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    I am still there trying to see if we can go places is because when we do talk, its different.. he says white, i say black but at the end we agree on grey.. before when he used to ans me an hour late he will apologize and now no ans no apology.. but whatever that aint a big deal..

    I wish i could ignore and not care until he answer.. but then i think will he really answer.. so if i ignore i would have to ignore with the mentality that he might not ans back and i gotta move on??


    I know how frustrating it is. But you need to think of him like a girl friend. You don't care if they don't reply for ages or whatever... so why are you treating him differently and setting different standards and expectations?

    I know you have it in your head how a guy should treat you. But Aquarius is retarded and they don't do anything you want or expect. They're not even trying to piss you off, they genuinely don't even realize they're different. You can either just accept that's how they are, even though it seems insane! Or you go date a Scorpio. They do all the nice romantic things and you'll never need to ask for more.

    But if your heart is stupid and likes the Aquarius, you just have to accept the good with the bad. They're a package deal. It's like getting a pack of snakes. You only want the red ones, but you have to accept that if you want the red ones, you need to accept the green butterty flavored ones too.


    Lmao that pretty much sums it up!!


    Lol. Was dealing with a leo this frustrating for you?


    Well funnily enough my best friend is a Aries Sun Leo moon and he is opposite. Leo sun Aries moon. So if he did something and I was overthinking and she would explain his actions and thinking. It helped me a lot or we would have crashed and burned like 2, 3 months in 😁


    Well I'm Leo sun and Aries moon. So tell me everything is wrong or Annoying about my combination. I want to know from an Aquarius point of view so what parts of us are difficult to understand or deal with.

    Be harsh AF


    Lol


    You may elaborate. I'm accepting criticism today 😂


    😂
    I have nothing. I was laughing because that's something I'd say.

    You and Britt my Aqua twins 😂



    Huh? I was talking about you saying "Be harsh AF". That's something I'd say if I wanted someone's opinion of me. Lol

    No ones ever harsh unless you don't ask for their opinions. So it needs to be said. But she wasn'teven harsh so i got ripped.

    You always think the similar things as me and i relate to lots of things you say. Brittnie is my aries moon twin. She lived the Aqua leo relationship with me but in reverse. So your both my opposite twins without being the opposite.


    Is that why no one ever asks me for my honest opinion except for @señoritaLL ? Lol. I can be harsh wahahahah


    Lol. I noticed. But i don't need to ask for it. You offer your opinions on Leo's freely and quite often. I wanted her opinion because she was in an Aqua-Leo relationship at the same time as me and we broke up around the same time too.


    I need some opinions about me based on my chart as well.. i have never had any guy tell me how i could b annoying.. except for my mom.. she always says my stubborness is hardest to deal with and that i dont open up easy
    i need a guy to tell me how especially an aqua for now at least lol


    My mum says that too me too. I'm too closed and need to give people a chance. Even though your leo bits want to rush and not waste time, you need to slow down to get to know someone properly. So slow down. Slow the texts and the rush to get everything right now. You don't need to know if it's going to last forever in one day. So take a step back. I don't think Aqua will help you open up. They are slow to open up and trust too. But he will teach you patience and to be calm, even if it's frustrating and doesn't work out the way you want, this will be a lesson for you. So learn from it and grow. Also know that not everyone shows love or care the same way, everyone is different. It doesn't mean they don't care as much, they just show it in other ways.


    right.. i dont mind waiting for as a leo i only concentrate on one person at a time other wise theres too much confusion for me.. and if i am concentrating on him m hoping for results soon.. its like any other thing i do.. if i need something done its getting done before i go to sleep.. and if that means no sleep for the night then be it..
    but in his case he has already taught me patience and maybe much more to come all because i cant say anything to him about his disappearances cuz of no rs.. i m learning more..


    I'm like that too. I get fixated on one person and then it takes a long time to let go. I don't flirt or entertain other guys or want attention from anyone else. I pick one, and don't look at anyone else. That's what makes us loyal and that's good. But it is also bad because it means we focus less on other things and give too much attention and people take that for granted and then we get hurt. You need to find balance.

    Aquarius is our Oppositite sign. So we balance each other. But if we push or pull each other too much, we destroy that balance. You need to find the middle of the two signs. That will give you balance in your relationship and in yourself and everything else.

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    right..
    so this is the longest i havent messaged him.. wished him morning and sent him a pic of myself smiling.. we exchange smiling selfies in the morning.. he answered and said beautiful smile and morning baby.. i said waiting on ur smile now.. that was 7am.. did not msg him all day after that and neither did he..
    wont he think m ignoring him or something? or i should keep going..


    Why would he think your ignoring him? You messaged him and he didn't message back. Sounds like he's ignoring you, not the other way around. Don't message him anymore. If he wants to talk to you, he can contact you. A relationship or friendship is 2 people working together. Not one person making an effort while the other does nothing. If he doesn't make you feel like you're woth the effort too, find someone who will.


    yea.. he video called.. so i guess until he dont ans me back im gonna give him space to figure things out


    Ok if he video called, he's not ignoring you. He probably cbf reply to text messages. If you text him and he calls instead of replying that's not ignoring you. As long as he's calling, that's good even if he doesn't reply to your texts straight away. He probably likes your texts but doesn't want to text back amd forth all day. So just keep doing what you were doing before. If he's not calling plus not replying is when you have a problem.
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    right.. thanks..
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    I am still there trying to see if we can go places is because when we do talk, its different.. he says white, i say black but at the end we agree on grey.. before when he used to ans me an hour late he will apologize and now no ans no apology.. but whatever that aint a big deal..

    I wish i could ignore and not care until he answer.. but then i think will he really answer.. so if i ignore i would have to ignore with the mentality that he might not ans back and i gotta move on??


    I know how frustrating it is. But you need to think of him like a girl friend. You don't care if they don't reply for ages or whatever... so why are you treating him differently and setting different standards and expectations?

    I know you have it in your head how a guy should treat you. But Aquarius is retarded and they don't do anything you want or expect. They're not even trying to piss you off, they genuinely don't even realize they're different. You can either just accept that's how they are, even though it seems insane! Or you go date a Scorpio. They do all the nice romantic things and you'll never need to ask for more.

    But if your heart is stupid and likes the Aquarius, you just have to accept the good with the bad. They're a package deal. It's like getting a pack of snakes. You only want the red ones, but you have to accept that if you want the red ones, you need to accept the green butterty flavored ones too.


    Lmao that pretty much sums it up!!


    Lol. Was dealing with a leo this frustrating for you?


    Well funnily enough my best friend is a Aries Sun Leo moon and he is opposite. Leo sun Aries moon. So if he did something and I was overthinking and she would explain his actions and thinking. It helped me a lot or we would have crashed and burned like 2, 3 months in 😁


    Well I'm Leo sun and Aries moon. So tell me everything is wrong or Annoying about my combination. I want to know from an Aquarius point of view so what parts of us are difficult to understand or deal with.

    Be harsh AF


    Lol


    You may elaborate. I'm accepting criticism today 😂


    😂
    I have nothing. I was laughing because that's something I'd say.

