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- How do you Lovely Capricorn Women handle Pre-Wedding Jitters?
What is some Sound Advice that you can give to a Libra Man, even to better understand how to help a Lovely yet Anxious Capricorn Woman cope with her Pre-Wedding Jitters? - Notably, she has behaved in a similar fashion [i.e., nervously] right before the last time that I have flown out o visit her [and Unofficially Propose - She said Yes]. The Official Engagement is in approx. 2 weeks from now.
She was extremely nervous back then, offering all sorts of irrational excuses - at the last minute - for me not flying out: e.g., she didn't want me too spend too much money to go visit her, she might not be as available to attend to me as she would given her erractic work schedule etc.
All Very "Heady" [Worrisome] Responses.
But I've just kept my Peace (and she, ultimately, has followed suit); and Everything has gone better than both she and I has ever imagined.
So, I sense that she is simply getting butterflies - as I hear is pretty common for many people before Official Weddings; and that she is trying to seek reassurance, even without appearing to do so... Posted by lnana04
Unfortunately, I don't think so. I find that its hard to get through to us in general because its our thoughts/feelings and we are dealing with them constantly. So even if you knock some sense into her for that moment, she will always revert back to what she was initially thinking/feeling. Its embedded in her right now. She'll have to get over it on her own.
BTW, her words scare me. Personally I find its hard for me to adjust to change...well, change that's not my own. I guess its the idea of a man proposing and wanting marriage so it's kind of his idea? Idk. Parts of her may seem a bit out of control in this.
Who set the wedding date? Have you suggested it being pushed back to ease her mind? Idk.
The wedding date is tentative.
Recently [a few days ago], she has asked me whether she can start wedding planning for December 23rd.
I have replied to her that I am not certain on that date yet, even as I am still attending to my business obligations; but that I will know shortly. Now up until the very moment, she has been exceedingly jubilant about wedding in general. But when she has not gotten the green light - so to speak - on going forward with our wedding plans, her disposition has alyogether changed ----------> into Worry.
This is because December is very expensive month in her country; and Everything, including her favorite places to get married, easily become booked up. So, she is worrying that we will not be able to book the venue that she desires.
But I respond to her by telling her her Worrying only produces harm; so, she is to have Peace.
Ultimately, I have demonstrated to her that her reasoning regarding this matter errs.
She has responded by saying " ♥♥♥ Am not sure why you tolerate or understand me this much. Smh"- My Capricorn is extremely excited about our upcoming wedding [as well as My Capricorn's closest friends and family] yet my Capricorn seems to be getting rather nervous about our upcoming wedding, influencing My Capricorn to behave/think/emote rather nervously.
For example, she has recently stated regarding our upcoming wedding in December:
"And I must say it's a huge change and the more I tell people about the more people get excited and what not which is good but now am thinking am I doing this cause am ready or am I doing it cause everyone is happy for me"
But then follows up by saying "Don't get it twisted am happy with you. Nothing has changed really"
Yet when I reason to My Capricorn that if it is Truly/Actually the case that "Nothing has changed really," then My Capricorn will 'not think/emote/behave [do] but just Remain at Peace, My Capricorn becomes mum.
In short, my Capricorn's Worring [Irrationality] seems to be driving her Crazy.
I always utilize Rationality [Sound Reasoning] to inform her of this. But My Capricorn does not receive Rationality well when My Capricorn is in an Irrational [Emotional] State.
Is there another method of helping My Capricorn view her reasoning objectively other than coundeling My Capricorn to be at Peace [at all times]? - It gets even better.....
I'm pretty certain that Ms. Capricorn is my Twin Flame, especially considering that I literally have forseen/dreamt her in a Dream/Night-Vision 20 + years ago !!!
I have born witness to this to many people back then, even though they've called my person Crazy; yet EVERYTHING in that Night Vision has actualized and still is actualizing.
Go figure.
Neb er Tcher, even The Lord of All [Consciousness/Will] is REAL.
So, Please don't allow Set [Satan] = The Human Self-Image [Ego] discourage any of You.
Hetepu [Peace Be Unto You] Posted by Rindaroo
Posted by ewashington7000
Posted by MissLadyIceQueen
I want to hear about the proposal once it happens. Thanks in advance and good luck!
She accepted !!!
Initially surprised, she told me that she felt like she was confused & scared and that she was not worthy of my proposal; but I quickly confuted all of that nonsense, even after providing a little clarification & encouragment. [She seems to be very hard on her person, even though she is an Honorable (Spiritual) genius. She explained to me that she was often confused about her own wants etc. & that such confusion & uncertainity was common to het.]
So, she had me call her Best Friend to her Best Friend that I proposed to her; and her Best Friend was elated !!!!
Her Best Friend told me that all she did was sing High Prasises about my person whenever they do discuss our relationship, of which I was totally shocked; and her Best Friend
reasoned that if she was Truly Confused & Scared about my Fiancee, then what was she actually doing meeting me in my Hotel way ?!?!?"
