Posted by aquarius_beauty
I feel for you. But, you need to go out and distract yourself. Time will heal your wounds.


As far as you feeling like he lost a good woman, you either were or you weren't. In his eyes right now, you weren't. Aquas don't like to be in emotional tumultuous relationships. Jealousy being an incredibly negative factor against you.


You should just focus on yourself. Heal, reflect, and move on. If you were truly a good woman to him, he will return. But he won't stay if he doesn't see a significant change in you.


I'm 100% certain I was a good woman to him. He knows that. He just doesn't want to man up. Hed rather lie, hoe around on FB, smoke weed all day, and be lazy. It's the same reason doesn't move in with his mom because he wants to act an a**. He sleeps on the floor in a smelly apartment when he moved in with his mom he'd be ale to get back into school, find a job, and save for a car. ??



Every day I miss my freaking Aqua ex and it hurts.I hate missing him!
He chose to walk out of my life "twice" because he can't man up and appreciate a good woman. The worse thing I've ever done was lose my temper over something stupid and accuse him of cheating. Other than I was 100% loving, giving, honest, and loyal to him.

After we broke up he literally wrote an FB post about how some women are trophies.They don't lie, cheat, or entertain other men. They're 1000% loyal. I'm single, where she at? He literally described me and it felt like a slap in the face.I think I cried for two days.

I loved him so much but he just didn't appreciate me or anything I did.
I even got counseling to work on my issues for us & now I may be disqualified from the military because of those records. I don't know yet. I won't know for sure until next week.

Every day I feel so much anxiety worrying about him, what he's doing, & whether I'll be able to join the military. I put off the military for him & my mother but he doesn't even know that.

I'm tired of feeling for him. I'm tired of worrying about him. I'm tired of hoping he'll come back. I'm tired of thinking about him. I just want to let go, get myself together, and become a proud Airmen.

He used to be everything I ever wanted but I don't want someone who doesn't want me & walks away without a word.
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Girls a-b look adorble!

How do you mean he "seems attracted" to girls c-l? How does seem attracted?


I say seemed because he was dating me girl but
constantly liking pictures of girls like c-g.


Was this before or after your falling out?


Both. He stopped after his cousin talked to him but after our falling out he started again.


Girl, I know you KNOW that man isn't right for you!
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Yes, I see that now. When I first met him he seemed right for me. He had his own place, dresssd nice, was a gentlemen, and was studying to be a chef. He is into things like video games, anime, & Asian cuisine. It's like he has two sides:
1. Smart, goofy, nerdy, protective, attentive, sweet, and understating.
2. lustful, lazy, ghetto, worldly, & immature.

When we were together he'd be #1, he wouldn't even let me walk on the outside of the side walk. He'd massage my feet, cuddle with me, tell me all his worries, cook for me...treat me like a queen.

However, when we were apart he'd be #2. Smoking weed, on social media liking those pics, taking all day to text back & making excuses, which made him hard to trust.

He even lost his apartment spending his $ $ $ on weed. He got arrested because of weed.
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Posted by ChoXtsy
You're gorgeous! Love yourself and work that melanin! Don't compare yourself to others, know that you are perfect the way you are. Let somebody else appreciate what he didn't, starting with you!


Thank you. You are too. I'm working on it
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Girls a-b look adorble!

How do you mean he "seems attracted" to girls c-l? How does seem attracted?


I say seemed because he was dating me girl but
constantly liking pictures of girls like c-g.


Was this before or after your falling out?
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Both. He stopped after his cousin talked to him but after our falling out he started again.
Posted by MyStarsShine
This is for Scorpio people. How many of you are presently in a relationship? If so, how long for...if not, how long have you been single?