    You and Britt my Aqua twins 😂



    Huh? I was talking about you saying "Be harsh AF". That's something I'd say if I wanted someone's opinion of me. Lol

    No ones ever harsh unless you don't ask for their opinions. So it needs to be said. But she wasn'teven harsh so i got ripped.

    You always think the similar things as me and i relate to lots of things you say. Brittnie is my aries moon twin. She lived the Aqua leo relationship with me but in reverse. So your both my opposite twins without being the opposite.


    Is that why no one ever asks me for my honest opinion except for @señoritaLL ? Lol. I can be harsh wahahahah


    Lol. I noticed. But i don't need to ask for it. You offer your opinions on Leo's freely and quite often. I wanted her opinion because she was in an Aqua-Leo relationship at the same time as me and we broke up around the same time too.


    I need some opinions about me based on my chart as well.. i have never had any guy tell me how i could b annoying.. except for my mom.. she always says my stubborness is hardest to deal with and that i dont open up easy
    i need a guy to tell me how especially an aqua for now at least lol


    My mum says that too me too. I'm too closed and need to give people a chance. Even though your leo bits want to rush and not waste time, you need to slow down to get to know someone properly. So slow down. Slow the texts and the rush to get everything right now. You don't need to know if it's going to last forever in one day. So take a step back. I don't think Aqua will help you open up. They are slow to open up and trust too. But he will teach you patience and to be calm, even if it's frustrating and doesn't work out the way you want, this will be a lesson for you. So learn from it and grow. Also know that not everyone shows love or care the same way, everyone is different. It doesn't mean they don't care as much, they just show it in other ways.


    right.. i dont mind waiting for as a leo i only concentrate on one person at a time other wise theres too much confusion for me.. and if i am concentrating on him m hoping for results soon.. its like any other thing i do.. if i need something done its getting done before i go to sleep.. and if that means no sleep for the night then be it..
    but in his case he has already taught me patience and maybe much more to come all because i cant say anything to him about his disappearances cuz of no rs.. i m learning more..


    I'm like that too. I get fixated on one person and then it takes a long time to let go. I don't flirt or entertain other guys or want attention from anyone else. I pick one, and don't look at anyone else. That's what makes us loyal and that's good. But it is also bad because it means we focus less on other things and give too much attention and people take that for granted and then we get hurt. You need to find balance.

    Aquarius is our Oppositite sign. So we balance each other. But if we push or pull each other too much, we destroy that balance. You need to find the middle of the two signs. That will give you balance in your relationship and in yourself and everything else.

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    right..
    so this is the longest i havent messaged him.. wished him morning and sent him a pic of myself smiling.. we exchange smiling selfies in the morning.. he answered and said beautiful smile and morning baby.. i said waiting on ur smile now.. that was 7am.. did not msg him all day after that and neither did he..
    wont he think m ignoring him or something? or i should keep going..


    Why would he think your ignoring him? You messaged him and he didn't message back. Sounds like he's ignoring you, not the other way around. Don't message him anymore. If he wants to talk to you, he can contact you. A relationship or friendship is 2 people working together. Not one person making an effort while the other does nothing. If he doesn't make you feel like you're woth the effort too, find someone who will.
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    yea.. he video called.. so i guess until he dont ans me back im gonna give him space to figure things out
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    I am still there trying to see if we can go places is because when we do talk, its different.. he says white, i say black but at the end we agree on grey.. before when he used to ans me an hour late he will apologize and now no ans no apology.. but whatever that aint a big deal..

    I wish i could ignore and not care until he answer.. but then i think will he really answer.. so if i ignore i would have to ignore with the mentality that he might not ans back and i gotta move on??


    I know how frustrating it is. But you need to think of him like a girl friend. You don't care if they don't reply for ages or whatever... so why are you treating him differently and setting different standards and expectations?

    I know you have it in your head how a guy should treat you. But Aquarius is retarded and they don't do anything you want or expect. They're not even trying to piss you off, they genuinely don't even realize they're different. You can either just accept that's how they are, even though it seems insane! Or you go date a Scorpio. They do all the nice romantic things and you'll never need to ask for more.

    But if your heart is stupid and likes the Aquarius, you just have to accept the good with the bad. They're a package deal. It's like getting a pack of snakes. You only want the red ones, but you have to accept that if you want the red ones, you need to accept the green butterty flavored ones too.


    Lmao that pretty much sums it up!!


    Lol. Was dealing with a leo this frustrating for you?


    Well funnily enough my best friend is a Aries Sun Leo moon and he is opposite. Leo sun Aries moon. So if he did something and I was overthinking and she would explain his actions and thinking. It helped me a lot or we would have crashed and burned like 2, 3 months in 😁


    Well I'm Leo sun and Aries moon. So tell me everything is wrong or Annoying about my combination. I want to know from an Aquarius point of view so what parts of us are difficult to understand or deal with.

    Be harsh AF


    Lol


    You may elaborate. I'm accepting criticism today 😂


    😂
    I have nothing. I was laughing because that's something I'd say.

    You and Britt my Aqua twins 😂



    Huh? I was talking about you saying "Be harsh AF". That's something I'd say if I wanted someone's opinion of me. Lol

    No ones ever harsh unless you don't ask for their opinions. So it needs to be said. But she wasn'teven harsh so i got ripped.

    You always think the similar things as me and i relate to lots of things you say. Brittnie is my aries moon twin. She lived the Aqua leo relationship with me but in reverse. So your both my opposite twins without being the opposite.


    Is that why no one ever asks me for my honest opinion except for @señoritaLL ? Lol. I can be harsh wahahahah


    Lol. I noticed. But i don't need to ask for it. You offer your opinions on Leo's freely and quite often. I wanted her opinion because she was in an Aqua-Leo relationship at the same time as me and we broke up around the same time too.


    I need some opinions about me based on my chart as well.. i have never had any guy tell me how i could b annoying.. except for my mom.. she always says my stubborness is hardest to deal with and that i dont open up easy
    i need a guy to tell me how especially an aqua for now at least lol


    My mum says that too me too. I'm too closed and need to give people a chance. Even though your leo bits want to rush and not waste time, you need to slow down to get to know someone properly. So slow down. Slow the texts and the rush to get everything right now. You don't need to know if it's going to last forever in one day. So take a step back. I don't think Aqua will help you open up. They are slow to open up and trust too. But he will teach you patience and to be calm, even if it's frustrating and doesn't work out the way you want, this will be a lesson for you. So learn from it and grow. Also know that not everyone shows love or care the same way, everyone is different. It doesn't mean they don't care as much, they just show it in other ways.


    right.. i dont mind waiting for as a leo i only concentrate on one person at a time other wise theres too much confusion for me.. and if i am concentrating on him m hoping for results soon.. its like any other thing i do.. if i need something done its getting done before i go to sleep.. and if that means no sleep for the night then be it..
    but in his case he has already taught me patience and maybe much more to come all because i cant say anything to him about his disappearances cuz of no rs.. i m learning more..