Congratulations!!!click to expand
Honored/Humbled.
Thank-youPosted by escorpiointocappie
Aloha.
I've been messaging with a beautiful Capricorn female online. We have never met in person. I randomly came across your page one day via a hashtag and I followed her. Never thought much about it. After seeing her posts for almost six months after I initially started following her on social media. Her vibe started to attract me. She's a profound, spiritual, intelectual being. My intuition tells me she's super noble, humble, and down to earth. And that really turned me on. She is extremly beautiful, but the energy of who she is truly captivated me. One day, I decided to send her a message. To my surprise she responded. To make a long story short. We've been sharing private messages for almost 3 months now. We've never met in person. We don't live near by. But I feel a deep connection. I've been open oh how much I'm into her. We share similar interest in holistic healing and spirituality. She's told me that she thinks I am a very special human being; I think because we talk about deep sincere stuff. I've told her how her beauty is not what attracted me to to her, but the energy I perceive of her, and that I had nothing but good intentions with her. She told me that she could tell of my intentions because energy doesn't lie, and that the only reason why she messages me back is because she senses a good energy from me too. There are other synchronicities about her that make me wonder if she's the one. Lately though, she doesn't respond to me anymore. It's been a week now since she last wrote to me. It's frustrating because online is the only way to communicate with her, and I'm starting to think maybe she thinks I was just a fun past time while she was bored. She's told me about her depressions, and how she battles to with other stuff. She shares private things with me. I love when she opens up because it allows me to connect with her at a deeper level; which is what I crave. I want her to see how compatible we are. But suddenly she's gone. Now I haven't sent her a message since a week ago when she last wrote to me. I don't even know what to say to her now because I thought we were kind of becoming close, but I'm doubting everything now. She has over 100k friends online. She's extremely popular and busy. So maybe I just got ahead of myself thinking we had a connection. She's such a beautiful soul. I just want to connect with her heart and show her all that lives in me. Any advice? Thanks.
Mahalo !!!
She's analyzing the myriad of possibilities.
Be Still [at Peace], and then Observe her Behaviors.Posted by MissLadyIceQueen
Posted by ewashington7000
Posted by MissLadyIceQueen
I want to hear about the proposal once it happens. Thanks in advance and good luck!
She accepted !!!
Initially surprised, she told me that she felt like she was confused & scared and that she was not worthy of my proposal; but I quickly confuted all of that nonsense, even after providing a little clarification & encouragment. [She seems to be very hard on her person, even though she is an Honorable (Spiritual) genius. She explained to me that she was often confused about her own wants etc. & that such confusion & uncertainity was common to het.]
So, she had me call her Best Friend to her Best Friend that I proposed to her; and her Best Friend was elated !!!!
Her Best Friend told me that all she did was sing High Prasises about my person whenever they do discuss our relationship, of which I was totally shocked; and her Best Friend
reasoned that if she was Truly Confused & Scared about my Fiancee, then what was she actually doing meeting me in my Hotel way ?!?!?"
Congrats man! I'm really excited for you!click to expand
Thank-you.
I was interrogated/grilled by two of her friends. Smh
I passes their test with all A+s.
Now there is an elobrate traditional ceremony, even whete I pay a token declaring my engagement of their daughter.
However, before marriage, I must pay a Dowry, even as determined by her and family.
Marriage, even as it ought to be, is A VERY SERIOUS Reality here.Posted by LadyNeptune
Put a ring ? on it!
Thank-you.
Indeed already have
If I knew how to post a pic of it, then I would post a pic of it.- She had me call her Best Friend to tell her Best Friend that I proposed to her.*
Posted by MissLadyIceQueen
I want to hear about the proposal once it happens. Thanks in advance and good luck!
She accepted !!!
Initially surprised, she told me that she felt like she was confused & scared and that she was not worthy of my proposal; but I quickly confuted all of that nonsense, even after providing a little clarification & encouragment. [She seems to be very hard on her person, even though she is an Honorable (Spiritual) genius. She explained to me that she was often confused about her own wants etc. & that such confusion & uncertainity was common to het.]
So, she had me call her Best Friend to her Best Friend that I proposed to her; and her Best Friend was elated !!!!
Her Best Friend told me that all she did was sing High Prasises about my person whenever they do discuss our relationship, of which I was totally shocked; and her Best Friend
reasoned that if she was Truly Confused & Scared about my Fiancee, then what was she actually doing meeting me in my Hotel way ?!?!?"Posted by NineAvenue
what's her religion?
She is Awakened.
She was raised a strict Jehovah Witness (Her Parents); but she'd long outgrew that, on the Path of The Ausarian Religion of Kmt.
