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  • Posted by FitNebula
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    Posted by FitNebula
    Posted by WittyGem88v2
    And this is why I wont get in an rs with an fwb. The adjustment is just way too much.



    Anyway, to answer your question, I wont put up with it. I think with aquas you gotta say what you need... A LOT. But also you gotta identify how deep his feelings are for you. Getting in an rs— was it really his idea because he fell for you or was it more like so he doesnt lose the benefits of having you around. There is a difference. And if he doesnt actually feel strongly for you, expect him to continue to be distant and aloof like that. If hes really fallen for you, he will be a different man. 2.5 months in an rs with him— shouldve had some changes. Even at least a little bit.




    Yeah I think I need to be more direct with him.



    I mean, the relationship thing was his idea. I told him I had feelings for him and he said he did too. I said we don't need to start a relationship but I just wanted to start dating more seriously. And he said "why not get into a relationship? It would be fun." And then we were but then he decided it was too much and then he came back again and said he made a huge mistake and he did want to be with me and that's what he wanted before.



    It's complicated because we have such a long history and yeah I know he has feelings for me -- I'm not sure how deep but he seems to be really into me when we are together. It's just when we are apart I can't really tell I guess. I feel like given our history his feelings for me would be pretty deep since we have been through a lot of ups and downs for the last 7 years, and even before that when we were 13 he wanted to be with me but I rejected him and he wouldn't speak to me for 3 years. I know his feelings were deep back then he said he was in love with me and then when we were 18 he told me he's loved me since we were 13. I dunno it's complicated. But you make some good points, thank you! click to expand






    I went through the same phase with my aqua.. but we didnt do fwb..

    We started as friends, and became very good friends actually and we both confessed our feelings for each other.. but we both r scared of relationship cuz of past experiences.. him especially.. so we decided we gonna take it slow..

    Gotta b patient with him.. i know its hard, i am a leo, if i dont get an ans back right away i get pissed.. but now i barely bother when he dont text back..

    Mine was aloof too, whenever he would feel too much he will become distant, he told me that because everything happened too fast it was a WTF kinda moment for him.. and trust me they miss u but they just dont know until its too late..

    I didnt text him for 2 days straight and said hi on 3rd day and he right away said he missed me why didnt i msg him.. and i was like if u miss me u msg me.. but then he confessed that its hard for them to confess to even come to an agreement with their own feelings

    another thing is encourage his positives.. like when u guys talk or meet.. just b like i like it when we do this.. i like it when u take me to this spot.. stuff like that assures them that u r noticing the good things they r doing for u.. he will do it more..

    when my aqua do not answer i dont msg him until the next day and just wish him morning and say nothing..he will come back and apologize.. what mine does now is that if he hasnt texted me back and its been 4 5 hrs.. he video calls me and tell me he knows he didnt ans so he want to make sure m not mad and that he wanna hear my voice..

    encourage his work.. encourage the sports he play if he does.. or anything.. ask him about his day.. and once in a while just b like "i am here if u need me"

    Once he is sure.. there is no going back.. ur aqua doesnt seem like he is sure about rs yet..



    well we both arent ready.. but the way we talk we r slowly building and getting there.. plus aquas r scared of commitment and they want to be 100% sure that if this is the one then only they will go full down..

    Me and my aqua has only meet once and it was a friendly date... but next time we meet its a date.. and its been 3-4 months we been talking.. so far so good.. never had an argument.. we just dont agree on same things and he respect that about me that i dont give in.. so do i about him..



    dont wear urself if he dont ans.. have a life of ur own.. be independent.. give him hints u r doing things.. once he figure u all out he is not excited about u anymore.. surprise him with little qualities of urs once in a while.. but never make him jealous.. click to expand




    Wow funny how similar they can be... lol



    Thanks your post made me feel better



    Yeah, I think mine is scared of a relationship too. He hasn't had one since a girl he dated about 5 years ago, and she ended up physically attacking him and he had to get a restraining order...



    And you're right, I am going to try to be more positive towards him and encourage him more.



    It's just hard because this whole thing was his idea and stuff but he's not really making much of an effort... I mean he asks me to hangout more often and makes plans in advance but sometimes he just goes MIA and I don't hear from him for 5 days.. which is OK but then when he blows off plans or doesn't respond to my text I feel really frustrated. It makes me feel needy, but I'm not!! I seriously would feel great about this relationship if we just checked in with each other every 3 days and saw each other 1-2x per week. I like my space too!



    As someone else mentioned though, he has always been this way so why would I think he would change? I guess I just thought if he wanted to be in a relationship, he'd make more of an effort or make me a priority? Maybe I'm wrong though.



    Sounds like things are going well with your aqua... hope it ends up well too! click to expand
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    When mine went MIA on me, i didnt know what i did or said to make him do that. We were talking just fine, and then next day no msg nothing at all.. but i kept my cool and kept texting him.. did not bombard his phone with txts.. it was mostly good morning or i hope ur day went well and good night.. if he ans back good if not then i started new day with good morning again..
    once they see the consistency and care.. they will make u their priority.. but because aquas are doing so much all at once.. m pretty sure ur aqua is hella busy.. mine gets busy and forgets about things he said we were gonna do.. like we watch movies or games.. he plays it on his side and i do on mine and we call on the side.. but sometimes he forgets about his own plans.. so i simply ask him an hour ahead of time if he is gonna b able to watch the movie of if he is busy with school or friends or work.. that to him is world cuz he has options now.. he can choose, but he knows u r independent and u giving him independence too.. if u try to put him in the corner and be like nah we going and u have no choice he will do it but now he will feel suffocated..
    if u feel like u need to pull back a little.. do it.. i did it too.. but in the most politest way.. when he was distant for like 2 weeks.. i just told him that i understand if he does not want to talk and its okay, sometimes we need time off from people.. so i will b around if u need me.. and i am sorry if i crossed my line in someway that offended u or something...
    he answered back right away explaining why he was being distant (explained in previous post).. but i did not read his msg for full day.. that made him anxious and it scared him a bit too.. maybe try this? msg him and then go MIA on him.. worked for me.. i did it cuz i was pissed but i didnt want to hurt him so i didnt confront him..
    and lastly, u cant change aquas.. never happening.. all u can do is stand ur ground and let them see u.. once an aqua is truly in love u wont need to change him he will show his true side to u..
    Patience is the key..
  • Posted by FitNebula
    Posted by WittyGem88v2
    And this is why I wont get in an rs with an fwb. The adjustment is just way too much.



    Anyway, to answer your question, I wont put up with it. I think with aquas you gotta say what you need... A LOT. But also you gotta identify how deep his feelings are for you. Getting in an rs— was it really his idea because he fell for you or was it more like so he doesnt lose the benefits of having you around. There is a difference. And if he doesnt actually feel strongly for you, expect him to continue to be distant and aloof like that. If hes really fallen for you, he will be a different man. 2.5 months in an rs with him— shouldve had some changes. Even at least a little bit.




    Yeah I think I need to be more direct with him.



    I mean, the relationship thing was his idea. I told him I had feelings for him and he said he did too. I said we don't need to start a relationship but I just wanted to start dating more seriously. And he said "why not get into a relationship? It would be fun." And then we were but then he decided it was too much and then he came back again and said he made a huge mistake and he did want to be with me and that's what he wanted before.



