LadyNeptune

Posted by MrsElleCappysnatch

Posted by LadyNeptune
If your not going to have children together, marriage is unnecessary imo. There are many other ways to show your commitment towards each other.
If the motivation is purely for a tax break make sure you have an air tight prenup, and do something small and inexpensive... courthouse and little reception or just cut to the honeymoon aka vaca trip.

We are getting our LLC set up and looking at properties to purchase together. We joke that a 30 mortgage is more of commitment than marriage with the high divorce rate.

Yes, that is how I'm looking at it.

The thing is, he doesn't understand how my aries moon works.

I need a date and a goal. Only then will I have some kind of motivation and vision.

I'm a taskmaster. I need to be organized and working on *something*.

Yes, we can be impulsive but I will never wake up ad say....let's go to the courthouse today.

His pisces moon can't do that. He chews on a decision forever and it is one thing at a time. Marriage was the first one....having no idea what that entailed. It was simply, I'm ready for marriage. Full stop.

Drives me nuts.

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Do you guys live together atm?

If your not going to have children together, marriage is unnecessary imo. There are many other ways to show your commitment towards each other.
If the motivation is purely for a tax break make sure you have an air tight prenup, and do something small and inexpensive... courthouse and little reception or just cut to the honeymoon aka vaca trip.

We are getting our LLC set up and looking at properties to purchase together. We joke that a 30 mortgage is more of commitment than marriage with the high divorce rate.

Posted by mars_in_cappy

Posted by LadyNeptune
Would depend on the service/product your selling vs demand in the area vs overhead (cost of rent etc).
Not too many people pay with cash these days so I’d be less worried about being robbed and more concerned with if the Buisness would be profitable in that area.

I've done my calculations and it could check out. You never know though. But, the issue is mainly safety and peace of mind.

My overall feeling is 'no'.. Back to the drawing board and a more safe and secure (and conservative community) would probably be the go.

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Always go with your gut

My sister just rented a space from a high end spa where she is appointment only for her Buisness. Eventually she will open her own storefront and hire employees but for now this works perfectly for her life style (she has a baby under 1yr old)
Perhaps you could do something similar, depending on the type of Buisness you have of course.

I’m doing the same. I rented half my office space to another designer and we split the rent, bills, kitchen, lounge area, and conference room. It’s nice to share the overhead and know you have another person there invested in the space. We also give each other referrals so it’s a symbiotic relationship in many ways.

Would depend on the service/product your selling vs demand in the area vs overhead (cost of rent etc).
Not too many people pay with cash these days so I’d be less worried about being robbed and more concerned with if the Buisness would be profitable in that area.

Posted by goldrockett

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What a weird cover story to give his kids when you are around and you are both affectionate with one another in front of them.

Well they came up with the conclusion of thinking I'm their cousin themselves. He didn't tell them that. They randomly said it one day and he just laughed at them

Why would they assume your a cousin tho 🤔
Does he have other ‘cousins’ come by for sleepovers. This is suspect.

No they don't. But bc I guess I spend so much time with them that they feel like I'm more like family than just a friend ? I have no idea 🤦🏾‍♀️

Idk, something seems suspect here. My spidey senses are tingling.

It’s somewhat understandable for him to call you a cousin or friend in front of his kids if your meeting them in passing and relationship is brand new. But that ain’t the case here...

You say you spend a ton of time with them. Add to that he’s been in a relationship with you for 2 years... it doesn’t add up why he would downplay his relationship with you unless...

-he doesn’t see a long term future with you
-he has other women he is seeing that he brings around as ‘friends/cousins’

Definitely bring this ish up!

I'll bring it up to him. I honestly don't know why he does this but I do know I'm the first serious relationship he's had in a long time. Maybe he's still treading lightly , maybe he's afraid to fully open up , idk. I do know he's not bringing anyone else around the kids tho bc of the relationship we do have I always know where he is , what he's doing etc. Like we talk or ft all the time if we're not together.

As for if he sees things with me long term , that idk. I'm with a very stubborn individual. He's not very vulnerable with me with words , moreso with his actions. So I'm not sure long term how he feels. I want to talk to him about that too but I don't want him to feel pressured. But to be honest , I feel he may see this long term just going off of certain things taking place in the relationship but at the same time I feel like he's still new to this since it's been so long for him being with someone this serious. But I will talk to him and not wait for him to just let the kids know who I am to him on his own. He moves so slowly they probably wouldn't know who I am to him until I'm his wife 😑

Best to not assume what his motivations are and just sit down and be straight with him. You’ve given him 2 years of your life you deserve some answers.

