Again, I just have to remind myself that less than 4 weeks is just too early! Impatience is a quality of both Leo and Aries, though.
Every time I tell myself that LDR just doesn't work, I find someone telling me "why not? It works perfectly fine in our case!" No kidding. I'm not a big fan of LDR, but with this guy it seems to be going good. Even if I tell him that he needn't call if he doesn't feel like talking or is too busy, he says that talking to me is a pleasure. I told him to not try to flatter me (lol, funny coming from a Leo, right?) but he said, "why do you always think so? I talk to you because I love talking to you. It's so refreshing."
Posted by Chuckcem
Sounds like he's not trying to get too attached since you two aren't near each other. So he's fine with flirting, but sees no need in taking the next step.


How am I supposed to deal with that if this is the case? :/
We're in two different cities, quite far away, yet to meet, we've been talking and texting every single day for 3+ weeks now, planning to meet next month, and from day one, whoa! Fire plus Fire = awesome! Instant connection!

I'll share with you what all he's told me so far and you tell me what to call this 'relationship' for now. (Where this will lead, the future, is a different story.)

We share a unique, rare compatibility.
No matter what transpires between us, we'll be a part of each other's life forever.
No matter what happens, we share a strong foundation. For now, let's call it ... umm... friendship, but we both know it's more than that.
If anything bites you (makes you feel uncomfortable), please feel free to call me any time of the day.
This is the first time for me that I've developed such a strong connection with someone of the opposite sex so soon.
See, even to people who matter the most to me, my parents and friends, I talk to them only once in a week or twice a month. But I love to talk to you every day because I genuinely like listening to you, not because I feel compelled to.
You're also equally funny.
You're smoking hot.
I'm sexually attracted to you/we're sexually attracted to each other.
Love you, too. (I'm the one who blurted out the ILY a few times in the flow of of words, during interesting conversations, and he said "Love you too. I really mean it")
See, I'll tell you frankly. I'm afraid of relationships and the L word. 1. Research is my first priority or my only priority in life right now, and 2. I invested too much in my last relationship that I'm not ready to get into another one still. I seriously don't want to date any woman now. (He broke up with his ex 2-3 months ago, tells me he doesn't feel that romantic attraction for her anymore, tells me every time his ex calls him and that she seems to be all chill (once in a few weeks) and she seems to have moved on! )
I like you a lot as a person.
Sure, when we meet, we should definitely go out on a dinner date.
(We've had sex talks, too, which is very rare for me because I'm very choosy of whom I let in, and he respects me for that.) It's obvious that he loves to have sex with me, but he's also told me "If having sex during the very first meeting would make you uncomfortable, dear, let's skip that this time."
When I told him I can't afford to fly to his place, he agreed to fly down to my place instead of meeting anywhere midway, and said, "we'll take turns in seeing each other once you start earning again. We'll see each other at least once in a month."
"See, on some days, I may be totally down, and won't like to talk to just anyone. I like to be left alone. On those days, i may not be able to talk to you like I'd do on other days, and you've to bear with me."
"You are my confidante. Why should I date another woman when I'm getting all that I want from you?"
When I asked him if not for his busy life style , would he date some attractive woman, he (was drunk that day) said, "I don't want to date anyone. I've invested too much in her... But yes, if an attractive woman asks me out for coffee, I'd surely go... And for my physical needs, I sometimes wish there'd be someone, but it's very rare to find that connection. I don't know. Maybe for now, I can just satisfy my own needs."

We have no secrets. We've agreed to be "transparent" (open and honest) with each other. When I kind of asked him a week ago (yes, both of us know it's TOO EARLY but we're also talking regularly and feel like we've known each other all our lives!) what this is, he only repeated what he'd already said in different words. He does not want to get into a r/s, is afraid of the L-word, but has strong feelings for me, respects, me, does not want to jeopardize our friendship, will always there when I need him, likes me a lot, etc. Every time I tell about some other man who asks me out on a date, like my Scorpio ex does, this Aries is also interested in knowing all the details of the guy, tells me to block all the cheap guys/jerks, seems to get jealous occasionally, and seems to be very chill about it during other times.

