Posted by dontgiveup
Any updates?

Hi, my move has been delayed! But I am now going in March for sure.
He still calls! Its strange, I might hear nothing for 2 weeks, then I will get a call on a Monday, then again on a Tuesday! Then nothing again! He tries to make me laugh with his romantic smooth talking, as I always do, as he knows I don't take him too seriously. He's offered practical help with relocation, if I need him to look at any properties. I obviously wouldn't ask, but its sweet of him to offer.
I still have no idea... He's gone away for a relaxation weekend to a neighbouring island. Apparently with a male friend. Ah hem! . Somehow I doubt it's with a male friend??... He only ever calls on his way to work...(though has 2 jobs).
He's probably in a relationship, a casanova!! Honestly, I have given up trying to work it out!! I have asked him many times if he has a girlfriend, told him I'm cool if he does, we can be friends. He says he doesn't...
He's either a real SLIME BALL Taurean man, or a really nice Taurus, friendly, helpful, consistent (he has been calling for months!), previously hurt therefore private and not wanting to give too much away!
Who knows... I will find out... I move late March!

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I'm moving to Spain soon, and in touch with a Bullman from the place I'm moving to
I thought I really liked him, but not sure about him now In touch for 3 months now... He calls every week, we chat for a bit. Occasional message.
I asked what he wanted from me, he said nothing, he thinks I'm interesting, different to other women. We have romantic fantasy chat, about hanging out when I get there. He makes me laugh. He says he's never kept anyone on chatting for this long....But no real effort in getting to know me!
Cut loose?? There's a small part of me wondering if I should wait. A tarot reader friend said bull men only like to invest in something they are 'sure' of, and since I'm not there yet, he is keeping in contact. I know he chats to lots of other women. I know I'm only an option, but can't decide whether to wait and meet him in 2months.
Hmmmm? I'm Bull woman, I understand why he is not putting effort in, but it also irritates me!!!! Hahaha

Sounds like he's using you. Pls be careful.

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I will definitely be careful thank you... Have a good nose for bullshit generally, and have had a couple of scammer wannabe's get chopped off in minutes!
I don't think he's a scammer (though you never know!)... a scammer would've invested (lied and told stories) more than the man!! The only thing he might think he's using me for is 'a hook up'... which is pointless really as I am not eventhere yet?! He'd be wasting his time, plus I said I wanted to be friends first anyway...
Who knows though hey?? Eyes open!!

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I'm moving to Spain soon, and in touch with a Bullman from the place I'm moving to
I thought I really liked him, but not sure about him now In touch for 3 months now... He calls every week, we chat for a bit. Occasional message.
I asked what he wanted from me, he said nothing, he thinks I'm interesting, different to other women. We have romantic fantasy chat, about hanging out when I get there. He makes me laugh. He says he's never kept anyone on chatting for this long....But no real effort in getting to know me!
Cut loose?? There's a small part of me wondering if I should wait. A tarot reader friend said bull men only like to invest in something they are 'sure' of, and since I'm not there yet, he is keeping in contact. I know he chats to lots of other women. I know I'm only an option, but can't decide whether to wait and meet him in 2months.
Hmmmm? I'm Bull woman, I understand why he is not putting effort in, but it also irritates me!!!! Hahaha

Is it a coincidence that you happen to move to the very town he lives in?

I think Taurus men sometimes assume too much and once it’s in their head…no one can take the idea out (stubborn)… even if completely OFF.

I remember I told this Taurus dude I was going on vacation to his town and if he could recommend *****restaurants in his area. Everything was normal - I went to his town, I never suggested to meet him, was never my intention since I had my own plans with friends (he was online friend) - in my head it was just a friendly ask.
Months later I see him write to other people saying that I was FOLLOWING him and flew to his town since I was desperately in love with him😳🤣😂. The way he expressed it was 100% inaccurate and OFF. It was very delusional🥴.

So, maybe not the same as your case BUT he might be highly freaked out at you moving near him even if he claims excitement BUT his actions speak something else.

The fact that he doesn’t plan to meet is telling.

I would say - keep it friendly with him but don’t invest and don’t make too much of an effort to meet him.

Let him decide if ever he is interested. Hopefully he doesn’t read you wrong though…lol

Why do you have to move to his town?!?! It feels like too much too soon…

I'm moving to Spain, and spent 6 months over summer last year working there, so had my dating app set there... I started chatting to him online 2 days before I came back to UK. I won't be living directly in his town, but about 20km from it...

