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Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShow
My dad is a prime example of that. Just all around nasty.


Downright Evil ?
Not going back to an emotional abusive relationship. But I hear a lot of people who have had encounters with some Scorpio that they are narcissistic as hell.

Which just keeps me wondering.
Are there scorpios who tend to be very narcissistic? Why is that?

Posted by Sc0rpi0sity
Jesus. This thread has been.....eye-opening.

I can see a lot of myself in this guy you're talking about OP. I'm seriously sorry you've gone through this. Don't take his last action with the new girl personally, it's probably yet another way he's irrationally keeping himself from being hurt by the "love of his life". She's very likely someone he doesn't care much for, and somehow, can't hurt him.

Again, I'm sorry you've gone through this. I hope it (and we) get better.


Thank you. And if this helps you become better I'm glad it helps. But I doubt you're the same, I left out so much of my story bc I was desperatly still hanging on. I could write it all down ofcourse, but that would only mean I will get scorned by some who will call me a fool for staying. I am well aware of that already and I am just utterly ashamed to talk to friends or family about what I went through.

The cognitive dissonance was strong. So was my heart that thought he was the one. But as my eyes open more and more each day and I go over everything, manipulation, gaslighting, triangulation, stonewalling, silent treatments and even verbal abuse which I all didnt see, I am torn to the core and shocked there are people like this. Hollywood couldn't write it if they wanted to ?
So on the last Friday I talked to him I was the love of his life and that I always will be. 4 days later apparently new relationship ??? he doesn't have BPD. He is a mothertreetrunking narcissist!!! And yes I left out huge parts of my story!!!!
I suck, I lose, I'm the bad guy.
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Why is he allowed to be emotional, have temper tantrums and disappear but you can't even attempt to do anything less than serve him your undying love and devotion? I just don't get it. How can you give so much of yourself to someone undeserving of it? Don't you think deep dowm you deserve more? I also, think too many people put way too much emphasis on a person being a scorpio as an excuse for them to treat them like crap because they think it is cute and mysterious. Oh please, he is just a s hitty boyfriend who needs therapy not a woman at this time.


He doesn't ask me to do these things, I just do. I used to take care of exes for sure, but never like this. Even pourring him coffee made me happy. He never asked, was mostly shocked that someone cared so much. I made him pancakes one morning, no reason. He cried bc no one had ever done that for him before. He took a picture and posted it on fb, saying it was the first time ever he felt real love.
He just couldnt handle it. And I love him to my very core. How do you walk away when you feel that? I don't mind doing what I do, I feel for him bc he runs every time he let's me in just to close up again


This behavior sounds co dependent and mother/son like. He is a grown man he does not need to be coddled. Just doesn't seem healthy.


You are right. I didnt see it before, but after some soulsearching I have come to the realisation that I am an active co-dependent ?
Which means either 2 things: He was just a hurt Scorpio and I pushed him away by being there so persistently. Or, bc the traits are all there, he is someone with BPD and this relationship was a disaster anyway. I honestly hope the latter, I can't cope with the fact that bc of my co-dependency I drove off the love of my life



Even after coming to your realization you're still making him the vain of your existance. So what he left? Good it easn't a healthy situation. You just miss having someone to coddle. You have got to love yourself first before you can love anyone else. It is not you it is him.Count your lucky stars and work on you for a while before dating again.



"He will always leave and hurt people because he is a damaged man."

Experienced this off and on for 6 months. Messes with your head. In recovery now. SMH

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You are all right. And yes now comes a period of loving myself first. He was a wake up call and I heard the phone ring, big time. So despite the pain and confusion I am grateful for this experience. I noticed today how my body actually stutterd when I had to say "no" and I spoke my true inner feelings.
The only thing that sucks is I still have the christmas gifts for him and his kids staring me in the face. A friend will pick them up later.

I will not go back to him, I can say that with certainty. He is damaged and he almost took me down with him.
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Why is he allowed to be emotional, have temper tantrums and disappear but you can't even attempt to do anything less than serve him your undying love and devotion? I just don't get it. How can you give so much of yourself to someone undeserving of it? Don't you think deep dowm you deserve more? I also, think too many people put way too much emphasis on a person being a scorpio as an excuse for them to treat them like crap because they think it is cute and mysterious. Oh please, he is just a s hitty boyfriend who needs therapy not a woman at this time.


