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Don't you have Aries NN too?

Posted by LostinmyMind11
With North Node in the seventh house, our South Node is in the first house.

A tendency to rely on the self so much as to alienate important others in our lives, to be excessively competitive to the point of a me-first attitude, to take things personally, and to be impatient, rash, and impulsive at the expense of personal happiness are some of the issues this position suggests. With this position, we need to work on sensitizing ourselves to the needs of others, to learn tact and cooperation, to put ourselves in another’s shoes, and to let go of an overwhelming self-consciousness that is blocking our desire to win. We are often afraid of the demands that a partner might put on us, and we don’t naturally look for feedback, preferring to act on the moment—on our own hunches and impulses. But for however hard we push ourselves, our plans will be blocked until we stop to consider the other side. We tend to go it alone, often passing up opportunities for growth because we are too focused on our own personal survival. Our impulses and instincts are overloaded, lacking in perspective, and acting upon them will often bring us strife—that is, until we learn to look at the other side, perhaps through the eyes of another. Through partnership, and through cooperation with others, we will attain the inner balance necessary for us to achieve our goals.

Welp...I'm never going to get to my NN lol.

Lol. Like how you put both the placement and the house together.

Based on this, and what you wrote above, it sounds like a lot of needing to work with others.

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On top of my mount Everest, there's a crab waiting for me.

Capricorn SN / Cancer NN?

Yes 😂

I can say that for the moment i'm a 70% Cap and 30% Crab. Still a long way.

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At least there's progress. What are you doing to climb that Mt. Everest?

It seems better to stay at the Cap side than to get to the Crab side though...
Especially from the opposite perspective (Cap NN).

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On top of my mount Everest, there's a crab waiting for me.

Capricorn SN / Cancer NN?

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What can a person do to be more like their North Node?

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The north node
The north node is the exact opposite zodiac sign of the south node. It illuminates the terrain that’s calling your name, but climbing to the peak of this mountain is like trekking up Mt. Everest. You’ll have to lighten your baggage and enlist a proverbial Sherpa to get you up that hill. It’s your learning curve. North node activities require you to stretch out of your comfort zone. Once you do, you’ll be amazed by how fulfilled you feel. It’s like the activation of your life’s mission. The sooner you align yourself with this path, the more purpose-driven your life will become. However, you will often return to your south node as that “ace in the hole”—kind of like returning home to your roots, even after you’ve made your way in the world.

Source: https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/astrology-101-north-nodes-south-nodes-reveal-your-life-purpose

Hmmmmm (your description)....mine:

Retrograde North Node in Gemini and 5th House: This person's karmic goals, and best direction of evolutionary growth is inquisitive, witty, perceptive, adaptable, and seeks out information. Most often this manifests in the
area of life dealing with finding joy, pleasure, and creative expression.

cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

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Does the retrograde change the NN "goals"?

Posted by LostinmyMind11
Wish I knew...not sure how following the Gem NN in the 7th house life style is gonna get me there lol

Yeah, trying to figure it out too.
Are there things about Gem qualities that appeal to you and wish you could adopt?

Posted by pisceswoman123
I have aquarius north node. So for me is trying to be less self centered and less egocentric.
I am very attracted to aqua energy and I always feel I learn about myself with them.
Leo SN always try’s to pull me back, lol, so I am working on it.

Can you relate to this?:

A tendency to become overly attached to the drama of romance and personal relationships, to be willful and overly focused on getting what we want, and to resist being “one of the crowd” in an effort to stand out as unique and special, are some of the issues this position suggests. With this position, we need to let go of our fears in relationships by offering freedom to our partners instead of expecting our partners to act as we want them to act, to accept that we are all equal and that we can still be special if we belong to a community, to move towards greater impartiality, and to cultivate sensitivity to the needs of others. By letting go of the strong desire of getting what we want in the here and now, satisfaction will come more easily as we find that we get what we need. Our personal relationships and romances will suffer when we take things too personally, and expect others to follow a certain script that we have unconsciously written for them. Learning to let go of the need for drama and attention, and moving towards a more objective approach to our lives, as well as cultivating true friendships, will help us to achieve a greater sense of balance. Our relationships with others—as well as our relationship with ourselves—will benefit.

- North Node in Aquarius

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Virgo's real best match - Aquarius and Aries imo.

Agreed. Why don't these pairings get enough acknowledgement though?

I've no idea. I guess in Aries case it's because people think inconjunct = bad or difficult relationship but in reality it has always looked like it plays out very well to me.

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Most sites say Virgo-Aries are bad and difficult, making it sound doomed.
Hopefully it does play out well.

What can a person do to be more like their North Node?