I told him at the beginning that I was moving back in UK for a few months, but moving back to Spain in the New Year, we kept chatting. I thought he would fizzle away!! I've been friendly and chatty... He says he has no expectations, but would like to meet when I get out there? The reason I posted on here, was more for insight into Taurus men! Its been frustrating, just chit-chatting every week, which is why I was thinking of cutting loose... I have had online connections with much deeper 'getting to know you' convo's, so wondered why he kept calling!

I haven't put in much energy, but he calls me! He tells me a bit more now, about his ex, and asks me a bit more too... I think he's extremely guarded, since found out he was heartbroken from ex 2 years ago.

Guessing he's got walls up. I like him.

Whatever will be, will be. I will meet him, I think theres friend material there for starters so its fine if nothing romantic

He calls you on the phone?

Well… to be fair, I’d have my walls up if I were him too…lol. Because like I said, words are cheap and easy. It’s smart that he’s taking it slowly. It’s also great for you since you aren’t really official or anything similar… just see him as a friend. See it all as casual.

Relax your over-thinking and on your need to title and decide so early on. Just enjoy it for what it is right now. And when you do meet him, don’t decide… just FEEL. That way you will know if he flows with your vibe and you will know if he keeps piquing your interest.

Enjoy the process whether it’s casual friends, acquaintances or more.

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Thank you for such wise words, honestly, you are bang on... I honestly don't mind going slow (I'm bull myself!!), I am taking your advice...I won't decide anything, I just need to let go, and chill out.....if and when we meet, I feel it, like you say... thank you so much for taking the time to respond, sincerely...

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I want to move to Spain too. I read you can live on 20k a year.

Yes, thats very true! The average salary in Mallorca (where I am going) is 16k!
I can't wait, honestly... Sunshine and island vibes, here I come!

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Can't you figure that out once you actually move and meet in person? So much planning ahead for a stranger who tells you what you want to hear.

And you never know if the chemistry will be there when you meet in person.

Absolutely! The chances are that there won't be... I was kind of expecting him to fade away over a few weeks, but he's been pretty regular, which I guess has been a bit like a carrot dangling!! Nice, and annoying at the same time!! Lol

I see it as a positive that he keeps the contact going, definitely still interested in you. I hope it works out for you.

Thanks so much I won't cut loose, I'll just see what the universe brings!! Thank you for your kind words, hugs

Think of all the other hot guys to meet in Spain if things don't pan out! A drop in the bucket in comparison.

YESSSSS!!!!! Thank you, do you know, I hadn't even thought of it!!!! But you are SO right!!!

THIS is where you should focus!!! Listen to Saggurl!!

I’d be WAY more excited to meet new people. Put your energy on new and exciting and ON YOU. Not on “hopes” with an online dude.

Meeting IRL is MUCH more fun and fulfilling!!

Yes, you're totally right! I will be doing that also!
It was curiosity, I'm a sucker for trying to figure things out... totally pointless!!!

Oh I get it… I’m quite curious myself 😬… but just don’t let it take too much of your time because as you said… it’s totally pointless.

It’s literally the outlet of LEAST amount of effort. Very convenient for starting things that land no where.

If he’s interested in more than just empty words, don’t fret… he will reach out to you and let you know.

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You're SO right! I literally make no effort! He hasn't called this week, first week in months... though he has sent me emoji's of hearts (doesn't normally do that)... but hey, so what right?!!! Lol!!!

Its so difficult, I annoy myself for occasionally drifting off to fantasy land... But your words resonate with me, he WILL reach out, if and when... I might not even like him in the flesh, we might not connect!! So funny, what we put ourselves through!!

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Can't you figure that out once you actually move and meet in person? So much planning ahead for a stranger who tells you what you want to hear.

And you never know if the chemistry will be there when you meet in person.

Absolutely! The chances are that there won't be... I was kind of expecting him to fade away over a few weeks, but he's been pretty regular, which I guess has been a bit like a carrot dangling!! Nice, and annoying at the same time!! Lol

I see it as a positive that he keeps the contact going, definitely still interested in you. I hope it works out for you.

Thanks so much I won't cut loose, I'll just see what the universe brings!! Thank you for your kind words, hugs

Think of all the other hot guys to meet in Spain if things don't pan out! A drop in the bucket in comparison.

YESSSSS!!!!! Thank you, do you know, I hadn't even thought of it!!!! But you are SO right!!!

THIS is where you should focus!!! Listen to Saggurl!!

