Update - I guess we are done! He responded to my bday message and told me what time he would be back home... usually when he returns from a trip I go straight to his! I figured that would be the case this time around until he said let's meet next week instead, not tomorrow or the day after but NEXT WEEK! May I remind you today is his bday!!!!!
I think his message is crystal clear, if we are meant to be together why would you refuse to share your day with me!???
So I decided not to go away with him and his friends for his birthday which is today. I cannot help think he is upset over that- I explained to him why I could not make it... and he didn't offer to assist with the finances, so it is what it is!
He returns this evening and I sent him a birthday message this afternoon-mind you we have not had a conversation in a couple of days..So I'm not too sure how the message will be received.
Update - We never had that 'talk' all I got was a message saying 'Sorry baby I was out with a ship owner will try and speak with you later!' That was yesterday at 5am.... I've not heard anything since and I'm not going to chase him either!
I cannot with these hot and cold games... He is a 36 year old man... I mean make you mind up and just say whatever it is you need to say- GOSH!!
Ha! I've learnt so much about his character on here that I know I have pushed him too far this time!
Thank you all for your advice
I went to his on Friday after he had a long day at work- He stressed how his project was taking a toll on him when we spoke in the afternoon and I re-assured him everything would be ok after all he was handling it? He then had work drinks, met two sets of friends separately and then met me ( let me add he mentioned he had to leave late morning, which I really appreciated him saying!) so you can imagine he just wanted the fun me around, instead I was moody and non- responsive and told him he could write a thesis about my ass and kitty! He got upset , but I won him around... I apologised for my behaviour and we carried on smoothly. We even discussed skiing again and he repeated how it's not too late for me to still come! So I figured I would surprise him and move a few meetings around and go on the Friday and spend the weekend with him and his friends!
Morning comes and everything was great, I got ready and left around 12pm (I took longer than expected) as I had my own plans. We agreed to spend the Sunday (today) together seeing we were both busy Saturday afternoon. I voice notes him later that evening apologising for my behaviour the night before and being late that morning - to which I got no response. Today I thin messaged late morning asking if he was still up for the art gallery - to which I got a response this evening stating 'Thanks baby, I will give it a miss. Enjoy anyways!'
It's fair to say I can just count my loses right?!
Update- He contacted me yesterday after 2 days of silence as I just gave him his space and acted as if nothing happened - I'm ok with that! After all I said my peace on Sunday, so I will not harsh it out again.You are all right I do owe him an apology for one or two things I said! I was a bit dramatic, but I was hurt! I have to say I've learned my lesson I will never come between him and his friends ever again.
He certainly doesn't see how inconsiderate he was with my time. However, I'm certain he will make an effort to try and change, he usually tries to make changes if he thinks he has hurt me.
His birthday is coming up on the 29th...I was thinking of getting him a day of flying lessons as a way of apology and bday present as he is purchasing a small plane!!! He randomly brought it up on saturday during breakfast and asked what I thought about it! Lately he tends to just randomly bring up things that he is doing.... is this normal??? ( He is my first Aqua, so all this is new to me) Also he is off skiing for his bday, he asked me to go with him and his friends and I told him I could not afford it as I have just started my business. At first he said we would work something out... when I approached him again, and told him I need to stay and work he acted as if he was ok with it but I could tell he was pissed, which I found odd is this normal too?
Thanks Sassykiwi! I did think that was a tell tell sign that he has moved on! But he is always forthright. I would have expected him to just say 'I want out!' As he knows I can take anything as I'm tough as nails!
* Apolohies for the grammatical errors in the previous post.
I'm a Leo woman on the casp with Cancer! I'vr been dating my Aqua for three months. He has been good to me, always make an effort to ensure I'm happy, in turn I give him his space... he recently took me away and introduced me to his long time friend and always updates me on his movements. We spent an evening/ half a day together on Saturday. We went to the museum and came back had a nap,I woke up hungry and asked if he wanted anything his response and I quote ' I'm off for dinner with my friends!' I was taken aback! But didn't say anything, instead I packed my stuff and went home, on the way I sent him a voice note stating he should have told me earlier, I would have gone home & done other things! I basically said we need to have a talk and I will call him the following day. I called him the next day and without prompt as per usual he told me who he met, where they went et al.... I proceeded in letting him in a calm collected way that he hurt me buy arranging to meet with his friends while he was spending time with me - he didn't seem to get the logic and I flipped??told him he was highly intelligent, yet he was dancing around the issue...cut a long story short we ended the conversation peacefully laughing and joking. However.... he didn't contact me at all until I contacted him on Tuesday to ask for advice on my business. He didn't ask how I was which he normally does but answered my question. I've not heard from him since.... I'm worried I've pushed him away as he usually messages me everyday or every other day... what shall I do, has he left me?