He doesn't ask me to do these things, I just do. I used to take care of exes for sure, but never like this. Even pourring him coffee made me happy. He never asked, was mostly shocked that someone cared so much. I made him pancakes one morning, no reason. He cried bc no one had ever done that for him before. He took a picture and posted it on fb, saying it was the first time ever he felt real love.
He just couldnt handle it. And I love him to my very core. How do you walk away when you feel that? I don't mind doing what I do, I feel for him bc he runs every time he let's me in just to close up again


This behavior sounds co dependent and mother/son like. He is a grown man he does not need to be coddled. Just doesn't seem healthy.
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You are right. I didnt see it before, but after some soulsearching I have come to the realisation that I am an active co-dependent ?
Which means either 2 things: He was just a hurt Scorpio and I pushed him away by being there so persistently. Or, bc the traits are all there, he is someone with BPD and this relationship was a disaster anyway. I honestly hope the latter, I can't cope with the fact that bc of my co-dependency I drove off the love of my life
Posted by vesper
I HURT PEOPLE WHILE I'M HURTING.


You? Or are you talking about him? He is hurting. But why push people away who don't hurt you? I know about testing, I used to test people too till I got older. Do they really not see? Or they do see it, but don't believe it?
Men and women have told me this. Especially Virgos...but I don't get along with them either.

Libra and scorpio get along with me like peas in a pod. That's bc one keeps me grounded and the other is pretty much the same
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NEVER ignore an Aries!!!!
This will drive us insane. Sometimes it will make us act crazy too ?


Very true. NEVER ignore an Aries. We absolutely hate it.
I can't speak for other Aries, but I don't ignore someone unless I am busy and have forgotten to get back to them. It takes a lot for me to actually mean to ignore someone; like if they have persistently annoyed me, or I'm just done with them all together.


Yeah same here, I like to think of myself as a mirror, so if a person ignores me long enough. I will just stop talking to them. Same treatment. What is good for the goose is good for the gander. So ignoring will not work in the OP's favor most likely, better to be straight.

This virgo has ignored me for 3 weeks. Normally I wouldn't have tolerated it for that long, tried really hard to understand her excuse for doing so, but I gotta take care of myself. I just deleted her. Cause honestly not good for my mental health, Normally I don't delete people from facebook (3rd person I have ever deleted) I told her that and left. Ignoring confuses the hell out of us because we may have thought you liked us, and now we think you don't. Makes us go insane emotionally and mentally. For me anyway I can't function at all. Can't work/sleep or eat. Almost like depression except I can be happy still haha. Our emotions as Aries can flip on a dime so in 24 hour period under these conditions we can go from happy/sad/angry 75 times in a day. That's what ignoring will do to me anyway.

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Yep yep yep!!!

And ofcourse this Aries looses her heart to a scorpio. Guess what they do best... ?

My emotions would be flying all over the place within 10 minutes. I'd hate him/love him/kill him/comfort him in 1 phonecall to my best friend ???

Just don't ignore an Aries...
Posted by EveryOunce
Why is he allowed to be emotional, have temper tantrums and disappear but you can't even attempt to do anything less than serve him your undying love and devotion? I just don't get it. How can you give so much of yourself to someone undeserving of it? Don't you think deep dowm you deserve more? I also, think too many people put way too much emphasis on a person being a scorpio as an excuse for them to treat them like crap because they think it is cute and mysterious. Oh please, he is just a s hitty boyfriend who needs therapy not a woman at this time.


He doesn't ask me to do these things, I just do. I used to take care of exes for sure, but never like this. Even pourring him coffee made me happy. He never asked, was mostly shocked that someone cared so much. I made him pancakes one morning, no reason. He cried bc no one had ever done that for him before. He took a picture and posted it on fb, saying it was the first time ever he felt real love.
He just couldnt handle it. And I love him to my very core. How do you walk away when you feel that? I don't mind doing what I do, I feel for him bc he runs every time he let's me in just to close up again
Posted by juliette
Anyway, my opinion on him is irrelevant, you want him still, so idk, do something extraordinary for him. Write him a sad love poem using your blood and tears. That will calm him for a certain period of time. I'm not joking.


I think I screwed that up when I had my impulsive meltdown earlier this week. I already mentionned it here. But I was mad and hurt Tuesday and before I knew it I had messaged his friend about everything I'd done for him and how he still kept questionning me. I know that's a big no no for scorpios. Even if his friend gives insight, it s still a bad thing to do in their mind. So, not sure what a poem will do.
Posted by EveryOunce
Why are you so accomodating to someone who could leave you for days on in and not give you one reason as to why he left? He is not short on love he is controlling.