I’d be WAY more excited to meet new people. Put your energy on new and exciting and ON YOU. Not on “hopes” with an online dude.

Meeting IRL is MUCH more fun and fulfilling!!

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Yes, you're totally right! I will be doing that also!
It was curiosity, I'm a sucker for trying to figure things out... totally pointless!!!

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Posted by Taureancosmic
I'm moving to Spain soon, and in touch with a Bullman from the place I'm moving to
I thought I really liked him, but not sure about him now In touch for 3 months now... He calls every week, we chat for a bit. Occasional message.
I asked what he wanted from me, he said nothing, he thinks I'm interesting, different to other women. We have romantic fantasy chat, about hanging out when I get there. He makes me laugh. He says he's never kept anyone on chatting for this long....But no real effort in getting to know me!
Cut loose?? There's a small part of me wondering if I should wait. A tarot reader friend said bull men only like to invest in something they are 'sure' of, and since I'm not there yet, he is keeping in contact. I know he chats to lots of other women. I know I'm only an option, but can't decide whether to wait and meet him in 2months.
Hmmmm? I'm Bull woman, I understand why he is not putting effort in, but it also irritates me!!!! Hahaha

There's a couple red flags there:

"Says I'm different to other women." This is pretty blatant misogyny, but it's also a feeler for someone experiencing insecurity. I'm guessing you responded positively because he also said:

"Says he's never kept anyone on chatting for this long." This is also feeds into that kind of insecure, pick-me sort of thing.

And he's also talking to other women?

It all seems fairly cut and dry to me, I will leave you to make your own interpretations about his intentions and motivations. All I will say is that I think you should be very slow in giving it up to him, if you were planning to.

Plus it’s only been three months. Words are meaningless, really. Nothing should be taken seriously at this point.

I just don’t get online relationships or long distance… just too much room for creating delusions and bull crap…

Crap, crap, crap, crap, crap … that’s how I read online flattery 😬🤷🏻‍♀️

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Yes, totally agree on that!!!

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I'm moving to Spain soon, and in touch with a Bullman from the place I'm moving to
I thought I really liked him, but not sure about him now In touch for 3 months now... He calls every week, we chat for a bit. Occasional message.
I asked what he wanted from me, he said nothing, he thinks I'm interesting, different to other women. We have romantic fantasy chat, about hanging out when I get there. He makes me laugh. He says he's never kept anyone on chatting for this long....But no real effort in getting to know me!
Cut loose?? There's a small part of me wondering if I should wait. A tarot reader friend said bull men only like to invest in something they are 'sure' of, and since I'm not there yet, he is keeping in contact. I know he chats to lots of other women. I know I'm only an option, but can't decide whether to wait and meet him in 2months.
Hmmmm? I'm Bull woman, I understand why he is not putting effort in, but it also irritates me!!!! Hahaha

Is it a coincidence that you happen to move to the very town he lives in?

I think Taurus men sometimes assume too much and once it’s in their head…no one can take the idea out (stubborn)… even if completely OFF.

I remember I told this Taurus dude I was going on vacation to his town and if he could recommend *****restaurants in his area. Everything was normal - I went to his town, I never suggested to meet him, was never my intention since I had my own plans with friends (he was online friend) - in my head it was just a friendly ask.
Months later I see him write to other people saying that I was FOLLOWING him and flew to his town since I was desperately in love with him😳🤣😂. The way he expressed it was 100% inaccurate and OFF. It was very delusional🥴.

So, maybe not the same as your case BUT he might be highly freaked out at you moving near him even if he claims excitement BUT his actions speak something else.

The fact that he doesn’t plan to meet is telling.

I would say - keep it friendly with him but don’t invest and don’t make too much of an effort to meet him.

Let him decide if ever he is interested. Hopefully he doesn’t read you wrong though…lol

Why do you have to move to his town?!?! It feels like too much too soon…

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I'm moving to Spain, and spent 6 months over summer last year working there, so had my dating app set there... I started chatting to him online 2 days before I came back to UK. I won't be living directly in his town, but about 20km from it...

I told him at the beginning that I was moving back in UK for a few months, but moving back to Spain in the New Year, we kept chatting. I thought he would fizzle away!! I've been friendly and chatty... He says he has no expectations, but would like to meet when I get out there? The reason I posted on here, was more for insight into Taurus men! Its been frustrating, just chit-chatting every week, which is why I was thinking of cutting loose... I have had online connections with much deeper 'getting to know you' convo's, so wondered why he kept calling!