Am just doing a bit of research

Thanks
x


I've been single for almost a month.
Posted by nikkistar
So this girl I know is talking to me on facebook asking me for advice. She's all boohooing cause she said her boyfriend was cheating on her. I asked with who, she tells me he's been watching porn! So I get confused by this. So I ask her, wait you think watching porn is cheating? YES, she says. I ask hey why. "I should be enough for him! He shouldn't need anything or anyone else" I told her I couldn't relate to her cause I didn't think the same and to ask someone else for sympathy.

This butter is nuts to me, but it got me thinking, maybe there are more girls like this out there. Do some of you girls think this way too?


I felt that way when my ex liked pics of thots or hoes, not that he was cheating but that I wasn't enough. I'd rather he watch porn if nothing else. I think a little porn is ok in moderation and of course the kind of porn he's watching.
Posted by Nevermore
I still don't understand that overworked big-ass..

What's kind of sport would they use that huge ass? Aside of sex and twerking.


I think that's why guys like big asses, for sex. More to slap, squeeze, etc.
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Girls a-b look adorble!

How do you mean he "seems attracted" to girls c-l? How does seem attracted?


I say seemed because he was dating me girl but
constantly liking pictures of girls like c-g.
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I am girl a-b, my now ex boyfriend always liked pictures of girls like c-h. As well as girls like this:

However, a little more attractive like this:


It made me feel, jealous, insecure, sad, & unworthy. I felt like he'd choose them over me if given the chance. All of these women are curvy, beautiful, long hair, & confident. I'm the opposite. I've been pushed aside for girls like these in the past. Not with my ex but im sure if I were in the room with all of these women I'd be the last one he'd approach. Like with other guys in my past. My ex reassured me he loved me for me, mind, body, heart...in that order. However, I'd still cause arguments, accuse him of cheating, & not really wanting me. He grew tired of it & dumped me. We got back together 6 months later but by then he didn't really want me. He settled because his other relationships didn't work out. So when I lost my temper over a photo he left. I posted in the Aquarius forum about that, "aqua ex completely shut me out".

It feels bad. Apart of me feels like I ruined a good relationship over this & another like I'm just not good enough.
Posted by canceraqua
No offense, but I don't see where the initial problem was. Liking a picture on social media doesn't make someone the devil. Finding another woman's anatomy attractive aside from your significant other is natural. It's human nature. I'm sure you have noticed other males are attractive while dating him. Letting social media or the internet become so serious in your relationship is the source of your problem. If he isn't messaging/talking to someone trying to hook up, or physically cheating he isn't doing anything? And by the way you described the woman in the photo, you sound like you have jealousy issues that you yourself need to work out if you want to date a typical Aquarius. I have an Aquarius moon and I know when I want someone out of my life I do something that I know will cause a reaction bad enough for me to have a valid enough excuse to leave. Especially if I feel smothered.


Well, I am offended because it's a problem when the stuff you're liking isn't respectful to your girl or relationship. I never said it wasn't ok to like photos of other women. I don't know where you read that. It's the kinds of wine he was liking photos of, trashy women. Im the jealous type but in this case I calling it how I see it. A classy woman isn't posing in a thong with her ass to the camera saying, & I quote, " I got da juice & will take yo man". That is hoe/thot.

Also,

Yes, there are guys I find more attractive than him and women he's find more attractive then I. However, 1) he'd never know who they were because Im discrete about it 2) They aren't questionable men who display their bodies for likes. 3) they aren't feening for my attention.
Posted by saweetz1988
1) it could be that he just doesn't care that he will hurt you which is really sad and u deserve someone better or 2) he is a man and doesn't think. He likes something he sees so he just press like... at the end of the day, him blocking u with everything is a more important factor here. He's an immature man who's choosing an easy way out rather than deal with conflicts.. I agree with other comments that he's been trying to walk out of the relationship for a while and using his Aqua mind to find the best way to do it... when he exist this way, it makes u think it's ur fault for being needy and insecure and causingg the scene. It's a typical mind game . I seen it a lot with a sag / Scorpio Venus placement.. what are his other placements?