    I'm like that too. I get fixated on one person and then it takes a long time to let go. I don't flirt or entertain other guys or want attention from anyone else. I pick one, and don't look at anyone else. That's what makes us loyal and that's good. But it is also bad because it means we focus less on other things and give too much attention and people take that for granted and then we get hurt. You need to find balance.

    Aquarius is our Oppositite sign. So we balance each other. But if we push or pull each other too much, we destroy that balance. You need to find the middle of the two signs. That will give you balance in your relationship and in yourself and everything else.

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    right..
    so this is the longest i havent messaged him.. wished him morning and sent him a pic of myself smiling.. we exchange smiling selfies in the morning.. he answered and said beautiful smile and morning baby.. i said waiting on ur smile now.. that was 7am.. did not msg him all day after that and neither did he..
    wont he think m ignoring him or something? or i should keep going..
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    I am still there trying to see if we can go places is because when we do talk, its different.. he says white, i say black but at the end we agree on grey.. before when he used to ans me an hour late he will apologize and now no ans no apology.. but whatever that aint a big deal..

    I wish i could ignore and not care until he answer.. but then i think will he really answer.. so if i ignore i would have to ignore with the mentality that he might not ans back and i gotta move on??


    I know how frustrating it is. But you need to think of him like a girl friend. You don't care if they don't reply for ages or whatever... so why are you treating him differently and setting different standards and expectations?

    I know you have it in your head how a guy should treat you. But Aquarius is retarded and they don't do anything you want or expect. They're not even trying to piss you off, they genuinely don't even realize they're different. You can either just accept that's how they are, even though it seems insane! Or you go date a Scorpio. They do all the nice romantic things and you'll never need to ask for more.

    But if your heart is stupid and likes the Aquarius, you just have to accept the good with the bad. They're a package deal. It's like getting a pack of snakes. You only want the red ones, but you have to accept that if you want the red ones, you need to accept the green butterty flavored ones too.


    Lmao that pretty much sums it up!!


    Lol. Was dealing with a leo this frustrating for you?


    Well funnily enough my best friend is a Aries Sun Leo moon and he is opposite. Leo sun Aries moon. So if he did something and I was overthinking and she would explain his actions and thinking. It helped me a lot or we would have crashed and burned like 2, 3 months in 😁


    Well I'm Leo sun and Aries moon. So tell me everything is wrong or Annoying about my combination. I want to know from an Aquarius point of view so what parts of us are difficult to understand or deal with.

    Be harsh AF


    Lol


    You may elaborate. I'm accepting criticism today 😂


    😂
    I have nothing. I was laughing because that's something I'd say.

    You and Britt my Aqua twins 😂



    Huh? I was talking about you saying "Be harsh AF". That's something I'd say if I wanted someone's opinion of me. Lol

    No ones ever harsh unless you don't ask for their opinions. So it needs to be said. But she wasn'teven harsh so i got ripped.

    You always think the similar things as me and i relate to lots of things you say. Brittnie is my aries moon twin. She lived the Aqua leo relationship with me but in reverse. So your both my opposite twins without being the opposite.


    Is that why no one ever asks me for my honest opinion except for @señoritaLL ? Lol. I can be harsh wahahahah


    Lol. I noticed. But i don't need to ask for it. You offer your opinions on Leo's freely and quite often. I wanted her opinion because she was in an Aqua-Leo relationship at the same time as me and we broke up around the same time too.


    I need some opinions about me based on my chart as well.. i have never had any guy tell me how i could b annoying.. except for my mom.. she always says my stubborness is hardest to deal with and that i dont open up easy
    i need a guy to tell me how especially an aqua for now at least lol


    My mum says that too me too. I'm too closed and need to give people a chance. Even though your leo bits want to rush and not waste time, you need to slow down to get to know someone properly. So slow down. Slow the texts and the rush to get everything right now. You don't need to know if it's going to last forever in one day. So take a step back. I don't think Aqua will help you open up. They are slow to open up and trust too. But he will teach you patience and to be calm, even if it's frustrating and doesn't work out the way you want, this will be a lesson for you. So learn from it and grow. Also know that not everyone shows love or care the same way, everyone is different. It doesn't mean they don't care as much, they just show it in other ways.
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    right.. i dont mind waiting for as a leo i only concentrate on one person at a time other wise theres too much confusion for me.. and if i am concentrating on him m hoping for results soon.. its like any other thing i do.. if i need something done its getting done before i go to sleep.. and if that means no sleep for the night then be it..
    but in his case he has already taught me patience and maybe much more to come all because i cant say anything to him about his disappearances cuz of no rs.. i m learning more..
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    I am still there trying to see if we can go places is because when we do talk, its different.. he says white, i say black but at the end we agree on grey.. before when he used to ans me an hour late he will apologize and now no ans no apology.. but whatever that aint a big deal..

    I wish i could ignore and not care until he answer.. but then i think will he really answer.. so if i ignore i would have to ignore with the mentality that he might not ans back and i gotta move on??


    I know how frustrating it is. But you need to think of him like a girl friend. You don't care if they don't reply for ages or whatever... so why are you treating him differently and setting different standards and expectations?

    I know you have it in your head how a guy should treat you. But Aquarius is retarded and they don't do anything you want or expect. They're not even trying to piss you off, they genuinely don't even realize they're different. You can either just accept that's how they are, even though it seems insane! Or you go date a Scorpio. They do all the nice romantic things and you'll never need to ask for more.

    But if your heart is stupid and likes the Aquarius, you just have to accept the good with the bad. They're a package deal. It's like getting a pack of snakes. You only want the red ones, but you have to accept that if you want the red ones, you need to accept the green butterty flavored ones too.


    Lmao that pretty much sums it up!!


    Lol. Was dealing with a leo this frustrating for you?


    Well funnily enough my best friend is a Aries Sun Leo moon and he is opposite. Leo sun Aries moon. So if he did something and I was overthinking and she would explain his actions and thinking. It helped me a lot or we would have crashed and burned like 2, 3 months in 😁


    Well I'm Leo sun and Aries moon. So tell me everything is wrong or Annoying about my combination. I want to know from an Aquarius point of view so what parts of us are difficult to understand or deal with.

    Be harsh AF


    Lol


    You may elaborate. I'm accepting criticism today 😂


    😂
    I have nothing. I was laughing because that's something I'd say.

    You and Britt my Aqua twins 😂



    Huh? I was talking about you saying "Be harsh AF". That's something I'd say if I wanted someone's opinion of me. Lol

    No ones ever harsh unless you don't ask for their opinions. So it needs to be said. But she wasn'teven harsh so i got ripped.

    You always think the similar things as me and i relate to lots of things you say. Brittnie is my aries moon twin. She lived the Aqua leo relationship with me but in reverse. So your both my opposite twins without being the opposite.


