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Lindaaaatje
joined March 10, 2015
femaleSun:cancer, asc:sag, moon:scorp,venus:leo, mars:libra
Sun:cancer, asc:sag, moon:scorp,venus:leo, mars:libra
  • Lindaaaatje
    Sun:cancer, asc:sag, moon:scorp,venus:leo, mars:libra
    female
    Posted by Capri-sun
    It's not about him thinking about the obligations during sex, it's just you 2 lived together and he had responsibilities which killed the fun & spontaneity.

    It's not because he's a cap. It's because he's a man.

    Someone told men cheat because they DON'T have these "obligations/responsibilities" with the mistress. She isn't asking him to take the trash out, pick up the kids from school, or grab feminine hygiene products from the store.


    Yes on the obligation part you mention but he puts way to much pressior on himself....always afraid he won't have money enough for his family. So he works hard. HE is making the obligations on to hisself. And i am not the one spending it, he does. In waves , he earn some money and spends it almost immediately. Sometimes on things that makes him more money, but most of the times on " high standard" things. Things that raises his status. I don't say anything about it. it's his money. But i am a someone who saves up... he can't stand it.

    For the record: he doesn't have to pick up the kids, take the trash out or go to the store for me. I do that myself for i can't stand not being able to take care of myself... :-)

  • Lindaaaatje
    Sun:cancer, asc:sag, moon:scorp,venus:leo, mars:libra
    female
    Posted by Season
    Where were your Venuses? Caps can be withdrawn, but more often they can be very warm and loving. So it must be something other than his sun sign??


    my venus is in leo ( but square moon in scorp, so not the typical leo venus), mars in libra
    His venus and mars is in aqua... ( and he's got libra moon. But his moon squares his sun and mercury)

  • Lindaaaatje
    Sun:cancer, asc:sag, moon:scorp,venus:leo, mars:libra
    female
    Posted by Gob_buttere
    You're not still with that Tinder-addicted, money-grabbing douchebag, are you?



    I left him, than after a while i gave it a second chance. Now i finaly left for good. He doesn't do those things anymore. The second time i left him he deleted all his accouts. But we are too different , he loves me and i love him. But i don't trust him anymore...can't help it. So for my own sanity, i left him. And now for good.
    I don't think he isn't made to be iin some sort of relationship. He 's got to many issues regarding intimacy, power ....He wants to be in a relationship and have a family, but its against his nature.
    I will try to be friends with him because i don't want to loose him completely out of my live. But for now, no contact.

  • Lindaaaatje
    Sun:cancer, asc:sag, moon:scorp,venus:leo, mars:libra
    female
    Posted by CarpeNoctem
    And that's a fact.


    same here, i wanted to find answers. instead i found more riddels, more confusion, more worries....
    can't let it go because i want to know the dept of a person who keeps everything hidden....

    why do i have a scorp moon....would be so much easier with a more shalow sign...

  • Lindaaaatje
    Sun:cancer, asc:sag, moon:scorp,venus:leo, mars:libra
    female
    I built a house and worked my entire life until now to pay it off....

    I would never do it again because you only live once, enjoy all the things life has to offer.

    i've missed things because of that payment obligation. Now i sold my house and just want to enjoy as long as i can.
  • Lindaaaatje
    Sun:cancer, asc:sag, moon:scorp,venus:leo, mars:libra
    female
    As a watersign, i love to give myself to the fullest when in a relationship. I can detach my emotions when necessary ( libra mars) but when i have sex with the one i love it has to be " all of him and all of me" . Merging into another.

    When my cap and i weren't in a relationship, we had the best sex EVER together. He gave himself , all of him and his emotions. But when we are in a relationship and lived together. He suppresses himself, like a robot doing " the thing" No emotions, not even a reaction of some kind on his face. He just wants to please me, so that's very sweet, but it lacks something.

    When i talked him about it his explanation is " i now have obligations".

    I don't understand. What does it have to do with obligations? During sex, i don't think of anything but the two of us. Why can't he?
    Any other cap does the same thing?
  • Lindaaaatje
    Sun:cancer, asc:sag, moon:scorp,venus:leo, mars:libra
    female
    Posted by Capricorn91
    Posted by Vageenka
    Depends.

    Sometimes yes, sometimes even someone looking at me while I'm asleep can wake me up.

    Gemini


    Does your mind stay very active during the times when you are not sleeping deeply?
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    Very light sleeper, it takes ages till i sleep, i dream a lot ( and believe in my dreams, they guide me)
    Always been that way since childhood...
    i can't stop my brain to think....

  • Lindaaaatje
    Sun:cancer, asc:sag, moon:scorp,venus:leo, mars:libra
    female
    Posted by spiritofjosh
    I'm looking for Female Cancer advise here on how you tick, how you think and what I have to do here.