I'm not sure what his placements are. He birthday is January 29, 1994 & I'm not sure why he felt like that. He wasn't trapped. I always told him if he wasn't happy to tell me & I'd move on because If it ever came to it I wanted have mature split....not something haunting like this.


He meant a lot to me and I wanted him to have s place in my life forever, boyfriend or not. He wasn't the best bf but was a good person. He use to be so caring, open, & understanding...now idk. It's like once he knew his power over me his pride/ego took over & the only times he was his sweet self was when we hung out or when I was submissive. When we got into arguments he was a mean bean.
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I still fail to see what the problem is. He's just being a "bloke", a "dude". We "look", it's what we do. Doesn't automatically make us unfaithful or immature. As if women in a relationship don't giggle like schoolgirls in private over some new cute guy they've spotted. We're just more upfront about it. You hide it.

Pull the carrot outta your asses, gurls, and get over yourselves. OR post nudies of your own for him to "like".



"We "look", it's what we do."

Yeah, you're right...the thing is, "dude", that he was not only looking. He could have also wanked himself over her tits for what we care, but that's not the point!

By pressing "like", he projected her trashy exposure onto the timeline of his girlfriend, his relatives and his FB friends. It's like he "pimped" her to other males: "whoa, look what I found and like!" The first reaction of them would most likely be..."isn't he the boyfriend of...?" The girlfriend will be first one to see it, cause she is likely to have him on "speed dial" out of love. And perhaps her siblings, parents, girlfriends... all those people important to her may see it too.

How would you feel if your sister's boyfriend is posting pictures of trashy, naked women, for everybody to see? What would you tell her.....get over it, he obviously has only you on his mind? LOL!


If people actually let something so retarded like social media ruin their relationship, then they were obviously not worth the effort in the first place.

And my ex brother-in-law DID do it, to my sister, who he was married to. He'd taken a photo of WWF's Sable and had photoshopped himself into it grabbing her. My sister thought it was hilarious and they hung it on the pantry door in the kitchen.

Yeah they divorced a few years later but that's because they let the mother-in-laws have the run of the marriage.


I do agree with this. Aquarius men will def do something like that or most men in general. They watch porn and get them self off.. and there's nothing wrong with that. Just because they r in a relationship doesn't mean men have to stop looking at all the naked girls out there. 'Maybe my Aqua moon here is talking... I'm almost too cool for my man who I'm seeing to like naked girls photos... even on social media.. I think it's just human nature... I would totally like naked mans photos and that's prob something I wud do if I did get bother by it ( not saying I would) but that's how I would react . Or I would have a conversation with him normally. Aqua man doesn't do well with emotional tantrism or demands or dominant females etc... my current Aqua Can't stop saying how dominant will not work for him... he seems to not like controlling and demanding women.. they need their space, feeedom and the ability to be free n live life... if anyone dare cutting their wings, they will fly even higher and further away...


I have actually changed my stance on this and I disagree that "liking" photos is a natural human instinct.

Think about it: she explicitly told him how she feels about him liking photos like that. He could have EASILY looked at the photos and no one would know. BUT he chose to "like" the photo, knowing everyone on his list will see that he liked it, including the OP.

In my opinion, it doesn't matter how ridiculous the requests, but a man in love and a man who respects his woman would never deliberately do something to PUBLICLY humiliate her. It doesn't matter if it's true or not as long as it is true for his woman. Most men will do a lot to accomadate their woman and make her happy.

His actions seem both petty and vindictive since the OP says he did it after they had an argument.
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Thank you.
However, I don't mind him liking photos. I just wanted him to like photos of attractive respectable women or models, not hoes. It's easy to tell the difference.
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My ex blocked me EVERYWHERE on social media after I lost my temper over a photo he liked. The photo was of a topless ghetto girl. I said this to him:

"I can tolerate being ignored but I don't think I'll ever be ok with a man who likes these kinds of things. It's disrespectful to me & our relationship. It's childish. I give you my time body, & effort. I don't entertain other guys period. I've been stressed about you/us all weekend but this is where your mind is at"

"To me there aren't plenty of fish in the sea just one man I can build a future with. I overlook so many things you don't think I notice. It's just a photo to you but it's more than that to me. If you don't dump me over this in need a little time".