    It's complicated because we have such a long history and yeah I know he has feelings for me -- I'm not sure how deep but he seems to be really into me when we are together. It's just when we are apart I can't really tell I guess. I feel like given our history his feelings for me would be pretty deep since we have been through a lot of ups and downs for the last 7 years, and even before that when we were 13 he wanted to be with me but I rejected him and he wouldn't speak to me for 3 years. I know his feelings were deep back then he said he was in love with me and then when we were 18 he told me he's loved me since we were 13. I dunno it's complicated. But you make some good points, thank you! click to expand
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    I went through the same phase with my aqua.. but we didnt do fwb..
    We started as friends, and became very good friends actually and we both confessed our feelings for each other.. but we both r scared of relationship cuz of past experiences.. him especially.. so we decided we gonna take it slow..
    Gotta b patient with him.. i know its hard, i am a leo, if i dont get an ans back right away i get pissed.. but now i barely bother when he dont text back..
    Mine was aloof too, whenever he would feel too much he will become distant, he told me that because everything happened too fast it was a WTF kinda moment for him.. and trust me they miss u but they just dont know until its too late..
    I didnt text him for 2 days straight and said hi on 3rd day and he right away said he missed me why didnt i msg him.. and i was like if u miss me u msg me.. but then he confessed that its hard for them to confess to even come to an agreement with their own feelings
    another thing is encourage his positives.. like when u guys talk or meet.. just b like i like it when we do this.. i like it when u take me to this spot.. stuff like that assures them that u r noticing the good things they r doing for u.. he will do it more..
    when my aqua do not answer i dont msg him until the next day and just wish him morning and say nothing..he will come back and apologize.. what mine does now is that if he hasnt texted me back and its been 4 5 hrs.. he video calls me and tell me he knows he didnt ans so he want to make sure m not mad and that he wanna hear my voice..
    encourage his work.. encourage the sports he play if he does.. or anything.. ask him about his day.. and once in a while just b like "i am here if u need me"
    Once he is sure.. there is no going back.. ur aqua doesnt seem like he is sure about rs yet..

    well we both arent ready.. but the way we talk we r slowly building and getting there.. plus aquas r scared of commitment and they want to be 100% sure that if this is the one then only they will go full down..
    Me and my aqua has only meet once and it was a friendly date... but next time we meet its a date.. and its been 3-4 months we been talking.. so far so good.. never had an argument.. we just dont agree on same things and he respect that about me that i dont give in.. so do i about him..

    dont wear urself if he dont ans.. have a life of ur own.. be independent.. give him hints u r doing things.. once he figure u all out he is not excited about u anymore.. surprise him with little qualities of urs once in a while.. but never make him jealous..
  • Posted by Brittnie
    Posted by Lioness18881
    Posted by Brittnie
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    Posted by Brittnie
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    Posted by joyran
    @lioness18881 @brittnie






    Yea my ignore game is not that strong but i also feel like if ignoring him then there would be no communication at all.. because if i as a leo make my mind up that i have to ignore him then i will put him through hell until he realize what he can lose.. but then the other side of me doesn't want to hurr him or anyone in that case.. want to confront him but i am used to be blunt when confronting and i usually end up being nasty when i do that..






    I am able to open up only when i trust someone fully, if i dont trust u or i dont care about u i wont tell that particular person anything.. i have to care for u to say anything to u at all, but if u play the ignore game on me i wont care as much and will go on with my life.. u dont deserve to know what i feel..






    maybe my planets r playing the role i guess..






    but u both should make the move really.. mens ego is high enough anyways.. amd for leos its true that once someone interesting and better comes along and we realize it, we certainly dont look back cuz now we onto next business..






    this happens with my celebrity crushes lol


















    Rather than confronting him and telling him all the things he's doing that annoys you. Why don't you tell him what you like instead. Say things like I like it when you call me or I like getting your texts so instead of getting mad about bad behaviour try to encourage good behaviour.











    I also understand how you feel about the ignore game. I don't like when someone ignores me so I don't do it to other people. I would rather just treat people how I want to be treated otherwise I feel guilty and like I've done something wrong or mean. But if you feel like that's something he's doing and it's upsetting you then tell him but make sure you're being reasonable about it. So if he's not actually ignoring you but rather just taking a while to respond then you need to accept that maybe he is busy and let him do his own thing. You can't expect him to give you constant attention because that's unfair.











    My Aqua and I are broken up but he hates texting and that's something I only found out recently. But sometimes, instead of replying to my texts he would ring me instead.and even now, if i text him something funny, he'll just reply lol and then ring me. He only likes texting while we're on the phone. So he takes photos of things to show me what he's talking about but he doesn't like to have conversations as texts. So some people just prefer to communicate that way. But i told him in the begining to never ignore me because i can't handle it and it makes me go cray cray, so he never has never ignored me and i do the same and never ignore him. Sometimes it's helpful to tell people what you like and what upsets you, or they don't know. It's better to tell them as part of a normal conversation about things you do and don't like, rather than you do this and you do that and accusing them of doing what you don't like. click to expand










    Your answer is simply perfect 👏🏼 click to expand








    Thanks. Yours too. I need to work on communicating better about my feelings and stuff. I have a tendency to joke about serious topics and things that make me uncomfortable like compliments or when someone says feelings, or i go silent and freeze like a deer in headlights. click to expand






    Does it make you uncomfortable too when people talk about feelings? I need to on that click to expand




    No. other people's feelings is easy. I have lots of empathy. I'm fine with sad or hurt people. But i don't like talking about mine.



    But if someone says they like me i tell them i like them more. And i can say i want them and i need kisses and cute stuff. So i can do cute stuff. I don't know how to talk about serious things like marriage and stuff except as jokes and that made him get mad

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    So I realized you’re right, he left me and said he felt detached, he wasn’t lying. I feel the detachment now and it’s so weird because I’ve always felt 100% I’m an huge empath I feel too much all the time and all week I feel nothing! I feel numb. It is karma and it does have to do with Saturn. I’ve never felt numb like this. This must be how he felt 🤔 I don’t feel anything for anyone and I feel like it should make me feel bad but.. nothing? How are you holding up? click to expand






    I don't think it's karma. It happened before the Saturn retrograde. Maybe now you're just seeing it for what it is instead of what you wanted it to be. Maybe you feel detached and become numb to protect your heart. The numbness kicked in for me straight away but I was killing my feelings before we broke up because I felt like something was wrong. Like both of us we're too scared to open up and let the other one in.



    Maybe this guy is not your person . But he has taught you to open up for the one who is. You're really sweet and a lovely person and you deserve someone who can appreciate that. Don't give up there's a better love out there for you💕 click to expand




    I meann... it’s just SUPER weird because I have been happy the last 2 weeks. I’ve been positive feeling good and THEN boom my feelings disappear and I feel numb, I don’t know how else to explain that?? click to expand
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    i dont know if u guys got my msg update.. i dont know how the update/notification goes if i post a new msg even tho i tagged u both.. had to try to quote on diff posts to see which one it allows me to quote..
  • and i also think that aqus dont have any ego.. they just fighting their own fight.. and cuz leos ego gets hurt easy we end up thinking and get impatient and say mean stuff and end up pushing aquas away.. or we shut down and aquas think we dont like them.. while we as leos are also figting a battle inside our heads about if we give up cuz pride is getting hurt or if we try one more time.. every single page i read is that leo gotta give up the ego if they want this to work.. but if heres no change in aqua then theres an issue as well..
    for now m seeing changes and its on the way.. will see what happens in future
  • Need to post a new msg it wont let me quote..

    My update, i dont know if it will b of any help but here..
    @lioness18881, ur idea helped and it basically changed the whole route of our relationship..
    @brittnie u insight to what aquas feel made me understand him better
    million thanks to u both

    heres what i figured worked for me.. at first i used to b like "msg me when u get free, m waiting".. i changed that to "if u aint too tired or get time u can msg me"...
    He started video calling me to watch nba playoffs games with me.. 3 hour video call twice.. our fav teams r playing against each other so we trash talk but inbetween the breaks he unexpectedly says random sweet stuff.. there was a game last night as well but he didnt give me a heads up for the video call.. so i messaged and asked if we were watching the game together or if he was gonna b busy with his friends.. and he said he was gonna b busy but promised to watch the next game with me.. and said "u just earned 300 more cool points for asking me that question".
    so i guess instead of pushing him for calls and texts, when i gave him options or choices he opened up more.. he felt more confident, like he had a choice of gathering up his courage and calling me on his own time... instead of when i ask him to or give him time limits ( i used to do that by saying, i gotta sleep at 10, so call before that if u want to, yikes, i know)..
    like last night i messaged him cuz he didnt msg after the 300 cool points msg.. and told him i was heading to bed and i hope u had fun.. if u r not too tried send me a smile before u sleep my team lost so i will feel better.. little mushy i know..
    he video called at 2am later..
    also told me that he gets nervous, and is terrified.. and i told him if he wants me to not text him i can do that and i will not call him either if he doesnt feel good talking to me.. i was very calm when i said that.. and he said no it wasnt me it was him, that he needs to get over himself.. and that i will always be there even if i left..
    So i open up 1 page of my book, he opens up 10.. m not talking about commitment, but he is getting there slowly with talks like "if u were mine i will do this/that".. things like this.. so imma give him time over there.. but he is always talking about how he wishes i could come to his games because he knows i will hype him up like no other person can..