Assuming you’ll be wifey in the future when he won’t even tell his kids your the gf is a dangerous train of thought. Try to not worry about ‘pressuring’ him. Wanting to define the relationship and where his head is at for the future is not pressure. Not by the slightest. Especially when we are talking 2 years + him involving you in his kids lives.

And please stop making excuses for him based on him not having a serious relationship in awhile. He knows what a serious relationship is. He was serious enough in a relationship to have 2 kids. He’s not brand new.

Okay , thats pretty valid. I will speak with him. Thanks for taking time out to give some advice. I appreciate it. We'll see what happens.

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Good luck 🤞

Posted by goldrockett

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Posted by LadyNeptune
What a weird cover story to give his kids when you are around and you are both affectionate with one another in front of them.

Well they came up with the conclusion of thinking I'm their cousin themselves. He didn't tell them that. They randomly said it one day and he just laughed at them

Why would they assume your a cousin tho 🤔
Does he have other ‘cousins’ come by for sleepovers. This is suspect.

No they don't. But bc I guess I spend so much time with them that they feel like I'm more like family than just a friend ? I have no idea 🤦🏾‍♀️

Idk, something seems suspect here. My spidey senses are tingling.

It’s somewhat understandable for him to call you a cousin or friend in front of his kids if your meeting them in passing and relationship is brand new. But that ain’t the case here...

You say you spend a ton of time with them. Add to that he’s been in a relationship with you for 2 years... it doesn’t add up why he would downplay his relationship with you unless...

-he doesn’t see a long term future with you
-he has other women he is seeing that he brings around as ‘friends/cousins’

Definitely bring this ish up!

I'll bring it up to him. I honestly don't know why he does this but I do know I'm the first serious relationship he's had in a long time. Maybe he's still treading lightly , maybe he's afraid to fully open up , idk. I do know he's not bringing anyone else around the kids tho bc of the relationship we do have I always know where he is , what he's doing etc. Like we talk or ft all the time if we're not together.

As for if he sees things with me long term , that idk. I'm with a very stubborn individual. He's not very vulnerable with me with words , moreso with his actions. So I'm not sure long term how he feels. I want to talk to him about that too but I don't want him to feel pressured. But to be honest , I feel he may see this long term just going off of certain things taking place in the relationship but at the same time I feel like he's still new to this since it's been so long for him being with someone this serious. But I will talk to him and not wait for him to just let the kids know who I am to him on his own. He moves so slowly they probably wouldn't know who I am to him until I'm his wife 😑

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Best to not assume what his motivations are and just sit down and be straight with him. You’ve given him 2 years of your life you deserve some answers.

Assuming you’ll be wifey in the future when he won’t even tell his kids your the gf is a dangerous train of thought. Try to not worry about ‘pressuring’ him. Wanting to define the relationship and where his head is at for the future is not pressure. Not by the slightest. Especially when we are talking 2 years + him involving you in his kids lives.

And please stop making excuses for him based on him not having a serious relationship in awhile. He knows what a serious relationship is. He was serious enough in a relationship to have 2 kids. He’s not brand new.

Posted by nanorobot

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Posted by Geminiiviixen
I forgot to mention... He texted me 2 days ago to meet up and I DID NOT RECEIVE THE TEXT.. and I finally called him today because he was supposed to come over my house 3 days ago and I was like why the heck am I Not receiving anything from him? It's so weird because when we were just friends everything was NORMAL AND GREAT.. Now that we have the title, he's just so weird.. I told him he can move on and see other people and be single if that is what he truly wants but has no Valid Reason to break up a Almost PERFECT Relationship, and he AGREED and CHANGED HIS MIND WITHIN SECONDS AND SAID I do want to be with you, and that he is hard to get emotionally and that he doesn't just give his heart away like that but that he WANTS to stay in our relationship and see how it turns out!? Does he want a relationship? is he nervous / scared? Does he even want me? What's the deal!? It must be his Moon in Scorpio.. but he has a lot of Water in his chart.. I thought I'd be safe, with this Gem, since he's all watered down but nooooooo... What's the deal!? He is still taking me out tomorrow for lunch and spending the whole day with me but is on call at work and yes we are still in a relationship, after convincing him that we are perfect and he said he thinks that I am good for him but whats up with these mixed up feelings!? So annoying...........