I haven't put in much energy, but he calls me! He tells me a bit more now, about his ex, and asks me a bit more too... I think he's extremely guarded, since found out he was heartbroken from ex 2 years ago.

Guessing he's got walls up. I like him.

Whatever will be, will be. I will meet him, I think theres friend material there for starters so its fine if nothing romantic

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Can't you figure that out once you actually move and meet in person? So much planning ahead for a stranger who tells you what you want to hear.

And you never know if the chemistry will be there when you meet in person.

Absolutely! The chances are that there won't be... I was kind of expecting him to fade away over a few weeks, but he's been pretty regular, which I guess has been a bit like a carrot dangling!! Nice, and annoying at the same time!! Lol

I see it as a positive that he keeps the contact going, definitely still interested in you. I hope it works out for you.

Thanks so much I won't cut loose, I'll just see what the universe brings!! Thank you for your kind words, hugs

Think of all the other hot guys to meet in Spain if things don't pan out! A drop in the bucket in comparison.

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YESSSSS!!!!! Thank you, do you know, I hadn't even thought of it!!!! But you are SO right!!!

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I'm moving to Spain soon, and in touch with a Bullman from the place I'm moving to
I thought I really liked him, but not sure about him now In touch for 3 months now... He calls every week, we chat for a bit. Occasional message.
I asked what he wanted from me, he said nothing, he thinks I'm interesting, different to other women. We have romantic fantasy chat, about hanging out when I get there. He makes me laugh. He says he's never kept anyone on chatting for this long....But no real effort in getting to know me!
Cut loose?? There's a small part of me wondering if I should wait. A tarot reader friend said bull men only like to invest in something they are 'sure' of, and since I'm not there yet, he is keeping in contact. I know he chats to lots of other women. I know I'm only an option, but can't decide whether to wait and meet him in 2months.
Hmmmm? I'm Bull woman, I understand why he is not putting effort in, but it also irritates me!!!! Hahaha

There's a couple red flags there:

"Says I'm different to other women." This is pretty blatant misogyny, but it's also a feeler for someone experiencing insecurity. I'm guessing you responded positively because he also said:

"Says he's never kept anyone on chatting for this long." This is also feeds into that kind of insecure, pick-me sort of thing.

And he's also talking to other women?

It all seems fairly cut and dry to me, I will leave you to make your own interpretations about his intentions and motivations. All I will say is that I think you should be very slow in giving it up to him, if you were planning to.

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Ooooh yes, good insight! Thank you!

"says I'm different to other women" was after me telling him to cut out the overtly 'sexual' talk... he tried once or twice, and asked for revealing pictures....I stopped it immediately.... did NOT send any revealing pics, just a couple of dressy ones, but classy.... he seemed to respect and even like this?? Also, I think he likes the fact I am independent and do things like ride motorbikes, lol... I guess I don't fit the typical Spanish woman profile?

"says he's never kept anyone on chatting for this long"... yeah, this was INTERESTING!! He said that most of the women he chats to end up getting blocked quite soon.... The feeling I get (I could be wrong, just gut instinct), is that he's been chatting to women, asking for naughty pics, which I assume he's been getting, then loses interest? He told me he hadn't been with a woman since his split with ex (2 years ago), but has decided that he needs to trust again. Could be BS?? Hard to say, but since I'm in another country and there's no pint trying to impress me for a quickie, I don't see why he'd lie?? What are Taurus men like for lies??

All in all, when I get to Spain, if he's still carrot dangling, I will go VERY slow!! Not planning to lay it out for him. One thing I have learned (yes I'm older!!) is to stand in my own light. Its hard sometimes, but I have been hurt so many times. I'm ok on my own happy and whole.

Posted by LadyNeptune
Ok I'll bite op.
When you meet him in person dress more feminine (doesn't have to be a dress) and smell good. If you have cute feet show off those piggies.

Everything else will be for the universe to decide.

I love this!!! Its funny, he's already mentioned my shoes and dress in one picture I sent him ages ago!! Thanks LadyNeptune

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Can't you figure that out once you actually move and meet in person? So much planning ahead for a stranger who tells you what you want to hear.

And you never know if the chemistry will be there when you meet in person.

Absolutely! The chances are that there won't be... I was kind of expecting him to fade away over a few weeks, but he's been pretty regular, which I guess has been a bit like a carrot dangling!! Nice, and annoying at the same time!! Lol

I see it as a positive that he keeps the contact going, definitely still interested in you. I hope it works out for you.