    Is that why no one ever asks me for my honest opinion except for @señoritaLL ? Lol. I can be harsh wahahahah


    Lol. I noticed. But i don't need to ask for it. You offer your opinions on Leo's freely and quite often. I wanted her opinion because she was in an Aqua-Leo relationship at the same time as me and we broke up around the same time too.
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    I need some opinions about me based on my chart as well.. i have never had any guy tell me how i could b annoying.. except for my mom.. she always says my stubborness is hardest to deal with and that i dont open up easy
    i need a guy to tell me how especially an aqua for now at least lol
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    I feel ya! Apparently you're supposed to be "patient". That's what they (the other Aquariuses) will tell you anyway.



    I don't know how to make it work. All I know is they hate demands, they do the opposite of what you want and they'll piss you off. But for some reason, they make you feel something different to other people. And just when you give up amd get over it, they come back! 😣






    I dont demand anything from him.. he is more vulnerable and always needs assurance.. if anything goes wrong he messages me and tell me whats up and i will encourage him to be positive and all..
    and i am very patience but i dont like when people cant follow up with my level of consistency.. like I messaged u good morning, and no message all day.. and then i wish him goodnight.. he will come and be like goodnight baby.. and we are not in a relationship.. so he cant call me names..
    I am getting to a point where i can drop it all and call it buh bye.. cuz even friends ans when u wish them morning.. and for him to claim he likes me.. and give me reason he gets detach because he started liking me A LOT.. and he has a shell and i am the only one whos able to get closest..

    but it feels like he talks to me on his own convenience.. also said.. i am his go to person who he can come to and vent.. and i am sitting here like ya but i cant do that to u.. cuz u definitely gonna run when i say something emotional.. because he runs when he talks emotional.. what will he do if i talk emotional.. smfh
    I like him but he is making it difficult for me to care enough for him to keep liking him.. and if i dont care for u.. i am done with u.. u r not alive for me.. i am yea.. u r gonna b in the corner of the room and then i will come to u when i am done with everyone who i care about..


    The BOLD is the problem... and, the lesson you will learn through this relating.
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    care to explain please?
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    maybe this will give u a better idea.. he is 29 yrs old and i am 26
    mine is first and his is second
    sun- Leo Aquarius
    Moon- Leo Leo
    Mercury- Virgo Aqua
    Venus- Virgo Aqua
    Mars- Virgo Taurus
    Jupiter- Leo Taurus
    Saturn- Aqua Cap
    Uranus- Cap Cap
    Neptune- Cap Cap
    Pluto- Scorpio Scorpio
    Lilth- Cap Libra
    Asc mode- Cap Pisces
    @wittygem88
    Another astrotwin lol

    In all seriousness OP, he has similar placements to mine. Except moon and merc. All is fine and dandy until I grow bored. Most don’t know how to tickle my pickle though.

    What does? Being straightforward and putting me in my place without overstepping boundaries. Sounds a lot harder than it is. It basically being kind, generous, compassionate but not a pushover. If I do or say something you don’t like, speak up and reprimand me. Nothing deserves my respect and attention more than a man who’s gentle enough to handle me, but spank me once in a while.


    See so complicated.. now i dont want him to get bored so what do i do initiate right? but if i do too much of it its gonna b like m overstepping since we r not in a relationship.. and a while back he sent me his pic and asked me to send mine as he calls it "send me a smile".. and i liked his pic so i told him the pic he has now as dp is not that good and he should put this one that he just sent as a dp.. and he did it right away.. when we r talking about something if i dont agree with what he is saying i do counter him.. and stand by what i said.. he have always told me i am independent and have strong opinions and dont back down and he respect that..
    so after this i dont know what else to do..
    we r talking and he leaves the convo and looks like he forgets that we were talking and dont ans until i msg him again.. but will make me initiate and then tell me he was just thinking about me or missing me.. and if u were why not just msg me..
    so complicated.. like he almost playing games with me or testing my patience big time..


    You know how to catch and keep an aqua interested? Have a life. It does not revolve around who is contacting who. Have a hobby. Do things you enjoy. A man gets attracted to women who has an exciting life coz they wanna be part of the excitement. My current aqua loves my thirst for life. The fact that I travel. I blog. I do photography. I have friends who send me sweet messages all the time. I read. I teach him new things. When he said I should go to the gym, I did and I am pretty competitive when it comes to working out. When he said I should try playing games, I tried and I am playing a game different to him and he ends up curious how i am doing with my game. If you are always trying to get in touch or you count the hours before he responds, it makes you less exciting as a person. You have to have a life. Stop thinking about him and instead be an exciting girl that an aqua would want to be around with. I barely argue with an aqua and I tend to express my opinions too. But because it is very rare that I do it, I get a free pass when we have a serious discussion and he listens. I dont always have to stand my ground. I sometimes agree. I sometimes disagree. We sometimes agree to disagree. We have more meaningful discussions. Sometimes deep discussions. Often light hearted ones coz we both dont like the negative energy or feeling pressured.


    nah m good that way.. i play table tennis and he always ask me about my game days other things i do.. and he keeps me posted with his basketball games.. like i said he told me he likes how independent i am.. and no we have never had an argument.. and yes agree with light hearted convos.. no negative energy whatsoever.. and we dont always agree either.. but that doesnt bother us at all..
    maybe i am expecting more than i should because he painted a different picture of himself when we furst started talking, we used to talk a lot.. even when i will tell him i am at the gym he will still keep texting me asking what m pushing etc etc.. and then all of a sudden minimum contact thruout the day..
    that sudden change thru me off gaurd.. and m still getting used to his leaving me dry in the msgs sometimes


    If an aqua has predicted your activities and have nothing to talk about with you, he will be like that. So I suggest do more random things that he didnt know you do. Keep surprising him. Its difficult to teach people how lol as a gemini I naturally do things.. unplanned. Very random spur of he moment stuff. So the aqua never knows what to expect of me at any given day. I can be out all of a sudden or i could be watching movies. He tries to predict me like if i was playing the game or with my friend but he always ends up wrong. Lol
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    lol i will do unplanned things if i had time.. this new job as long term care home nurse manager is making me work almost 15 16 hours a day.. after that.. i dont even have energy to go to gym or game let alone do something spontaneous.. but its also because m still learning at job once i settle down i will have more space to chill out.. its only been 3 weeks at work and i guess before when he was asking me all these questions i was doing all the things i wanted and will post on insta as a story and he will come ask me about it..
  • Posted by WittyGem88
    Posted by joyran
    Posted by vixen14
    Posted by joyran
    @vixen18
    maybe this will give u a better idea.. he is 29 yrs old and i am 26
    mine is first and his is second
    sun- Leo Aquarius
    Moon- Leo Leo
    Mercury- Virgo Aqua
    Venus- Virgo Aqua
    Mars- Virgo Taurus
    Jupiter- Leo Taurus
    Saturn- Aqua Cap
    Uranus- Cap Cap
    Neptune- Cap Cap
    Pluto- Scorpio Scorpio
    Lilth- Cap Libra
    Asc mode- Cap Pisces
    @wittygem88
    Another astrotwin lol

    In all seriousness OP, he has similar placements to mine. Except moon and merc. All is fine and dandy until I grow bored. Most don’t know how to tickle my pickle though.

