Posted by zandomenicaPosted by Jade_Alexander
Well let me tell ya....
Nothing like a Spiritual Awakening to kick you in the ass!
5 years later and I’m in IT.
I know my purpose and mission and I’m actively working towards it.
I can’t ignore or deny any longer!
i want to know more about it! I'm still kind of floating in space? and haven't received the spiritual kick yet haha
how that went for you?click to expand
Posted by Klh1203Posted by Jade_Alexander
He is afraid of real intimacy
Likely unhealed trauma from childhood... maybe mother dynamic
It has nothing to do with you. As he feels attachment it also triggers panic and so he sabotages. But he still has feelings so He yoyos.
Just walk away. This isn’t your battle or trauma to heal.
Thank you for explaining it this way,
I feel often times people are quite insensitive to women and blame the woman for a man treating her wrong. “You should have seen the red flags”, “you gave it up to him too easily.” “You you you you YOU.” What about him? What about the woman and what she may have gone through as a child with having an absent father which causes her to look for something in a male that she can not find?
I know his trauma from childhood because he opened up and told me about everything so that’s why I was so soft with him because I understood why he is the way he is but I shouldn’t have allowed him to hurt me like this, I shouldn’t have tried to heal him because he only sucked out all my energy and left me drained out. Never again will I try to heal someone, it’s impossible to heal someone.click to expand
Posted by sweetheartsPosted by Jade_Alexander
Women have always been the instigator
We had different social cues throughout history to say ‘i want you, come get me’
I will make the first move. One, because I pick what I want vs whatever creeper chases. Two, I like to chase a lil.
Its not my job to maintain momentum, but I’ll get the ball rolling.
Agreed, but now it seems like you instigate and keep up the momentum.
I use to think I’d die alone too before making all or most of the moves but I’m starting to evolve my thinking 🤔 so far things are going in the direction I want and at a good pace.click to expand