Maxian joined February 28, 2021
Fudge it! Life is life!
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- Scorpio in 8th. So Venus ruled by Pluto?
I love passion, intensity and intimacy.
Could be true I guess... 🤔 - Maybe bow out and keep things simpler for YOU? Revisit the idea of DATING after the divorce is final. You both won't go anywhere if it's meant to be.
- Epicurus - The Art of Happiness.
Mainly because I was a bit depressed in my teenage years and needed to get out of that stuck place. Vanilla Sky movie also left a big mark on me. Everytime I watched it I could take something beautiful out of it.
What about you, Antiphates? Posted by cersei
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Posted by cersei
Pisces mercury here
I’ll post something but I don’t know what to say? Someone give me a script lol
Read this poem from Moon Tae-jun please 😂
Oh, my lover
who had pure eyes;
oh, the silver scales
that occupied your eyes.
Tonight snow falls.
Oh, my poor lover
who wrapped my neck
with a white towel and washed my face,
a sacred quiet descends
upon the lonely planet.
I close my eyes
to remember the time
your hands washed my face.
I tried 😖
https://voca.ro/1il0Xgnd5MBiclick to expand
Argh! You're too cute. I love it!Posted by cersei
Pisces mercury here
I’ll post something but I don’t know what to say? Someone give me a script lol
Read this poem from Moon Tae-jun please 😂
Oh, my lover
who had pure eyes;
oh, the silver scales
that occupied your eyes.
Tonight snow falls.
Oh, my poor lover
who wrapped my neck
with a white towel and washed my face,
a sacred quiet descends
upon the lonely planet.
I close my eyes
to remember the time
your hands washed my face.- Interesting. My house numerology number is coincidentally the same as my life path number 🤔
- Task lighting for when reading, cooking or whatever else I'm doing.
Candle light for cosy time on the couch. - Everything Everywhere All at Once
Really wanted to like this movie, but it was confusing and incoherent. First half was like "wtf who and why are they fighting".
It was great acting, but way overhyped. - Happy birthday BB! Have a wonderful weekend love 🎂 ♥️
- Passionate Epicurean friendship
- This is just delusional optimism.
It takes a long time to get to really know someone, so no. Posted by borednbeautiful
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Posted by MyStarsShine
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Posted by kachi_cake
Are we talking about open relationship or infidelity?
All types of relationship has its problems. I think, as other people mentioned, it's based on the quality. It any type of relationship, people need to have the emotional and mental maturity to carry out healthy relationships.
People here are a bit warped and confuse ethical with unethical. There are a very few here who talk about real ENM.
We’re listening 👂
If they have a partner I always ask for consent, otherwise I don't date them. A quick text/email shouldn't be an issue. If the person wants a DADT (don't ask, don't tell policy), I don't just don't date them.
Open/poly people want the other person to be okay, that's why we have that 'compersion'. It's not really a goal, but with most they have that naturally.
Don't really know what else to share based on the thread. Feel free to ask...
What is compersion? Maybe you explained it, but I forgot. I apologize.
Can a poly person be with a partner who isn’t okay with all that? What happens then?click to expand
It's the opposite of jealousy.
In this case you share joy that your partner is meeting or loving someone new.
Ehm... there are surely situations where this is happening. Especially when you're in transition from mono to poly couple. But then you have to find your boundaries. Wants and needs are different for everyone.
Personally I couldn't be with one. Would drive me crazy, but it's not impossible.Posted by ImperfectStorm
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I think there are still plenty of us that value monogamy so no, I don’t think it’s going anywhere.
It’s probably 50-50 with the divorce rates higher than ever.
I think a lot of divorces have to do with financial issues though or just growing apart and not always because of issues with monogamy.
People who marry early in their 20s have a 50/50 chance of growing WITH their partner, or growing apart from them. I think anyone who is 40 or older can agree they are not the same person (or have the same values/goals) as they did in their 20s.
I think that people marrying too young (in their 20s) contributes more to the high divorce rate rather than problems with monogamy.click to expand
It's also mainly in 20s you don't really fully know what you want. We came to some form of conclusion in a previous thread that we should raise certain legal age to 25/26 because the brains are then fully developed. But that's a whole other discussion 😅Posted by MyStarsShine
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Posted by kachi_cake
Are we talking about open relationship or infidelity?
All types of relationship has its problems. I think, as other people mentioned, it's based on the quality. It any type of relationship, people need to have the emotional and mental maturity to carry out healthy relationships.
People here are a bit warped and confuse ethical with unethical. There are a very few here who talk about real ENM.
We’re listening 👂click to expand
If they have a partner I always ask for consent, otherwise I don't date them. A quick text/email shouldn't be an issue. If the person wants a DADT (don't ask, don't tell policy), I don't just don't date them.
Open/poly people want the other person to be okay, that's why we have that 'compersion'. It's not really a goal, but with most they have that naturally.
Don't really know what else to share based on the thread. Feel free to ask...Posted by kachi_cake
Are we talking about open relationship or infidelity?
All types of relationship has its problems. I think, as other people mentioned, it's based on the quality. It any type of relationship, people need to have the emotional and mental maturity to carry out healthy relationships.
People here are a bit warped and confuse ethical with unethical. There are a very few here who talk about real ENM.Posted by Undine
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Posted by Undine
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by Undine
Sorry, but monogamy is clearly the way-- the only way-- during the first 1-2 years of being "madly" in love!
After that, it depends of your character, core values, determination, ability to resist temptation, etc....
Only 2 years? What happened to 7 years bliss?
The euphoric stage of love lasts about 1-2 years. After that, love feels more peaceful.....but still blissful, why not.
Personally I prefer the peaceful stage, but I admit I didn't always. My first relationship at 19 was on-off, roller coaster, open type of love. Love felt intoxicating at that time, but many of the intense feeling were actually caused by a relief from the anxiety of losing him, rather than love.
What if the NRE stage is already the peaceful, love stage?
The brain has no memory of intense passion for that person. Not recommended for those who experienced otherwise. They may come to think they never actually loved that person.click to expand
Let me try again, what if it's a mix of all? Passion with peaceful.Posted by Undine
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by Undine
Sorry, but monogamy is clearly the way-- the only way-- during the first 1-2 years of being "madly" in love!
After that, it depends of your character, core values, determination, ability to resist temptation, etc....
Only 2 years? What happened to 7 years bliss?
The euphoric stage of love lasts about 1-2 years. After that, love feels more peaceful.....but still blissful, why not.
Personally I prefer the peaceful stage, but I admit I didn't always. My first relationship at 19 was on-off, roller coaster, open type of love. Love felt intoxicating at that time, but many of the intense feeling were actually caused by a relief from the anxiety of losing him, rather than love.click to expand
What if the NRE stage is already the peaceful, love stage?Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by Maxian
@gemimay and @borednbeautiful
WHY!? For the love of God. I want a normal thread for once.
STOP FIGHTING! Do it in private please😤
She came at me first and doesn’t give up, even when I ignore her. I am defending myself. She is Russia and I am Ukraine.
Anyway, I will stop, lol 😂click to expand
Thank you! 🏳🌈- @gemimay and @borednbeautiful
WHY!? For the love of God. I want a normal thread for once.
STOP FIGHTING! Do it in private please😤