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Thanks so much I won't cut loose, I'll just see what the universe brings!! Thank you for your kind words, hugs

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Can't you figure that out once you actually move and meet in person? So much planning ahead for a stranger who tells you what you want to hear.

Yeah, thanks, you're absolutely right.
I thought it might have fizzled out by now, so am intrigued why he keeps contacting...I put minimum effort in, as its LDR. Thats why I was thinking of cutting loose, but guess it's worth saying hi in person. Might end up being friends, who knows

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Can't you figure that out once you actually move and meet in person? So much planning ahead for a stranger who tells you what you want to hear.

And you never know if the chemistry will be there when you meet in person.

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Absolutely! The chances are that there won't be... I was kind of expecting him to fade away over a few weeks, but he's been pretty regular, which I guess has been a bit like a carrot dangling!! Nice, and annoying at the same time!! Lol

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I imagine he’s keeping it light until you eventually meet. He probably doesn’t want to invest too much at this stage. If you actually met in person I think it would be fair to expect more effort then. As you say he’s been keeping in regular contact so I don’t know if you can really expect a lot more.

Yes, thats what I was thinking tbh, and thats what it feels like... Thanks for that... you know what its like... I liked him a lot to start (crushed on him), then came to my senses... Kind of forget about him in-between phonecalls, then get slightly excited again when he calls!! I've been annoying myself ))

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Your previous posts make you seem like an older lady. How on earth do you not realize to not waste so much time on someone who’s not made his interests in you very clear by now?

Older lady?! Yes, but its down to perception I guess!
I haven't wasted any time, except asking on here as I am intrigued as recently gotten into astrology? I thought thats what these forums were for? We are in different countries, so I was weighing up what was reasonable, seeing as its possibly silly to invest in someone you haven't met... versus what a Bull man might be like generally. I didn't think had anything to do with my age?

Posted by LadyNeptune
For all he knows your an African prince needing a wire transfer and some iTunes gift cards. And vice versa, he could be a catfish as well. Meet in person then go from there.

Spat my tea out!! That was funny, yes, so very very true!!

I'm moving to Spain soon, and in touch with a Bullman from the place I'm moving to
I thought I really liked him, but not sure about him now In touch for 3 months now... He calls every week, we chat for a bit. Occasional message.
I asked what he wanted from me, he said nothing, he thinks I'm interesting, different to other women. We have romantic fantasy chat, about hanging out when I get there. He makes me laugh. He says he's never kept anyone on chatting for this long....But no real effort in getting to know me!
Cut loose?? There's a small part of me wondering if I should wait. A tarot reader friend said bull men only like to invest in something they are 'sure' of, and since I'm not there yet, he is keeping in contact. I know he chats to lots of other women. I know I'm only an option, but can't decide whether to wait and meet him in 2months.
Hmmmm? I'm Bull woman, I understand why he is not putting effort in, but it also irritates me!!!! Hahaha

Posted by LadyNeptune
Sag moon is addicted to the chase hence the whole "your not like the others bs".
He's looking for phone sex, your looking for a friend. End goals are not aligning here.

Ooooh, ok, didn't know that about Sag moon! I knew someone on here would give me an insight... So even though he's changed his tune? He says he's looking for a long term, for his forever, but that he's been badly hurt so has taken a log time to get over it, says its difficult with me not being closer and meeting me. He seemed honest when he told me he had been chatting to single women, but usually ends up blocking them... And he's laid completely off the sex talk and gone into gentleman mode!! Hmmmm.... We are meeting next month, time will tell. I expect nothing, no can't fall far!!!

Any low down or insights on this Taurus man??

Taurus sun, Sag moon, Leo rising, Gemini venus

(I'm Taurus sun, Aquarius moon, Cancer rising, Taurus venus)

Early days, chit chat, phonecalls, occasional FT (he's in a different country, though I'm moving there soon)... he's fiery, but blows hot and cold... previously hurt in last relationship... I'm totally cool, doing 'me', going with the flow, and in my Empress mode!!

He started off very flirty, not interested in getting to know me, wanting phone sex, then backed off eventually as I said I wasn't up for it. I liked his energy but not interested in that, told him so, and that I was happy to be friends if that was best.
Went quiet for a bit, now he says I'm 'not like the others'... and has been investing in staying in contact with me, bit by bit letting his guard down.

But he's very sporadic!! I like him, but I know he has lots of single female friends he's obviously been on a bender since his break up!! I like him, quite a lot... he's typical Taurus but not!!

Love to hear from anyone that knows about this combo!