Plus, the last week when I blurted out, "Is this love? I'm confused!", he said, "I'm glad you brought this up. We need to discuss these important things. We know we share a unique, strong foundation that can't be broken, but love doesn't develop instantly, right? It takes time. Let's see what happens; what happens will happen. ..."

What does it mean??? More than friendship, not yet love, kind of best friends (that's what I'd always expect my man to be), there's flirtation and sexual attraction. he teases me often, loves to make me laugh out loud, enjoys it when I act silly, definitely more than just for sex, not FWB because I'd never encourage that... So what should I call this? He's even willing to introduce me to his family and friends someday. The anticipation of waiting for the first meeting is a sweet torture - should I treat him the way I'd treat a good male friend (with loads of affection but no romance) or should I not hide my romantic feelings for him? Help me!
Posted by LibraLovesHim
Go with the flow without overthinking it. Stop analyzing. Have a good time together, give him the space he needs and use this to focus on whatever you need to do in the down time also. Aries work/progress/goals will always be their absolute focus and take most of their time. When he finds himself with that achievement and the spare time you will be rewarded greatly if you have stablished something that feels secure to him. Dont be flaky. Be strong and show him your presence in his life is steady. Above all, do what feels right!


Hey, thanks! That was helpful. I'm generally an optimist, but some of my friends and most of the responses on this site say "red flag", "be careful", "I don't think this is the right one for you", etc. Glad to see one strong, energetic response.
Posted by Teena
Answering the title...just let any romantic interest develop ❤️🙈


Ha ha! Thanks.
Posted by LeoLilith
"He has also told me a few times that it'd be perfectly okay for him if we won't be having sex the first time we meet and that just spending time with me watching a movie, going out for dinner and drinks should be more than enough."

^^^Red flag to me.

He felt the need to say that? Really? And a few times as well? I don't trust him as anything but a FWB. Sorry.


I know that his words 'don't want to get into a relationship anytime now' is a red flag, but how's this a red flag?
Posted by carrazeda
It doesn't like it will go anywhere. None of you seem to be in a good place to jump to a relationship. He's too busy and maybe still thinking about the ex - 2/3 months it's a very short time especially if it was intense and there wasn't a landing period. You're too afraid of getting hurt. You might need to do some soul work or accept the fact that you'll get hurt. Stop thinking about that. We are all afraid of getting hurt but you can't let that distort your views or how you want the relationship to be because that will skew everything from day one. Maybe you'll find someone that gives you that comfort, but I believe that you can only jump to a serious relationship without depending on the other. To me the whole texting everyday even if just to know the whereabouts, to call him boyfriend without meeting him, it all screams fear of rejection. I had long-term relationship with an Aries. In the beginning, being a young cancer, I used to text her everyday, sometimes just to say good morning. This freaked her out. Communication is key, often you might spend periods talking everyday with that person, but you can't put rules to it. It needs to flow. And especially with an air cardinal sign like Aries. You don't drive an Aries, they'll drive you. This isn't healthy for you. He's telling you he doesn't want a relationship, doesn't have time, whatever. He might just want to have fun with you, he might just want to take it slow, he might not know what he wants from you. I would look somewhere else, this is going to bring you pain. You become too attached and afraid of getting hurt and he doesn't seem nowhere near where you want him to be.


It isn't fear of rejection on my side! It's fear of getting attached to someone who's not the right one for me.

And what do you mean by "air cardinal sign like Aries"? We're both fire!
Posted by Chuckcem
Sounds like you two are going at two different speeds and want to different things. Also from a guy's perspective, none of this sounds like any actual fun, which should be the case when a relationship is just starting out. He clearly wants something physical, while you want something emotional. You two are simply on two different pages.

I applaud you for sticking to your guns and wanting a relationship before sex, but you're also putting the cart before the horse. You two need to really get to know each other before a relationship even becomes an option. This is especially true in an LDR. All that time apart means that you can't get the same amount exposure with each other that you could in person. Physical chemistry is just as important in a relationship as mental and emotional chemistry.

This means you'll need to take your time if you expect a strong bond to actually grow. As of now you've been assuming the two of you have a strong connection, but it's clear there are some things off between you. Granted LDRs are typically difficult by nature, but some communication is also missing.