He knew how I felt about liking pictures of Facebook ho**. He was doing it out of spite, because he was angry at me over something else. He'd been a jerk to me all week and so I lost it over the photo.

He then blocked me. I even sent him a letter in the mail to apologize but he refused it.

I didn't want to breakup over something so stupid and I really miss him. I kind of blame myself because I should've just given him space. He would've came around like he usually did. I was just so angry! Now, he's gone & I'm hurt. This is our second breakup! He's never been so cut throats with me though.


The biggest issue, in my opinion, is the fact that he KNOWS you had an issue with "liking" and he did it anyway. I have changed my mind and have decided that, regardless of what I think about "liking" and whether or not it's serious - he completely disregarded your feelings and he chose to disrespect your wishes. That, in my opinion, is a man not in love.

You don't see it now, but if you give it lots of time, you will come to see you are better without him and the stress he brings.
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Exactly my point.
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I still fail to see what the problem is. He's just being a "bloke", a "dude". We "look", it's what we do. Doesn't automatically make us unfaithful or immature. As if women in a relationship don't giggle like schoolgirls in private over some new cute guy they've spotted. We're just more upfront about it. You hide it.

Pull the carrot outta your asses, gurls, and get over yourselves. OR post nudies of your own for him to "like".



"We "look", it's what we do."

Yeah, you're right...the thing is, "dude", that he was not only looking. He could have also wanked himself over her tits for what we care, but that's not the point!

By pressing "like", he projected her trashy exposure onto the timeline of his girlfriend, his relatives and his FB friends. It's like he "pimped" her to other males: "whoa, look what I found and like!" The first reaction of them would most likely be..."isn't he the boyfriend of...?" The girlfriend will be first one to see it, cause she is likely to have him on "speed dial" out of love. And perhaps her siblings, parents, girlfriends... all those people important to her may see it too.

How would you feel if your sister's boyfriend is posting pictures of trashy, naked women, for everybody to see? What would you tell her.....get over it, he obviously has only you on his mind? LOL!


If people actually let something so retarded like social media ruin their relationship, then they were obviously not worth the effort in the first place.

And my ex brother-in-law DID do it, to my sister, who he was married to. He'd taken a photo of WWF's Sable and had photoshopped himself into it grabbing her. My sister thought it was hilarious and they hung it on the pantry door in the kitchen.

Yeah they divorced a few years later but that's because they let the mother-in-laws have the run of the marriage.


I do agree with this. Aquarius men will def do something like that or most men in general. They watch porn and get them self off.. and there's nothing wrong with that. Just because they r in a relationship doesn't mean men have to stop looking at all the naked girls out there. 'Maybe my Aqua moon here is talking... I'm almost too cool for my man who I'm seeing to like naked girls photos... even on social media.. I think it's just human nature... I would totally like naked mans photos and that's prob something I wud do if I did get bother by it ( not saying I would) but that's how I would react . Or I would have a conversation with him normally. Aqua man doesn't do well with emotional tantrism or demands or dominant females etc... my current Aqua Can't stop saying how dominant will not work for him... he seems to not like controlling and demanding women.. they need their space, feeedom and the ability to be free n live life... if anyone dare cutting their wings, they will fly even higher and further away...
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1. I didn't clips his wings or try to control him. There is a difference between "explaining to some one how you feel about a situation & saying don't do that. I never said don't do that. I know aqua men value their freedom. I gave my ex lots of space, etc. & as a result, put up with a lot of mediocrity. Relationships are about compromise.

All I ever asked of him:
1. Be honest
2. Make time for me
3. Respect me
4. Like respectable things on social media. Are FB hoes respectable? No. Are models? Yes.
....easy for a real man. His own family agrees.