    I'm a Pisces sun and she's a Cancer sun (not sure other placements) and we met a while back indirectly but started dating last summer around her birthday in July. We've been through some ups and downs built on emotion but the nitty gritty of it all comes from my anxiety getting a hold of me and her retreating and needing to be alone. There were times where she had said she needs to be alone and that we shouldn't be together so she can focus on her, only a day or two later us fall back into each other's arms full force and cry together and say how in love we truly are and how we need each other.

    But last week we actually broke up and for 5 days it was her being distant, hardly answering me and refusing to see me. But she had seen my best friend at a concert and he told me she was only talking about me and how much she loves me but Im hard to deal with when I get in certain moods. Those moods being my anxiety which i'm actively seeking therapy for so I can cope better.

    Last night she finally agreed to come over and talk, so we did and both sides were spoken and she said sorry for being distant and she kept just crying and we went to sleep like it was back to normal. This morning when I woke up for work she woke up and said she wishes I could stay home and lay with her and hold her and again said the same thing via text when I got to work. But as the day went on she kept saying more and more that she's scared it'll go right back how it was, and now leaving it at she needs time alone for now to not really answering me. What is going on??

    I know she's crazy about me and she says I'm the first person she truly fell in love with and then runs very hot, but now all of a sudden she's running cold, again. I'm ok with dealing with it I just never know if she's going to finally call it quits and be gone for good.


    She's scared, scared for the deep feelings she feels, scared of being dumped when she has opened her heart. Even if she loves you deeply, she would leave the relationship because of those feelings....
    Strange creatures we are....
    But we are genuine, not fake....

  • Lindaaaatje
    Sun:cancer, asc:sag, moon:scorp,venus:leo, mars:libra
    female
    Posted by NotSoInstant
    Posted by Lindaaaatje
    https://ibb.co/gZaxAa
    https://ibb.co/cATvwF
    https://ibb.co/kJ7AVa

    THx in advance !

    Oh just the link? Will you post the charts directly? :-)
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    Him

    https://www.dxpnet.com/users/image/?id=7984033

    Me

    https://www.dxpnet.com/users/image/?id=7984032

    in synastry

    https://www.dxpnet.com/users/image/?id=7984034
  • Lindaaaatje
    Sun:cancer, asc:sag, moon:scorp,venus:leo, mars:libra
    female
    Posted by NotSoInstant
    Posted by Lindaaaatje
    https://ibb.co/gZaxAa
    https://ibb.co/cATvwF
    https://ibb.co/kJ7AVa

    THx in advance !

    Oh just the link? Will you post the charts directly? :-)
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    I don't know how to do that. Can someone explain to me?

  • Lindaaaatje
    Sun:cancer, asc:sag, moon:scorp,venus:leo, mars:libra
    female
  • Lindaaaatje
    Sun:cancer, asc:sag, moon:scorp,venus:leo, mars:libra
    female
    Posted by Gemitati
    I've chosen this forum because I think is being here IS pretty paranormal

    The question is WHY are we here so much?

    I have all the questions answered.
    I am old, married, in love, depressed, want to get out of watching stupid TV with my husband...texting with unmentionables...

    My life sucks at the moment. I am chilling.

    WHY are you - young, spunky, horny, opinionated, funny, smart, not so smart...stupid even...why?

    And don't tell me winter! I saw you here in a summer...


    You're funny !

  • Lindaaaatje
    Sun:cancer, asc:sag, moon:scorp,venus:leo, mars:libra
    female
    because i am bored.....
  • Lindaaaatje
    Sun:cancer, asc:sag, moon:scorp,venus:leo, mars:libra
    female
    What about Jupiter in gemini in 8 th house ( and the only planet there), but ...

    square saturn in 2nd house
    square uranus in 10 th house
    square pluto in 10 th house
    sesquiquadrate AC in 1st house
    semisextile neptune
    semisextile sun
    trine mars

    Does his action like mentioned above still counts Or does it change because of the aspects?
    Also, this person has venus, jupiter , uranus and pluto retrograde natal.

  • Lindaaaatje
    Sun:cancer, asc:sag, moon:scorp,venus:leo, mars:libra
    female
    Posted by Miamia13
    Posted by EveryOunce
    Posted by Miamia13
    Posted by EveryOunce
    Posted by Miamia13
    Posted by EveryOunce
    I feel slighty bipolar at the moment.


    Why?



    Liking people then changing my mind...then changing my mind again....the cycle never stops...I don't know how to function sometimes when things are normal...then I get swept up by sweet words then psycho analyze every single gesture until I have either pushed them away or ran away.


    I have dealt with the same things. For a fixed sign, I'm very changeable. I can have a strong opinion on a topic and a new perspective or outside source can change it. It makes us hard to understand and in some cases ingenuine. Even though the bipolar aspect has to do with us being completely genuine to ourselves.

