LadyNeptune

Posted by bri
It wasn't intentional to hide my child from her, I just wasn't ready to open up that part of my life for her to get involve with him.

Hiding a whole human for 3years from your partner who you live with is ABSOLUTELY intentional!
Again, you need to stop lying to yourself and downplaying how treetrunked up this is. You want her to magically build trust with you again but you can't even take accountability for your own actions.

Its been 2 months and you have a sexual relationship. You should ask him whether he wants a relationship or not. Is there an expectation that ya'll are sexually exclusive?
You should discuss these things in person with him.

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Posted by bri
Man you get my logic as to why i did it. He was too young to be brought around and i wanted him to be familiar with both parents before bringing any person he will be close too without any of the parents feeling like someone was coming to take their place as a mother.
I understand how I handled it was wrong and maybe 3 yrs was too long. He's my only child i have no experience being a parent so I did what I thought was best for him.

You really need to go somewhere else with that bullb*tter. So who and what exactly were you trying to protect? The mother's feelings or your child from said Scorp that you had no problem moving in with and playing daddy to her child...

"...and maybe 3 years was too long..." Yeah, just stop.

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He says it right there... "i wanted him to be familiar with both parents before bringing any person he will be close too without any of the parents feeling like someone was coming to take their place as a mother."

He didn't want his baby momma knowing about the scorpio. I'm guessing if his kids mom was part of this conversation right now her take would be entirely different than his. Bet he was with her long after he told the scorp he ended things. Hell maybe he still is.

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I can see why he lied. Doesn't make it right, but I get it.

Some women want to be very involved with their bf's children to the point they want to join in all activities, birthdays, holidays and events. Even try to befriend the mother and cement themselves in the man's life through the child. If the man wants to keep things separate, the new gf can become offended, jealous and accuse the man of not loving her enough or not taking their relationship seriously if he won't "open up" all aspects of his life to her.

Not a great way to start a relationship and the temptation to avoid any potential drama where children are concerned, can be strong. When a woman doesn't allow a new love interest into her children's life she's a protective mother. It's not allows viewed the same with men.

I've seen this more times than I haven't.

Not saying the Scorpio was like this but in the beginning of a relationship you never know how a person will react.
3 years is crazy long though, dude messed up.

No there's no excuse for this.

I can understand in the early days of dating but not after:

She introduces him to her daughter
He moves into her home
3 years go by!

And she had no idea he even had a kid. W t f

If it was the other way around a man would not think she was “wife” material and she would be practically labeled a dead beat mom!
It just comes off shady AF

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Its extremely shady.
Op is asking how he builds back trust with her.
Forget building back trust with him. She's gonna need a hell of alot of therapy and time and soul searching to be able to trust ANYONE in the future.
This butter is verrrryyyyy damaging.

When you don't comment on their haircut lol

Posted by shellshocker
I can see why he lied. Doesn't make it right, but I get it.

Some women want to be very involved with their bf's children to the point they want to join in all activities, birthdays, holidays and events. Even try to befriend the mother and cement themselves in the man's life through the child. If the man wants to keep things separate, the new gf can become offended, jealous and accuse the man of not loving her enough or not taking their relationship seriously if he won't "open up" all aspects of his life to her.

Not a great way to start a relationship and the temptation to avoid any potential drama where children are concerned, can be strong. When a woman doesn't allow a new love interest into her children's life she's a protective mother. It's not allows viewed the same with men.

I've seen this more times than I haven't.

Not saying the Scorpio was like this but in the beginning of a relationship you never know how a person will react.
3 years is crazy long though, dude messed up.

No there's no excuse for this.

I can understand in the early days of dating but not after:

She introduces him to her daughter
He moves into her home
3 years go by!

And she had no idea he even had a kid. W t f

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Posted by bri
What did you lie about and why?

Ok i'll spill it out

When we met, honestly we weren't looking for a relationship but our energy matched on our first day out and it was awesome. On our first night, some psychic saw how compatible we are and gave some revelations that she held so close to her. She opened up before I did, I don't open up so easily ( I'm a Virgo libra Cusp).

Anyways she revealed the same week we met that she was involved with someone but didn't see any future with that person. I also was in the same position but I didn't reveal that. It took me 3 months to reveal that information but I also didn't reveal that we also have a son together, and as at that time he was 7 months old. When I revealed that information, she asked me if there was anything else i needed to tell her and I said no. I ended the relationship with my son's mom but i wasn't ready to tell my Scorpio woman about my child, meanwhile i had a great relationship with her daughter.

Well fast forward to last week, I revealed to her about my son and she lost it.

I admit i didn't handle the situation very well.

You have a whole 4 year old human that you didn't tell her about? AND Scorpio has a child already?



Virgos and their sneaky ways never seem to surprise me lol
So how were you able to visit your child? How often were you back and forth between your ex and the Scorpios house?
You didn't get caught trying to visit your kid? That had to be a current event that happened often.
Did you just want free reign in having access to both ladies without your Scorpio finding out and giving you rules for the visits?
Were you still having sex with your ex? LMAO

I honestly think this is why she is still answering him. She wants to know all the details.

But her mind is SET.

Those questions... her mind must be going back THROUGH EVERY MOMENT where he lied or DENIED.

It’s just shocking.

I'm not shocked at all- He probably didn't realize his relationship with the Scorpio was gonna last.
This is why Virgo men are best by themselves, IMO. They sabotage the hell out of a relationships.He was with her 3 years and didn't think she should know about his child.
You can't make this butter up.
I hope she gets every thing she needs to heal and leaves.
There is probably way more then just a hidden child. Most likely a completely different story if she talks with the kids mom.