The Aries basically told you everything you need to know. He's fine with sex, but can't do a relationship. It's not a good thing, or bad thing, it just is. He's probably telling the truth with how busy he is, so it makes sense that he doesn't want the emotional strings of a relationship. Then again, who knows what this guy really wants since you barely know him.

Those other guys that you were talking with may be correct. However it's clear that these guys also have ulterior motives. They have more incentive to discredit the Aries guy to possibly increase their chances with you. There's no point in asking these guys about the Aries' motivations. Would you ask Coca-Cola what their honest opinion of Pepsi was?

If you're looking for a relationship, this probably isn't the one for you. Sounds like he's just too busy and only wants a physical connection currently.


I'll keep what you said in mind!
Posted by Sunflowers
Hi leo. I do believe he's not fully invested. Be careful.


If he's not going to be really invested in it, that'll naturally motivate me to forget him.
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Posted by Moonbutter
He just wants sex...he’s giving you mixed msgs so you are confused. But really he’s telling you if you take out all the fluff. He doesn’t want a relationship but “where do we go with these romantic pursuits?” What do you think? Don’t fall into his trap tell him “contact me when you are ready for a relationship”


Hey, thanks for sharing your opinion!


Of course, it’s hard to distinguish between the lines when your emotions are involved. In this case dear, please listen to your head 😉
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My head tells me to tread carefully, not jump into a serious relationship immediately, in fact be more patient than I've been in the past, not invest a lot of energy too early, say a clear "no" to sex the first time we meet, and see how things go without totally dismissing him off or saying anything offensive either. "Wait and watch". Phew! Fire plus fire is really powerful!
Also, I forgot to mention (don't know if this has anything to do with this at all). I met another charming Aries (a married one) on the same site at around the same time, who showed romantic interest in me, which of course I didn't take seriously because he is married. But when I asked him what he thought of a Leo - Aries relationship and told him about this Aries guy, he laughed and said, "Just because he's spending time, money and energy flying down to see you, don't take it seriously because I've done the same for 2 or 3 girls, flings, in the past. We Aries love to have fun and enjoy life. We Arians are promiscuous."

Another guy friend, a Leo, also told me that Aries and Leo may have a lot in common, but Aries can never be as loyal as a Leo will be. This Aries guy, this researcher fellow, told me very early that loyalty matters the most to him, that he was hurt when his ex actually dated other men without his knowledge while he remained extremely loyal to her, etc. Agreed, not all those belonging to one zodiac are going to be alike, but are these opinions to be taken seriously? Whom do I trust?
Posted by Moonbutter
He just wants sex...he’s giving you mixed msgs so you are confused. But really he’s telling you if you take out all the fluff. He doesn’t want a relationship but “where do we go with these romantic pursuits?” What do you think? Don’t fall into his trap tell him “contact me when you are ready for a relationship”


Hey, thanks for sharing your opinion!
He (an Aries, 27) is a research scholar and I'm a Leo female, 29, doing my higher studies. We're in different cities and met on a dating site. The first few days, the chatting was casual, but when we liked each other's approach and sense of humour, we exchanged contact numbers (exactly 3 weeks ago) and from day one, do I have to say? Fire + Fire = instant connection, great passion, shared all secrets big and small (yes, on the first day), there was a mutual feeling that we knew each other ages, we were almost able to read each other's minds! It left both of us surprised. We wanted more and more of each other.

On the first day, he said he wanted to meet me. When he said that we could meet somewhere midway, I honestly told him i can't afford to fly that long, so he said that once he gets his stipend credited, he'll fly down to see me. There were sex talks and we shared similar ideas on the perfect romantic date. He's broken up with his ex (a one-year, intense relationship as he says) just 2-3 months ago and he says he was dumped and he has no romantic feelings for her anymore. He also said that he cannot afford to get into a relationship because his thesis would/does take up most of his time and that it'd not be fair for the woman he'll get into a relationship if he can't invest enough time and energy.