    What does? Being straightforward and putting me in my place without overstepping boundaries. Sounds a lot harder than it is. It basically being kind, generous, compassionate but not a pushover. If I do or say something you don’t like, speak up and reprimand me. Nothing deserves my respect and attention more than a man who’s gentle enough to handle me, but spank me once in a while.


    See so complicated.. now i dont want him to get bored so what do i do initiate right? but if i do too much of it its gonna b like m overstepping since we r not in a relationship.. and a while back he sent me his pic and asked me to send mine as he calls it "send me a smile".. and i liked his pic so i told him the pic he has now as dp is not that good and he should put this one that he just sent as a dp.. and he did it right away.. when we r talking about something if i dont agree with what he is saying i do counter him.. and stand by what i said.. he have always told me i am independent and have strong opinions and dont back down and he respect that..
    so after this i dont know what else to do..
    we r talking and he leaves the convo and looks like he forgets that we were talking and dont ans until i msg him again.. but will make me initiate and then tell me he was just thinking about me or missing me.. and if u were why not just msg me..
    so complicated.. like he almost playing games with me or testing my patience big time..


    You know how to catch and keep an aqua interested? Have a life. It does not revolve around who is contacting who. Have a hobby. Do things you enjoy. A man gets attracted to women who has an exciting life coz they wanna be part of the excitement. My current aqua loves my thirst for life. The fact that I travel. I blog. I do photography. I have friends who send me sweet messages all the time. I read. I teach him new things. When he said I should go to the gym, I did and I am pretty competitive when it comes to working out. When he said I should try playing games, I tried and I am playing a game different to him and he ends up curious how i am doing with my game. If you are always trying to get in touch or you count the hours before he responds, it makes you less exciting as a person. You have to have a life. Stop thinking about him and instead be an exciting girl that an aqua would want to be around with. I barely argue with an aqua and I tend to express my opinions too. But because it is very rare that I do it, I get a free pass when we have a serious discussion and he listens. I dont always have to stand my ground. I sometimes agree. I sometimes disagree. We sometimes agree to disagree. We have more meaningful discussions. Sometimes deep discussions. Often light hearted ones coz we both dont like the negative energy or feeling pressured.
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    nah m good that way.. i play table tennis and he always ask me about my game days other things i do.. and he keeps me posted with his basketball games.. like i said he told me he likes how independent i am.. and no we have never had an argument.. and yes agree with light hearted convos.. no negative energy whatsoever.. and we dont always agree either.. but that doesnt bother us at all..
    maybe i am expecting more than i should because he painted a different picture of himself when we furst started talking, we used to talk a lot.. even when i will tell him i am at the gym he will still keep texting me asking what m pushing etc etc.. and then all of a sudden minimum contact thruout the day..
    that sudden change thru me off gaurd.. and m still getting used to his leaving me dry in the msgs sometimes
  • Posted by WittyGem88
    Posted by joyran
    Posted by WittyGem88
    Posted by vixen14
    Posted by joyran
    @vixen18
    maybe this will give u a better idea.. he is 29 yrs old and i am 26
    mine is first and his is second
    sun- Leo Aquarius
    Moon- Leo Leo
    Mercury- Virgo Aqua
    Venus- Virgo Aqua
    Mars- Virgo Taurus
    Jupiter- Leo Taurus
    Saturn- Aqua Cap
    Uranus- Cap Cap
    Neptune- Cap Cap
    Pluto- Scorpio Scorpio
    Lilth- Cap Libra
    Asc mode- Cap Pisces
    @wittygem88
    Another astrotwin lol

    In all seriousness OP, he has similar placements to mine. Except moon and merc. All is fine and dandy until I grow bored. Most don’t know how to tickle my pickle though.

    What does? Being straightforward and putting me in my place without overstepping boundaries. Sounds a lot harder than it is. It basically being kind, generous, compassionate but not a pushover. If I do or say something you don’t like, speak up and reprimand me. Nothing deserves my respect and attention more than a man who’s gentle enough to handle me, but spank me once in a while.


    Yes another astro twin! Lol mercury and moon is different from you and John. Lol. I put John in his place when I feel he is not doing me right. We have Pluto-Venus synastry where I am venus and he is pluto and he can get craily jealous some days when I have to meet with my boss who visits once a month. Its pretty crazy and I had to tell him to stop being paranoid. That hes making me feel suffocated when he does it. So now he doesnt overdo it. Not like before. One time, he also went MIA in me. Turns out he was sleeping wahahahaha all day. He was sick. I got upset and told him if he ever goes MIA on me again for no good reason, we are done. Coz i csnt do MIA partners. He said sorry and said he knows i worry about him and i love him thats why i got upset. So he never did it again. smile but thats easy coz we are in a committed rs. I think with OP, they had one date and no established committment yet so if she becomes blunt it might appear too demanding and too clingy. Coz its very esrly stage.


    When he went MIA on me i only messaged once and called the next day and told him i was just checking up on him.. and even now when he dont answer i dont ask him what he is up with or why he didnt answer me..
    so i am keeping my distance that way.. just waiting for him to come out of his shell..
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    Thats good! Remember, you arent in a committed rs yet. If you are, you can demand more but because you arent, you need to not have any expectations. If he doesnt reply to you, dont send another message. Dont even bother asking him whats up. Continue with your life. Do other things. Before you know it he will reach out.

    My ex was an aqua with leo moon. Believe me when i say they can be stubbornAF. The more you chase and initiate the worse it will be for you in the long run. I have leo moon myself and my ex and I can fight for days and no one will back down. I used to surrender before he does during the first phase of our rs and he kept doing what he was doing to upset me knowing I will surrender first like always. Whwn i learned to stand my ground and have my own life, he started chasing me. Even now that we have broken up, he chases me. In fact i just got a message from him this morning asking if im still alive. Couple of weeks ago he said he misses me.



    That was me with my cap ex.. had 6 yrs long relatioship and i always surrendered.. while he will ignore me when i would fight with him.. that ignorance taught me a lot of patience and now when i do get into a fight i just tell the person that i went wrong over here and u went wrong over here.. how about fix the problem and not fight over it.. if the other person does it we move on if not m standing my ground and u wont hear from me until u apologize like i did.. so thats not an issue i guess..
    I might try not messaging him at all if he dont but then i dont want to b the one playing games cuz i will rather tell him whats bothering me and be honest about it but then again we not in a rs..
    just gonna go slow like he said.. but m also sure he testing me.. like when he said most girls leave when he created distance.. so he did the same to me but because m stubborn and dont leave on first sign of trouble i stuck with him and he mentioned it later tht he appreciates that i understand him..
  • Posted by vixen14
    Posted by joyran
    @vixen18
    maybe this will give u a better idea.. he is 29 yrs old and i am 26
    mine is first and his is second
    sun- Leo Aquarius
    Moon- Leo Leo
    Mercury- Virgo Aqua
    Venus- Virgo Aqua
    Mars- Virgo Taurus
    Jupiter- Leo Taurus
    Saturn- Aqua Cap
    Uranus- Cap Cap
    Neptune- Cap Cap
    Pluto- Scorpio Scorpio
    Lilth- Cap Libra
    Asc mode- Cap Pisces
    @wittygem88
    Another astrotwin lol

    In all seriousness OP, he has similar placements to mine. Except moon and merc. All is fine and dandy until I grow bored. Most don’t know how to tickle my pickle though.