    What happened with me was, i put my ego aside 100% , and put on my patience mask like a big one.. if he didnt ans my good night text back.. i was still the first one to wish him morning.. but its been 2 days he is wishing me first and says "i beat u today with the wish and this is hows its gonna n for rest of the life".. i was like okay we will see..
    but once i work i did not text him until he does.. so he dont feel congested.. once off i text him how is his day doing and now he knows the routine so he calls me when i msg him cuz he knows m done work.. and then until dinner is done.. we keep texting in between and then call or continues text/voice msgs until one of us tired or knock out..

    Pride is a big thing for me.. but i also will never give up unless i know i am 100% drained.. its a bad and a good thing in me.. also because theres a little pride hidden in it as well.. i know my pride was getting hurt when i was available to him always and he was taking time.. but walking away would have hurt my pride as well.. then i would have been like what if i tried a bit more with him..
    and also because he said he has never intentionally tried to ignore me, its because he doesnt know what to do because its too much for him, he cant understand why would someone care so much for him and how he could be feeling so comfortable and coming out of his shell for someone he only meet once..

    so ya that theory of brittnie.. because it happened so fast, he was like wtf happened..

    and honestly m more at peace now.. like if he dont msg back for hours i dont get bothered at all.. and when he does i do msg him back..but i also understand that if he dont ans to something it means he dont want to talk about it.. so i dont push it on him..
    maybe cuz i didnt give up or ignored him or was distant with him thats why.. or cuz m a person who if got issues wants things resolved right away and not ignore them..
    ex.. i told him that whenever he wants space all he has to do is tell me and that m here if he wants to talk about anything and he dont need to be nervous i wont judge u.. its cuz i put my thoughts in front of him and did not fight or put him down in any way.. that increased the communication..

    so once in a while i remind him by saying i am here if u need me.. and everytime i say that it gets better..
    i like where we r heading and m obo not heading for sex until a commitment is on the table and he knows that too.. we had a sex vs love talk which had nothing to do with us as a couple but us as individuals.. i think he just wanted to know my sexual history.. inbetween the talks i told him if theres no love, being in sexual relationship doesnt make any sense.. to which he said this is why he thinks i am different and this is why he freaks out.. i did not get it tho

    i dont know if this is gonna help in any way.. this worked for me.. but it came from both of u..
    like piece by piece and everything make sense now...
    could placements in the chart be also the reason? i also realized that it was around this full moon that everything started getting better and fell into place.. i dont know if planets changed places or what..
  • Posted by Brittnie
    Posted by joyran
    Posted by Brittnie
    Posted by Lioness18881
    Posted by Brittnie
    Posted by Lioness18881
    Posted by joyran
    @lioness18881 @brittnie







    Yea my ignore game is not that strong but i also feel like if ignoring him then there would be no communication at all.. because if i as a leo make my mind up that i have to ignore him then i will put him through hell until he realize what he can lose.. but then the other side of me doesn't want to hurr him or anyone in that case.. want to confront him but i am used to be blunt when confronting and i usually end up being nasty when i do that..







    I am able to open up only when i trust someone fully, if i dont trust u or i dont care about u i wont tell that particular person anything.. i have to care for u to say anything to u at all, but if u play the ignore game on me i wont care as much and will go on with my life.. u dont deserve to know what i feel..







    maybe my planets r playing the role i guess..







    but u both should make the move really.. mens ego is high enough anyways.. amd for leos its true that once someone interesting and better comes along and we realize it, we certainly dont look back cuz now we onto next business..







    this happens with my celebrity crushes lol





















    Rather than confronting him and telling him all the things he's doing that annoys you. Why don't you tell him what you like instead. Say things like I like it when you call me or I like getting your texts so instead of getting mad about bad behaviour try to encourage good behaviour.













    I also understand how you feel about the ignore game. I don't like when someone ignores me so I don't do it to other people. I would rather just treat people how I want to be treated otherwise I feel guilty and like I've done something wrong or mean. But if you feel like that's something he's doing and it's upsetting you then tell him but make sure you're being reasonable about it. So if he's not actually ignoring you but rather just taking a while to respond then you need to accept that maybe he is busy and let him do his own thing. You can't expect him to give you constant attention because that's unfair.













    My Aqua and I are broken up but he hates texting and that's something I only found out recently. But sometimes, instead of replying to my texts he would ring me instead.and even now, if i text him something funny, he'll just reply lol and then ring me. He only likes texting while we're on the phone. So he takes photos of things to show me what he's talking about but he doesn't like to have conversations as texts. So some people just prefer to communicate that way. But i told him in the begining to never ignore me because i can't handle it and it makes me go cray cray, so he never has never ignored me and i do the same and never ignore him. Sometimes it's helpful to tell people what you like and what upsets you, or they don't know. It's better to tell them as part of a normal conversation about things you do and don't like, rather than you do this and you do that and accusing them of doing what you don't like. click to expand












    Your answer is simply perfect 👏🏼 click to expand










    Thanks. Yours too. I need to work on communicating better about my feelings and stuff. I have a tendency to joke about serious topics and things that make me uncomfortable like compliments or when someone says feelings, or i go silent and freeze like a deer in headlights. click to expand








    Does it make you uncomfortable too when people talk about feelings? I need to on that click to expand









    As with this aqua i get nervous when he talks about his feelings, or when he says something mushy.. i either end up joking about what he says or take too much time to respond that he will just change the topic.. i guess with him he wants ans pretty quick once he said something or he gets insecure that maybe he crossed the line..


    and even now that we got all close and talked so much last night, m feeling awkward and uneasy as to how to approach him on this new day...


    Dont know what Lioness18881 have to say on this click to expand




    Ok so yes we feel the same, and so does your Aqua it sounds like. You have a Leo and Aqua to talk to about these things 😂 we got your back 😍 I will work on how to handle people coming at you with your feelings. I’ve been studying how people have different love languages. For instance mine is mostly words of affirmation and Leo’s is action. Things of service as well but his is def not words. I have a best friend who is a Aries with a Leo moon whom I believe was given to me to help me with my Leo who has an Aries moon. She says she has to be told once. Words don’t mean butter to her after that it’s all about action so it’s helped me learn a lot about him. Also having @lioness18881 helps 😁 you could say “you don’t have to worry about telling me your feelings, I feel the same and you can trust me with them ” smiley face cuz I know as an Aqua I use emojis a lot lol it def sounds like he gets insecure cuz I like said, putting out our emotions is scary stuff. Also my phone likes to autocorrect words like is to isn’t but you can figure it out lol it’s stupid click to expand
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    Definitely i think i am personally more action, cuz i suck with words and i cant explain my feelings much.. thats why i dont bother cuz i feel like no one will understand..
    but when we were talking last night.. he said "i feel like hugging you right now", he know i saw his message but i didnt ans for 2 minutes cuz i didnt know what to say, i was about to say.. and he got insecure and said he was sorry for crossing the line (cuz we aint dating)..
    then after sometime i said i wish we could meet more often, (we live 6 hrs drive apart).. then he took time to ans and i said never mind i am just being cheezy.. and then he was like lets promise we will say whatever we want to and not be insecure about it and try to retract our feelings..
    so ya he messaged me this morning and sent me a kiss..
    He says stuff like "insta wife, baby, sweetheart, love, ma'am", but we aint dating, and he is always bringing this 💍🙏🏽 (marry me) up.. so i dont know why dont he asks me to b his gf or whatever.. he did say next time we meet it will b a date but also said he want to take things slow cuz he is scared he will hurt me or get hurt..
    i have already told him i like him so now m waiting for him to make it official.. but i think he want to go on a proper date before doing anything.. last time we meet we played and had fun.. it was like friends going out..
    I wish i could see whats gonna happen in a month.. lol
  • Posted by Brittnie
    Posted by Lioness18881
    Posted by Brittnie
    Posted by Lioness18881
    Posted by joyran
    @lioness18881 @brittnie





    Yea my ignore game is not that strong but i also feel like if ignoring him then there would be no communication at all.. because if i as a leo make my mind up that i have to ignore him then i will put him through hell until he realize what he can lose.. but then the other side of me doesn't want to hurr him or anyone in that case.. want to confront him but i am used to be blunt when confronting and i usually end up being nasty when i do that..