He knows that I'm not interested in any flings or hookups and that I want to be either friends or get into a serious relationship with the right man, no FWB or anything. He has also told me a few times that it'd be perfectly okay for him if we won't be having sex the first time we meet and that just spending time with me watching a movie, going out for dinner and drinks should be more than enough. On the first day, he also said: "Let's make this pact; no matter what transpires between us, we'll always be there for each other because we share this unique compatibility which is very rare". I agreed. (A few days later, I said, "Let's add this to the pact; no matter how bad or day is, we'll keep at least the basic minimal contact with each other everyday so that we'll know that the other is perfectly fine". He agreed.) He also admitted to me that he can't afford to spend so many hours or that much of energy talking to me or chatting with me every single day because his thesis job is really time-consuming, that even to those who matter the most to him (his family and friends), he talks only once in a week or a few times in a month.

On the second day, we already felt like we knew everything about each other and as though we were such close friends, somewhere in between all the flirty texts, I blurted out, "hey, can I call you my boyfriend?" (because that's the rate at which we progressed!), he respectfully admitted that the word "love" or "relationship" scares him. The agreement between us is that we'll not hide anything from each other and we'll be totally honest and open with each other regarding everything. From then on, we've been frankly sharing with each other what all we did all day and also how we feel, etc. I had some difficult times in between and he showed genuine concern. The first one week or 10 days, things were really hot and both of us gave each other a lot of attention.

As quickly as things built on, the heat also seemed to come down in the following weeks. He'd tell me that he's really busy, has got a lot of assignments, gets to sleep only for 5 hours in a day, works until late in the night, etc. He had a tough time at work and I had a family member hospitalized, so both were really busy, even if we managed to stay in touch every day. The last few days, somehow, the conversation seemed to be quite formal and minimal. He did tell me that there's a lot on his shoulders and he's already told me a few times that on days when he feels totally exhausted, he'd want to just shut down completely and not talk to anyone. After two days of quite formal communication, I texted him that it was perfectly okay for me if he can't maintain that everyday text/call thingy and he replied that he genuinely loved talking to me because it energises him. A little later, he called and we had a long chat. I told him that romance can stay alive only if those feelings are mutual and natural, so if he doesn't feel for it, I can't feel like that for him either. He told me that he likes me as a friend, as definitely more than a friend too, that he does have feelings for me, that he cannot get into a relationship with any girl in the present, and asked me cheerfully, "So what do you propose? You tell me, should we take these romantic pursuits further? It's a question. I'm asking you." I admitted that even I'm not sure what exactly I feel for him, that this is indeed too early, and also that I am equally afraid to get into a relationship because I don't want to invest all my energy and then discover that I made a mistake. He got romantic with me after all this, kissed me and teased me, lol, and said that love doesn't develop in a day, we must give it time, and that I am his confidante, he has no other girl in his life at the moment, etc. He also told me that he realized that LDR can be energy-draining, taxing, any relationship can have both pluses and minuses, he can't afford to get into a relationship with any woman now, but we'll see how things progress, etc. This left me more confused, but both of us are happy that at least we have been open enough to each other about our feelings without any hidden thoughts, hidden fears and assumptions. Now should I keep the friendship but not get romantic with him anymore as he says that he can't afford to get into a serious relationship, or should I go with the flow and listen to my heart without overthinking it? I honestly don't want to get serious and then get hurt or be let down! We'll be meeting in less than a month.
He (an Aries, 27) is a research scholar and I'm a Leo female, 29, doing my higher studies. We're in different cities and met on a dating site. The first few days, the chatting was casual, but when we liked each other's approach and sense of humour, we exchanged contact numbers (exactly 3 weeks ago) and from day one, do I have to say? Fire + Fire = instant connection, great passion, shared all secrets big and small (yes, on the first day), there was a mutual feeling that we knew each other ages, we were almost able to read each other's minds! It left both of us surprised. We wanted more and more of each other.

On the first day, he said he wanted to meet me. When he said that we could meet somewhere midway, I honestly told him i can't afford to fly that long, so he said that once he gets his stipend credited, he'll fly down to see me. There were sex talks and we shared similar ideas on the perfect romantic date. He's broken up with his ex (a one-year, intense relationship as he says) just 2-3 months ago and he says he was dumped and he has no romantic feelings for her anymore. He also said that he cannot afford to get into a relationship because his thesis would/does take up most of his time and that it'd not be fair for the woman he'll get into a relationship if he can't invest enough time and energy.