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The north node
The north node is the exact opposite zodiac sign of the south node. It illuminates the terrain that’s calling your name, but climbing to the peak of this mountain is like trekking up Mt. Everest. You’ll have to lighten your baggage and enlist a proverbial Sherpa to get you up that hill. It’s your learning curve. North node activities require you to stretch out of your comfort zone. Once you do, you’ll be amazed by how fulfilled you feel. It’s like the activation of your life’s mission. The sooner you align yourself with this path, the more purpose-driven your life will become. However, you will often return to your south node as that “ace in the hole”—kind of like returning home to your roots, even after you’ve made your way in the world.

Source: https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/astrology-101-north-nodes-south-nodes-reveal-your-life-purpose

Posted by tiziani
Virgo's real best match - Aquarius and Aries imo.

Agreed. Why don't these pairings get enough acknowledgement though?

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By the way, "tough love" is for someone who is harming themselves and needs an intervention before they do real damage, like someone who is an addict. Getting a little fat is hardly harming oneself, although getting seriously obese could be.

How can you know where to draw the line?

What is your motivation for bringing it up? Do you really think this is a health issue or is it a matter of finding her less attractive?

Do you really think you are alerting her to something she hasn't noticed? I'd say she's hyper-aware of it, so you telling her does nothing except make her feel bad.

I see. That's understandable.
Guess for some people tough love is with well-intention, but isn't sensitive of how the message-receiver will perceive the message or isn't sensitive to what the person may think.

I'm kind of surprised to see I feel so strongly about this, honestly. I personally never had a weight problem, but in my world that is something you DO NOT MENTION unless you are the person's doctor.

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Yeah, it's interesting in some cultures they're open to pointing out things like weight gain without problem.

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If a loved one or a partner tells you "you're getting fat and need to lose weight", would you think of this as something inappropriate / hurtful, or as way of telling you they care about your health?


What's your sign?

I think most people who comment on their partners gaining weight don't do it out of consideration for their health, no matter how they put it.

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So would the people commenting on their partner's weight gain mostly be relaying a message about their attraction (or waning attraction) towards that partner?

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By the way, "tough love" is for someone who is harming themselves and needs an intervention before they do real damage, like someone who is an addict. Getting a little fat is hardly harming oneself, although getting seriously obese could be.

How can you know where to draw the line?

What is your motivation for bringing it up? Do you really think this is a health issue or is it a matter of finding her less attractive?

Do you really think you are alerting her to something she hasn't noticed? I'd say she's hyper-aware of it, so you telling her does nothing except make her feel bad.

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I see. That's understandable.
Guess for some people tough love is with well-intention, but isn't sensitive of how the message-receiver will perceive the message or isn't sensitive to what the person may think.

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Thats my Cap moon mother. Took me years to get used to it. My favorite one is saying I should ask dad for a nose job

Yikes. Was she joking?
Did you tell her that it could be from her genes?

No. I’ve asked her before and she said she just didn’t expect me to take it that way

She’s had a nose job to correct something I don’t have

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Ohh. Lol.
Maybe she was projecting her insecurities on you at that time when she said it.

Posted by LostinmyMind11
Yes, but it's all in your delivery. You need to finesse the tough love to majority of people. Some can take it straight though.

Basically you need to know you audience...

That's a good point. For some, it's hard to see how the message will be perceived by the other person. or just don't care how the message will come across because the message is the same.

Posted by WeetzieBat
By the way, "tough love" is for someone who is harming themselves and needs an intervention before they do real damage, like someone who is an addict. Getting a little fat is hardly harming oneself, although getting seriously obese could be.

How can you know where to draw the line?

Posted by AbbyNormal
There's tough love and there's tactless. I am a believer in sensitive tough love I guess. Just being realistic with someone yet really listening to how they feel.

Taurus sun

What would be a sensitive way of doing tough love?
It's a bit hard for me to imagine.

Posted by iridium
Thats my Cap moon mother. Took me years to get used to it. My favorite one is saying I should ask dad for a nose job

Yikes. Was she joking?
Did you tell her that it could be from her genes?

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Posted by m3h
If a loved one or a partner tells you "you're getting fat and need to lose weight", would you think of this as something inappropriate / hurtful, or as way of telling you they care about your health?


What's your sign?

Duh, my sun sign and other info is on my tagline. The latter.

cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

PS: Peeps have got to take constructive criticism with a grain of salt. My mom had mentioned to me I was gaining weight (one can tell with my facial features). Did I cry? No. Did I not speak to her for the rest of my life? No. Did I get offended? No. What did I do? Yep! (went back on my diet, watched what I ate/drank, exercised, etc); even though this was years ago; I bet her to the punch before she tells me again this time around when I notice my facial features AND my clothes

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Aha sounds like a great motivation for you. I guess for some people there's a distinction between a loved one saying "you're gaining weight" and "you're getting fat".