    I am able to open up only when i trust someone fully, if i dont trust u or i dont care about u i wont tell that particular person anything.. i have to care for u to say anything to u at all, but if u play the ignore game on me i wont care as much and will go on with my life.. u dont deserve to know what i feel..





    maybe my planets r playing the role i guess..





    but u both should make the move really.. mens ego is high enough anyways.. amd for leos its true that once someone interesting and better comes along and we realize it, we certainly dont look back cuz now we onto next business..





    this happens with my celebrity crushes lol















    Rather than confronting him and telling him all the things he's doing that annoys you. Why don't you tell him what you like instead. Say things like I like it when you call me or I like getting your texts so instead of getting mad about bad behaviour try to encourage good behaviour.









    I also understand how you feel about the ignore game. I don't like when someone ignores me so I don't do it to other people. I would rather just treat people how I want to be treated otherwise I feel guilty and like I've done something wrong or mean. But if you feel like that's something he's doing and it's upsetting you then tell him but make sure you're being reasonable about it. So if he's not actually ignoring you but rather just taking a while to respond then you need to accept that maybe he is busy and let him do his own thing. You can't expect him to give you constant attention because that's unfair.









    My Aqua and I are broken up but he hates texting and that's something I only found out recently. But sometimes, instead of replying to my texts he would ring me instead.and even now, if i text him something funny, he'll just reply lol and then ring me. He only likes texting while we're on the phone. So he takes photos of things to show me what he's talking about but he doesn't like to have conversations as texts. So some people just prefer to communicate that way. But i told him in the begining to never ignore me because i can't handle it and it makes me go cray cray, so he never has never ignored me and i do the same and never ignore him. Sometimes it's helpful to tell people what you like and what upsets you, or they don't know. It's better to tell them as part of a normal conversation about things you do and don't like, rather than you do this and you do that and accusing them of doing what you don't like. click to expand








    Your answer is simply perfect 👏🏼 click to expand






    Thanks. Yours too. I need to work on communicating better about my feelings and stuff. I have a tendency to joke about serious topics and things that make me uncomfortable like compliments or when someone says feelings, or i go silent and freeze like a deer in headlights. click to expand




    Does it make you uncomfortable too when people talk about feelings? I need to on that click to expand
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    As with this aqua i get nervous when he talks about his feelings, or when he says something mushy.. i either end up joking about what he says or take too much time to respond that he will just change the topic.. i guess with him he wants ans pretty quick once he said something or he gets insecure that maybe he crossed the line..
    and even now that we got all close and talked so much last night, m feeling awkward and uneasy as to how to approach him on this new day...
    Dont know what Lioness18881 have to say on this
  • Posted by Brittnie
    Posted by joyran
    Posted by Brittnie
    Posted by joyran
    @lioness18881 @brittnie




    Yea my ignore game is not that strong but i also feel like if ignoring him then there would be no communication at all.. because if i as a leo make my mind up that i have to ignore him then i will put him through hell until he realize what he can lose.. but then the other side of me doesn't want to hurr him or anyone in that case.. want to confront him but i am used to be blunt when confronting and i usually end up being nasty when i do that..




    I am able to open up only when i trust someone fully, if i dont trust u or i dont care about u i wont tell that particular person anything.. i have to care for u to say anything to u at all, but if u play the ignore game on me i wont care as much and will go on with my life.. u dont deserve to know what i feel..




    maybe my planets r playing the role i guess..




    but u both should make the move really.. mens ego is high enough anyways.. amd for leos its true that once someone interesting and better comes along and we realize it, we certainly dont look back cuz now we onto next business..




    this happens with my celebrity crushes lol












    Yes like I said y’all doing great it’s rare we admit our feelings like he is and I totally get where you’re coming from 100%



    Oh don’t even get me into celeb crushes. Fantazing about someone I can’t have 😅 click to expand






    thats what good about fantasizing about them lol u cant have them.. so u cant catch feelings and just move on to the next one





    btw what makes it so hard for u guys to open up? especially after u tell the person that u like them?


    and if i ignore him u think that will work more, because sometimes i feel like he takes me for granted or knows that i am gonna b there always so he can do as he please..


    is it this or is ir that u guys just lazy/ scared of opening up/ want the other one to make the move..


    like what exactly is it? what stops u? click to expand




    I know you feel like he’s taking you for granted sometimes but BELIEVE ME we don’t make you feel that way on purpose what so ever. Like when he felt I was taking him for granted, I was just in my head way too much. He was pressuring me to find a job and he didn’t know that it was making me so insecure and I’m a very positive person so for me to be insecure made me push him away on complete accident. I was thinking, I’ll eventually get a job that he wants to get and work my ass off for a company I would eventually probably have resented him cuz I want to do something I love. Not a 9-5 boring job with great benefits and never have time off. I wanted to feel good enough for him but now I realize I am good enough and I should never take that part away from myself to please him. I want us both to be happy. In my head it was about making us both happy and he didn’t know because I didn’t open up.

    I can’t completely tell you why because now it seems stupid because he ended up leaving anyways so it did me no good. I thought he would see I wasn’t good enough for him and leave me anyways. I was scared to tell him how I felt and him not feel the same way. It is the scariest thing in the world to open up to someone who may not feel the same way. Also I look back and realize that was stupid because his actions say that he did BUT I needed to be TOLD constantly that I’m loved, valued, appreciated, etc etc I’m beautiful and he was an action person. That’s where I told myself, he loves you he just shows you differently then you do him and it worked for a while then the money issue popped up and ruined things for us both. Fear, rejection hurting our ego and pride is the scariest thing ever but I learned my lesson. I will tell people how I feel from here on out. I’m a way it is because we our lazy. I worked harder on isn’t then I ever have in a relationship but the connection required I be even more vulnerable and bare for it to work.

    Ignoring leads to more hurt and more ignoring. No one wins that game. All we can do is say what we think and feel and try to be understanding when the other person says what they feel as well. It is about balance, not just with each other but yourselves individually as well. Doing things you love outside of the relationship so when he can’t reply at that moment you aren’t focused on reasons why he didn’t or couldn’t message you. We always have a real reason. I never lied to him but I can see why he would like yea right, it’s hard to trust in a world full of liars and cheaters but you Leo’s are specials and so are Aquas when we come together we devote ourselves to each other and bettering ourselves for the connection, our friends and family. We have no time for anyone else click to expand
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    Thank you for the insight.. that answers a lot of questions
  • Posted by Lioness18881
    Posted by Brittnie
    Posted by Lioness18881
    Posted by joyran
    @lioness18881 @brittnie




    Yea my ignore game is not that strong but i also feel like if ignoring him then there would be no communication at all.. because if i as a leo make my mind up that i have to ignore him then i will put him through hell until he realize what he can lose.. but then the other side of me doesn't want to hurr him or anyone in that case.. want to confront him but i am used to be blunt when confronting and i usually end up being nasty when i do that..




    I am able to open up only when i trust someone fully, if i dont trust u or i dont care about u i wont tell that particular person anything.. i have to care for u to say anything to u at all, but if u play the ignore game on me i wont care as much and will go on with my life.. u dont deserve to know what i feel..




    maybe my planets r playing the role i guess..




    but u both should make the move really.. mens ego is high enough anyways.. amd for leos its true that once someone interesting and better comes along and we realize it, we certainly dont look back cuz now we onto next business..




    this happens with my celebrity crushes lol












    Rather than confronting him and telling him all the things he's doing that annoys you. Why don't you tell him what you like instead. Say things like I like it when you call me or I like getting your texts so instead of getting mad about bad behaviour try to encourage good behaviour.







    I also understand how you feel about the ignore game. I don't like when someone ignores me so I don't do it to other people. I would rather just treat people how I want to be treated otherwise I feel guilty and like I've done something wrong or mean. But if you feel like that's something he's doing and it's upsetting you then tell him but make sure you're being reasonable about it. So if he's not actually ignoring you but rather just taking a while to respond then you need to accept that maybe he is busy and let him do his own thing. You can't expect him to give you constant attention because that's unfair.