    What does? Being straightforward and putting me in my place without overstepping boundaries. Sounds a lot harder than it is. It basically being kind, generous, compassionate but not a pushover. If I do or say something you don’t like, speak up and reprimand me. Nothing deserves my respect and attention more than a man who’s gentle enough to handle me, but spank me once in a while.
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    See so complicated.. now i dont want him to get bored so what do i do initiate right? but if i do too much of it its gonna b like m overstepping since we r not in a relationship.. and a while back he sent me his pic and asked me to send mine as he calls it "send me a smile".. and i liked his pic so i told him the pic he has now as dp is not that good and he should put this one that he just sent as a dp.. and he did it right away.. when we r talking about something if i dont agree with what he is saying i do counter him.. and stand by what i said.. he have always told me i am independent and have strong opinions and dont back down and he respect that..
    so after this i dont know what else to do..
    we r talking and he leaves the convo and looks like he forgets that we were talking and dont ans until i msg him again.. but will make me initiate and then tell me he was just thinking about me or missing me.. and if u were why not just msg me..
    so complicated.. like he almost playing games with me or testing my patience big time..
  • Posted by WittyGem88
    Posted by vixen14
    Posted by joyran
    @vixen18
    maybe this will give u a better idea.. he is 29 yrs old and i am 26
    mine is first and his is second
    sun- Leo Aquarius
    Moon- Leo Leo
    Mercury- Virgo Aqua
    Venus- Virgo Aqua
    Mars- Virgo Taurus
    Jupiter- Leo Taurus
    Saturn- Aqua Cap
    Uranus- Cap Cap
    Neptune- Cap Cap
    Pluto- Scorpio Scorpio
    Lilth- Cap Libra
    Asc mode- Cap Pisces
    @wittygem88
    Another astrotwin lol

    In all seriousness OP, he has similar placements to mine. Except moon and merc. All is fine and dandy until I grow bored. Most don’t know how to tickle my pickle though.

    What does? Being straightforward and putting me in my place without overstepping boundaries. Sounds a lot harder than it is. It basically being kind, generous, compassionate but not a pushover. If I do or say something you don’t like, speak up and reprimand me. Nothing deserves my respect and attention more than a man who’s gentle enough to handle me, but spank me once in a while.


    Yes another astro twin! Lol mercury and moon is different from you and John. Lol. I put John in his place when I feel he is not doing me right. We have Pluto-Venus synastry where I am venus and he is pluto and he can get craily jealous some days when I have to meet with my boss who visits once a month. Its pretty crazy and I had to tell him to stop being paranoid. That hes making me feel suffocated when he does it. So now he doesnt overdo it. Not like before. One time, he also went MIA in me. Turns out he was sleeping wahahahaha all day. He was sick. I got upset and told him if he ever goes MIA on me again for no good reason, we are done. Coz i csnt do MIA partners. He said sorry and said he knows i worry about him and i love him thats why i got upset. So he never did it again. smile but thats easy coz we are in a committed rs. I think with OP, they had one date and no established committment yet so if she becomes blunt it might appear too demanding and too clingy. Coz its very esrly stage.
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    When he went MIA on me i only messaged once and called the next day and told him i was just checking up on him.. and even now when he dont answer i dont ask him what he is up with or why he didnt answer me..
    so i am keeping my distance that way.. just waiting for him to come out of his shell..
  • @vixen18
    maybe this will give u a better idea.. he is 29 yrs old and i am 26
    mine is first and his is second
    sun- Leo Aquarius
    Moon- Leo Leo
    Mercury- Virgo Aqua
    Venus- Virgo Aqua
    Mars- Virgo Taurus
    Jupiter- Leo Taurus
    Saturn- Aqua Cap
    Uranus- Cap Cap
    Neptune- Cap Cap
    Pluto- Scorpio Scorpio
    Lilth- Cap Libra
    Asc mode- Cap Pisces
  • Posted by vixen14
    Posted by joyran
    Guys, i understand where all of you are coming from..
    and lemme clear how everything went down between us again..
    1. we meet online where i commented on his comment and told him he was wrong for saying so but we ended up agreeing with each other.. then he was the one who sent me a request right away and messaged me that he thinks he added me because he feels that we can have a mature convo which is rare to do with girls..
    2. We talked but for me that was just a over the internet person talk.. didnt even pay attention for next some days.. he was always texting me first.. sometimes who day will pass and he will text me at 10pm asking me how was my day..
    3. he was the one who asked me for my number because he wanted to talk..he was the one who called, but text everyday..he was the one to video call first.. which was very short to which he said he was shy
    4. he first told me he liked me to which i said.. yea you are a good person, I LIKE YOUR COMPANY..
    5. he was the one who initiated our first meeting.. and asked me if it would be a date or friendly meeting.. i told him because we r friends how about a friendly date.. and around this time i started having feelings for him.. we meet, had fun at arcade and ate on a stall not in a restaurant and that was about it.. he did hug me for like good 15 seconds.. he kept texting normally for sometime.. and then one day no show.. i texted him at night and said i was just checking up on u if u r alright lemme know.. he did not answer and next day for first time i called him and he did not ans.. later texted and said he had an accident..
    6. after that he went from texting and initiating to no show.. now i was texting him but i never bombarded his phone.. only morning, once inbetween the day and then at goodnight.. he responded right away everytime like he was waiting for me to text.. then one day he told me he was sorry for being distant and it was only because he started liking me a lot and if this was only friend thing for me he dont want to lose me as a friend and he dont want to hurt me or get hurt.. i just told him that i understand and that he will never lose me as a friend..
    7. sometimes he will open up and ask me like when can we meet next or if he is the kind of guy i will like to get married to.. or what does i look in a partner.. or how many babies i want.. or that he wants to hug me or wished that i was beside him especially on his blah days cuz i keep him positive and motivated.. and that i was the only girl who didnt leave when he created distance.. and then some days he wont text back and i still didnt bombard his phone and he was the only one calling as well.. i did not still call..
    8. then i posted msg over here and asked u guys for help.. now i told him how i feel and that i will like to have our first date but u also told him that i will respect his decision if he doesnt want it.. but i very much do want to take a step.. to which he said he want to go slow and is very scared because he dont want to hurt me or get hurt.. and yes our next meeting can definitely be a date..
    he accepted today it is because he is he has been hurt in past that he is being cautious.. and i am too good to b true for him cuz i kept up with him being distance and never left which other girls dont do as much and i patiently handled rhe situation..
    i didnt text him all day today cuz i was busy at work.. an hour ago i said hey handsome.. and answered back right away saying hey baby, was just thinking about u and was missing u..

    i think aquapisces123 woman was right that i needed to get more mushy with him and not throw him off when he says something romantic to me.. if i change now and stop initiating hes gonna see that m being ignorant.. he is more like waiting for my msges these days i know cuz he doesnt take more than 10 seconds to ans me back.. once we start talking he does leave the convo until i msg him again after 5 6 hours.. i take my time with that too..
    aquapisces123 and leoness18881 helped a lot.. sometimes i feel like he was expecting more from me but i was lacking because i didnt wanna look stupid rushing things while he was asking me wedding and kids questions
    any thoughts r welcomed


    IDK, I have a really good Leo friend who started similar with an Aqua. HE pursued her, HE initiated, HE wanted her. SHE caved and gave in by having sex with him in less than 3 months only to find out later on, that he was doing the same with other women.

