Got too much sauce. Virguy.

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Apparently its a man with mental health issues. It happens.

The nation has issues...this isn't a surprise.

The city, in particular, has lapses in its medical care for the most at risk.

The last thing that NYC needs is more armed guards/police/Gendarmerie even with the situation you had. We need services to address the things that caused his situation...not police.


Could be. We only heard from the staff that he was on crack and he had been there the night before also bawling and threatening people. We have armed security at such places because of the mass volume of bodies passing through. I guess it just makes sense to me.
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Never forget that the U.S. is the land of guns. Even if it doesn't seem like it trust when I say the security apparatus at most federal and state owned facilities in NYC is present and there in mass...the main problem has been how those law enforcement personnel handle emotionally and mentally disturbed folks...especially after they have been taken into custody.

Apparently its a man with mental health issues. It happens.

The nation has issues...this isn't a surprise.

The city, in particular, has lapses in its medical care for the most at risk.

The last thing that NYC needs is more armed guards/police/Gendarmerie even with the situation you had. We need services to address the things that caused his situation...not police.
Rise like interest rates with bad credit.
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Y TF ARE YOU TYPE YELLING!???
IM GOIN INSANE CAUSE THIS cookiemonster IS SO STUPID. BUT I GUESS I SHOULDN'T BE SURPRISED CAUSE SHE'S AN AQUARIUS???
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Oh yea? She is stupid? Please do tell us more.
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I have no problem expressing the emotions I hold, whether they’re good or bad. That’s what life is all about and I learn something new about myself each time. I truly believe in reaching a higher state of being, even if it means people seeing my vulnerability.

I also don’t feel the need to go in circles with you or tear you down as you did to me. It gets me nowhere and it’s wasted energy. I know the good that people have to offer but, are also too caught up by their inner demons to even realize it. Like I said, you have a lot of growing up to do. You still haven’t put that Pisces moon into a positive path.

Good luck.

YET AGAIN YOU AVOID ADDRESSING WHAT I SAID, THE WHOLE POINT IS YOU WERE JUST YESTERDAY GETTING ALL BENT OUT OF SHAPE OVER THE VERY THING YOU DO TO YOUR BOYFRIEND.

YOU'RE AN AQUARIUS, YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO BELIEVE IN EQUALITY. SO WHERE'S THE EQUALITY IN THE FACT THAT YOU DON'T ACTUALLY APPLY THIS STANDARD TO YOURSELF?


I find it interesting you keep assuming my relationship status. You actually don’t know. It could be any guy I was speaking about.


Because he is the captain of the ship of "right" and all of us ignorant heathens are just floating listlessly in a sea of "wrong".


Hey speak for yourself I'm floating listlessly as a personal decision
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So long as you are not drowning or in charge of gov't policy decisions have at it
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I have no problem expressing the emotions I hold, whether they’re good or bad. That’s what life is all about and I learn something new about myself each time. I truly believe in reaching a higher state of being, even if it means people seeing my vulnerability.

I also don’t feel the need to go in circles with you or tear you down as you did to me. It gets me nowhere and it’s wasted energy. I know the good that people have to offer but, are also too caught up by their inner demons to even realize it. Like I said, you have a lot of growing up to do. You still haven’t put that Pisces moon into a positive path.

Good luck.

YET AGAIN YOU AVOID ADDRESSING WHAT I SAID, THE WHOLE POINT IS YOU WERE JUST YESTERDAY GETTING ALL BENT OUT OF SHAPE OVER THE VERY THING YOU DO TO YOUR BOYFRIEND.

YOU'RE AN AQUARIUS, YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO BELIEVE IN EQUALITY. SO WHERE'S THE EQUALITY IN THE FACT THAT YOU DON'T ACTUALLY APPLY THIS STANDARD TO YOURSELF?


I find it interesting you keep assuming my relationship status. You actually don’t know. It could be any guy I was speaking about.
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Because he is the captain of the ship of "right" and all of us ignorant heathens are just floating listlessly in a sea of "wrong".
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Posted by hazyFlo
I have no problem expressing the emotions I hold, whether they’re good or bad. That’s what life is all about and I learn something new about myself each time. I truly believe in reaching a higher state of being, even if it means people seeing my vulnerability.

I also don’t feel the need to go in circles with you or tear you down as you did to me. It gets me nowhere and it’s wasted energy. I know the good that people have to offer but, are also too caught up by their inner demons to even realize it. Like I said, you have a lot of growing up to do. You still haven’t put that Pisces moon into a positive path.

Good luck.

YET AGAIN YOU AVOID ADDRESSING WHAT I SAID, THE WHOLE POINT IS YOU WERE JUST YESTERDAY GETTING ALL BENT OUT OF SHAPE OVER THE VERY THING YOU DO TO YOUR BOYFRIEND.