    My Aqua and I are broken up but he hates texting and that's something I only found out recently. But sometimes, instead of replying to my texts he would ring me instead.and even now, if i text him something funny, he'll just reply lol and then ring me. He only likes texting while we're on the phone. So he takes photos of things to show me what he's talking about but he doesn't like to have conversations as texts. So some people just prefer to communicate that way. But i told him in the begining to never ignore me because i can't handle it and it makes me go cray cray, so he never has never ignored me and i do the same and never ignore him. Sometimes it's helpful to tell people what you like and what upsets you, or they don't know. It's better to tell them as part of a normal conversation about things you do and don't like, rather than you do this and you do that and accusing them of doing what you don't like. click to expand






    Your answer is simply perfect 👏🏼 click to expand




    Thanks. Yours too. I need to work on communicating better about my feelings and stuff. I have a tendency to joke about serious topics and things that make me uncomfortable like compliments or when someone says feelings, or i go silent and freeze like a deer in headlights. click to expand
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    thats me 100% too..
    but u guys hes being romantic.. i sent him a kiss earlier, and he said he kissed back at it before starting the game and that light moment took mind off of his headache and now he is talking about the kind of kisses he like.. and the feeling of it.. and he asked me if i like to cuddle.. i got mushy.. like telling him how i would like to b under the sky with bonfire on and cuddle.. and explained my ideal date.. he said i made him imagine the whole thing and it was sexy and beautiful at same time...
    and yes i only said "i like when we have these light talks, theres a never a dull moment and i love it"..
    so the encouraging thing works..
  • Posted by Brittnie
    Posted by Lioness18881
    Posted by joyran
    @lioness18881 @brittnie



    Yea my ignore game is not that strong but i also feel like if ignoring him then there would be no communication at all.. because if i as a leo make my mind up that i have to ignore him then i will put him through hell until he realize what he can lose.. but then the other side of me doesn't want to hurr him or anyone in that case.. want to confront him but i am used to be blunt when confronting and i usually end up being nasty when i do that..



    I am able to open up only when i trust someone fully, if i dont trust u or i dont care about u i wont tell that particular person anything.. i have to care for u to say anything to u at all, but if u play the ignore game on me i wont care as much and will go on with my life.. u dont deserve to know what i feel..



    maybe my planets r playing the role i guess..



    but u both should make the move really.. mens ego is high enough anyways.. amd for leos its true that once someone interesting and better comes along and we realize it, we certainly dont look back cuz now we onto next business..



    this happens with my celebrity crushes lol









    Rather than confronting him and telling him all the things he's doing that annoys you. Why don't you tell him what you like instead. Say things like I like it when you call me or I like getting your texts so instead of getting mad about bad behaviour try to encourage good behaviour.





    I also understand how you feel about the ignore game. I don't like when someone ignores me so I don't do it to other people. I would rather just treat people how I want to be treated otherwise I feel guilty and like I've done something wrong or mean. But if you feel like that's something he's doing and it's upsetting you then tell him but make sure you're being reasonable about it. So if he's not actually ignoring you but rather just taking a while to respond then you need to accept that maybe he is busy and let him do his own thing. You can't expect him to give you constant attention because that's unfair.





    My Aqua and I are broken up but he hates texting and that's something I only found out recently. But sometimes, instead of replying to my texts he would ring me instead.and even now, if i text him something funny, he'll just reply lol and then ring me. He only likes texting while we're on the phone. So he takes photos of things to show me what he's talking about but he doesn't like to have conversations as texts. So some people just prefer to communicate that way. But i told him in the begining to never ignore me because i can't handle it and it makes me go cray cray, so he never has never ignored me and i do the same and never ignore him. Sometimes it's helpful to tell people what you like and what upsets you, or they don't know. It's better to tell them as part of a normal conversation about things you do and don't like, rather than you do this and you do that and accusing them of doing what you don't like. click to expand




    Your answer is simply perfect 👏🏼 click to expand
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    Same with me.. if i know i have done something wrong to someone on pupose, the guilt eats me and then i have to make up for the wrong i did.. like the conscious wont allow me to just let it be and leave the person while they r hurting from what i did to them..
    thats why i cant ignore cuz i wont want someone to do that to me..
    u r right about encouraging good behaviour.. he always come to me when he is feeling low.. like low confidence, or insecure, or when he is mad at something.. dont know why tho.. and then i end up telling him he can talk to me anytime he likes, i wont mind even if its at 3 4 in the morning..
    so imma try this.. encourage his good side..
  • Posted by Brittnie
    Posted by joyran
    @lioness18881 @brittnie


    Yea my ignore game is not that strong but i also feel like if ignoring him then there would be no communication at all.. because if i as a leo make my mind up that i have to ignore him then i will put him through hell until he realize what he can lose.. but then the other side of me doesn't want to hurr him or anyone in that case.. want to confront him but i am used to be blunt when confronting and i usually end up being nasty when i do that..


    I am able to open up only when i trust someone fully, if i dont trust u or i dont care about u i wont tell that particular person anything.. i have to care for u to say anything to u at all, but if u play the ignore game on me i wont care as much and will go on with my life.. u dont deserve to know what i feel..


    maybe my planets r playing the role i guess..


    but u both should make the move really.. mens ego is high enough anyways.. amd for leos its true that once someone interesting and better comes along and we realize it, we certainly dont look back cuz now we onto next business..


    this happens with my celebrity crushes lol






    Yes like I said y’all doing great it’s rare we admit our feelings like he is and I totally get where you’re coming from 100%

    Oh don’t even get me into celeb crushes. Fantazing about someone I can’t have 😅 click to expand
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    thats what good about fantasizing about them lol u cant have them.. so u cant catch feelings and just move on to the next one

    btw what makes it so hard for u guys to open up? especially after u tell the person that u like them?
    and if i ignore him u think that will work more, because sometimes i feel like he takes me for granted or knows that i am gonna b there always so he can do as he please..
    is it this or is ir that u guys just lazy/ scared of opening up/ want the other one to make the move..
    like what exactly is it? what stops u?
  • @lioness18881 @brittnie
    Yea my ignore game is not that strong but i also feel like if ignoring him then there would be no communication at all.. because if i as a leo make my mind up that i have to ignore him then i will put him through hell until he realize what he can lose.. but then the other side of me doesn't want to hurr him or anyone in that case.. want to confront him but i am used to be blunt when confronting and i usually end up being nasty when i do that..
    I am able to open up only when i trust someone fully, if i dont trust u or i dont care about u i wont tell that particular person anything.. i have to care for u to say anything to u at all, but if u play the ignore game on me i wont care as much and will go on with my life.. u dont deserve to know what i feel..
    maybe my planets r playing the role i guess..
    but u both should make the move really.. mens ego is high enough anyways.. amd for leos its true that once someone interesting and better comes along and we realize it, we certainly dont look back cuz now we onto next business..
    this happens with my celebrity crushes lol
  • Posted by Brittnie
    Posted by joyran
    Posted by Brittnie
    I don’t know this wouldn’t send. Pissing me off anyway, here it is.







    That’s where we are similar. I’m the same way but not with him. He is the only one that I’ve never lost feelings for. I’m Aqua, Sag dominant so I was a commitment phone lol I realized with this relationship that a lot of the problems I had were in my head. He said the same thing when he left. He apologized he knew it was him and not me because I begged him to tell me. We were both at fault and he realized it and I realized it. How is someone supposed to know there is a problem if you don’t communicate? You can’t knock feelings into him. It is very obvious to me that he has feelings for you. As an Aqua I have never been good at “showing” love. My Leo was showing me how a lot and no one understands how much we change for you guys. It is a slow process. You can’t learn a new language over night because that’s essentially what it’s like. You feel the same way about each other and show it in completely different ways. You don’t understand him cuz you aren’t him. You both have to compromise and it seems like such hard work because it is. To him you are worth it, is he worth it to you?






