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Posted by Sunsetvirgo
Speaking of the Virgal being oblivious thing, there was this one guy that was trying to tell me he liked me but I wasn’t sure and I didn’t want to assume it bc what if he was just being nice?

He’s like
“You’re so beautiful and I just wanted to help my friend get to you bc he’s my friend.. but...”
Me: but what?”
Him: I honestly.. I just really like you
Me: I really like you too! (:
Him: no like your such a great person
Me: I think you’re a great person too, really (:
Him: no I mean-
Me: (:
Someone hit me w a brick pls


Yesssss I knew I wasn't the worst one.
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So that Scorp, that I've been tormenting over for the past 4 years.. I wrote so much down in the first year. Went to his bar damn near every night it was open. Just a few days ago decided to open up and read from 3-4yrs ago.

I actually told him that I hoped one day I would be the only one he would want to be with. and then I got discouraged in front of him and said or maybe never. And for whatever reason, I didn't remember it (but wrote down!) he actually turned my face to his and said "no, you are different. I like you. Seriously I like you."
And I brushed it off.
And twice more that might he found me and said it again.
Said he wanted to see me the next night.
Three times.
And I kept brushing it off. Told him you have said that before and then I come in and you don't care. He repeated he wanted to see me.
And I came in. And all night, he did not let me pay for anything, anything. I remembered again as I read it. I was so cold to him all that night.

*buries head in sand*
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Also, they do these butterty things and don't care about getting caught, in fact they like your attention and the attention of anyone else they make aware they are treetrunking?


...liberals?



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Posted by maiden
Life is difficult for everyone. What people choose to broadcast about it (to themselves and to others), and how, varies wildly.

Agree with this. But some people are able to broadcast a happy life on social media, even if it is not, and attract people to them because they seem happy. How is it possible to broadcast you are happy when you are not?

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To me, anything you broadcast on social media, you are advertising. Or signaling. Anything you have to advertise/signal you have to sell/prove. If you have to sell/prove happiness, it isn't real.

If your first thought at the birthday party is to take pics and lost them online, you aren't really at the birthday party. You're really in the in-between from the last time someone reacted to your post to the next time someone reacted to your post. That's not happiness.

That said I do know people who (in person) broadcast happy when they are not. These are skills they have learned, just like riding a bike or talking. Social skills, coping skills that anyone can learn. Some learn from parents, some learn from life, some from both or other things.

ID what you want to learn and you can work to do that same thing.

So the fly came out from wherever cos I turned on my lamp. Just buzzed up to my other ear, freaked me out again..but, he's chilling around the lamp shade thoroughly confused. Just a fly.

Pots just tinged again. Hearing other stuff but just not sure not if it's cos I've got a super sensitive ear now or what.

Also the baseboards seem to be making more noise than typical but I'm trying to reign my imagination in a little. It probably reads very silly...I havent been this jumpy in ages.
I was meditating, trying to sleep, few minutes ago.

I'm in a new place now (better neighbors) and it's a very old house which has been remodeled into a first and second floor apartment. I'm on the first floor.

There's baseboard heat..I leave it on and as it kicks on it ticks and tacs, makes noise as the metal expands.

What freaked me out is, last week or so I had a coffee mug sitting here in the room where I slept and I was quirked out of an otherwise relaxed state when I heard a 'ting' instead of the ticking and tac sound of the baseboards...like something pinged the mug. I got up and flicked the baseboard next to where the cup was..sound wasn't the same. It was a ceramic mug. I flicked the mug, the sound was closer but duller, I'd need to flick it with something smaller or maybe harder to match the pitch.

Whatever, I figured it was probably just that baseboard and no big deal.

It happened more than once. I only remember the one time in detail but it happened more than once.

Tonight, I have a pot on the stove (I pretty much leave one there for heating up water) and another one on the counter where it's been washed and set to dry.

I just heard it again!!!

And a little black fly just buzzed by my ear...Lol probably not related but..odd. it just came out of somewhere, flew right up to my ear, now it's gone..

Anyway so tonight I heard the pots tang
(Heard it again!) as if something tapped on them.

And my first thought was, they're expanding where they sit because the air is getting warmer. Even though it staryled me, that's where my head went.

And my second thought was, I havent heard a tinging sound like the one I heard the other night since I took the coffee mug out of the room. So if that wasn't the baseboard what was that? So then I got more startled..

I got anxious then, and got real warm, and worked myself up enough to turn on my lamp. As soon as I do this, my neighbors dog starts to cry from upstairs,I can hear it...it's been crying since just before I started this post.

Now, I worked a double shift tonight...I'm a bit fried. It's late. This place is still new enough that sounds are unfamiliar.

I was thinking, as I meditated, I was thinking about my scorp friend, and reflecting on how our friendship has changed. We aren't as close. I feel avoided more often than not. I was thinking hard about it, like it may be time to let the friendship go. Then I heard the pot and got startled, due to the pattern of unexplained noises.

