LadyNeptune

Yeah. Only took a car accident for me to wake tf up and realize I'm working to damn hard

Posted by stillstillwater

Posted by LadyNeptune
"So he wanted a relationship (so he says) in the beginning - practically gunning for it. I knew for sure he was a player and I declined."

He was upfront at the beginning in wanting to lock you down into a relationship. You steered him in the direction of open relationship/lets see other people. The confusing one here is you. Cause you say his player ways are a turn off and then literally are encouraging him to be a player and discouraging him from viewing you as relationship potential.

Maybe its easier for you to protect your heart by labeling him as a player and keeping him at arms length so he can't get close enough to hurt you. Only its back firing cause you are catching feels.

are you sure you're not a psychologist?

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lol only on the third tuesday of the month

Posted by Juzzkea

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Posted by Phantom_Limbo

Posted by LadyNeptune
"So he wanted a relationship (so he says) in the beginning - practically gunning for it. I knew for sure he was a player and I declined."

He was upfront at the beginning in wanting to lock you down into a relationship. You steered him in the direction of open relationship/lets see other people. The confusing one here is you. Cause you say his player ways are a turn off and then literally are encouraging him to be a player and discouraging him from viewing you as relationship potential.

Maybe its easier for you to protect your heart by labeling him as a player and keeping him at arms length so he can't get close enough to hurt you. Only its back firing cause you are catching feels.

I think she knew he was gonna lie and cheat and she thought she could out-play the player. She was wrong.

How did she know tho. I'm curious about that part of the story.
Perception very rarely stacks up to reality.

It's not a perception - He tells me these things. And we do know the same people. He doesn't hold back with his stories even though I know most of them through mutual friends. I mean he is very descriptive - but there is the other half where he says - "I am truly battling myself because I have to overcome this." I feel like he is sincere but he can't help himself. He has admitted this. He is dealing with a ton of insecurities including the hurt from his previous marriage. His image is not where he wants it to be. He is pursuing his master degree now and has pressure from his business and his job.

When he speaks of these women - all ego stroke. Which I have explained to him repeatedly is the reason why he is having a hard time having good women in his life. He has the "pressure" to settle down. As all his friends are married. I have expressed, I am in no rush to get married. Also, he needs to calm down and have a healthy reflection on where he screwed up in his previous marriage and really work on himself to have a new mindset going forward.

I can understand his need for someone in his corner while dealing with his pressure. However, the extent he wants is not healthy for me or any woman.

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Its not uncommon for men (and women!) to treetrunk around a bit after they leave a long term relationship.
Obviously you know him better than us.

And... if he is really not in a healthy mindset etc then why even entertain him at all?

Posted by Phantom_Limbo

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Posted by Phantom_Limbo

Posted by LadyNeptune
"So he wanted a relationship (so he says) in the beginning - practically gunning for it. I knew for sure he was a player and I declined."

He was upfront at the beginning in wanting to lock you down into a relationship. You steered him in the direction of open relationship/lets see other people. The confusing one here is you. Cause you say his player ways are a turn off and then literally are encouraging him to be a player and discouraging him from viewing you as relationship potential.

Maybe its easier for you to protect your heart by labeling him as a player and keeping him at arms length so he can't get close enough to hurt you. Only its back firing cause you are catching feels.

I think she knew he was gonna lie and cheat and she thought she could out-play the player. She was wrong.

How did she know tho. I'm curious about that part of the story.
Perception very rarely stacks up to reality.

I assume they know the same people and she's aware of his comings and goings. She also gives several bits of info that show he is, indeed, a player. He's always meeting a new woman, and things last about three days. He says he wants a woman to be faithful to him, but he won't be. He told her she's his friend, but also told her he wants her in his life "forever." Sure, dude.

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But this behavior of his is happening AFTER she told him no relationship, lets be open/treetrunk buddies. He's just playing the role she gave him.

Posted by Phantom_Limbo

Posted by LadyNeptune
"So he wanted a relationship (so he says) in the beginning - practically gunning for it. I knew for sure he was a player and I declined."

He was upfront at the beginning in wanting to lock you down into a relationship. You steered him in the direction of open relationship/lets see other people. The confusing one here is you. Cause you say his player ways are a turn off and then literally are encouraging him to be a player and discouraging him from viewing you as relationship potential.

Maybe its easier for you to protect your heart by labeling him as a player and keeping him at arms length so he can't get close enough to hurt you. Only its back firing cause you are catching feels.

I think she knew he was gonna lie and cheat and she thought she could out-play the player. She was wrong.

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How did she know tho. I'm curious about that part of the story.
Perception very rarely stacks up to reality.

Just go with the flow and if its meant to be and hes the right one it'll happen naturally.

"So he wanted a relationship (so he says) in the beginning - practically gunning for it. I knew for sure he was a player and I declined."

He was upfront at the beginning in wanting to lock you down into a relationship. You steered him in the direction of open relationship/lets see other people. The confusing one here is you. Cause you say his player ways are a turn off and then literally are encouraging him to be a player and discouraging him from viewing you as relationship potential.

Maybe its easier for you to protect your heart by labeling him as a player and keeping him at arms length so he can't get close enough to hurt you. Only its back firing cause you are catching feels.

Posted by Neno2

Posted by LadyNeptune
No need to be photogenic anymore, theres filters for that.

Filters dont help with bad angles😃

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Trust me. They help with everything.

Your right to play things off as un bothered and meh.
My guess is he'll circle back around, based on his track record with you.

I've always ascribed to the look good, feel happy, move forward philosophy as the best method for getting revenge.

But I know a chick who went through some drastic lengths to get her cheating ex, who gave her an std, locked up. Pretty premeditated butter.

Posted by MasterGemini
cancer can allow the gemini to access their feelings.

ehhhh, I feel like thats a misconception. Gemini's can access their feelings just fine. They just portray them in a different way then water signs.

No need to be photogenic anymore, theres filters for that.

Define 'cheating'.

Posted by Phantom_Limbo

Posted by LadyNeptune
Liver failure, not pretty

I lost a close friend to that last year. 44 years old.

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How my grandpa died. Literally buzz kill.

8 months is early days.
You can't REALLY love each other cause you don't really KNOW each other. Yet.
But this wishy washy back and forth game playing on his part is such a turn off. Yuck.