    I think for me when i submit to someone, i go all in, i dont pay attention to someone else, its him right now thats it.. even though we aint dating, he gives me mixed signals.. when we meet the first time he asked what was it suppose to b a date or what.. and i said a friendly date.. and then he asked he wanted to see me again.. and when i confessed my feelings to him i told him how about make out next meeting our date.. and that i like him and if he is not on same level as i am then i was sorry.. to which he said he want to take it slow and that he is scared.. trust issues from oast relationships so..





    had 1 relationship and it was with a cap.. if i compare.. yup he is definitely worth it.. but i think cuz i have like leo everywhere in my chart.. i expect as much in return emotionally than anything else.. but yea the showing love part.. it comes with time.. but for me its like u already know u like me and u know i like u so get to the business.. but then i end up remembering how he is always like he is scared that he will either get hurt or will hurt me somehow.. or that he is a coward when submitting to feelings.. then i tend to stick up with him and not leave.. cuz i want to give him a fair chance..


    just the time he is taking and being too sweet for one day and barely talk at all for rest of the week that bothers me..


    i also understand where u coming from.. i think once aquas submit they will respect their partners more than before.. so thats when they actually compromise..


    and yea he creates problems in his head as well too.. will say something sweet and if i dont ans right away he will say "sorry m talking too much".. like hold on lemme look for mushier words to say back to u..


    so yea creating things and overthinking.. i can see it..


    i just hope he does what he has to and confess already click to expand
    Confess what? 😁 click to expand
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    confess all his feelings and not go quiet on me after he does that.. and lol at get to business... well oboviously cuz if u r sure about it wasting time is useless
  • Posted by Brittnie
    I don’t know this wouldn’t send. Pissing me off anyway, here it is.



    That’s where we are similar. I’m the same way but not with him. He is the only one that I’ve never lost feelings for. I’m Aqua, Sag dominant so I was a commitment phone lol I realized with this relationship that a lot of the problems I had were in my head. He said the same thing when he left. He apologized he knew it was him and not me because I begged him to tell me. We were both at fault and he realized it and I realized it. How is someone supposed to know there is a problem if you don’t communicate? You can’t knock feelings into him. It is very obvious to me that he has feelings for you. As an Aqua I have never been good at “showing” love. My Leo was showing me how a lot and no one understands how much we change for you guys. It is a slow process. You can’t learn a new language over night because that’s essentially what it’s like. You feel the same way about each other and show it in completely different ways. You don’t understand him cuz you aren’t him. You both have to compromise and it seems like such hard work because it is. To him you are worth it, is he worth it to you?


    I think for me when i submit to someone, i go all in, i dont pay attention to someone else, its him right now thats it.. even though we aint dating, he gives me mixed signals.. when we meet the first time he asked what was it suppose to b a date or what.. and i said a friendly date.. and then he asked he wanted to see me again.. and when i confessed my feelings to him i told him how about make out next meeting our date.. and that i like him and if he is not on same level as i am then i was sorry.. to which he said he want to take it slow and that he is scared.. trust issues from oast relationships so..

    had 1 relationship and it was with a cap.. if i compare.. yup he is definitely worth it.. but i think cuz i have like leo everywhere in my chart.. i expect as much in return emotionally than anything else.. but yea the showing love part.. it comes with time.. but for me its like u already know u like me and u know i like u so get to the business.. but then i end up remembering how he is always like he is scared that he will either get hurt or will hurt me somehow.. or that he is a coward when submitting to feelings.. then i tend to stick up with him and not leave.. cuz i want to give him a fair chance..
    just the time he is taking and being too sweet for one day and barely talk at all for rest of the week that bothers me..
    i also understand where u coming from.. i think once aquas submit they will respect their partners more than before.. so thats when they actually compromise..
    and yea he creates problems in his head as well too.. will say something sweet and if i dont ans right away he will say "sorry m talking too much".. like hold on lemme look for mushier words to say back to u..
    so yea creating things and overthinking.. i can see it..
    i just hope he does what he has to and confess already
  • Posted by Brittnie
    That’s very sweet! Yes! My Leo was the only man to ever give me space and not try to control me. I also did the same for me and he told me he was so lucky he had found me and I was amazing then it got rocky because he had problems with me, assumed it was something else when all he had to do was talk to me about it. Here I am thinking things are FantreetrunkINGtastic and he leaves lol neither one of us told the other our own feelings until we split and i caved and he said nothing. He said he was too much man to have feelings pretty soon into the relationship so I plead with everyone to communicate and trust your partner. I know it killed me when he left, I don’t want that for others


    as i leo.. if i have to give too much space or if someone gives me a lot of space i grow distant with time.. distant enough to not snap back and once feelings die for someone i am emotionally done with that person theres no getting those feelings back..
    cant speak for men.. but if i as a leo woman is on track to leave u emotionally i will b done for good..
    so ya he didnt say anything u didnt share ur feelings and it all went cold.. m sorry that happened tho..
    see this is why i feel like i need to push him more and knock some feelings into him
  • Posted by Brittnie
    Posted by joyran
    Posted by RooSagicorn
    OH I would love to see that first message you hid. I have never dated an aqua.. all these threads talking about how difficult they are. Scary! After I just dealt with a Cap.







    Well I just met an Aqua on an online dating site. We met Saturday and definite connection. Now we have a date on Thursday. I must say he’s confused me already. One amazing conversation on the dating site & we were texting amazing conversations offline & he is saying goodnight & good morning every day. We hadn’t even met! And it was more attention than my freaking Cap ex-bf gave me. But in reality, it is only the beginning. And I have only initiated once and am trying not to get dragged into thinking it’s more already just from how he’s acting. He can show me what he wants.







    I think really we have to see the actions are matching the words. This one seems a little impulsive & interested but also cautious if that makes sense. If I were you, i’d Stop paying attention to the little things and let him show you what he wants. I’m not a Leo & I know Leo’s get frustrated if you aren’t doing what they want. But, honestly I think it works better when you let them show you.






    I was with a cap before too.. and compared to aqua.. he was dirt.. sucked the life out of me.. cheating lies.. almost living 5 lives at a time.. m.also glad its done


    With aqua.. we are not dating.. i argued with him on a video on insta.. and he added me saying he likes how i have strong opinion and i didnt back down.. we clicked right away.. all same traits like u explained.. he opened up about his past.. and we are very good friends.. and there is a sense of respect.. and i have let him do all the pursuing and m laying low with my emotions..


    we meet once and after that.. he started responding less.. still called but on his own time... never msg me right away but also never end the convos.. m usually the one who says i will ttyl.. feels like he testing my patience at times..


    i had someone ask me out.. and i said no to him.. and i told aqua that this happened and he said ya tell them to stay away from my girl.. but it wasnt to make him feel jealous.. just a normal convo and i brought this up..


    and there are some days where he ignores me.. and someone else in this convo told me aquas dont know they r ignoring u.. so i guess that makes up for it..


    but he has also told me that he gets distant because he started liking me too much.. i think he is low key scared of rejection from me.. and because he doesnt want to lose the friend in him he doesnt pursue me click to expand