YOU'RE AN AQUARIUS, YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO BELIEVE IN EQUALITY. SO WHERE'S THE EQUALITY IN THE FACT THAT YOU DON'T ACTUALLY APPLY THIS STANDARD TO YOURSELF?
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Y TF ARE YOU TYPE YELLING!???
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here a conversion chart for you: https://www.shiekhshoes.com/t-SizeChart.aspx


Ok but does this mean Timberlands made in the US have US sizing printed inside and in UK have UK size printed inside? Or all no matter where sold have US size printed on them?
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They are always in US' sizes.

Timberlands sold here are in U.S. Sizing. And men and woman's shoe sizes are different.
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So you know this Virgo male thing where they treat you so well, say and do all the right things and everything's perfect, then they disappear to do that typical Virgo thinking thing?
What to expect after that phase?
Will they come back? Do they talk about it? Do they ever initiate another conversation?
What to do beside giving them all the space there is?


How do you think and feel about his withdrawal?


I'm being very patient and understanding. When I texted him and he ignored it for the first time I knew there was something happening, so I didn't text again. He responded a day later apologizing for his behavior and saying he doesn't control it. So I just said it's okay I completely understand. And I only text him work related stuff like working hours, schedule, etc. He responds to those regularly.
I'm a Taurus so I am patient. But I also need the reassurance to know if I should wait for him or move on with my life. I don't know where I stand, and I hate it. I want him to come back.

This has been going for the past 2 weeks. I'm thinking maybe next week I can ask him to join me for dinner, but I'm scared he would ignore that or that it would push him further away from me. I don't know. I can't keep feeling like I'm walking on eggshells with someone who doesn't know what they want. I need to know what is going on and if giving him time is the right thing to do.
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All understandable concerns, truly. I would caution you however in thinking there will be a magical signal from the heavens letting you know when to move.

While timing and what he wants is important, it isn't the only consideration here. For your purposes the timing and what he wants isn't even the most important thing. In my experience what you want and need is infinitely more important in these early stages.

Why? Because you are less inclined to ignore red flags...which sad to say I think there are a few here that you would regret not weighing fully.

Often times because of like and the shower of hormones and chemicals that come with that like, we humans have a tendency to ignore or downplay red flags: His communication style sucks, she shuts down when upset, he is really flirty with everyone, she tends to worry all the time.

If you know you need a partner who is more consistent, more in tune with his feelings or who can process emotions more efficiently then I would strongly recommend you to begin to consider to look elsewhere...

Now barring that...if you really do logically think and wholly feel that you and he are compatible and can make something that will last...then you may need to take steps to make yourself more vulnerable by outright saying what it is that you want.

Its scary sure...but at the end of the day, you need answers...you deserve answers...you want to go to dinner because you want to see him...so ask...why deny yourself that? He may agree, he may reject, if he rejects we can take it from there.
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Hm. I'm a Virgo cusp woman and I have a Leo moon so maybe I can offer some insight from my pov. Um I had a Virgo man chase me got in a relationship and when it started failing he was messaging me again. He was an emotional cheater but he wouldn't have cheated sexually. I blocked him not wanting to be the other woman but yeah. hope that helps



One meeting in person does not solidify the relantionship and that's why I kept quiet but yesterday when he said we are in a relantionship since then I feel like he needs to come clear about his presence on tinder.
If you are in a relantionship then you don't swipe ppl on tinder or talk to them unless you are not sincere with the other person.




Hey hey, hold your horses...it may not be so nefarious, to be honest. You had just one conversation about relationships and now you are doubting his fidelity because everything hasnt changed after just one conversation.

Try a more measured response, so you don't come across as overbearing, unduly insecure, or worse un trusting of him (nothing deteriorates a relationship faster than mistrust).


Just state what you want. You want him off Tinder because well he is now "exclusive" to you. The best way to get a man of honor to do what you hope is to attempt to hold him to his word...if he lies then you can bring the fire and brimstone.


IXION how I make it happen?
I haven't bring up the subject of tinder so far but it's making me stress out.
I agree with you just one meeting and him saying we are in a relantionship is not enough to excuse him of anything.
But still...i don't wanna open up to someone who may be just Not on the same level as i am.
So what should I do ?

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Here is the thing...you are in a space in which you and him have begun to "define the relationship". This means that this is your golden chance to state what things you are cool with, what things you are not cool with, and just as importantly listen to those same things for him in the context of you and him actually being together...not just talking.

I would start the conversation by simply saying something like "hey, I was thinking about what you said the other day "that we are in a relationship, we are bonded" that makes me happy, but I want to also make sure we are taking care of each other by staying on the same page."

A lot of people get together without properly defining the relationship, without letting their expectations be known upfront.

It often happens because of fear, or because misaligning their current situation with a hollywood movie plot ( you know the type where everything works out without having to do the work necessary to actually make the relationship work, IRL it doesn't work like that)

When you fail to state your explicit expectation you and the relationship will suffer for it.

