ayblynk from the things you've said i'm assuming you probably grew up seeing this happen a lot so i can understand your disdain and lack of sympathy for the situation but your personal hatred is causing you to make OBSCENE generalizations.
capricorn in the chart speaks of someone who looks out for their own best interest. it's sad but true.
venus in gemini is unfortunate. implies unfaithfulness.
i think us scorpios have high standards for people b/c we hold ourselves to those standards too and when someone disappoints us it's enough to make us seek drastic measures such as giving up right away and cutting them out of our lives. i have learned over time to give people more chances and to be less rigid and more forgiving; however, certain things you can overlook and learn to deal with, other things hint at incompatibilities of a greater nature such as the fact that perhaps you are two very different people who value different things and conduct yourselves in different manners and expect different behaviors from your partners- this will cause you to always be disappointed. it depends on what you're willing to put up with and what standards you're willing to compromise. some standards are more important than others and shouldn't be compromised, esp when there are people out there who think the same way you do and would treat you the way you feel you deserve to be treated. you should trust yourself.
aries: maynard james keenan taurus: trent reznor gemini: kanye, bob dylan cancer: the guy from the band live, ed kowalczyk leo: elliott smith virgo: tori amos, fiona apple libra: tom yorke scorpio: jeff buckley, bjork sag: jim morrison cap: joan baez aqua: sheryl crow pisces: kurt cobain
aries: james maynard keenan taurus: trent reznor gemini: kanye, bob dylan cancer: the guy from the band live, ed kowalczyk leo: elliott smith virgo: tori amos, fiona apple libra: tom yorke scorpio: jeff buckley, bjork sag: jim morrison cap: joan baez aqua: sheryl crow pisces: kurt cobain
splitandconfused: yes, the changes in emotion are quick, esp with the ones that have a fire moon like my cap/aquacusp sag moon boyfriend: he is very emotional, almost to a point of instability; his reactions are unpredictable.
lack of emotional intelligence is exactly the way I would put it. it is just as you said a mixture of cap negativity and aqua bluntness and i would also say it's a mix of the cap's inability to understand others on an emotional level and the aqua's detached manner that makes this cusp so insensitive. the unhealthy and/or unevolved types of this cusp have a lot to learn about how to deal with and treat people.
chance11: what is your moon sign? also, i think you made some good points- i am a friendly water sign and from the moment we met i treated him with the same respect and kindness and genuine interest i give to everyone i meet, but he was insecure and lacking in social grace from the start and even when he was flirting with me and asking me out it was clear he had no clue how to deal with women. i think a lot of the negativity in his case comes from insecurities: he has made several comments regarding the fact that he thinks i'm too good for him and he "knows" i'm going to leave him and has made me promise i won't do that and confesses how much he loves me and doesn't believe that i love him- it's like you can never win with him, no matter what good happens he will find a way to make things negative again. it's not just me who notices this, all of his friends say the same thing about how insensitive, critical and out right rude he can be and told me they were even confused about how i could put up with him (sometimes i'm confused about that too). thing is, as you said, there is so much potential here and i get glimpses of brilliance every now and then and moments where we truly harmonize but then he takes it all away and returns to the negative unevolved version. how can i help him? i am naturally positive thinking so when he is being fatalistic it's easy for me to present a different perspective and when he is being emotional i become very rational instinctively and help him through his emotions but i would like to know what else i can do. sometimes i cant help becoming offended and i think i'm entitled to it but he doesn't understand how he affects me.
taurusgem: mine is jan 21 and has a lot of aqua influence in his chart as well. i agree, the cap influence seems to affect his behavior more than the aqua, in fact i just think of him as a cap now. i thought the same thing: maybe it has to do with age, i just realized that all three cuspers also have a fire moon so perhaps this has something to do with it?
splitnconfused:"What makes it so difficult to live with them is the fact that they don't don't seem to realize that in the process they also torture the people they care most for"
yes. it strikes me as odd that he just expects people to put up with this as if it's normal. i have told him that i have never dealt with someone like him and he thought it over and has changed his behavior, so things are going better. i don't want him to change who he but i think that he could definitely learn to change his attitude and get some perspective on how his negative outlook affects others and also his own life.
taurusgem: yep thanks, some things still feel off for me but for most part things are going well and i am hoping they will continue to get better as i come to understand him more and as he continues to feel safer to trust me. thing is, with any progress that is made he still recoils and puts his guard back up again. i guess it will take some time. the cap influence is very powerful it seems- he's only 1 degree aqua. getting used to the mix of those two signs is hard, it's hard to predict which side of his is going to react- with some things he can very open-minded and all-accepting, and very fun and easy-going, but then most of the time he just views things in such a negative light and finds problems, i don't know how i can stand it.
"I was very blunt with you on your other thread, and I didn't sugar coat anything for you. I'm like that. I just say what I think, when I'm being serious, and I'm very direct. I just assume others will be able to handle it, although that sometimes isn't the case."
he's like that too. i definitely appreciate it b/c i'm all about truth and honesty but there are definitely some times he could use a lesson in being tactful and more sensitive.
oh and definitely i agree with you: i don't let astrology make decisions for me (if i did i wouldn't still be with my current boyfriend, wouldn't be friends with certain people who are in reality very good friends of mine etc etc).
I agree with you; thanks for your advice. A little while ago I finally initiated real conversations about a lot of the issues we were having (before i had just sort of mentioned things here and there, hoping he would pick up on the hints) and things are going MUCH better. we have naturally started to feel more comfortable and able to trust each other. we are really happy these days.
thanks for the advice everyone. things are going REALLY well, i have definitely seen many changes as he's started to trust me and my commitment to the relationship. we have had some serious convos and are getting better at understanding each other and being vulnerable with and trusting each other. i'm pretty happy with how things are going. he and i are both happy.
prettyme: ha i guess it does seem switched (although being a scorp i have to defend myself and say that i've never acted like that in a relationship
luvinanaquarius: i feel that i could have taken this advice a couple months ago but now i am too attached and devoted, i'm sticking with him (don't worry though, if absolutely necessary i will cut it off, for example i won't tolerate abuse)
critical of everything, of things that i wouldn't even give a second thought to criticize; they quickly find the negative and the flaws in any and every situation, they never see something in a positive light unless they have assessed it first for any and all flaws and cracks. very gloom and doom, will turn a "molehill into a mountain." definitely worriers, blow things out of proportion. insecure and defensive.