    Damn girl! He is opening up to you a lot but it sounds like you don’t open up at all? No wonder he is backing down. You better be sure you are letting him in like he is letting you in. We don’t let people in on our feelings so you better appreciate it! click to expand
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    Trust me i got mushy with him.. opened up with him and told him i liked him..
    u should read my recent message on this post..
    and in addition to that msg.. he just messaged and said he was having a bad headache so i got mushy like the other leo girl suggested.. and told him warm coconut oil coming up for head massage.. and said some other mushy things.. sent him a kiss (like pic of myself, this was my first time doing it).. and asked him if it helped.. he said he loved it and from now on whenever something bad happens he just gonna look at my pic (kiss pic) cuz it made him happy.. and then he sent me 💍🙏🏽 this as a message.. i asked him what was that.. he said "marry me lol".. and he already calls me insta wife.. so i told him we married but my husband dont really like talking to me.. to which he said just be patient he will come around and "you have done a pretty good job so far and i appreciate ur patience, if it was someone else she would have left, or told me that i have another girl on the side, but u have been very calm"...
    he gets sweet once in a while.. and then i hold on even tighter.. but then he dont say anything sweet for good week or so...is it like some sweet attack aquas get once in a while?
  • @Lioness18881
    Ok so my patience is wearing out.. So i haven't been texting him much, only send him one message and i wait until he answer.. which could b the next day as well..
    Now few days ago, i messaged him in the evening saying "hey, how was ur game?".. he was online did not ans me for good 1 hour.. and when he did he said he did really good and asked me how was my day.. i was annoyed and busy so i did not answer, but he knows i saw his message.. so after half an hour he messaged me again and said he have missed me a lot and that he is always thinking about me.. and i still didnt answer.. then he went on and started telling about his school and games and how he have been busy and all..
    I messaged him after 2 hours and by then my hothead was calm.. i didnt want to say something to him while i was angry.. so i told him i missed him too but i dont message much because i feel like u dont want to talk to which he said no he will never feel that way about me.. that he knows he get side tracked a lot and apologized for it.. and i said its okay.. then we texted for 2 minutes and he left the chat again.. like he did not read my message until the next day..
    then yesterday i called him in the afternoon, cuz he told me he had his league final game and wanted to talk to me before the game..
    he answered, and we talked for 5 minutes and mind u.. this time we talked on phone after 6 days or more.. before ending the call he asked me to text him and i jokingly said yea i will but u r not gonna ans.. and he laughed and said "no i promise i will, and i will call too, and i am sorry for not checking up on u as much as i should but know that i deeply care for u".. to which i said.. awww really.. i do too.. and i will see about ur promise and i will msg u...
    i messaged him and asked him about his game.. no ans..
    good night.. no ans..
    i called just now.. no ans..
    and i just messaged and told him i was just checking up on him because he usually complains about knee pain after the game.. and asked him if he was ok..
    no ans..
    I honestly feel like messaging him and saying this is the 3rd time he promised me something, so dont promise if u cant fulfil.. and that whenever u feel like talking lemme know because i dont appreciate doing this everyday where.. u can text me and ask me how was my day and then when i tell u.. u dont even ans back.. but u stay online.. like tf? dont ask me nothing if u dont want an ans..
    either this or m gonna ignore him.. or ignore him and then if he asks whats wrong then confront him..
  • Posted by Lioness18881
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    I am still there trying to see if we can go places is because when we do talk, its different.. he says white, i say black but at the end we agree on grey.. before when he used to ans me an hour late he will apologize and now no ans no apology.. but whatever that aint a big deal..

    I wish i could ignore and not care until he answer.. but then i think will he really answer.. so if i ignore i would have to ignore with the mentality that he might not ans back and i gotta move on??


    I know how frustrating it is. But you need to think of him like a girl friend. You don't care if they don't reply for ages or whatever... so why are you treating him differently and setting different standards and expectations?

    I know you have it in your head how a guy should treat you. But Aquarius is retarded and they don't do anything you want or expect. They're not even trying to piss you off, they genuinely don't even realize they're different. You can either just accept that's how they are, even though it seems insane! Or you go date a Scorpio. They do all the nice romantic things and you'll never need to ask for more.

    But if your heart is stupid and likes the Aquarius, you just have to accept the good with the bad. They're a package deal. It's like getting a pack of snakes. You only want the red ones, but you have to accept that if you want the red ones, you need to accept the green butterty flavored ones too.


    Lmao that pretty much sums it up!!


    Lol. Was dealing with a leo this frustrating for you?


    Well funnily enough my best friend is a Aries Sun Leo moon and he is opposite. Leo sun Aries moon. So if he did something and I was overthinking and she would explain his actions and thinking. It helped me a lot or we would have crashed and burned like 2, 3 months in 😁


    Well I'm Leo sun and Aries moon. So tell me everything is wrong or Annoying about my combination. I want to know from an Aquarius point of view so what parts of us are difficult to understand or deal with.

    Be harsh AF


    Lol


    You may elaborate. I'm accepting criticism today 😂


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    I have nothing. I was laughing because that's something I'd say.

    You and Britt my Aqua twins 😂



    Huh? I was talking about you saying "Be harsh AF". That's something I'd say if I wanted someone's opinion of me. Lol

    No ones ever harsh unless you don't ask for their opinions. So it needs to be said. But she wasn'teven harsh so i got ripped.

    You always think the similar things as me and i relate to lots of things you say. Brittnie is my aries moon twin. She lived the Aqua leo relationship with me but in reverse. So your both my opposite twins without being the opposite.


    Is that why no one ever asks me for my honest opinion except for @señoritaLL ? Lol. I can be harsh wahahahah


    Lol. I noticed. But i don't need to ask for it. You offer your opinions on Leo's freely and quite often. I wanted her opinion because she was in an Aqua-Leo relationship at the same time as me and we broke up around the same time too.


    I need some opinions about me based on my chart as well.. i have never had any guy tell me how i could b annoying.. except for my mom.. she always says my stubborness is hardest to deal with and that i dont open up easy
    i need a guy to tell me how especially an aqua for now at least lol


    My mum says that too me too. I'm too closed and need to give people a chance. Even though your leo bits want to rush and not waste time, you need to slow down to get to know someone properly. So slow down. Slow the texts and the rush to get everything right now. You don't need to know if it's going to last forever in one day. So take a step back. I don't think Aqua will help you open up. They are slow to open up and trust too. But he will teach you patience and to be calm, even if it's frustrating and doesn't work out the way you want, this will be a lesson for you. So learn from it and grow. Also know that not everyone shows love or care the same way, everyone is different. It doesn't mean they don't care as much, they just show it in other ways.


    right.. i dont mind waiting for as a leo i only concentrate on one person at a time other wise theres too much confusion for me.. and if i am concentrating on him m hoping for results soon.. its like any other thing i do.. if i need something done its getting done before i go to sleep.. and if that means no sleep for the night then be it..
    but in his case he has already taught me patience and maybe much more to come all because i cant say anything to him about his disappearances cuz of no rs.. i m learning more..


    I'm like that too. I get fixated on one person and then it takes a long time to let go. I don't flirt or entertain other guys or want attention from anyone else. I pick one, and don't look at anyone else. That's what makes us loyal and that's good. But it is also bad because it means we focus less on other things and give too much attention and people take that for granted and then we get hurt. You need to find balance.

    Aquarius is our Oppositite sign. So we balance each other. But if we push or pull each other too much, we destroy that balance. You need to find the middle of the two signs. That will give you balance in your relationship and in yourself and everything else.

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    right..
    so this is the longest i havent messaged him.. wished him morning and sent him a pic of myself smiling.. we exchange smiling selfies in the morning.. he answered and said beautiful smile and morning baby.. i said waiting on ur smile now.. that was 7am.. did not msg him all day after that and neither did he..
    wont he think m ignoring him or something? or i should keep going..


    Why would he think your ignoring him? You messaged him and he didn't message back. Sounds like he's ignoring you, not the other way around. Don't message him anymore. If he wants to talk to you, he can contact you. A relationship or friendship is 2 people working together. Not one person making an effort while the other does nothing. If he doesn't make you feel like you're woth the effort too, find someone who will.


    yea.. he video called.. so i guess until he dont ans me back im gonna give him space to figure things out


    Ok if he video called, he's not ignoring you. He probably cbf reply to text messages. If you text him and he calls instead of replying that's not ignoring you. As long as he's calling, that's good even if he doesn't reply to your texts straight away. He probably likes your texts but doesn't want to text back amd forth all day. So just keep doing what you were doing before. If he's not calling plus not replying is when you have a problem.
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    right.. thanks..
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    I am still there trying to see if we can go places is because when we do talk, its different.. he says white, i say black but at the end we agree on grey.. before when he used to ans me an hour late he will apologize and now no ans no apology.. but whatever that aint a big deal..

    I wish i could ignore and not care until he answer.. but then i think will he really answer.. so if i ignore i would have to ignore with the mentality that he might not ans back and i gotta move on??


    I know how frustrating it is. But you need to think of him like a girl friend. You don't care if they don't reply for ages or whatever... so why are you treating him differently and setting different standards and expectations?

    I know you have it in your head how a guy should treat you. But Aquarius is retarded and they don't do anything you want or expect. They're not even trying to piss you off, they genuinely don't even realize they're different. You can either just accept that's how they are, even though it seems insane! Or you go date a Scorpio. They do all the nice romantic things and you'll never need to ask for more.

    But if your heart is stupid and likes the Aquarius, you just have to accept the good with the bad. They're a package deal. It's like getting a pack of snakes. You only want the red ones, but you have to accept that if you want the red ones, you need to accept the green butterty flavored ones too.


    Lmao that pretty much sums it up!!


    Lol. Was dealing with a leo this frustrating for you?