    They're charmers and swaggers to the vast majority but they hardly ever initiate when they've caught feelings. Most Aquas who have deep feelings for a woman can be very timid and shy with verbal expressions. They begin to shift the communication to more physical acts of love... and I'm not talking about sex.
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    We have only meet once and its been 2 months of us talking.. he shut off after sometime but kept answering when i would message, and like i said now i am the one whos initiating more and he waits for me to msg him.. but when he would say something like i wish u were beside me.. and when m about to ans he will just end the convo and be like i am talking too much and apologize for saying mushy things at time.. and we havent ever talked about sex or anything.. he told me once he wanted to kiss me because i was apologizing for not answering his call and he thought it was so innnocent.. but then he said he is talking too much.. he says something romantic and then shuts himself off by himself before i even say anything..
  • Posted by Lioness18881
    Posted by joyran
    Guys, i understand where all of you are coming from..
    and lemme clear how everything went down between us again..
    1. we meet online where i commented on his comment and told him he was wrong for saying so but we ended up agreeing with each other.. then he was the one who sent me a request right away and messaged me that he thinks he added me because he feels that we can have a mature convo which is rare to do with girls..
    2. We talked but for me that was just a over the internet person talk.. didnt even pay attention for next some days.. he was always texting me first.. sometimes who day will pass and he will text me at 10pm asking me how was my day..
    3. he was the one who asked me for my number because he wanted to talk..he was the one who called, but text everyday..he was the one to video call first.. which was very short to which he said he was shy
    4. he first told me he liked me to which i said.. yea you are a good person, I LIKE YOUR COMPANY..
    5. he was the one who initiated our first meeting.. and asked me if it would be a date or friendly meeting.. i told him because we r friends how about a friendly date.. and around this time i started having feelings for him.. we meet, had fun at arcade and ate on a stall not in a restaurant and that was about it.. he did hug me for like good 15 seconds.. he kept texting normally for sometime.. and then one day no show.. i texted him at night and said i was just checking up on u if u r alright lemme know.. he did not answer and next day for first time i called him and he did not ans.. later texted and said he had an accident..
    6. after that he went from texting and initiating to no show.. now i was texting him but i never bombarded his phone.. only morning, once inbetween the day and then at goodnight.. he responded right away everytime like he was waiting for me to text.. then one day he told me he was sorry for being distant and it was only because he started liking me a lot and if this was only friend thing for me he dont want to lose me as a friend and he dont want to hurt me or get hurt.. i just told him that i understand and that he will never lose me as a friend..
    7. sometimes he will open up and ask me like when can we meet next or if he is the kind of guy i will like to get married to.. or what does i look in a partner.. or how many babies i want.. or that he wants to hug me or wished that i was beside him especially on his blah days cuz i keep him positive and motivated.. and that i was the only girl who didnt leave when he created distance.. and then some days he wont text back and i still didnt bombard his phone and he was the only one calling as well.. i did not still call..
    8. then i posted msg over here and asked u guys for help.. now i told him how i feel and that i will like to have our first date but u also told him that i will respect his decision if he doesnt want it.. but i very much do want to take a step.. to which he said he want to go slow and is very scared because he dont want to hurt me or get hurt.. and yes our next meeting can definitely be a date..
    he accepted today it is because he is he has been hurt in past that he is being cautious.. and i am too good to b true for him cuz i kept up with him being distance and never left which other girls dont do as much and i patiently handled rhe situation..
    i didnt text him all day today cuz i was busy at work.. an hour ago i said hey handsome.. and answered back right away saying hey baby, was just thinking about u and was missing u..

    i think aquapisces123 woman was right that i needed to get more mushy with him and not throw him off when he says something romantic to me.. if i change now and stop initiating hes gonna see that m being ignorant.. he is more like waiting for my msges these days i know cuz he doesnt take more than 10 seconds to ans me back.. once we start talking he does leave the convo until i msg him again after 5 6 hours.. i take my time with that too..
    aquapisces123 and leoness18881 helped a lot.. sometimes i feel like he was expecting more from me but i was lacking because i didnt wanna look stupid rushing things while he was asking me wedding and kids questions
    any thoughts r welcomed



    Just be yourself. Don't overthink and don't get insecure. Assume he likes you and don't let doubts cloud your head. Try not to rush into a relationship if he isn't ready for one. It is better to build a good foundation instead of get carried away and rushing and then being hurt or disappointed. DON'T sleep with him or give up the goods without him agreeing to a commitment. They are genuine and honest and good guys. But you need to keep your independence and your separate life and let him have his too. You're 2 people, not half of one. You'll be ok. Just get out of your head and don't analyze everything.
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    right thats why when he said he want to go slow i told him i respect it.. oh and no.. cant sleep with him unless i know he is down for life.. not giving that part of me unless i see a commitment..
    just gonna keep doing what i am and let him come and tell me he wants a relationship.. i have already confessed my feelings so now he knows how i feel..
  • i got a little pissed because u cant just say that u want to hug me and wish i was beside him or i was missing u.. things like that and then drop the convo and not ans until i msg u back after 5 6 or more hours.. there are also times when i say goodnight and he says he wanted to talk and all this while he is out with his friends but then say never mind he was playing with me.. but i will b like nah its ok i was that tired either i can keep him company.. and he went on..
    but then no msg all day the next day..
    inconsistency is something i will get mad at.. but then again we r not in a relationship so i need to be cool and not get mad at his negatives..
  • Guys, i understand where all of you are coming from..
    and lemme clear how everything went down between us again..
    1. we meet online where i commented on his comment and told him he was wrong for saying so but we ended up agreeing with each other.. then he was the one who sent me a request right away and messaged me that he thinks he added me because he feels that we can have a mature convo which is rare to do with girls..
    2. We talked but for me that was just a over the internet person talk.. didnt even pay attention for next some days.. he was always texting me first.. sometimes who day will pass and he will text me at 10pm asking me how was my day..
    3. he was the one who asked me for my number because he wanted to talk..he was the one who called, but text everyday..he was the one to video call first.. which was very short to which he said he was shy
    4. he first told me he liked me to which i said.. yea you are a good person, I LIKE YOUR COMPANY..
    5. he was the one who initiated our first meeting.. and asked me if it would be a date or friendly meeting.. i told him because we r friends how about a friendly date.. and around this time i started having feelings for him.. we meet, had fun at arcade and ate on a stall not in a restaurant and that was about it.. he did hug me for like good 15 seconds.. he kept texting normally for sometime.. and then one day no show.. i texted him at night and said i was just checking up on u if u r alright lemme know.. he did not answer and next day for first time i called him and he did not ans.. later texted and said he had an accident..
    6. after that he went from texting and initiating to no show.. now i was texting him but i never bombarded his phone.. only morning, once inbetween the day and then at goodnight.. he responded right away everytime like he was waiting for me to text.. then one day he told me he was sorry for being distant and it was only because he started liking me a lot and if this was only friend thing for me he dont want to lose me as a friend and he dont want to hurt me or get hurt.. i just told him that i understand and that he will never lose me as a friend..
    7. sometimes he will open up and ask me like when can we meet next or if he is the kind of guy i will like to get married to.. or what does i look in a partner.. or how many babies i want.. or that he wants to hug me or wished that i was beside him especially on his blah days cuz i keep him positive and motivated.. and that i was the only girl who didnt leave when he created distance.. and then some days he wont text back and i still didnt bombard his phone and he was the only one calling as well.. i did not still call..
    8. then i posted msg over here and asked u guys for help.. now i told him how i feel and that i will like to have our first date but u also told him that i will respect his decision if he doesnt want it.. but i very much do want to take a step.. to which he said he want to go slow and is very scared because he dont want to hurt me or get hurt.. and yes our next meeting can definitely be a date..
    he accepted today it is because he is he has been hurt in past that he is being cautious.. and i am too good to b true for him cuz i kept up with him being distance and never left which other girls dont do as much and i patiently handled rhe situation..
    i didnt text him all day today cuz i was busy at work.. an hour ago i said hey handsome.. and answered back right away saying hey baby, was just thinking about u and was missing u..