I feel if I answer this I come across as making excuses for him. Which is not the intent, I know what he is doing now is unfair. But here we go anyway.

Yes, he would disappear in the past for 1 or 2 days, but I always knew why though. It didnt make sense but he always said what was in his mind.

I do agree he was/is controlling. He explained this to me once too. I don't think it s malignant controlling, it s part of his being. We had talks about him being controlling, jealous, possessive. Real talks. He feels bad and tries to fight it. When he fights it and overcomes it, it s like a light goes on in him and he realizes what he's done and has been doing before. When it has become "truth" in his head, it never leaves though.
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Posted by Impulsv
It's called gas lighting


I know what gas lighting is. But that's done malignant and by not so Nice people.

He wasnt like that. His parents noticed a change in him the last years, just as his friends. He's an open, considerate, sensitive person. Always puts others first.

You don't just wake up one day and become a narcississt. Labels for people are granted so freely. Sigh

I was just confused an hour ago. Not once before did I blame myself nor did he. Just now he said this, never before. He would beat himself up for weeks for acting stupid. He fought it on lots of occassions as well. Narcississts wouldn't do that...ever. I have worked with malignant narcississts and studied them. I would know



Always take the advice here with a grain of salt. You just happened to post about Scorpios around the same time as several other people, and I think you got a reactionary response at least partly because of that.
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I know ? today is better as I said it would be. Was just upset last night, and then I get a bit defensive. It's the Aries way ?

Not sad or confused this morning, just mad. But keeping it in so I don't do anything stupid. Know yourself ?
Posted by Impulsv
It's called gas lighting


I know what gas lighting is. But that's done malignant and by not so Nice people.

He wasnt like that. His parents noticed a change in him the last years, just as his friends. He's an open, considerate, sensitive person. Always puts others first.

You don't just wake up one day and become a narcississt. Labels for people are granted so freely. Sigh

I was just confused an hour ago. Not once before did I blame myself nor did he. Just now he said this, never before. He would beat himself up for weeks for acting stupid. He fought it on lots of occassions as well. Narcississts wouldn't do that...ever. I have worked with malignant narcississts and studied them. I would know

Not asking advice, just need to vent bc I'm on a rollercoaster right now.
And I know I shouldn't, I did everything I could. But at THIS moment I feel guilty. I defended myself when he falsely accused, I didn't leave immediatly bc I couldnt,... And now he says I always start drama and that he needs time to think.
Is defending yourself considered drama for a scorpio? I didn't act up or anything, I just defended myself. I was never nasty or mean, I was mostly hurt and confused. But drama? ?
Sorry. Just all over the place now. I know it' s not me, but NOW I just wished I left his house and wandered the streets, or that I just let him think his thoughts without defending myself.

It will be over tomorrow. But now, these questions are clouding my head.
Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
He's gonna make you do a lot of work 70/30 like I said on the other post.


I understand why you would think that. But actually he is very thoughtful and puts in as much an effort as I do. He comes whenever he can, spoils me, frees his time,...

I have zero complaints there. Besides his insecurities and trust issues he's everything I ever wanted.
That smoking can be a probleem. I don't mind my bf smoking, I do it too. But I only do it on Friday or Saturday. When you smoke 3 or 4 daily, you became paranoid and stuck in negativity.
As for of it is over, you 2 are the only ones with answer. I recognize the "punishing" from my scorpio. I don't see at his punishing anymore, more licking their wounds and hiding. Confrontation is scary for a scorpio I believe. And by standing your ground for the first time you probably scared him.

Or...he's just a coward

I have this "nasty" habit of always seeing the good in people. Try reflecting on what happpend and your pov. Then do it from his. I always do this for insight and how to better myself should a similar situation ever come up again
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Confused and hurt

What's your Moon and Venus placement?
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Moon Aries
Venus Gemini
ASC Cancer
Posted by scorpYo
hes treetrunked up girl grab your things and go, I assure you he will never ever change he will be panaroid to the last day of his life so why on earth would you waste more time and feelings than you already did with someone that does not TRUST you?


Because he trusts me with everything else. His kids, staying in house when he's at work, his debetcard,... There are only questions when I'm not with him.
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