So Josh, are you agreeing with what my virgo friend was saying? Do you think that that is reality? I'm a virgo myself, but I've got sag. rising and I think that gives me a bit of a daydreaming streak. I don't want to come across as a hopeless romantic but that can't possibly be the way love really is, can it?
I was chatting to a male virgo friend of mine this morning about love and the dating game. His opinion, which he made very clear, is that love is an illusion, and that "loving" someone is not about that person at all but rather, about your own addiction to how they respond to you.
What do you guys think about this? I tried to argue that his theory made love sound selfish which I dont beleive it is, not real love anyway, and that while love can not be seen/ touched it is not an illiusion and is still worth beleiving in.
The conversation ended with him saying "Well, I dont beleive in Santa Clause but I still enjoy getting presents on Christmas morning!"
What do you think? Do other Virgos/ people find themselves analysing love and feelings to the point where they no longer beleive in their importance?
Oh you're so right about that Nixx- I fully have to keep my critical side in check with my cancer friends.
The other side of that though is that, in my experience, the Virgo is often left wearing the pants in the relationship (sorry, i hate that expression too) and doesnt always get the support they need from their Cancer... but this is probably more due to Virgos inability to ask for help than Cancers inability to give it... hmmm... maybe I should work on that before I start throwing around accusations...
i think you're right about his defence mechanisms, they're extreme. i have some myself but i let them down when it comes to him. i think i have my answers though, i dont like them, but what to do? thankyou for your posts everyone.