    I think the biggest thing that I have learned as water bearer/people-pleaser is to not be such a social chameleon. I don't mesh with everyone and that's okay. So sense in altering myself to please others.

    I used to lose myself trying to please people, now I've lost people trying to find myself.


    You're preaching to the choir. I find that when I go against my gut instinct I suffer the most. People have no idea the amount of inner conflict that goes on in our heads. To the outside world I am level headed and non responsive.


    I agree. We are some of the best if not the best at putting on a facade of a calm disposition. That's why I don't think we are genuinely cold. We just portray ourselves as being cold. There is so much more going on inside that it becomes difficult to communicate efficiently.

    Sometimes everything that goes on in my head makes me awkward and causes a little anxiety. But over the years, I've learned to mask the awkwardness.

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    We, as in scorp moon, sence the facade....we KNOW that there is a lot going on behind the surface.
    Do you go quiet when you have a lot on your mind? (ideas, future thinking) Do you share your thoughts easily with your partner/best friend?

  • Lindaaaatje
    Sun:cancer, asc:sag, moon:scorp,venus:leo, mars:libra
    female
    Posted by Miamia13
    Posted by EveryOunce
    Posted by Miamia13
    Posted by EveryOunce
    I feel slighty bipolar at the moment.


    Why?



    Liking people then changing my mind...then changing my mind again....the cycle never stops...I don't know how to function sometimes when things are normal...then I get swept up by sweet words then psycho analyze every single gesture until I have either pushed them away or ran away.


    I have dealt with the same things. For a fixed sign, I'm very changeable. I can have a strong opinion on a topic and a new perspective or outside source can change it. It makes us hard to understand and in some cases ingenuine. Even though the bipolar aspect has to do with us being completely genuine to ourselves.

    I think the biggest thing that I have learned as water bearer/people-pleaser is to not be such a social chameleon. I don't mesh with everyone and that's okay. So sense in altering myself to please others.

    I used to lose myself trying to please people, now I've lost people trying to find myself.
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    Do you think of yourself from time to time instead of being a people-pleaser? Do you feel taking advantage off when you do to much?

  • Lindaaaatje
    Sun:cancer, asc:sag, moon:scorp,venus:leo, mars:libra
    female
    Posted by Miamia13
    Posted by Lindaaaatje
    Posted by Miamia13
    Posted by Lindaaaatje
    what's his moon sign?

    He's a Cap moon.
    Libra Venus.
    Cancer Mars.
    Virgo Mercury.



    Don't know much about these placements but i looked it up:

    Venus in libra and mars in cancer

    In matters of the heart, you are a youthful, intelligent, and passionate lover, or you are magnetically drawn to partners with these qualities. You do require some “space” and freedom to explore in any relationship, and prefer not to be possessed. However, you can display distinct moments of possessiveness yourself! It is important that your mind is stimulated in love affairs, but you also strongly value subtle, non-verbal levels of communication. You value being friends with your partners as well as lovers, but that can be a challenge for you when you are in your more insecure moods. You are turned off by partners (or potential partners) who are uncommunicative, dull, or lacking in spontaneity. However, you also crave a feeling of security, and a partner who is too outgoing might leave you feeling insecure. You can be a real flirt, but you usually are able to deliver on your promises! You can easily confuse partners by being indifferent and objective one day, and moody the next. Although you thrive on the emotional and physical charge that you get from sex, you are also able to examine it from an impersonal level. You are passionate and intense, yet in some ways you can be the most rational of lovers. Your emotional and sexual needs can be so mixed and varied that a partner is bound to have a hard time knowing what you want and when. It may be a challenge for you to find a deeply satisfying partnership, especially in youth, simply because your romantic and sexual needs are conflicting.


    I appreciate you looking up that information. It does make sense with him. But I still am puzzled on whether or not he's just not into me or if he's a very busy person and expects me to chase a bit. I hate chasing but it also leaves me intrigued...

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    i wouldn't chase, in fact i never chase....

  • Lindaaaatje
    Sun:cancer, asc:sag, moon:scorp,venus:leo, mars:libra
    female
    Posted by FutureSeeker
    Posted by Lindaaaatje
    Posted by FutureSeeker
    The one thing that perplexes me about my Cancer is he is NEVER in the mood for sex. I'm being really open here... we do it like- once a month. I know for a while he was down about some stuff so mood impacted his sex drive... he has told me that he knows this is an issue and recognizes that his sex drive is really low..

    But mannnnn sometimes a girl needs to get laid!

    This is not a problem solving, action item ya'all- this is a semi non serious vent.


    I am definately not like that :-) !
    What's his mars sign? Moon sign?


    Moon is Pisces


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    Moon in Pisces moon is restless, eager to please, but difficult to satisfy. Making love should be like a sacrifice to the partner, a ritual where the partner is the object of devotion. Sex should be somewhat bitter-sweet, or there is something lacking.