I always suspected that would be the case...

Not overly fussed with it as I realised I wasn't really interested in him that way, hence why it never went further 4 years ago.

It's hard to find the perfect man

I have seen many friends die of cancer...

So yes, in some ways I fear being alone or sick and alone...and it would be comforting to know there was that one person that you share your most intimate things with that will be by your side... However, if this not be the case I do know that I have 3 beautiful daughters plus family and some real close friends that will be there for me.

But it is something I have thought about, and as P picks up, it wasn't until I was getting older that I started thinking about it.

But as for growing old in general...as long as you have lived your life to the full, there's no point fearing it, it will inevitably happen!

Yes that is true, he did say why not, it's not like we haven't been there before. That was the sole purpose of his argument and I said, I'm not ready to go there with anyone. There was alcohol involved but at the end of the day he was gentlemanly enough to respect my No.

His intention on the night was sexual most definitely, his long term intention may not have been...he is a rebounder. The one piece of advice that he said he should have listen to was me telling him to enjoy finding out who he is in life before diving into another relationship. He went from a 7 year marriage to a 4 year relationship in a month...somehow I was in between?? Memory fades and things don't add up because I thought we were on for about a month and definitely not while with the wife? Now he's been apart for 2 months (probably thinks that's enough time lol)


I only see a friendship there and will probably pick that up again later on. It was there in the beginning and still there the other day. lots of fun to be around or hang out with. Crazy loose fun

I'm really not ready to step straight back into another relationship especially with someone that I don't have an instant physical attraction to, last man was like that and although I ended up falling for him there wasn't enough glue to keep it together on both sides.

I want chemistry again! I'm also starting to enjoy being single again, I have noticed within myself that I like myself better single than partnered, more free and easy. My Libra Venus will take over when someone really interested steps up

What intrigues me is what he said as he was trying so hard to get in... This more for how the male mind works...

Because I didn't allow him to have his way and he was trying very hard and pulling all the stops

I like it... (me refusing to have sex and hold out) You're a challenge...

^^^^ this is what a guy thinks when you don't give it up instantly as is so common this day and age.

Not that I'm interested in him, But I was definitely interested in where his big head was at when his little head wasn't getting it

Because we had a Fwb relationship 4 years ago for a month before finding other partners he assumed that I would sleep with without question this time...lots has changed and I'm no longer interested and he thought that I was still open to it..

I'm not punishing him....I'm not looking to be a FWB with any man.

He said the ball is in my court and I choose not to remain in contact.

So I closed the revolving door last night...don't think I will be hearing from him again. He didn't get what he wanted and at first said he liked that I didn't give in and thought it was a challenge?? WTF? Then before I left he said, well I'm not going to text or call you, I'll leave it up to you. So I said, Goodbye and left.

He did text this morning to make sure I got home alright and to say he had a sore head...bruised ego I imagine too...

21 and 31 years!! Well Done to both of you. I know it's no walk in the park after giving up on mine 20 years into the relationship!

Not sure that I regret that, I don't think much anymore about that life... but finding someone else that you can mutually love, respect and put up with through thick and thin isn't an easy task as you can see IRL and here in DXP land.

These things below, I personal feel are really important in a relationship VVVVV

and we are reasonably the same in terms of what we want out of life and for ourselves, so eventhough our ways of going about it are different, the goal is the same.


we don't have to be right .... he knows stuff that I cannot even begin to grasp, and I know about things that he doesn't get ... so instead of having to be right, we bow down to each other, and step aside.

Stand tall beside your partner and have faith that he knows what he is talking about, and in turn your partner will regard you with the upmost trust, because you believed in him.


we respect each others differences

But, to him and by his side, I never waiver from that position, no matter how wrong he is. And in the end, when he realizes that everyone has taken advantage of him (which is the Virgo nature), except for me, because I am grateful for everything he stands for him my life ... he knows that I will die before I forsake him.

My mother has always said, "Never say Never" whenever it comes up

My ex Mother in law said, He is the head you need to respect that...however, you are the neck that turns the head!

As suspected...he thought it was a revolving door and struck out!

Don't think I will be hearing from him again.

Why do you think it has works for you and your partner? How do you keep your love alive and are you still loving each other or just happy and content with living your lives together? What about the 7 year itches? Do you get them and how do you handle it?

Wouldn't you put that on as a chastity belt??

Agreed, with Gem. It's in the person!

Are they capable of a committed relationship or can they just not stand to be alone? And if they rebound time and time again are they rebounding from the previous person or the original "one" that they lost?

I have recently been approached by a married man with 2 small children, who are his whole world...firstly, he's not even thinking about blowing his family apart. All he is thinking is that he and his wife have lost the spark and it hasn't been there for years.

The real problem is that he doesn't think at all and he doesn't think he will get caught!

It's not all about what happens in the bedroom but also what happens outside of it...just mundane life and raising children, working etc

It's hard to keep that going indefinitely so if your partner is going to look elsewhere...I think it is in them to always have those cheating tendencies..

I'll do whatever I want with PM's and if you don't like it...DON'T PM me!!!

Went out on a first date today and he was nice....now all I can think is how easy it was for the ex to have moved on and I can't yet

It's because you feel it and believe it and when you are confident it oozes out of you and people pick up on that and aren't afraid to approach you

Mostly we all walk around with either our heads up our arses or a look that says...Don't talk to me! When you love yourself and feel great, you smile more and you smile at everyone.

Try it go out and smile at someone...they will give you a glowing smile right back because its warm and contagious.

something inside me tells me to give him time to fix his personal problems

You said it and this is your gut instinct and what you need to do...however, you also need to tell him that WHEN he has sorted out his personal issues, then and only then can he see you again!

Make that stand and make it very clear right now...if you don't then consider yourself his mistress!

Love this, you ladies are definitely someone to be admired...hopefully the one admiring from afar will build up the courage to approach you and sweep you off your feet. x