He knows that I'm not interested in any flings or hookups and that I want to be either friends or get into a serious relationship with the right man, no FWB or anything. He has also told me a few times that it'd be perfectly okay for him if we won't be having sex the first time we meet and that just spending time with me watching a movie, going out for dinner and drinks should be more than enough. On the first day, he also said: "Let's make this pact; no matter what transpires between us, we'll always be there for each other because we share this unique compatibility which is very rare". I agreed. (A few days later, I said, "Let's add this to the pact; no matter how bad or day is, we'll keep at least the basic minimal contact with each other everyday so that we'll know that the other is perfectly fine". He agreed.) He also admitted to me that he can't afford to spend so many hours or that much of energy talking to me or chatting with me every single day because his thesis job is really time-consuming, that even to those who matter the most to him (his family and friends), he talks only once in a week or a few times in a month.

On the second day, we already felt like we knew everything about each other and as though we were such close friends, somewhere in between all the flirty texts, I blurted out, "hey, can I call you my boyfriend?" (because that's the rate at which we progressed!), he respectfully admitted that the word "love" or "relationship" scares him. The agreement between us is that we'll not hide anything from each other and we'll be totally honest and open with each other regarding everything. From then on, we've been frankly sharing with each other what all we did all day and also how we feel, etc. I had some difficult times in between and he showed genuine concern. The first one week or 10 days, things were really hot and both of us gave each other a lot of attention.

As quickly as things built on, the heat also seemed to come down in the following weeks. He'd tell me that he's really busy, has got a lot of assignments, gets to sleep only for 5 hours in a day, works until late in the night, etc. He had a tough time at work and I had a family member hospitalized, so both were really busy, even if we managed to stay in touch every day. The last few days, somehow, the conversation seemed to be quite formal and minimal. He did tell me that there's a lot on his shoulders and he's already told me a few times that on days when he feels totally exhausted, he'd want to just shut down completely and not talk to anyone. After two days of quite formal communication, I texted him that it was perfectly okay for me if he can't maintain that everyday text/call thingy and he replied that he genuinely loved talking to me because it energises him. A little later, he called and we had a long chat. I told him that romance can stay alive only if those feelings are mutual and natural, so if he doesn't feel for it, I can't feel like that for him either. He told me that he likes me as a friend, as definitely more than a friend too, that he does have feelings for me, that he cannot get into a relationship with any girl in the present, and asked me cheerfully, "So what do you propose? You tell me, should we take these romantic pursuits further? It's a question. I'm asking you." I admitted that even I'm not sure what exactly I feel for him, that this is indeed too early, and also that I am equally afraid to get into a relationship because I don't want to invest all my energy and then discover that I made a mistake. He got romantic with me after all this, kissed me and teased me, lol, and said that love doesn't develop in a day, we must give it time, and that I am his confidante, he has no other girl in his life at the moment, etc. He also told me that he realized that LDR can be energy-draining, taxing, any relationship can have both pluses and minuses, he can't afford to get into a relationship with any woman now, but we'll see how things progress, etc. This left me more confused, but both of us are happy that at least we have been open enough to each other about our feelings without any hidden thoughts, hidden fears and assumptions. Now should I keep the friendship but not get romantic with him anymore as he says that he can't afford to get into a serious relationship, or should I go with the flow and listen to my heart without overthinking it? I honestly don't want to get serious and then get hurt or be let down! We'll be meeting in less than a month.
Okay, there are too many common features and similarities among these two. They easily attract the attention of the opposite sex; they have no problem and don't feel shy at all to easily mix and mingle with others and make friends with all including those from the opposite sex. They're fiery, blunt, honest, loving, expressive, passionate, adventurous, etc.

But when it comes to relationships, who's more loyal, or who's the loyal one? I've read posts by many users saying that their Leo ladies or Leo men cheated on them, but in my opinion, as a Leo, I can say that a Leo female won't ever leave you or consider cheating on you when you two strongly love each other and you give her all the attention, time and loyalty that she demands. Yes, we're quite demanding.

But I read on various pages that Aries are born flirts and always have wandering eyes and keep moving from one thing or person to another all the time. In fact, an Aries guy friend admitted to me that he has cheated on his wife and his girlfriends (the ones he had before and after his wedding) several times in the past because he just wants to explore and enjoy life. When I asked him if he really loves his wife or not, whether he thinks of this as fair, etc., he replied "see, when Aries tells you something, their emotions for you are real and genuine, but just because an Aries man does something huge for you, don't think that you're the only he's doing such things for!"