Many many times before I'd be thinking hard about a certain person and all the sudden some effect would take place, something strange.

I add these to lend context for why I was freaked out.

I really want to know would warming air expand pots on the counter where they sit that they'd make noise?

Would warming air cause a ceramic mug to make noise? Or what else might that have been?

I'm trying to make sense of it.
Life is difficult for everyone. What people choose to broadcast about it (to themselves and to others), and how, varies wildly.
Thanks for the detailed responses, Tiziani!
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Posted by maiden
Why is it easier to be physically confrontational than emotionally confrontational?


Don't you wish women were more like this and less talk


Sometimes yes.
But also without the 5+ year aftermath..which someone else mentioned..



Exactly just fight and get it over with


This question had more to do with righting wrongs though..I was friends with a guy once who wouldn't even blink to knock a guy down..even if they were a cop he wasn't afraid of jail wasn't afraid of anything. But he crossed an old friend of his once, a woman, they dated in their history and still had respect.. he forgot to follow up with her it was really something stupid, and I'll never forget how much he hemmed and hawed over it...he just couldn't being himself to call her, face up , go through that tough conversation. "Talk"..This was 7 years ago. I wouldn't be surprised if he still hasn't called her.




Well knocking another guy down, he doesn't lose anything from his image. Especially as a cop.

Owning up to his mistake in front of a friend, he probably feels like he loses his image in her eyes.


"Image" does this go back to the hierarchy thing? Know your place definitely after a fight with a man but ...??????#!@ $ after a talk with a woman

Lol or something to that effect



It's a total guess on my part. I don't know your friend but I could see any number of reasons why doing the first confrontation would feel like there's way less to lose than the second confrontation.

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Does it have anything to do with the fact that she was a chick at all? Would it be just as tough to have an emotional convo with a guy friend?

I guess from my point of view the process of talking things through is a relief, or a good way to air out and solve. The discomfort of these types of conversations though...men are like exactly like a dog when you've got to put them in the bath tub.

I never understood it

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Posted by maiden
Why is it easier to be physically confrontational than emotionally confrontational?


Don't you wish women were more like this and less talk


Sometimes yes.
But also without the 5+ year aftermath..which someone else mentioned..



Exactly just fight and get it over with


This question had more to do with righting wrongs though..I was friends with a guy once who wouldn't even blink to knock a guy down..even if they were a cop he wasn't afraid of jail wasn't afraid of anything. But he crossed an old friend of his once, a woman, they dated in their history and still had respect.. he forgot to follow up with her it was really something stupid, and I'll never forget how much he hemmed and hawed over it...he just couldn't being himself to call her, face up , go through that tough conversation. "Talk"..This was 7 years ago. I wouldn't be surprised if he still hasn't called her.




Well knocking another guy down, he doesn't lose anything from his image. Especially as a cop.

Owning up to his mistake in front of a friend, he probably feels like he loses his image in her eyes.
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"Image" does this go back to the hierarchy thing? Know your place definitely after a fight with a man but ...??????#!@ $ after a talk with a woman

Lol or something to that effect

What *haven't* you touched to your d**ck?

Thanks rabbit for inspiring this question
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Posted by maiden
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Posted by maiden
Why is it easier to be physically confrontational than emotionally confrontational?


Don't you wish women were more like this and less talk


Sometimes yes.
But also without the 5+ year aftermath..which someone else mentioned..



Exactly just fight and get it over with
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This question had more to do with righting wrongs though..I was friends with a guy once who wouldn't even blink to knock a guy down..even if they were a cop he wasn't afraid of jail wasn't afraid of anything. But he crossed an old friend of his once, a woman, they dated in their history and still had respect.. he forgot to follow up with her it was really something stupid, and I'll never forget how much he hemmed and hawed over it...he just couldn't being himself to call her, face up , go through that tough conversation. "Talk"..This was 7 years ago. I wouldn't be surprised if he still hasn't called her.

Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
Posted by maiden
Why is it easier to be physically confrontational than emotionally confrontational?


Don't you wish women were more like this and less talk
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Sometimes yes.
But also without the 5+ year aftermath..which someone else mentioned..

Why does nearly every porn end with the guy cumming on the woman's face? I get that it's hot (I usually skip it)--it happens nearly every time. Why, what's the appeal?
Why is it easier to be physically confrontational than emotionally confrontational?
Have you researched any other persons with mysterious deaths who also had 2nd house stelliums?

Or any other instance of this?
The exclusivity rule doesn't exactly sound established. Classic FWB situation where one thinks it is, the other not. I'd say, tell him you'd like to be exclusive.If he says it seems like he isn't down for it, drop him.

Here's the thing, with Aqua moon, he will probably act like he really doesn't care until you actually drop him. No contact etc. Then, you will know.


That said.. I may have to re read your stuff again but what is it exactly that YOU want?