Posted by cerseiPosted by MaxianPosted by cersei
Pisces mercury here
I’ll post something but I don’t know what to say? Someone give me a script lol
Read this poem from Moon Tae-jun please 😂
Oh, my lover
who had pure eyes;
oh, the silver scales
that occupied your eyes.
Tonight snow falls.
Oh, my poor lover
who wrapped my neck
with a white towel and washed my face,
a sacred quiet descends
upon the lonely planet.
I close my eyes
to remember the time
your hands washed my face.
I tried 😖
https://voca.ro/1il0Xgnd5MBiclick to expand
Posted by cersei
Pisces mercury here
I’ll post something but I don’t know what to say? Someone give me a script lol
Posted by borednbeautifulPosted by MaxianPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by MaxianPosted by kachi_cake
Are we talking about open relationship or infidelity?
All types of relationship has its problems. I think, as other people mentioned, it's based on the quality. It any type of relationship, people need to have the emotional and mental maturity to carry out healthy relationships.
People here are a bit warped and confuse ethical with unethical. There are a very few here who talk about real ENM.
We’re listening 👂
If they have a partner I always ask for consent, otherwise I don't date them. A quick text/email shouldn't be an issue. If the person wants a DADT (don't ask, don't tell policy), I don't just don't date them.
Open/poly people want the other person to be okay, that's why we have that 'compersion'. It's not really a goal, but with most they have that naturally.
Don't really know what else to share based on the thread. Feel free to ask...
What is compersion? Maybe you explained it, but I forgot. I apologize.
Can a poly person be with a partner who isn’t okay with all that? What happens then?click to expand
Posted by ImperfectStormPosted by borednbeautifulPosted by ImperfectStorm
I think there are still plenty of us that value monogamy so no, I don’t think it’s going anywhere.
It’s probably 50-50 with the divorce rates higher than ever.
I think a lot of divorces have to do with financial issues though or just growing apart and not always because of issues with monogamy.
People who marry early in their 20s have a 50/50 chance of growing WITH their partner, or growing apart from them. I think anyone who is 40 or older can agree they are not the same person (or have the same values/goals) as they did in their 20s.
I think that people marrying too young (in their 20s) contributes more to the high divorce rate rather than problems with monogamy.click to expand
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by MaxianPosted by kachi_cake
Are we talking about open relationship or infidelity?
All types of relationship has its problems. I think, as other people mentioned, it's based on the quality. It any type of relationship, people need to have the emotional and mental maturity to carry out healthy relationships.
People here are a bit warped and confuse ethical with unethical. There are a very few here who talk about real ENM.
We’re listening 👂click to expand
Posted by kachi_cake
Are we talking about open relationship or infidelity?
All types of relationship has its problems. I think, as other people mentioned, it's based on the quality. It any type of relationship, people need to have the emotional and mental maturity to carry out healthy relationships.
Posted by UndinePosted by MaxianPosted by UndinePosted by borednbeautifulPosted by Undine
Sorry, but monogamy is clearly the way-- the only way-- during the first 1-2 years of being "madly" in love!
After that, it depends of your character, core values, determination, ability to resist temptation, etc....
Only 2 years? What happened to 7 years bliss?
The euphoric stage of love lasts about 1-2 years. After that, love feels more peaceful.....but still blissful, why not.
Personally I prefer the peaceful stage, but I admit I didn't always. My first relationship at 19 was on-off, roller coaster, open type of love. Love felt intoxicating at that time, but many of the intense feeling were actually caused by a relief from the anxiety of losing him, rather than love.
What if the NRE stage is already the peaceful, love stage?
The brain has no memory of intense passion for that person. Not recommended for those who experienced otherwise. They may come to think they never actually loved that person.click to expand
Posted by UndinePosted by borednbeautifulPosted by Undine
Sorry, but monogamy is clearly the way-- the only way-- during the first 1-2 years of being "madly" in love!
After that, it depends of your character, core values, determination, ability to resist temptation, etc....
Only 2 years? What happened to 7 years bliss?
The euphoric stage of love lasts about 1-2 years. After that, love feels more peaceful.....but still blissful, why not.
Personally I prefer the peaceful stage, but I admit I didn't always. My first relationship at 19 was on-off, roller coaster, open type of love. Love felt intoxicating at that time, but many of the intense feeling were actually caused by a relief from the anxiety of losing him, rather than love.click to expand
Posted by borednbeautifulPosted by Maxian
@gemimay and @borednbeautiful
WHY!? For the love of God. I want a normal thread for once.
STOP FIGHTING! Do it in private please😤
She came at me first and doesn’t give up, even when I ignore her. I am defending myself. She is Russia and I am Ukraine.
Anyway, I will stop, lol 😂click to expand