Posted by RollergirlOrc
Imo, long and healthy= similar values. Is his list similar to yours? Is he the yin to your yang? As in complementary. Can he fulfill your needs. All that romantic-y stuff you read about in the books. That's just what I think. What draws you to him?

We haven't shown our list to each other yet and it's too early to tell if we have similar values. In our interaction, it seems that we do have similar values especially with practical matters but we'll see if that translates into action.

He appears to know what he wants and breaks it down. I mean, he's a romantic but at the same time he does ask questions which apply to potential long term romantic partnership such as living arrangement, roles and finances.

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I like this! It sounds honest. Too many people play mind games at the beginning or are entirely led by their genitals, lol.

Did you give each other an instructions manual too? 🤓

Idk if you're entire post is sarcastic but I'm sure sex is included.

We're pretty verbal on what we want, so manual instruction is provided per concern.

But I wasn't sarcastic at all!

Of course sex is part of it, but it can't substitute for anything that's wrong or lacking. Sex is complicated. No matter how good it was to begin with, sex will eventually suffer if disappointment defines the new state of your relationship.

If it doesn't suffer, it's because either you or your partner didn't have other expectations to begin with...you two are practically in a FWB situationship.

"You" being nothing personal, just a general way of speaking.

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Oh ok, sorry I couldn't tell with text.

Yeah. Whenever one of us has a question, we raise our concerns based on the response.

There are certain topics that we've briefly discussed and agreed to breakdown further.

We shall see. Either way, I search for great opportunities.

Posted by Undine
I like this! It sounds honest. Too many people play mind games at the beginning or are entirely led by their genitals, lol.

Did you give each other an instructions manual too? 🤓

Idk if you're entire post is sarcastic but I'm sure sex is included.

We're pretty verbal on what we want, so manual instruction is provided per concern.

What are "5 wants and expectations" that are the basic foundation for a long and healthy relationship?

Sun in Pisces with dominant fire and I will be signing a relationship contract. It's a 60 day trial to determine if we're a potentially great union.

My list so far:
1. Patience
2. Top love language preferred: acts of service
3. Effective and therapeutic communication
4. Accountability and cooperation
5. Nurturing emotional connection

During this time, if we're having trouble, we have to be proactive on how we're going to maintain a healthy relationship. We'll be doing a weekly review of our relationship.

Should one or both person(s) wish to terminate the contract, the aim is to end it on a good note.

Our first date will be to go to church together, grab lunch and walk by the lake.

During this trial, I will continue my personal research: is online dating 🗑️?

Neptune Transits the Ninth House

Your overall perspective on life is expanding, and you are more willing to embrace unusual, mystical, or spiritual philosophies. You are slightly more impressionable than usual. Your personality and manner is appealingly mysterious and soft–others sense your increased compassion. Seeking friends or lovers who are soul companions is possible during this phase. A stronger interest in the arts, especially those that draw upon the emotions, is indicated. Some confusion regarding travel, legal affairs, or higher education is also possible now.

I believe I have a better perspective and even less reactive. That's been a long term goal, especially the time I've been off due to health issue.

There are other affirmations I've been doing such as finding healthier and lasting relationships whatever form that may be.

Yeah, I've been expanding my horizon as in searching for what I deserve instead of whatever/bare minimum/the contrary.

Lolllll you guys will never guess where my first date will be with the sun in pisces venus aries and mars sag

😂

The first step to healing is acknowledging that you're hurting, the next step is determining the root causes(s) and managing your thoughts and feelings.

There are too many things going on besides your current situation with the Libra. It seems that you're aware of your thoughts and feelings but avoid it at the same time. I say that because you focus your energy on other things surrounding you when you need to focus all your energy on yourself. It's like, you have to exhaust yourself from your own thoughts and feelings which can be expressed in various ways i.e. helping animals, focusing on other people's situation, being reactive with Libra.

Healing can be such a long process and it's always at your own terms, when you're ready. Allow yourself some grace to process your feelings without causing too much negative consequences for yourself and possibly hurting someone else. Have an internal alarm clock for when you're ready to flourish.

I want someone grounded but adventurous and homebody at the same time. I want someone who's an ambivert.

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Posted by MyStarsShine
Venus in Aries .. on to the next thing
Mars in Sag ... risk takers ... easily bored

😂

Omg

Lol she’s right about mars in sag

Which part? Risky or easily bored 😂

Both 😂

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Lolll

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Posted by MyStarsShine
Venus in Aries .. on to the next thing
Mars in Sag ... risk takers ... easily bored

😂

Omg

Lol she’s right about mars in sag

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Which part? Risky or easily bored 😂