Even then, he could’ve just said “I need more time before I can fully open up.” That would have even been better than “I told you everything” and then goes “I didn’t tell you about a big part of my life” 3 years later.

He just hasn’t juggled his 2 women life style very well.
Hiding a kid isn’t usually considered “opening up”

The levels of deception are unreal.
She trusted him enough to move him into her home with her young daughter... the whole time he's hiding a full on child from her. Wild.

How the hell can people do that??

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IDK
with lovers like these, who needs enemies amiright

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Posted by bri
What did you lie about and why?

Ok i'll spill it out

When we met, honestly we weren't looking for a relationship but our energy matched on our first day out and it was awesome. On our first night, some psychic saw how compatible we are and gave some revelations that she held so close to her. She opened up before I did, I don't open up so easily ( I'm a Virgo libra Cusp).

Anyways she revealed the same week we met that she was involved with someone but didn't see any future with that person. I also was in the same position but I didn't reveal that. It took me 3 months to reveal that information but I also didn't reveal that we also have a son together, and as at that time he was 7 months old. When I revealed that information, she asked me if there was anything else i needed to tell her and I said no. I ended the relationship with my son's mom but i wasn't ready to tell my Scorpio woman about my child, meanwhile i had a great relationship with her daughter.

Well fast forward to last week, I revealed to her about my son and she lost it.

I admit i didn't handle the situation very well.

You have a whole 4 year old human that you didn't tell her about? AND Scorpio has a child already?



Virgos and their sneaky ways never seem to surprise me lol
So how were you able to visit your child? How often were you back and forth between your ex and the Scorpios house?
You didn't get caught trying to visit your kid? That had to be a current event that happened often.
Did you just want free reign in having access to both ladies without your Scorpio finding out and giving you rules for the visits?
Were you still having sex with your ex? LMAO

I honestly think this is why she is still answering him. She wants to know all the details.

But her mind is SET.

Those questions... her mind must be going back THROUGH EVERY MOMENT where he lied or DENIED.

It’s just shocking.

I'm not shocked at all- He probably didn't realize his relationship with the Scorpio was gonna last.
This is why Virgo men are best by themselves, IMO. They sabotage the hell out of a relationships.He was with her 3 years and didn't think she should know about his child.
You can't make this butter up.
I hope she gets every thing she needs to heal and leaves.
There is probably way more then just a hidden child. Most likely a completely different story if she talks with the kids mom.

Even then, he could’ve just said “I need more time before I can fully open up.” That would have even been better than “I told you everything” and then goes “I didn’t tell you about a big part of my life” 3 years later.

He just hasn’t juggled his 2 women life style very well.
Hiding a kid isn’t usually considered “opening up”

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The levels of deception are unreal.
She trusted him enough to move him into her home with her young daughter... the whole time he's hiding a full on child from her. Wild.

It could just be he's not a texter/into the messaging.
If your comfortable with it get him your phone number and have convo over the phone.

No its not you.
Someone who claims to 'miss you' and then doesn't follow up by taking steps to meet up isn't genuine.

Next time tho, instead of responding to his 'miss you' with your own 'miss you', volley that ball back into his court. Example... "I miss you as well. I'm free next on (insert day) lets link up".

This way its on him to follow through and solidify the plan.

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Prince Charming will be the next topic coming up......

Since my first post was removed. I didn’t see reason going forward with “Prince Charming topic”, it would have been helping give great advice in landing a well put together successful traditional man.

I had few pointer, from a circle of men from a international guys club where most of these men make hundreds of thousands in salary these are all mid older guy CEO’s and VP’s. I would have loved and tried to help you land a successful man. But why should I? After my post get reported for speech?. Nah... I keep these secrets.

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Calm down Ghislaine Maxwell, no one here asked you to traffic them to old ball sac.

Posted by bri
We’ve been together for 3years.In those 3 years I have lied or kept things from her because i didn’t want to hurt her. She has time and time again told me that she’ll rather I come out and tell her, than for her to find out, especially if she’s asked me. She truly loves me and gave everything to the relationship, i also love her but i thought i was protecting her by keeping her away from some things i wasn’t ready to share with her.

First off... you need to stop lying.
To her.
And most importantly, to yourself.

You didn't withhold your sons existence from her to 'protect her' like you keep claiming.
She had expressed over the years how hurtful you withholding secrets was. So no, it wasn't to protect her. It was to protect yourself.

You put your wellbeing over hers. Time and time again. For 3 years.

If you really want to build trust you need to start by being honest with yourself. Only then can you hope to be transparent with the people you encounter.

https://www.yourownbackyardpodcast.com/episodes/episode-01

The podcast that brought this case back into the public eye. The cops did treetrunk all, they victim shamed her for being intoxicated and didn't even really investigate. If the ambulance comes to the scene of a car crash should the paramedics stand there talking about how they should've worn their seatbelt? Or do you do your job and administer aid. FFS

Whats kinda crazy is Scott Petterson went to SLO at the same time as Kristen Smart and was at one point a person of interest in her disappearance/murder.

for you op, your prince charming

Yes you are wasting your time.
Don't stay around to be punished for his ex's sins. Thats ish he should work out before trying to start a relationship with anyone.

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Posted by LadyNeptune
We're all born naked and the rest is drag.

Is that an answer or an opinion? Because the question is about would YOU date a feminine man

You didn't define what feminine traits are, just dressing.
For the majority of herstory men have worn dresses, ijs.

I like the ones with flowers on them.

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Naturally

Are you single op?

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We're all born naked and the rest is drag.

Is that an answer or an opinion? Because the question is about would YOU date a feminine man

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You didn't define what feminine traits are, just dressing.
For the majority of herstory men have worn dresses, ijs.