I mean How old is he? He might find it easier to initiate when you might not chew him out. Do you even want sex. Sounds like an incompatibility issue. I’ve known submissive virgos not sexually uninterested ones. Seems like he’s trying to buy your affection so gifts and attention are your love language. Seems like it’s kind of one sided

Hmmm. Being woken up with oral or a ride… I don’t find a problem with that. Definitely different strokes for different folks.

Is that a woman thing maybe? Do women like being licked out their sleep?

replace her ass … @saggurl88 🤣😂🤣

Meh…. That was just an opener because I can’t just be like you do what I asked as soon as you say hello. It’s more like hey before you go into a 30 min conversation about the snow being slippery can you answer this question then continue…

I do it all the time. Normally because I don’t want to be thinking about something I have to say for an hour before I say it. If you want him to be rude and to the point let him know.

It’s basically like saying hey how are you, don’t really care but it’s what you are supposed to say

The aqua women I know are very front facing aloof, and like to be liked. They say they don’t care and it’s a lie. They just don’t want people close to them. Both are definitely good conversationalist and fuk bois and definitely don’t like people as much as they like them and it’s their way or the highway. Both have a Saturn return coming up so I’m curious if they will evolve.

Sag sun with Aries moon here 🙆🏾‍♂️

need to try a sag sun/aries moon/scorp venus

he broke it off, separate himself from co-habitaton, but probably doesn't have a back up plan. which is a good thing, he probably was honest about it not working. However, he's being selfish by blurring the lines. When you break up you have to be fine being alone, or away from the person you broke up with. People aren't meant to be solitary creatures, so looking for comfort is normal, but its unfair to the person you just split from.

Give yourself space to deal with the separation. His disclaimer of it not working only gives him pivots to push/pull with you.

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I'm guessing you are an aqua or a sag... we can deal with the weird relationships better than most.

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@saggurl88 TOLD YA!!!!

Her detachment and her lassez-faire mindset and ease of moving on was a give away.

Aquas can do fwb with the best of them... trust me I know. Career focused as well.... hopefully you find another love, I know you aren't looking for it, but a burned aqua can be pretty pretty cold.

I'm guessing you are an aqua or a sag... we can deal with the weird relationships better than most.

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I get everything the OP is talking about. I like my casual emotionless romps as well.... to a degree. the only issue is the lying.... obviously you can't trust him. If he's willing to lie to his wife about where he's at, what he's doing, etc etc.... what makes you think he's not lying to you?

that's the scary part when it comes to non-commitment AND lying... is everything you set it place is based on a lie.

about what?

About how bad his relationship is.
If you’ve started being busy or distant, this could lead to changed up tactics/ lies on his part to say he’s looking for a divorce.

Something has changed in the dynamics of your situation to make him start talking about things going “downhill”

He’s most likely lying to you and exasperating the situation at home.

Maybe he thinks you are disconnecting from him or tired of the situation.

Not many married men casually talk about divorce if things are going well on the side.
There’s not a need to.

Idk couldn't say..
there is distance because we live 5 hrs apart, he knows I'm dating because I told him. None of this is new to be a reason for him to feel "threatened" Idk, he always knew it was just a fling, I don't lie to him, no need to

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That's the point... you don't lie.. he does.... must be pretty good sex for him to panic and want to "wife" you

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I get everything the OP is talking about. I like my casual emotionless romps as well.... to a degree. the only issue is the lying.... obviously you can't trust him. If he's willing to lie to his wife about where he's at, what he's doing, etc etc.... what makes you think he's not lying to you?

that's the scary part when it comes to non-commitment AND lying... is everything you set it place is based on a lie.

about what?

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about everything. I get you are clearly in idgaf mode... gimme some dramaless/relationshipless/feelingless pee pee and leave me alone.... but any word uttered out of his mouth is suspect. I'm cool with casual, but I see you put restrictions on how you play just like I do, but its much better with a semblance of trust and respect.

Out of curiosity what are your astro aspects?

I get everything the OP is talking about. I like my casual emotionless romps as well.... to a degree. the only issue is the lying.... obviously you can't trust him. If he's willing to lie to his wife about where he's at, what he's doing, etc etc.... what makes you think he's not lying to you?

that's the scary part when it comes to non-commitment AND lying... is everything you set it place is based on a lie.

honestly with being a sag/aries moon with a libra mars... I'm pretty much into anything. except pegging just can't get down with that.... and scat... infections and smells are a turn off to me.

I did have a pisces who had breeder fetish.... literally loved being creampied.... one of my favorite lines was "paint my cervix with your cum"... lmao. good times.

ignorant individual... Slavery in the US was a form of a camp. Just spouting off "facts" today....

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I'm super generous, with money and sex lol. But seriously, I donate a lot of time and money to charitable causes. Sagittarius men are known for their generosity.

Not sure if I can agree to that. They were probably donating to those charities so they could gain something from that?

*Pokes and run away* 🤣🤣

One of my exes is a Sag male… he was very generous. He would give, give, and give. Not to charities, but to others in need. People took advantage of him. 😧

But he did it because he believes in karma.

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I believe in Karma too. I've also been on the outs and know sometimes it has absolutely nothing to do with you personally. I give to a fault sometimes...even to people that I know if things happened to me wouldn't help me back.

Do I give for leverage? no not most of the time.... romancing for leverage definitely lol

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I love Saggies as friendS! They don't give no shit and you dont have to walk on eggshells dealing with these creatures.


But, Sag sun Scorpio moon and Sag sun Aries moon scares the shit out of me. They dangerous.

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LOL @clumsy_wumsy why do us sag sun/aries mooners scare you? Just because of one. We are impulsive, and until we know exactly what we want we don't want to lose what we have. I never slept around openly, but I don't lie either. We do speak bluntly but you can trust us. I'd rather trust someone who does crap and is honest than who hides/lies about it.

We are really loyal folks, my twin brother and another one I met a few years ago. we annoy the crap outta each other but know at the end of the day its ride or die.

I'm super generous, with money and sex lol. But seriously, I donate a lot of time and money to charitable causes. Sagittarius men are known for their generosity.

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I don't know your placements @centaur12

The Gem sounds bi-polar, I have a Gem that blew hot and cold until I left and now she chases me. The Aries sounds engaging and double fire... but the heart wants what it wants you know?

You gave the Gem your position. I don't know your history with her, but for her to throw out "liar" tells me you've had some misunderstandings or truth dodging back in the day... but toxic push-pulls aint where its at.

Give your Aries a chance if you aren't a field player and looking for a solid relationship. You might have to start blocking/ignoring the Gem, because "whoever cares least in the relationship controls it"...and it sounds like she's doing what she wants.

What do you mean by double fire do you mean Sun and moon the aries is definitely engaging she's been showing me alot of attention ans wanting to see me as soon as she can really and when we are together she show me affection and wants to be close.

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Yeah.. fire signs are passionate group...not necessarily emotional... so she will definitely give you attention.

That aqua moon stinks man lol.... you are fixed in that aspect and stuck in your head too much. You are trying to find logic and reasoning behind the GEM and you aren't going to find it. one minute you think you have her figured out, the next you are confused, and your Sag sun is going to make that a challenge you can't pass up.