The thing is that is she still lives with her parents, even as it customary for an adult woman to do so in Zambia. She is very Spiritual Woman, even a God-Woman, but given into the many of tradionalism of Christianity. Yet Women are frowned up socially for cohabitating with a Man without Marriage in Zambia. She is a FULL TIME Broadcast Journalist, Editor, and Anchor; She feels underappreciated at her Job.
But for some reason, she tries to give the impression that All is Well inside but I can easily detect whenever that she is pain.
When I accost her about this selfsame pain, she tells me: 'Nevermind. It's not important."
Huh?!?!
So, it seems like she feels obligated to appease Father - Whom she has already had much issues with.
I get the impression that she feels trapped there.- My Libran Spidy tells me that she is getting nervous.
She gives this apperace that she is calm and collective.
But she really seems to be insecure on the inside.
Now we have never fought; never have had any issues.
She actually blurts out "I love you" occassionally lol
Perhaps some of you Cap Sages can give me some insight.
I think my Queen is testing me because not ony have WE planned this trip together, she gave me her ring size, broke down her marriage customs, what I need to do to marry her, the lobola (cost( etc.
So, any Wisdom will be Highly Appreciated. - I leave in Two Days.
Her dad - whom she admittedly does not get along - seems to be her concern and whether he will will get along with me:
"Plus I still have to talk to my dad and ensure we're on rge same page....
Wouldn't also want you to come and feel rejected by him or anyone else cause truth is u can't do anything without his concert or go ahead."
Yet when I originally suggested that my Ibcancel my trip (to not offend her dad), even that her dad would not be mad, my Beautiful Capricorn told me this in response:
"He doesn't know you .... In my tradition we don't talk about relationships with our fathers only when its discussions of marriage"
In response to me saying "
Yet he already appears to hold a grudge against my person," she says:
"He doesn't even know you exist he only asked me once if there was any male figure and gave the response I told you he gave"
Huh? Lol - As drawer closer to visit her, my Capricorn Woman seems to be getting Nervous.
Now she has just expressed how happy she is with our relationship and how she cannot wait until to see me.
Recently, she's found out that she might have to travel for work during my visit; so I was about to cancel my trip.
But she INSISTED that she was not sure yet...(So, I ought not to cancel). I did not cancel my trip.
But now she's seem hesitant - for no reason - but still desires to meet up?!?! Posted by Candicorn
Posted by ewashington7000
Posted by Candicorn
How does she feel about marriage?
She is very much excited about marriage. She desires a Traditional Marriage, even cording to her custom. About 4 months ago, I have asked her for her rng size. About 3 months ago, she has finally given me her ring size.
So, she is very much into family, marriage, and children.
Yet I know that she is very delicate on the inside.
As a Libra, I sense that she is coy with expressing her deepest emotions.
So, I do not desire to directly propose to wr without some prior preparation, lest I scare her away; although in matters pertaining to Probity, Fortitude, and Loyalty [Devotion], she is Fearless, Second to None.
Follow your instincts
Sounds like you know her well enough & have a good idea on how she might react to different things.
Go for it in your own way! I'm sure she'll appreciate itclick to expand
Honored/Humbled.
Thank-you.
I will surely heed your advice.
Hetepu [Peace Be Unto You]Posted by Candicorn
How does she feel about marriage?
She is very much excited about marriage. She desires a Traditional Marriage, even cording to her custom. About 4 months ago, I have asked her for her rng size. About 3 months ago, she has finally given me her ring size.
So, she is very much into family, marriage, and children.
Yet I know that she is very delicate on the inside.
As a Libra, I sense that she is coy with expressing her deepest emotions.
So, I do not desire to directly propose to wr without some prior preparation, lest I scare her away; although in matters pertaining to Probity, Fortitude, and Loyalty [Devotion], she is Fearless, Second to None.- We have come to a point in our Union indicating that it is time to go to move onto the next Level. We are a Peaceful and Joyous couple; it feels like Home being with my Capricorn.
My Capricorn recently has told me this in response to me reminding her of how Awesome she is:
"Thanks babe I really appreciate your support
You're an amazing man too babe
Never had someone else care about my wellbeing as you do
You're everyone any woman would want in a man
I love you babe"
Given her demure nature, I have been floored by her honesty/candor. My Capricorn admits that she hardly shares her emotions with with anyone yet that she feels totally comfortable being herself around me.
My Spirit strongly urges me that it is time that I propose to her. [She's given me her ring size and preference about 3 months ago. I've already gotten her ring.]
But because my Capricorn is so Shy, I do not desire to intimidate or push my person on to Capricorn. [She's never suggested that she has experienced any of this.]
Perhaps some of you Capricorn Women will give me some insight here. Posted by lnana04
You can't figure out what he wants because most likely, he doesn't really know.
I don't have a ton of experience, but I don't think we are direct unless we are 100% sure about what we want. Until then, unfortunately, there may be a lot of confusion, which I'm unsure is a good sign or not. I can't really say.
What about the factor of timidity, even where you know what you want but are simply too intimidated or vulnerable to tell that which you want?