothing is wrong but he will explain when we meet…
We arranged to meet for breakfast…he didn’t pick me up like he always did…I thought nothing of it…when we met, we talked….but I got nothing out of the conversation…he had to leave to a meeting…he walked me to a taxi & hugged & kissed me & as he did, I felt my heart sink…I felt something was wrong
In the taxi, I messaged him, “Thanks for meeting me…I didn’t want to make you late for your meeting…but I really need to ask you a question…was today’s meeting to state that we are just friends?”
He replied…you’re silly…of course we will always be friends…I’ll call you after my meeting
He called later that night…repeating that we’ll always be friends...so I asked him, are we just friends? He again repeated we’ll always be friends…that’s when I laid it out for him, are we exclusive to each other?...his voice started cracking as he said I don’t want to do this over the phone…I told him answer the question…he said yes, we’re just friends…a big slap in the face…I told him I have male friends & God knows I never treated them the way I treated you…he again repeated, that we shouldn’t do this over the phone, that we should meet when I get back from my trip, but I told him no, you’ve made it crystal clear, thank you, good night & with that I hung up…
The next morning I had a flight to catch…determined that I would not contact him during the entire time of the trip…he kept sending me friendly whatsapp forwards…I ignored them all…when I got back, I went out with a mutual friend & he asked me about my crab…I told him I don’t know where he is…when my friend messaged the crab saying that he saw me & asking where he was …the crab answered “oh I didn’t know she was back…hope you had fun, let’s hang out”…
Meanwhile I kept receiving friendly whatsapp forwards, which I continued to ignore for 3 weeks…but then I just couldn’t, so I messaged him telling him that what he did was unacceptable, that you can’t woo someone for 6 months, insist to meet all their family & friends, then wake up one day & selfishly decide to end it on your own without informing the other party…he replied he was busy & that such things should not be discussed over text, that he would call me…I gave him the thumbs up…I waited, no call so I went to sleep…still no call…I don’t know why, but i woke up, blocked his phone number & deleted him off FB…brash Venus…lol…& with that I left the country for a week initiating no contact
When I came back a mutual friend of ours contacted me…she asked me about him, I told her we had broken up…shocked, because they were all convinced we were made for each other…she decided to text him asking him what had happened…
He told her that we had mutually decided to be just friends…
That was when I unblocked his phone number & messaged him stating please do not tell my friend things that never occurred…we did not mutually decide to be just friends…you solely decided that…
He then said sorry…let me make it very clear…I don’t have enough money to start a life with you…that he was working on his business & that it would take 2 – 3 years
I replied we all have financial problems, & how did you know that I wouldn’t stand by you, we were put on earth to stand by each other…but to cut me off like that, as if things would dissolve on their own, that hurt…that he was more than enough for me, but doing that made me feel that I was never enough for him…
He replied, he didn’t want to burden me & that sometimes a man has to do certain things that hurt to protect those that are dear to him…
We closed off wishing well to each other…I sent him a friend request on FB, & he accepted
He now sends me forwarded messages on holidays, to which I reply with forwarded messages…I haven’t seen him for 4 months since that meeting in June…& no messages on my birthday
I’m truly saddened & disappointed & can’t help but think that he was playing me the entire 6 months…but a big part of me feels he is genuine & misses him dearly…
My question is…what now? do I continue no contact, giving him his space? & for how long?...mind you I’ve been approached by others, but I can’t seem to get him out of my mind…a hopeless romantic & no thanks to Charlie Puth’s song “we don’t talk anymore”… I overdosed, & [perhaps I] should’ve known [his] love was a game, but I can’t get [him] out my brain… what truly was all of this for? ☹
Posted by idgaf2
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where XXX appears to be some hexadecimal number
Posted by TaurusBull1977
I am a straight shooter.
I will actively listen to the individual, pay attention to intricate details, and a ask a few questions.
When I DO respond, I tend to avoid skating around the issue.
Especially when its based on the research that I have gathered.
However, I have a tendency not to take their emotions into consideration at times.
But this is something I am also learning to do, listening with an empathetic ear, and telling the truth while relating to them as well.
But to tell a lie with a straight face?
Couldn't do it with a straight face!
Posted by starwars
you just need a cuddle
Posted by idgaf2Posted by HouseCleaningPosted by idgaf2Posted by HouseCleaningPosted by idgaf2Posted by HouseCleaningPosted by idgaf2Posted by HouseCleaning
you probably should of had one of these you fool
i know, right....
my luck is bound to run out eventually
\why are you always treetrunking confused???
do you need some treetrunking omega 3- fatty acids??????
Or maybe some treetrunking sleep??
that's some deep butter bro
how many accounts do you have floating around
i don't know man.
i can't take thit butter anymore.
did i really make those last two posts???
god i hope i'm not developing mpdclick to expand