I met another Aries guy online and we like each other so much from the first minute. This kind of compatibility neither has felt with anyone else and we're planning to meet each other soon. This guy told me that he did enjoy a few flings but when he was in a relationship for one year, he was highly loyal, and he indirectly means that not all Aries men need be the same.

What do you have to say about Aries guys' loyalty?
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Based on my recent experience with an Aries, they can be quick and make promises they dont mean. Look after your heart. He broke mine and I met him online.

My aqua ex said "Dating is like trying to find candidates as a recruiter. You have more success with candidates that can't be found online."



Did he break those promises when you were true to him, meaning you were loyal, giving him enough time and attention, being supportive of him, and all that?

Because making promises that one does not mean is what I will never do to anyone and I can't take it at all! This guy said the same, that he wouldn't like to do it to anyone or to himself either. That's why we have decided to not jump into any relationship or give this any label yet even when we get high and totally like each other.


Yes. I'm a leo moon btw. So basically, met him online. Got talking, texting everyday all day, skyping. He said hes a gentleman, he wants a serious relationship. He is looking for a good woman with similar family values as him and we agreed on almost everything. Personality, what we want in a partner. He even said he was gonna come to the country where I am. (i am relocating to where he is for work, btw. This one was in process before I even met him online) One day, he started getting busy then he disappeared on me for a week. Always making excuses after such an amazing connection. My heart was broken. I believed everything he said. I was always careful in trustig people with my heart but he was able to break my barriers and ended up breaking my heart too.


OMG! That's really bad! I'm sorry. And thanks for sharing this, dear.


Nah. Its fine. I moved on and dated a sag the following week. I'm a gemini who cant be bothered to waste mich time on butter men like him. I asked him what happened and all he can say was that he got busy. I dont believe a single thing he said.
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I'm happy you've moved on. Neither do I stay with such guys for long. Sheer waste of time, especially when so many other guys are out there looking for true women.
Posted by nightowl
Make sure what you say is real..fire signs always rush things and realize there were no feelings the whole time. only infatuation or ego boost


Ha ha, certainly not all! I haven't said such things to anyone without deeply feeling them and not once have I broken promises, not even with friends and peers. I take words seriously.
Posted by aquarius_man
i havent got a clue, but read this:

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/aries/aries-asked-me-to-move-out-of-our-apartment--9302165/?p=2


I did read that before posting this. I'm prepared for conflicts and heartaches in any relationship. Nobody's going to make anyone feel great 24/7, lifelong, but I'd like to know about a few other people's experiences. Not on this site, but some other sites, I read too many similar stories by many Leo ladies on why they'd never date a Gem guy again. All those similarities in the stories from so many different people round the world in different times, I found it stunning or shocking, whatever.
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Based on my recent experience with an Aries, they can be quick and make promises they dont mean. Look after your heart. He broke mine and I met him online.

My aqua ex said "Dating is like trying to find candidates as a recruiter. You have more success with candidates that can't be found online."



Did he break those promises when you were true to him, meaning you were loyal, giving him enough time and attention, being supportive of him, and all that?

Because making promises that one does not mean is what I will never do to anyone and I can't take it at all! This guy said the same, that he wouldn't like to do it to anyone or to himself either. That's why we have decided to not jump into any relationship or give this any label yet even when we get high and totally like each other.


Yes. I'm a leo moon btw. So basically, met him online. Got talking, texting everyday all day, skyping. He said hes a gentleman, he wants a serious relationship. He is looking for a good woman with similar family values as him and we agreed on almost everything. Personality, what we want in a partner. He even said he was gonna come to the country where I am. (i am relocating to where he is for work, btw. This one was in process before I even met him online) One day, he started getting busy then he disappeared on me for a week. Always making excuses after such an amazing connection. My heart was broken. I believed everything he said. I was always careful in trustig people with my heart but he was able to break my barriers and ended up breaking my heart too.
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OMG! That's really bad! I'm sorry. And thanks for sharing this, dear.