The reason for it is because when you attempt to hold your partner accountable for things that they never agreed to in the first place, it can potentially cause resentment, disagreement, anger, and mistrust.
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So you know this Virgo male thing where they treat you so well, say and do all the right things and everything's perfect, then they disappear to do that typical Virgo thinking thing?
What to expect after that phase?
Will they come back? Do they talk about it? Do they ever initiate another conversation?
What to do beside giving them all the space there is?


How do you think and feel about his withdrawal?
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Posted by Faramai
Hm. I'm a Virgo cusp woman and I have a Leo moon so maybe I can offer some insight from my pov. Um I had a Virgo man chase me got in a relationship and when it started failing he was messaging me again. He was an emotional cheater but he wouldn't have cheated sexually. I blocked him not wanting to be the other woman but yeah. hope that helps


One meeting in person does not solidify the relantionship and that's why I kept quiet but yesterday when he said we are in a relantionship since then I feel like he needs to come clear about his presence on tinder.
If you are in a relantionship then you don't swipe ppl on tinder or talk to them unless you are not sincere with the other person.


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Hey hey, hold your horses...it may not be so nefarious, to be honest. You had just one conversation about relationships and now you are doubting his fidelity because everything hasnt changed after just one conversation.

Try a more measured response, so you don't come across as overbearing, unduly insecure, or worse un trusting of him (nothing deteriorates a relationship faster than mistrust).


Just state what you want. You want him off Tinder because well he is now "exclusive" to you. The best way to get a man of honor to do what you hope is to attempt to hold him to his word...if he lies then you can bring the fire and brimstone.

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I have asked him are we still two single ppl who are Checking each other out or are we in a relantionship and his reply was
We are bonded baby.

Now question is should i wait till i see him next week in person or should i ask him about being active on tinder on fone?


But here is the thing...its more than asking him are you on tinder...truth is...you don't care why he is on Tinder. You have an expectation that if he is taking you seriously then dating apps are a no no... That is where I would say you should begin...saying that truth (because as far as I can see that is your truth) rather than asking questions that you really don't care what the answers are in practical terms.
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I have asked him are we still two single ppl who are Checking each other out or are we in a relantionship and his reply was
We are bonded baby.

Now question is should i wait till i see him next week in person or should i ask him about being active on tinder on fone?


Now would be the time. Travel to see you is an investment...if things are to go belly up and possibly fall apart I would prefer it to happen before a 6 hour drive.
In terms of their personal preferences changing I don't care so long as they are genuinely happy. I may make a comment or two in surprise about the shift and bring it up to them but I have enough tolerance in my heart not to write them off for being a more transient person.

Really I only concern myself with persons who I can't trust based on their shifts.

That translates into the person in doubt shifting on issues related to things I believe are indications of the health of their character (like whether or not stealing should be a thing to leisurely enjoy, or if they begin to take up extremely intolerant views counter to who they have shown themselves to be). If its anything like that cropping up then I will begin to assess whether that person needs to be around.
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I have posted my question few days ago but somehow did not get the answer or understanding I was looking for.
This Virgo guy i am talking to...we know each other for five months now.
It's a LDR and we meet once last week.
We stay in touch and talk on done every other day but so far there is no romance or stuff like that .
He knows I am looking for serous relantionship and he said he wants the same and we both are on the same page.
But he is still active on tinder.
Should I first ask him are we exclusive and then bring up tinder or what ???
I really like him but I can't open up to him and share my true feelings unless I am confident enough that he is serious.
I am a leo and he September born Virgo.
Thanks


I read your old thread and this one...If there was no discussion regarding exclusivity where yall both agree you are exclusive, expect none.

How he would likely look at it, is that he is still single. This translates into he is still able to do whatever he would like.

Aside from that...six hours away is really twelve hours away...Idk about him but distances upwards of an hour and a half would give me pause as to whether I should be pursuing or not. He may be looking for a relationship...not sure if that means he is looking for a relationship with you just yet. As others have said he is likely still weighing his options...

Ultimately, I would do a gut check here...if this isn't how a hypothetical partner to you would treat you then don't get with him now.
It would seem your problems are specific to business stats... but where there is a discrepancy between answers and sample its time to verify whether it is a type 1 or a type 2 error.
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Don't let a very vocal minority of the social justice movement bamboozle you into thinking we conflate casual touch with sexual assault and other violent behavior. The literature does not, the movement does not.

Unfortunately, the very vocal minority consists of individuals negatively representing the movement through a loudspeaker and spotlight; deforming the fundamental / core messages of the movement, leaving a strong impression on outsiders with the distorted messages.


Demagoguery unfortunately is hard to escape no matter what your personal take on the situation may be. Most of the misguided progressive minority luckily have very small and insignificant platforms.


i am focusing on the plethora of women that have vicious sexual assault tales to tell. I have yet to even pay attention to less offensive matters
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It's the primary thing to focus on. Everything else is admittedly secondary to me.