    i think aquapisces123 woman was right that i needed to get more mushy with him and not throw him off when he says something romantic to me.. if i change now and stop initiating hes gonna see that m being ignorant.. he is more like waiting for my msges these days i know cuz he doesnt take more than 10 seconds to ans me back.. once we start talking he does leave the convo until i msg him again after 5 6 hours.. i take my time with that too..
    aquapisces123 and leoness18881 helped a lot.. sometimes i feel like he was expecting more from me but i was lacking because i didnt wanna look stupid rushing things while he was asking me wedding and kids questions
    any thoughts r welcomed
  • Posted by WittyGem88
    — he wants to take it slow—- meaning he is not at that point yet when he wants to commit. There is also a chance he isnt sure about you yet. Give him space and time to think. Stop texting him when he doesnt reply. Don’t be all over him. Play it cool.



    Right.. but when i dont msg him he message me and ask me to send him a smile.. sent him a funny face and he did the same..
    now that i have told him how i feel.. i guess i am gonna give him space to think and know what he want for real..
    will see.. i also feel like he needs to see what caring actually is.. whatever he told me about his past.. it doesnt look like he knows what caring means..m showing him that care in small doses so lets see
  • Posted by pisceswoman123
    I wouldn’t do that. Don’t send him anything else. And don’t tell him how you are feeling when you are upset because he is not doing what you want him to do. He will rebel to that.

    Try not to take it personally and do your thing.

    It doesn’t mean that he doesn’t like you it just how they are sometimes.

    You becoming clingy when he is not giving you attention is not the way to go with aquarius.


    So he messaged and started talking and i opened up to him and told him why i like him and that he makes me feel special and a lot of other things including we dont have to rush anything..
    he said he is definitely scared because he dont want to be hurt neither does he want to hurt me.. he want to take things slow and next time we meet it can definitely be a date instead of a friendly meet..
    so if he wasnt interested in dating me would he have told me that? i have seen in ither posts where girls say that guy fixed the date but never came to the date and keep stalling..
  • Posted by pisceswoman123
    I wouldn’t do that. Don’t send him anything else. And don’t tell him how you are feeling when you are upset because he is not doing what you want him to do. He will rebel to that.



    Try not to take it personally and do your thing.



    It doesn’t mean that he doesn’t like you it just how they are sometimes.



    You becoming clingy when he is not giving you attention is not the way to go with aquarius.


    Got ya..
    and nah i wasnt gonna tell him how i feel about his disappearances.. i dont give people that pleasure to know that they hurt me..
    i was gonna confess about how i feel for him.. that i like him and would like to go on an actual date instead of just a friendly date.. or say some other mushy things..

    but i guess will do it with the flow slowly.. and not throw a bomb when he is not responding or it will come as clingy
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    If he is being clingy. You can be clingy back and he will love it.









    Don’t feel afraid of that.









    Clingy\ mushy and lot of space.



























    Yea he is not clingy.. only get mushy sometimes when i compliment him.. and then leave the convo inbetween until i msg him back after a while again.. see the inconsistency.. and then he ans.. and no he doesnt make first move all the times.. m mostly making moves.. but if he dont ans i never msg him back until the end of the day..








    although i have told him that i dont want to make him feel like m ruining his personal space and he told me i can never do that because he likes me at his personal space..








    i guess i just have to give some air to his little fire.. but then why he always waiting on me to msg him tho..








    that scares me a bit that what if he thinks i dont have a life of my own.. click to expand








    It seems to me that he is the one that doesn’t want to be in your personal space because he thinks that you don’t want to.







    He already told you that he doesn’t mind and even like it, so don’t be afraid of it.















    Why would he think that you don’t have a life? You can have a very busy life and still time to connect.















    Just show him that you care a bit more. I don’t think he’s sure about your feelings for him. I think he is inconsistent because he is insecure about you.















    Text him when you feel like it. Be nice. Be loving specially when he is mushy and then do your life and be happy in between. That is all he wants.







    Love and space in between. Nothing complicated about it 😄 click to expand














    See like now that you brought it up i feel like i kinda pushed him away.. and made him feel insecure






    before me meet he asked me if it was gonna b a date or what.. and i said since we r friends lets make it a friendly date..






    I am very cautious.. been hurt badly before by a cap..






    did i hurt him? i am so sorry for so many questions.. m trynna figure him out.. and now i feel like i need to figure myself out first.. click to expand






    I am not him so I don’t know if you have hurt him but don’t be too hard on your self.











    Just be honest with him.











    He obviously wants more and you are the one that is keeping him at a distance.











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    Right thank you so much.. click to expand




    Ask as much as you need 😄 Happy to help click to expand









    See now he hasnt answer me back from yesterday afternoon.. i said good night.. good morning.. sent a post later and now asked him if he is ok and hope ur day is gojng well.. no answer and he is online.. what do i do in this situation.. click to expand


    Don’t contact him anymore. If he hasn’t answered is because he doesn’t want to ( or maybe he is busy or whatever) so just do your thing and ignore it. He knows how to contact you. Now it’s his turn, you did your part. click to expand
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    see the confusion?
    everytime i try to get closer or start to tell him something he does this and i go to back to my cave of being scared to pursue.. i really want to tell him how i feel but not like this u know..
    I was gonna send him a msg on whatsapp which he havent checked for a week cuz we talk on insta or direct call.. maybe just send the msg telling him how i feel and then wait for him to check it..
    but these kinda disappearances make me pull back too..