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sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
Is your house painted the same?
Why do someguys think it is OK
sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
White wine

So now you're telling me you can't drink wine in a sports bar..Hell I better look up the rules before I go out or should I just stay at home and knit you a lovely colorful jumper?
Why do someguys think it is OK
sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
He's just upset because I grouped him with all the other quiet meek Asian men...loud, yes they love their loud colors like your top

Why do someguys think it is OK
sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
Still undecided but yeah I understand what Redbull is saying...it does feel pushed.

The only thing is there are a world of people that you would never run into if it weren't for online..closing yourself off completely could be cutting yourself off from someone that could potentially be perfect. The only other thing I think is, meet them fairly fast, talking too much and getting to know someone on paper can be very deceiving and you can develop feelings that can feel so real. Most people will get a real feel for someone and whether they gel in RL on first meeting.
sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
Posted by Stuckinpurgatory
Bring a guy who is a big boy with you wherever you go. Sure to scare off any douchebags, and the "good" ones shouldn't have a problem approaching.

I noticed that, where I go to dance I have a friend that is there most of the time and he has a male friend that goes with him. He's my dance buddy and my girls and I normally hang out with them when we are there. Guys will only approach when you step away from your "bodyguards" lol But once again, I've not encountered slut talk, I don't think I give off that vibe. My gf has twice now and she to me doesn't look like she gives it off, she has such a cool demeanour...so who knows???
Why do someguys think it is OK
sweethearts
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And chopsticks...I think you are trying to make out something you are not around here...I've not seen one loud boisterous asian man in my travels. You guys are sheepish and quiet and if you came on to a woman sexually she'd probably laugh and think you were joking!
Why do someguys think it is OK
sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
So are you saying that because we are in a sports bar that it is ok for some idiot to come up to you and start talking about sex? Are there only certain places a lady is allowed to go now? Forgive me for being ignorant..I don't know these things....maybe it's best if I stay in restaurants if I want a night out with the girls and only watch the footy from my own lounge...

Sheesh, you have that mentality don't you?
Why do someguys think it is OK
sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
We(my gf and I) went to a local Hotel, had a nice dinner in one of the restaurants and then went to the sports bar to watch the Football and have a glass of wine. Both dressed in jeans with no titties hanging out...this guy comes over and starts talking to my friend, says hello and within 5 mins is telling how long his tongue is and how great he is with licking clit!!! Obviously very drunk and thinking that speaking about what he can do will get him sex...what an idiot!!

When I'm going out to dance with the girls, it's more guys just commenting on how hot you are or look, a passing comment. This is how they think they might get in or try to start a conversation...^^^this doesn't faze me...

if they threw sex straight into the convo's, I'm sure they would get bounced straight away!

I do dress like a policeman sometimes but quite conservative with it...lol

Why do someguys think it is OK
sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
No, they are grown arse men!!
Why do someguys think it is OK
sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
to come up to some strange woman and talk inappropriately to them?? Mostly of the sexual nature...whether it be that you are having a few drinks with a girlfriend or several, whether you are talking online or on a dating site or texting? What in the world makes you think that you can start talking sex with someone you have barely said two words to?

I'm sure other ladies here have experienced this, this day and age, and it certainly ISN'T some sort of vibe you are giving off, but tbph...I'm getting sick of it and I'm going to start turning into a "nasty arse Bitch" with attitude because of it!!!

Rant over!
Why do someguys think it is OK
sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
Posted by Serginho
Posted by sweethearts

He's on the dance floor goofing around and talks with anyone...all in fun, crazy stupid funny shit that you talk about for years!!

What's surprising?
A man dealing with everyone trying to compute them to get some useful contacts/freinds/gals and feeling happy while joking because he knows that a life has a lot of not so happy sides and it's sometimes a time to rest.

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Not a lot of guys let their hair down and party up like this...in female company anyway. He bounces off his sister, but yes, he's been through so much shit that it's great to see him enjoy. His latest tattoo, Happy Days and he really is finally getting some!

As for housekeeping, I never know which direction you're coming from...you make as much sense as Bling...so unless you care to explain I'll let you comments go overhead...
How to handle this situation with Cappy?
sweethearts
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sweethearts
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Posted by idk
YESSSS!! it WORKED then. you manipulated the situation to your advantage. Your friend is now working out to fit the image you see of her. She has seen your point of view and said "I agree with sweethearts. i am too fat to be her friend. she will not like me anymore if i do not make an effort to project an image that is pleasing to sweethearts. i MUST do as she wants me to." you are a master of societal-contortioning, sweethearts.... your world is now complete... for now.........