Pro tip: don’t put out there as a suggestion to break up if it’s not actually what you want. If your gonna cry about him giving mixed up feelings check your own mixed signals your sending first.

This is one of those societal dating behaviors women have picked up to be the cool-girl, too, and why we have so many people with boundary issues and Netflix/chill culture.

“If that’s what you want, I’m okay with that too” because it’s no longer fashionable for a woman to state her needs and desires. Women living in a man’s world!

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Ironic isn’t it. Most dudes respect and want a woman who knows her mind/knows what she wants.

I play the tax game hard. I split my income into 3 different avenues so that I’m only paying taxes on around 50-60% through adp. 20-30% on 1099 where I have enough write offs to break even/not pay any taxes on that money. The other 20-30% is essentially under the table aka cash.

Do you have a tax guy/gal? Sit down and have them take a look at your return. Turbo tax is easy and quick but you might be missing out on some write offs or loopholes.

Posted by Geminiiviixen
I forgot to mention... He texted me 2 days ago to meet up and I DID NOT RECEIVE THE TEXT.. and I finally called him today because he was supposed to come over my house 3 days ago and I was like why the heck am I Not receiving anything from him? It's so weird because when we were just friends everything was NORMAL AND GREAT.. Now that we have the title, he's just so weird.. I told him he can move on and see other people and be single if that is what he truly wants but has no Valid Reason to break up a Almost PERFECT Relationship, and he AGREED and CHANGED HIS MIND WITHIN SECONDS AND SAID I do want to be with you, and that he is hard to get emotionally and that he doesn't just give his heart away like that but that he WANTS to stay in our relationship and see how it turns out!? Does he want a relationship? is he nervous / scared? Does he even want me? What's the deal!? It must be his Moon in Scorpio.. but he has a lot of Water in his chart.. I thought I'd be safe, with this Gem, since he's all watered down but nooooooo... What's the deal!? He is still taking me out tomorrow for lunch and spending the whole day with me but is on call at work and yes we are still in a relationship, after convincing him that we are perfect and he said he thinks that I am good for him but whats up with these mixed up feelings!? So annoying...........

Pro tip: don’t put out there as a suggestion to break up if it’s not actually what you want. If your gonna cry about him giving mixed up feelings check your own mixed signals your sending first.

Wow he was engaged for 12 years! That’s 5 years longer than the average American marriage lasts 😂😂

Posted by 2Moon

Posted by LadyNeptune
My condolences

lol, do you have any advice for me?

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What advice are you looking for?

Don’t over share, that comes off as clingy most times.
You should match his level of interest/sharing. Atm your not hanging out face to face and that’s when more intimate conversations occur. Maybe start dropping some hints that you’d like to kick it together. Or butter, just take the plunge and invite him out to grab a coffee or get lunch or whatever shared interest you guys might have.

Maybe... just depends if she comes back strong after finals. If not then you know it was all smoke. Be patient for now.

Posted by goldrockett

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Posted by goldrockett

Posted by LadyNeptune
What a weird cover story to give his kids when you are around and you are both affectionate with one another in front of them.

Well they came up with the conclusion of thinking I'm their cousin themselves. He didn't tell them that. They randomly said it one day and he just laughed at them

Why would they assume your a cousin tho 🤔
Does he have other ‘cousins’ come by for sleepovers. This is suspect.

No they don't. But bc I guess I spend so much time with them that they feel like I'm more like family than just a friend ? I have no idea 🤦🏾‍♀️

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Idk, something seems suspect here. My spidey senses are tingling.

It’s somewhat understandable for him to call you a cousin or friend in front of his kids if your meeting them in passing and relationship is brand new. But that ain’t the case here...

You say you spend a ton of time with them. Add to that he’s been in a relationship with you for 2 years... it doesn’t add up why he would downplay his relationship with you unless...

-he doesn’t see a long term future with you
-he has other women he is seeing that he brings around as ‘friends/cousins’

Definitely bring this ish up!

Posted by Phangus

Posted by LadyNeptune
What a weird cover story to give his kids when you are around and you are both affectionate with one another in front of them.

I wonder if there are other cousins, like some kids have many "uncles".

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My thoughts exactly.