2. I wouldn't like pictures of naked men. It's not cool or attractive in my eyes. I don't want anyone's p*** on my screen & id rather like photos of a sexy, clean cut, man with his clothes on doing positive things with his life (graduating, working out, being promoted)....A man with a towel wrapped around his body snapping pics in the mirror for likes turns me off. However, I wouldn't a private pic like that from my bf. Just like I wouldn't mind sending a naughty pic for his eyes only. I wouldn't post it on social media. The only person I want seeing, lusting after, or touching my body is my man.
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Posted by Jikanyotomare
My ex blocked me EVERYWHERE on social media after I lost my temper over a photo he liked. The photo was of a topless ghetto girl. I said this to him:

"I can tolerate being ignored but I don't think I'll ever be ok with a man who likes these kinds of things. It's disrespectful to me & our relationship. It's childish. I give you my time body, & effort. I don't entertain other guys period. I've been stressed about you/us all weekend but this is where your mind is at"

"To me there aren't plenty of fish in the sea just one man I can build a future with. I overlook so many things you don't think I notice. It's just a photo to you but it's more than that to me. If you don't dump me over this in need a little time".

He knew how I felt about liking pictures of Facebook ho**. He was doing it out of spite, because he was angry at me over something else. He'd been a jerk to me all week and so I lost it over the photo.

He then blocked me. I even sent him a letter in the mail to apologize but he refused it.

I didn't want to breakup over something so stupid and I really miss him. I kind of blame myself because I should've just given him space. He would've came around like he usually did. I was just so angry! Now, he's gone & I'm hurt. This is our second breakup! He's never been so cut throats with me though.


I think the ignoring is a way bigger issue than the liking. But this isn't about me - would the "liking" have been as big of an issue if the problems that stemmed the ghosting didn't exist? Are you happy being with this guy before the photo incident happened?
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Yes and no. He wasn't the guy i fell in love with this time around. He changed.
Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
I thought you were right to dump his black ass over liking a pic! I've dumped guys for less! If a Mother treetrunker even looks at me sideways I'll kick is ass to the curb and he can wave to me from the gutter.....Some guys think they can just wave red flags like they're at a parade or something.

Look the one thing I have an issue with you OP is your commitment to keeping your descisions. You had it in the bag you could have walked out of this relationship with your dignity and pride but then you go as far as to APOLOGISE to this guy. Omg how could he ever respect you if you don't respect yourself?



I agree, but I didn't dump him. He dumped me. I only apologized for my toxic behavior not my feelings over the situation. However, yes, I can't expect someone to respect me when I don't respect myself. I'm working on loving myself more because I don't want to go through this again.
Posted by Pandora101

OP, the letter, where you wrote him " I gave you my time body and effort" sound very manipulative, like emotional blackmail....

I know, you are hurting, but please, stay put and calm

if the picture he liked was a public one (otherwise you wouldnt see it), it was an immature boyish reaction.... actually, maybe aimed at you, so you see it

yes, he is immature, but so are you

he likes pictures of half-naked girls publicly, you write him a letter about giving your body... he blocks you.... drama I wonder, what are your placements

sorry to say, you are quite similar in your reactions...

he is thinking of you, like you are thinking of him, dont worry.... but tone down your reactions, both of you


Yes, I agree. It was manipulative and I'm very immature as well. I know I have tons of growing to do as a woman. I sent him this via text. After he blocked me I sent him a letter via FedEx to apologize for my toxic behavior but he refused it.

Also, I don't know if he's thinking about me. If his is they aren't good thoughts because I acted terribly. He's such a friendly & attractive guy he might already have a new girl.
Posted by whatisthisallabout
I thought I was crazy until I saw this thread


Did you really have to call me crazy because that's what you basically did. Not that I'm saying I'm not....I know I'm coo coo for coco puffs at times, especially in relationships, but who isn't when they are in love?

I know I acted crazy and I'm ashamed of it.