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Putting on weight
sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
Cool, thanks. Don't always think or see things straight when I'm involved.

How to handle this situation with Cappy?
sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
rest of that comment...

No point sticking your head in the sand. Weight issues are real they add to depression and poor health and extra loads on our system through medical problems which add to over eating and the same vicious cycle...not talking about it does't help in fact all it does is allow it to continue. Education and doing things the right way and being informed is the only way to combat it....so keep talking....if you really care for your loved ones!!
Putting on weight
sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
Posted by idk
Posted by sweethearts
My very good friend of 5 years is starting to put on weight. She started a new job about 3 months ago where she works away for (3 weeks) 21 days solid and home for 7 days rest. With this new position, she is feed 3 meals a day and has her own living quarters. From what I can gather, the food is self service but everything is cooked and ready to eat so I imagine bacon and eggs etc would be on hand for breakfast every morning.

Anyway, at first there was little weight gain every time she came home again. But this time around I am clearly noticing huge gain and she isn't the type to shy from food. Can I tell her, gently, that she needs to start being wary of it. If so how is the best way of going about it? It's the worst thing in the world to be told or to try and tell someone. I think she needs to hear it though but I'm very well aware that she already knows...should I perhaps have a word to her sister instead to approach her?

I'm very thin and have recently lost weight due to excess exercise and a split, so I might not be the best person to be telling her something like this. But I do believe with our friendship, it could be alright providing I say it in the right way...

LET YOUR FRIEND GAIN THE WEIGHT SHE WANTS. you skinny bitch, you.
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Wouldn't be a problem if I could see she didn't care about herself but I know she does because she spends a great deal of time and money on beauty products. And I am skinny because I have a healthy regime with diet and exercise, my body takes effort and sacrifice, it's not just a given and I could very easily put on weight.. Some people just care for their friends as well as themselves!

Anyway, she emailed today and has started back at the gym after work every night. She is training with a fellow worker so all our talking about food & health has worked. It obviously was very much in her mind that she was putting on weight and she was looking to do something about it herself. US girls openly talking about it and me mentioning how exhausted she is has made her think to do something at least...maybe with her condition the working out is not as beneficial but at least she is getting back out there to try things.

Thanks for all the useful comments, this topic is always a hard one but there is no point in sticking your
Putting on weight
sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
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How to handle this situation with Cappy?
sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
Does anyone see any wrong if I talk with his sister? I'm thinking that I could ask her where his head is at and that way I'll know how to tread... I know clearly where the little heads at.

I think he likes me as a friend too but thinks we can have more now. The first time around 4 years ago I told him point blank that I was looking for a relationship with someone that had their own place and I had mine, I told him I wouldn't live with a guy again. It's not what he was looking for so he found someone that was after a living arrangement. Now after all this time I tell him that I had a bf and he and I lived together for a year before we split.. Now I know after this I should have stuck to my original plans and keep my independence...

I'd like to tackle this before we make a mistake, I mean, we are always drinking and partying and it can happen too easily! BUT most importantly I don't want to loose these new found friends!!
How to handle this situation with Cappy?
sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
Not interested in a relationship with him...no butterflies or excitement for me, and I want that raw instant attraction. He feels more like a friend.
How to handle this situation with Cappy?
sweethearts
female
Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
Brief: 4 years ago had a fwb relationship with Cappy for a month. Fast forward, he's looked me up again and we've been out a couple of times. No sex this time around.

Yesterday, He texts me to ask me to join him and his sister out to dinner (they are really close and live together and fun!!) I take a gf with me and we have the craziest time!! Both he and his sister are full on party people and do the damnedest things!!! So we all had a fantastic and funny night. Towards the end of the night, I'm quite drunk and we end up snogging in the back seat of the car as we are dropping them off to another place before my gf and I head home at 2am. He rings me in the morning to see how I am and tells me they just got in an hour ago at 7.00am and there is 4 people in there backyard that they bought back with them!!! He sends me a pic and sure enough there are 4 randoms there!!! LMAO

Anyway, what I want to do is just be friends with him. I really enjoy both his sister and his company, we have the best time hanging out with them and that's all I want. I know If we were to sleep together, it will ruin that friendship. I'd rather have 2 friends than one lover.

So, How do I tell him? I think he wants more...not sure if he wants a full on relationship but he definitely wants sex. Can I tell it to him straight? Or should I speak to the sister and ask her opinion?
How to handle this situation with Cappy?

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