    Well funnily enough my best friend is a Aries Sun Leo moon and he is opposite. Leo sun Aries moon. So if he did something and I was overthinking and she would explain his actions and thinking. It helped me a lot or we would have crashed and burned like 2, 3 months in 😁


    Well I'm Leo sun and Aries moon. So tell me everything is wrong or Annoying about my combination. I want to know from an Aquarius point of view so what parts of us are difficult to understand or deal with.

    Be harsh AF


    Lol


    You may elaborate. I'm accepting criticism today 😂


    😂
    I have nothing. I was laughing because that's something I'd say.

    You and Britt my Aqua twins 😂



    Huh? I was talking about you saying "Be harsh AF". That's something I'd say if I wanted someone's opinion of me. Lol

    No ones ever harsh unless you don't ask for their opinions. So it needs to be said. But she wasn'teven harsh so i got ripped.

    You always think the similar things as me and i relate to lots of things you say. Brittnie is my aries moon twin. She lived the Aqua leo relationship with me but in reverse. So your both my opposite twins without being the opposite.


    Is that why no one ever asks me for my honest opinion except for @señoritaLL ? Lol. I can be harsh wahahahah


    Lol. I noticed. But i don't need to ask for it. You offer your opinions on Leo's freely and quite often. I wanted her opinion because she was in an Aqua-Leo relationship at the same time as me and we broke up around the same time too.


    I need some opinions about me based on my chart as well.. i have never had any guy tell me how i could b annoying.. except for my mom.. she always says my stubborness is hardest to deal with and that i dont open up easy
    i need a guy to tell me how especially an aqua for now at least lol


    My mum says that too me too. I'm too closed and need to give people a chance. Even though your leo bits want to rush and not waste time, you need to slow down to get to know someone properly. So slow down. Slow the texts and the rush to get everything right now. You don't need to know if it's going to last forever in one day. So take a step back. I don't think Aqua will help you open up. They are slow to open up and trust too. But he will teach you patience and to be calm, even if it's frustrating and doesn't work out the way you want, this will be a lesson for you. So learn from it and grow. Also know that not everyone shows love or care the same way, everyone is different. It doesn't mean they don't care as much, they just show it in other ways.


    right.. i dont mind waiting for as a leo i only concentrate on one person at a time other wise theres too much confusion for me.. and if i am concentrating on him m hoping for results soon.. its like any other thing i do.. if i need something done its getting done before i go to sleep.. and if that means no sleep for the night then be it..
    but in his case he has already taught me patience and maybe much more to come all because i cant say anything to him about his disappearances cuz of no rs.. i m learning more..


    I'm like that too. I get fixated on one person and then it takes a long time to let go. I don't flirt or entertain other guys or want attention from anyone else. I pick one, and don't look at anyone else. That's what makes us loyal and that's good. But it is also bad because it means we focus less on other things and give too much attention and people take that for granted and then we get hurt. You need to find balance.

    Aquarius is our Oppositite sign. So we balance each other. But if we push or pull each other too much, we destroy that balance. You need to find the middle of the two signs. That will give you balance in your relationship and in yourself and everything else.

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    right..
    so this is the longest i havent messaged him.. wished him morning and sent him a pic of myself smiling.. we exchange smiling selfies in the morning.. he answered and said beautiful smile and morning baby.. i said waiting on ur smile now.. that was 7am.. did not msg him all day after that and neither did he..
    wont he think m ignoring him or something? or i should keep going..


    Why would he think your ignoring him? You messaged him and he didn't message back. Sounds like he's ignoring you, not the other way around. Don't message him anymore. If he wants to talk to you, he can contact you. A relationship or friendship is 2 people working together. Not one person making an effort while the other does nothing. If he doesn't make you feel like you're woth the effort too, find someone who will.
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    yea.. he video called.. so i guess until he dont ans me back im gonna give him space to figure things out
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    I am still there trying to see if we can go places is because when we do talk, its different.. he says white, i say black but at the end we agree on grey.. before when he used to ans me an hour late he will apologize and now no ans no apology.. but whatever that aint a big deal..

    I wish i could ignore and not care until he answer.. but then i think will he really answer.. so if i ignore i would have to ignore with the mentality that he might not ans back and i gotta move on??


    I know how frustrating it is. But you need to think of him like a girl friend. You don't care if they don't reply for ages or whatever... so why are you treating him differently and setting different standards and expectations?

    I know you have it in your head how a guy should treat you. But Aquarius is retarded and they don't do anything you want or expect. They're not even trying to piss you off, they genuinely don't even realize they're different. You can either just accept that's how they are, even though it seems insane! Or you go date a Scorpio. They do all the nice romantic things and you'll never need to ask for more.

    But if your heart is stupid and likes the Aquarius, you just have to accept the good with the bad. They're a package deal. It's like getting a pack of snakes. You only want the red ones, but you have to accept that if you want the red ones, you need to accept the green butterty flavored ones too.


    Lmao that pretty much sums it up!!


    Lol. Was dealing with a leo this frustrating for you?


    Well funnily enough my best friend is a Aries Sun Leo moon and he is opposite. Leo sun Aries moon. So if he did something and I was overthinking and she would explain his actions and thinking. It helped me a lot or we would have crashed and burned like 2, 3 months in 😁


    Well I'm Leo sun and Aries moon. So tell me everything is wrong or Annoying about my combination. I want to know from an Aquarius point of view so what parts of us are difficult to understand or deal with.

    Be harsh AF


    Lol


    You may elaborate. I'm accepting criticism today 😂


    😂
    I have nothing. I was laughing because that's something I'd say.

    You and Britt my Aqua twins 😂



    Huh? I was talking about you saying "Be harsh AF". That's something I'd say if I wanted someone's opinion of me. Lol

    No ones ever harsh unless you don't ask for their opinions. So it needs to be said. But she wasn'teven harsh so i got ripped.

    You always think the similar things as me and i relate to lots of things you say. Brittnie is my aries moon twin. She lived the Aqua leo relationship with me but in reverse. So your both my opposite twins without being the opposite.


    Is that why no one ever asks me for my honest opinion except for @señoritaLL ? Lol. I can be harsh wahahahah


    Lol. I noticed. But i don't need to ask for it. You offer your opinions on Leo's freely and quite often. I wanted her opinion because she was in an Aqua-Leo relationship at the same time as me and we broke up around the same time too.


    I need some opinions about me based on my chart as well.. i have never had any guy tell me how i could b annoying.. except for my mom.. she always says my stubborness is hardest to deal with and that i dont open up easy
    i need a guy to tell me how especially an aqua for now at least lol


    My mum says that too me too. I'm too closed and need to give people a chance. Even though your leo bits want to rush and not waste time, you need to slow down to get to know someone properly. So slow down. Slow the texts and the rush to get everything right now. You don't need to know if it's going to last forever in one day. So take a step back. I don't think Aqua will help you open up. They are slow to open up and trust too. But he will teach you patience and to be calm, even if it's frustrating and doesn't work out the way you want, this will be a lesson for you. So learn from it and grow. Also know that not everyone shows love or care the same way, everyone is different. It doesn't mean they don't care as much, they just show it in other ways.


    right.. i dont mind waiting for as a leo i only concentrate on one person at a time other wise theres too much confusion for me.. and if i am concentrating on him m hoping for results soon.. its like any other thing i do.. if i need something done its getting done before i go to sleep.. and if that means no sleep for the night then be it..
    but in his case he has already taught me patience and maybe much more to come all because i cant say anything to him about his disappearances cuz of no rs.. i m learning more..


    I'm like that too. I get fixated on one person and then it takes a long time to let go. I don't flirt or entertain other guys or want attention from anyone else. I pick one, and don't look at anyone else. That's what makes us loyal and that's good. But it is also bad because it means we focus less on other things and give too much attention and people take that for granted and then we get hurt. You need to find balance.

    Aquarius is our Oppositite sign. So we balance each other. But if we push or pull each other too much, we destroy that balance. You need to find the middle of the two signs. That will give you balance in your relationship and in yourself and everything else.

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    right..
    so this is the longest i havent messaged him.. wished him morning and sent him a pic of myself smiling.. we exchange smiling selfies in the morning.. he answered and said beautiful smile and morning baby.. i said waiting on ur smile now.. that was 7am.. did not msg him all day after that and neither did he..
    wont he think m ignoring him or something? or i should keep going..